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Biafrareform:
Wonderful thread here. I couldn't go through all the drills.

Let me drop what's bothering me here.

I had this girl on Facebook that I chatted up last year. We are in same school . After some chats, we exchanged no and I asked to see her, but she turned it down.


After many months, she started liking my posts. She came to my inbox and wished me birthday same as my Timeline. On her birthday, I put up her pic and wished her birthday and she was so happy.
One day, we surprisingly saw each other for the first time while I was on a bike, her exclamation was real. That set the tone for renew conversation.
We started chatting again, then the calls set it in to the point she was missing my calls. She is currently on holiday now and network has been pretty bad which has slowed down our chats and calls. Yesterday, she apologized greatly for the break in communication. I sensed she is beginning to like me

Pls Hardon and great people here , I wan settled down with one Babe. I need this girl.
Give me drills to keep the flow going and also ignite more romance in her. Will be extremely grateful

Mylestone:
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as for DAT davidgeek...me n xxxteddy go way back....b4 e even enter nairaland self..so Bleep off


n proof included 4 ma doubters

Cannonleo:
my bro harddon good evening.

I have become a pain to myself relationship wise for years and totally given up on finding a date,having sex or simply becoming a chooser around women.
lemme cut my story short

I am a quiet, not very shy dude, more or less a bookworm , and ending my educational pursuit this year . I have lots of regrets
throughout my five year stay in school I only had sex 4 times, never had a girlfriend, a very good flirt but ends there, I have no stories to tell and I silently congratulate my dudes when they regale me with their success stories. looks easy for them but Heck ain't for me

I can approach ladies though not directly (i use situations or create one) most ladies make me back off(especially the excessively beautiful ones) because my internal self defense mechanism activates though a lot of them do come around me cause am intelligent(no trumpet blown) and am a well known computer geek nd engineer.

I lack the words to hold/call a ladies attention though I can flow with a discussion in progress, then I don't know the right things to say over the phone( almost business like when I call ,I could end up repeating a statement(stopped that). I have been I situations alone with a lady, I made my move and it's either I can't disarm her with my words (if I really have any) or she simply plays hard open up for to long that I get provoked and let her be.

all of this contributed to making me, cold towards women,no challant I don't care attitude, most times I am very critical about them and very direct in my speech and quite raw.
in summary I really didn't give a damnn about anyone , I resigned to fate that I coudnt woo a girl no successfully bed one I encased my disappointments in books,work,games and anything that could take my mind of sex,and ladies but bro it always breaks down when I see the multitude of fine babes passing me by.

I started reading your tips on being an alpha man and I saw a huge number of my mistakes outlined there.
from being needy to using wack and wussy lines

I started giving more attention to myself added to the no damn giving attitude .
I wasn't a gentleman before and I ain't now.
am trying to get to converse well on the phone ,throwing jabs and adding humor to it and I must confess it certainly working for me.
I now have a couple of ladies hooked on me but I have scored the home run yet on any one.

I plead with you ,I know I am a big issue and a handful but I need you to analyse me and help me out.
I need a concise summary of the best methods singled out for my type of person.

I seem to forget the steps and mix the words on your list everytime.(i wrote this because I saw your last post to be this evening, I thought you had deactivated)

how not to deviate from your methods and let my old bleeping nice guy self take over.

one thing I know is that , although I have been rejected thrice since I started using your methods , I am more confident and calmer around ladies just that I lack the cutting edge and the finishing.

thank you HARDDON I await your response earnestly
nb: don't let my long post frighten you, it how a dude feels cheers

dastudent:
Hello Cannonleo,

i have been in your shoes. Like i used to be hardcore in my head. Thought human communication was stupid as i got bored easily talking to people. You need to start talking to more girls. Forget about routines and games or emotions when getting started. Just talk to them as a human being. If you have to flirt, do it and when they rebuke you laugh it away. It builds your confidence and with time when you start talking to more women, you will realize that it doesn't matter if you are an asshole or not. Just be a good person while being whoever you are.

The worst advice anyone will give you is to just be yourself. The best advice anyone will give you is be your best self. Work on yourself, how do you want people to see you, work on that and while you are doing that start a conversation with as many girls as possible. Don't have any end game. Just talk to them as humans.

Show up as someone who is genuinely curious about what he is seeing just as you will see a nice pair of shoes on a guy and say you like it. Tell her that(This is just an example).If she has beautiful skin tell her that her skin is beautiful.

Something that really helped me as i grew in better interactions with humans(Not girls alone) is formulating a one-hour conversation with myself. Some people will call it canned lines. Manufactured stories and what not until i had my one true stories to tell. Depending on who you are, make sure your stories are fun, adventurous and shocking.

At the end you are leading her emotions to the point where she feels she has no choice in her attraction to you.

As a beginner, have no expectations

Cocky and funny works but that is just one out of a million things. You need to be able to tell amazing stories too, reward her by touching her when she laughs at your jokes.

If you need me to explain how to have an interesting one hour conversation, you can ask as i don't want to be jumping like scout.

dastudent:
Hello Cannonleo,

i have been in your shoes. Like i used to be hardcore in my head. Thought human communication was stupid as i got bored easily talking to people. You need to start talking to more girls. Forget about routines and games or emotions when getting started. Just talk to them as a human being. If you have to flirt, do it and when they rebuke you laugh it away. It builds your confidence and with time when you start talking to more women, you will realize that it doesn't matter if you are an asshole or not. Just be a good person while being whoever you are.

The worst advice anyone will give you is to just be yourself. The best advice anyone will give you is be your best self. Work on yourself, how do you want people to see you, work on that and while you are doing that start a conversation with as many girls as possible. Don't have any end game. Just talk to them as humans.

Show up as someone who is genuinely curious about what he is seeing just as you will see a nice pair of shoes on a guy and say you like it. Tell her that(This is just an example).If she has beautiful skin tell her that her skin is beautiful.

Something that really helped me as i grew in better interactions with humans(Not girls alone) is formulating a one-hour conversation with myself. Some people will call it canned lines. Manufactured stories and what not until i had my one true stories to tell. Depending on who you are, make sure your stories are fun, adventurous and shocking.

At the end you are leading her emotions to the point where she feels she has no choice in her attraction to you.

As a beginner, have no expectations

Cocky and funny works but that is just one out of a million things. You need to be able to tell amazing stories too, reward her by touching her when she laughs at your jokes.

If you need me to explain how to have an interesting one hour conversation, you can ask as i don't want to be jumping like scout.

unclemica:
there is a girl in my department she is my junior I like her but I have not tell. She always reply my chat anytime we chat but she always give excuse anytime I tell her let see. There is a day after am done reading as I was going to hostel I saw her in one class watching movies with her tab, so I went and join her we gist and we laugh I also touch her but when I want to kiss her she just removed her face and smile, after some time I try again she did d same thing and third time I try to kiss her she bend down her face and start laughing, she was laughing and she said that she will shout rape she was just saying it as a joke. I see her today she smiled at me as I go closer to greet her I first look inside one class before I came closer to her, but she didn't give me attention again she was just forming busy with her book, when I touch her  bag she told me to stay one place that I should go and see the person I want to see, I became surprised the person that just smiled at me. I just stand and leave..I don't know the cause of her anger today maybe I was suspecting the time I look inside that class before coming closer to her and some guys are approaching her.. please tell me what to do I want this girl to fall in love with me?

dastudent:
Hello Cannonleo,

i have been in your shoes. Like i used to be hardcore in my head. Thought human communication was stupid as i got bored easily talking to people. You need to start talking to more girls. Forget about routines and games or emotions when getting started. Just talk to them as a human being. If you have to flirt, do it and when they rebuke you laugh it away. It builds your confidence and with time when you start talking to more women, you will realize that it doesn't matter if you are an asshole or not. Just be a good person while being whoever you are.

The worst advice anyone will give you is to just be yourself. The best advice anyone will give you is be your best self. Work on yourself, how do you want people to see you, work on that and while you are doing that start a conversation with as many girls as possible. Don't have any end game. Just talk to them as humans.

Show up as someone who is genuinely curious about what he is seeing just as you will see a nice pair of shoes on a guy and say you like it. Tell her that(This is just an example).If she has beautiful skin tell her that her skin is beautiful.

Something that really helped me as i grew in better interactions with humans(Not girls alone) is formulating a one-hour conversation with myself. Some people will call it canned lines. Manufactured stories and what not until i had my one true stories to tell. Depending on who you are, make sure your stories are fun, adventurous and shocking.

At the end you are leading her emotions to the point where she feels she has no choice in her attraction to you.

As a beginner, have no expectations

Cocky and funny works but that is just one out of a million things. You need to be able to tell amazing stories too, reward her by touching her when she laughs at your jokes.

If you need me to explain how to have an interesting one hour conversation, you can ask as i don't want to be jumping like scout.

Kalatium:
Gees in d house, where u at?
Was chatting with dis pretty gal on fb, I applied d Drills on her n she voluntarily gave me her phone number after making her anticipate by telling her my voice is sexy. D tin is dat after I called her d voice I had was Hmmmm no 1 has ever spoken to me like that b4. She was using a sonorous bedroom voice dat inorder not to f' up I had to cut d call.
I need ur advice

Obere4u:
What about guys not on whatsapp?

HARDDON:
from the above response template, you can deduce fun evasiveness. Yours truly is neither concurring nor objecting. Leave her in a fun limbo, or accuse of her rushing things.......


Never let any lady dictate to you how your relationship should swing! No! never in this kinda critical lane. If need be, grab your balls and remind her who's got them balls.

if you are the type that blivs in no s3x before marriage, then avoid touchy touchy. why start what you would get to finish?


of what use is a hole without a corresponding socket?

DavidTheGeek:
What advice do you need? Her voice scared you I feel like beating the shii outta you. That's what you need, BEATING! Now call that girl back and blow her mind off!

HARDDON:
Hello Guys.
Missed me?

Kalatium:
No

HARDDON:
There he is; applying my own pill on me. Yea u didnt miss me but u didnt even let me type first b4 quoting

Hope u know what wud happen to u if i decide to stop updating because of this statement of yours?

bamtos14:
oga Hardon pls help me...my dick is to small, what can i do..? have many gals 2 bang

double don, please lend dis guy few inches of ur jirod



. I knw ur ar not selfish,are u?

HARDDON:
There he is; applying my own pill on me. Yea u didnt miss me but u didnt even let me type first b4 quoting

Hope u know what wud happen to u if i decide to stop updating because of this statement of yours?

Amaterasu:
I met this new babe recently, and after her first visit to my house I discovered she is in an abusive relationship, the guy controls and dictates to her like Adolf Hitler and even hits her some times. Infact the guy recently blocked me from her face book page recently after I sent her an inbox message to accept my request because he has her password which I didn't know. The guy stays far away from this town. She wants to leave this guy for me but don't know how to go about it. The truth is apart from the fact that I want this babe, my desire is for this girl to leave this relationship even if I was not interested in her at all, the control of this guy is just too much. I want to ask her to unblock me now, she brought up the issue sometime ago but I just changed the topic but rethinking about it irritates me and I want lead her forward in this.

My gurus in the house is this a wise step ? OR I should just continue to "cain my line" independent of the guy and allow things to freely/effortlessly take shape with time. For the sake of the records this girl is a good wife material a bit shy and my type of girl , she can't stay a day without calling me ; I don't just know how she got hooked up with this Adolf of Hitler.

Kalatium:
Unfortunately, you just met a bad guy who has taken control over her emotions.

Amaterasu:
I met this new babe recently, and after her first visit to my house I discovered she is in an abusive relationship, the guy controls and dictates to her like Adolf Hitler and even hits her some times. Infact the guy recently blocked me from her face book page recently after I sent her an inbox message to accept my request because he has her password which I didn't know. The guy stays far away from this town. She wants to leave this guy for me but don't know how to go about it. The truth is apart from the fact that I want this babe, my desire is for this girl to leave this relationship even if I was not interested in her at all, the control of this guy is just too much. I want to ask her to unblock me now, she brought up the issue sometime ago but I just changed the topic but rethinking about it irritates me and I want lead her forward in this.

My gurus in the house is this a wise step ? OR I should just continue to "cain my line" independent of the guy and allow things to freely/effortlessly take shape with time. For the sake of the records this girl is a good wife material a bit shy and my type of girl , she can't stay a day without calling me ; I don't just know how she got hooked up with this Adolf Hitler.

classicpeezy:
Help a nigger in need, there's this babe I really like and I'm sure likes me back but I effed up and came too thirsty for her, now she seems to be playing me, avoiding my chyking but not turning me down. What can I do bro?

Amaterasu:
I met this new babe recently, and after her first visit to my house I discovered she is in an abusive relationship, the guy controls and dictates to her like Adolf Hitler and even hits her some times. Infact the guy recently blocked me from her face book page recently after I sent her an inbox message to accept my request because he has her password which I didn't know. The guy stays far away from this town. She wants to leave this guy for me but don't know how to go about it. The truth is apart from the fact that I want this babe, my desire is for this girl to leave this relationship even if I was not interested in her at all, the control of this guy is just too much. I want to ask her to unblock me now, she brought up the issue sometime ago but I just changed the topic but rethinking about it irritates me and I want lead her forward in this.

My gurus in the house is this a wise step ? OR I should just continue to "cain my line" independent of the guy and allow things to freely/effortlessly take shape with time. For the sake of the records this girl is a good wife material a bit shy and my type of girl , she can't stay a day without calling me ; I don't just know how she got hooked up with this Adolf Hitler.

HARDDON:
It is either the guy pays her bills( most probable) had an attractive/scary spell ( gud in bed, axe man( she wsno change) etc) on her, he's her first luv, she's plain naive or he has most of d qualities she luvs in a man.

You have to find out exactly why she stayed put all this while. Very important if you are to make a head way n also for your safety.