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madridguy:
As if girls will date/marry a struggling guy. Nice article though

If spare us this Cliché Jare.... A struggling guy who cant take care of himself properly has no business marrying.

Unfortunately most of the girls I met before I got married were make up artists including Oloshos but thank God I figured them out,.This post should be vise versa

Many Nigerians lie

What does your next door neighbor do?

Some will say they are university students but never go to the classroom except on examination days; some girls don't even go on examination days, sex and money makes a way especially for non practical/laboratory courses.

Some will tell you they work 2 weeks of and 2 weeks in Bonny but that is a smokescreen.

Others will say they are in to entertainment business always hosting one pageant or the other but there is more.

The landlords do not care as long as the rent is paid on time until what happened to the Jumia guy in Port Harcourt repeats itself in Abeokuta, Sokoto, Nnewi, Badagry, Uyo, Asaba, Jalingo, Makurdi, Ibadan, etc.

funny you. But you will be glad to say yes to a banker who is selling customers banking information to street boys to steal their money? Or custom officer who specialize in clearing fake goods? SFU awaiting you.

Nma27:
If spare us this Cliché Jare.... A struggling guy who cant take care of himself properly has no business marrying.

With the present economic situation in the Country,most Nigerian girls dont care about your occupation.Most of them are after what a man can offer.So occupation is meaningless these days.No money is clean,make the money and deviate into business or politics.Most of the Billionaires today have been involved in one or two shady deals ,but the smart ones diverted into business or politics ,which the Evans could have done if not for his greediness.

How do you not know your spouse's profession?

That's even a first date question, not necessarily how much he earns (I'd want to know when we're married at the very least and I'd do the same) but just knowing what he does, thought it was standard. Different strokes for different folks sha

The OP has done some Justice, with a balance check to follow.. Here is ours ladies all they wanted is money ..

Ontarget:

If you can take decisions that quick it seems you are still 19 years with so many years ahead of you before getting married. Enough time to play selecting and deselecting.

Read the comment you just quote, and read this your comment to me. Now, come back and tell me how they correlate.

Benita27:
Lol, well if you tell me that, it could be the last time we speak and if you don't say or perhaps say something legit, I would still have to be sure it's true.

A guy with nothing to hide will be open About his occupation from the first day... And even explain it in detail sef.
Only insecure/ jobless and paranoid ones will be shady about what they do

Every man wants to boast of a pretty wife. And every woman wants to boast of a rich and successful man. Somewhere in between is a bridge of sought. Were wisdom dwells and men possess sixth sense. Society lends a helping hand to this by projecting the right balance unto the individuals.

The world generally is experiencing a paradigm shift of sought. Beauty and wealth is being projected over wisdom and virtues. It is not the faulty of the individuals I will dare say. We all actors being directed.


Someone must be paying this pipers to play this tune so we all should dance this way.

NwaAmaikpe:


It is not in a real woman's place to question her husband's source of income..that is not only an act of insubordination but a total usurping of power.

Your only reason in his house is to eat wealth and give birth..that is why we call wives Oriaku (eater of wealth) in Igbo land.


So my sister, eat the wealth and mind your business.


If you dare to question his source of wealth, then you better be prepared to be the breadwinner.

I been dey wait your comment since

repogirl:
A guy with nothing to hide will be open About his occupation from the first day... And even explain it in detail sef.
Only insecure/ jobless and paranoid ones will be shady about what they do

Absolutely. I don't know why some of the dudes on this forum tend to assume everything is about gold digging. Who dates a man without knowing what they do for a living?.

Lionessza:
I doubt these wives don't know what's up . Infact I believe they tend to play dumb to save face when their criminal husbands are caught. How do you live with a "business man" who's office you've never visited? What about the company financial records ? As a wife is believe I should be able to view these anytime I want. What about his employees, ever met any ? And where? . What kind of business is he in? Who does he supply? Or where is he supplying?. I mean come on, I could go on the whole day to show you the things the wives would be suspicious of. Some may not be directly involved in the crimes but they know where that money is coming from, they might not know the exact details but no one is dumb enough to not know that they live a phoney business man. Gtfoh.

The smart ones are still here with us.

madridguy:
funny you. But you will be glad to say yes to a banker who is selling customers banking information to street boys to steal their money? Or custom officer who specialize in clearing fake goods? SFU awaiting you.

Don't get me wrong o but I feel it won't b easy for a "struggling" to make it easy if married without a lil foundation. The guy must not be wealthy before settling but needs to b OK atleast. What's SFU

Oyindidi:
I do visit him in his office.

am waiting in the office

Benita27:
Lol, well if you tell me that, it could be the last time we speak and if you don't say or perhaps say something legit, I would still have to be sure it's true.

How old are you ?

Benita27:
Read the comment you just quote, and read this your comment to me. Now, come back and tell me how they correlate.

You said if a guy didn't disclose his occupation to you then you walk away instantly. Isn't it? Then my position was that you have enough time ahead of you before getting married to make you discard someone so quick simply because he didn't disclose his occupation when you asked the first time. In order words, a serious lady ready to get married can't just walk away as easy as that for that reason.

livinbygrace:


How old are you ?

Old enough to know what I want.

Benita27:
Absolutely. I don't know why some of the dudes on this forum tend to assume everything is about gold digging. Who dates a man without knowing what they do for a living?.

Men are usually very proud of what they do and eager to impress ladies. So it's odd when they dont talk about it.

rawpadgin:
most guys won't tell u what they do for a living the first day they met u

most, will tell you, and make sure their story checks out, but it might not still be the real story, so it isn't just enough to ask

imagine a guy that works in a bank, but still organizes robbery ops in his bank, where he gets his cuts.

An awesome write-up but ladies of nowadays are only after money even the modern day wife too.

Ontarget:

You said if a guy didn't disclose his occupation to you then you walk away instantly. Isn't it? Then my position was that you have enough time ahead of you before getting married to make you discard someone so quick simply because he didn't disclose his occupation when you asked the first time. In order words, a serious lady ready to get married can't just walk away as easy as that for that reason.

There's clearly a misconception here. I said if a guy is into illegitimate means of survival and he tells me I would walk away, and if he tells me what he does which is legitimate I would still have to be sure it's true.

Go back to the comment you mentioned and compare with that of the person I replied.

In Nigeria, what you drive, the house you live in defines your wealth and prosperity not what you do. This is a social problem that has spoilt the minds of the youths. A reason why corruption and crime won't go easily. When we start respecting and appreciating hard work, a lot will change in the country. It's only a decision and a choice. Ladies are pressured to get married, the ladies see a wealthy man as an escape from poverty and the cycle continues. It's not about wife now, about children that are grown too. Do you know what your father does for a living?

repogirl:
Men are usually very proud of what they do and eager to impress ladies. So it's odd when they dont talk about it.

Anyone who doesn't talk about what he does obviously means there's something wrong. Could be into what Evans was caught up in or more.

When anyone says Business man, he is trying to cover up. A honest person would say tell you exactly what business he is doing: haulage, transporter, trading, affiliate marketing etc.

The problem is our girls, ladies, women, re after the money, gucci & banana .. don;t care of you re a kidnapper , ritualist , yahoo yahoo , 419 , armed robber.. they just want you to spend the money.. You can imagine most girls want to date only guys who can spend on them every second.. The real good guys that do legit jobs can't spend their hard earned money like a yahoo boy... so these girls call that type of guy stingy boy friend.. or he is just broke.. One thing we don't understand is this... what goes around, comes right back around.. if you fall into the class of guys that spend your ill gotten money on women and eventually marry her.. trust me you will be served soon.. It will be painful sha.. For my surulere Gs trust me i see light at the end of the Tunnel.. Just stay busy and don't give up.. I know many have lost good girls to yahoo plus boys.. no think am at all.. move on bro... you will meet a girl who will support you big time to achieve your dreams... As u see me so.. i no dey impress any girl at all. I am rich and i wont even let you know i got millions in investment... no cash... so no even thing of kidnapping me.. I am a Pastor..

Benita27:
The first thing I ask guys is what they do for a living. Once stories aren't adding up I take a walk. Can't afford to be dating/married to a yahoo nigga.

Nice piece op.

u can't marry a yahoo nigga? very surprising to hear dat wen all Naija ladies r dying to ve dem.

Benita27:
Old enough to know what I want.

Ok oo,Its well with you.

Ontarget:

You said if a guy didn't disclose his occupation to you then you walk away instantly. Isn't it? Then my position was that you have enough time ahead of you before getting married to make you discard someone so quick simply because he didn't disclose his occupation when you asked the first time. In order words, a serious lady ready to get married can't just walk away as easy as that for that reason.

Neither should a guy feel uncomfortable about disclosing his profession

WTF Unless he has no job or is insecure about it.

Asking someone what they do is an everyday discussion/ small talk, questions on getting to know someone.

Every jobless Nigerian man is a businessman.

This is a very ignorant and stupid statement.

Those of you slaves who live your lives under the yoke of servitude and convention believe that everyone must have what you describe as a "job". It's just idiotic. If he doesn't go to one office or the other and answer "sir" to one nincompoop for a pittance of a salary, then he must be jobless or shady?

The first line of the original post rendered everything else meaningless. I didn't bother to read past that.

iweecureyou:
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Evans d 2nd spotted