two years ago I started dating this girl, up till now we are still dating, but something is telling me that am wasting my time because she is a Muslim and I am a Christian, my parent have no say on who I want to marry because they do tell us that we have the right to marry anybody we want, because it is our life, when ever I ask her about our religious differences she will tell me I should let d time comes first, am confuse

Well, it depends on personal choice and preference.

Personally, I can't marry a Muslim. I can date one, but when it comes to marriage, other factors come in place, and one has to look beyond 'love conquers all' cos when problem rises, 'love conquers all' will not be remembered, and it's the kids(if there's any) that will suffer it.
Plus the religious crises in the country, and the world at large. It's just not worth it.
And this is my personal view.

But if you truly love her, and you both come from a religion tolerant background, you guys can marry. I know some husband and wives of different religious backgrounds who are successfully married.
Good luck

When it comes to marriage, apply wisdom..

slayminder:
two years ago I started dating this girl, up till now we are still dating, but something is telling me that am wasting my time because she is a Muslim and I am a Christian, my parent have no say on who I want to marry because they do tell us that we have the right to marry anybody we want, because it is our life, when ever I ask her about our religious differences she will tell me I should let d time comes first, am confuse

She's giving u that answer either because she doesn't wanna worry about the future hence spoiling what u guys have now prematurely or she's just rolling with u for some time till she gets a Muslim suitor...

It's possible u could be wasting ur time...if her parents are not the type to accommodate christians to a marriage level at all...

And it's possible u are not if her parents are liberal Muslims or she's strong enough to go against their wish and hoping u will be in support to marry her no matter the obstacle....

My 2cents: if u are not a 100/200 level student.. as in,if you are a guy that can visit a lady at her parents place and u won't be seen as an unserious dude...
I think u shuld start showing ur face at her family's residence gradually, start with the siblings, then the parents later..u will easily know from ur regular visits if they can accommodate u from another religion...
If u are guy that can't manage wahala from future inlaws due cos of religion difference...you should be able to decide if u want to take a hike before u become head over heels...

A lot of christians marry Muslims ladies these days....you could get lucky... sounds like uve got a couple of cupid arrows on ur asss

feelings are subject to time....wisdom is better than your feelings. when reality comes...hmmm. may God help u though

Sensual:
Well, it depends on personal choice and preference.

Personally, I can't marry a Muslim. I can date one, but when it comes to marriage, other factors come in place, and one has to look beyond 'love conquers all' cos when problem rises, 'love conquers all' will not be remembered, and it's the kids(if there's any) that will suffer it.
Plus the religious crises in the country, and the world at large. It's just not worth it.
And this is my personal view.

But if you truly love her, and you both come from a religion tolerant background, you guys can marry. I know some husband and wives of different religious backgrounds who are successfully married.
Good luck

thanks, I love her but she's not ready to convert, am worried about the Future, she love me and I know dat, but I dnt think her family will allow her to marry a Christian.

1StopRudeness:


She's giving u that answer either because she doesn't wanna worry about the future hence spoiling what u guys have now prematurely or she's just rolling with u for some time till she gets a Muslim suitor...

It's possible u could be wasting ur time...if her parents are not the type to accommodate christians to a marriage level at all...

And it's possible u are not if her parents are liberal Muslims or she's strong enough to go against their wish and hoping u will be in support to marry her no matter the obstacle....

My 2cents: if u are not a 100/200 level student.. as in,if you are a guy that can visit a lady at her parents place and u won't be seen as an unserious dude...
I think u shuld start showing ur face at her family's residence gradually, start with the siblings, then the parents later..u will easily know from ur regular visits if they can accommodate u from another religion...
If u are guy that can't manage wahala from future inlaws due cos of religion difference...you should be able to decide if u want to take a hike before u become head over heels...

A lot of christians marry Muslims ladies these days....you could get lucky... sounds like uve got a couple of cupid arrows on ur asss

all her siblings know me, even her mom I do call her some times, and I do go to her house very well, and some of her family knows me too, everybody know we are dating.

ehinmowo:
feelings are subject to time....wisdom is better than your feelings. when reality comes...hmmm. may God help u though

u are speaking in parables

dingbang:
When it comes to marriage, apply wisdom..

dat is wot am seeking for

Individual differences matter, just like saying does tribe matter in choosing wife

Oma307:
Individual differences matter, just like saying does tribe matter in choosing wife

am not even understanding Africans again, d reason why we are backward in the world is the way we take religious

slayminder:


all her siblings know me, even her mom I do call her some times, and I do go to her house very well, and some of her family knows me too, everybody know we are dating.

If the whole family including her dad knows u r not a muslim and they ain't bugging u guys....i don't see what u are worried about....unless u are just worried how the day would be like.....as in ...u are not sure if u can handle the level of the religion difference weirdness thing...as in u know Christian to Christian wedding paroles are usually doper...

1StopRudeness:


If the whole family including her dad knows u r not a muslim and they ain't bugging u guys....i don't see what u are worried about....unless u are just worried how the day would be like.....as in ...u are not sure if u can handle the level of the religion difference weirdness thing...as in u know Christian to Christian wedding paroles are usually doper...

the children will be confuse, am trying to think beyond the future

slayminder:

the children will be confuse, am trying to think beyond the future

Confused about what??..

It's clear u have reservations....mayb u shuldnt go on if u are in doubt...
You marrying a Christian wife doesn't automatically mean ur children will become good Christians....haven't u heard of Evans, no be, person be Seun Osewa and other atheist goons on this forum born from Christian home...ur children will still have to choose their own path to faith...

You just have to make sure u do ur path guiding them in the faith u think is right..irrespective of the religion ur wife is

What matters most is that the woman u are marrying is a good woman...weda muslim or christain..so u can have a peaceful home

1StopRudeness:


Confused about what??..

It's clear u have reservations....mayb u shuldnt go on if u are in doubt...
You marrying a Christian wife doesn't automatically mean ur children will become good Christians....haven't u heard of Evans, no be, person be Seun Osewa and other atheist goons on this forum born from Christian home...ur children will still have to choose their own path to faith...

You just have to make sure u do ur path guiding them in the faith u think is right..irrespective of the religion ur wife is

What matters most is that the woman u are marrying is a good woman...weda muslim or christain..so u can have a peaceful home

God bless you, am just getting something making sense since

slayminder:


thanks, I love her but she's not ready to convert, am worried about the Future, she love me and I know dat, but I dnt think her family will allow her to marry a Christian.

No insult intended but Have you lost your mind? Any apostate from Islam is, in theory, punishable by death if they do not recant. This is based upon the prophet Muhammad’s saying, as quoted in the Hadith (Islamic tradition), “Whoever changes his religion, kill him.” For many Muslim families, leaving Islam and converting to another religion brings “shame” to the family...Family members in this situation can feel that killing the converted family member is the only way to remove the shame from their name...If shes Muslim and convert she will have to leave the country.. Islam is no joke.
O you who believe! Take not as (your) Bitanah (advisors, consultants, protectors, helpers, friends) those outside your religion (pagans, Jews, Christians, and hypocrites) since they will not fail to do their best to corrupt you.”
Qur'an 3:11.... The Qur'an contains detailed instructions and examples of how to meet unbelievers. The Qur'an states categorically that Muslims cannot have non-believers as friends, advisors, consultants or protectors (Qur'an 3:118 and 4:144). If a Muslims wife is, or becomes, a disbeliever, the marriage can be discontinued and the dowries paid for them can be demanded back (Qur'an 60:10). The second instruction is that unbelievers should be called to Islam; in fact, the Qur'an says you cannot wage war against unbelievers until you have preached to them. The third instruction is that if they do not convert to Islam, then, they must be fought. The fourth instruction is that if they surrender, or convert, then you must stop waging war. If they do not convert or surrender, then they must be killed. So if you want her.. You have to become a Muslim

Ordinary marriage..Btw two pple that love each other.......and we have started getting towards murder..

How is it convenient for pple to talk about killing a fellow human just because of "I don't believe what u believe".......

OP u don hear now...the matter don dey reach kill,kill oooo...dem don warn u oooo

I'm outta this thread mehn

Nina4u:
No insult intended but Have you lost your mind? Any apostate from Islam is, in theory, punishable by death if they do not recant. This is based upon the prophet Muhammad’s saying, as quoted in the Hadith (Islamic tradition), “Whoever changes his religion, kill him.” For many Muslim families, leaving Islam and converting to another religion brings “shame” to the family...Family members in this situation can feel that killing the converted family member is the only way to remove the shame from their name...If shes Muslim and convert she will have to leave the country.. Islam is no joke.
O you who believe! Take not as (your) Bitanah (advisors, consultants, protectors, helpers, friends) those outside your religion (pagans, Jews, Christians, and hypocrites) since they will not fail to do their best to corrupt you.”
Qur'an 3:11.... The Qur'an contains detailed instructions and examples of how to meet unbelievers. The Qur'an states categorically that Muslims cannot have non-believers as friends, advisors, consultants or protectors (Qur'an 3:118 and 4:144). If a Muslims wife is, or becomes, a disbeliever, the marriage can be discontinued and the dowries paid for them can be demanded back (Qur'an 60:10). The second instruction is that unbelievers should be called to Islam; in fact, the Qur'an says you cannot wage war against unbelievers until you have preached to them. The third instruction is that if they do not convert to Islam, then, they must be fought. The fourth instruction is that if they surrender, or convert, then you must stop waging war. If they do not convert or surrender, then they must be killed. So if you want her.. You have to become a Muslim

so wot is ur point

1StopRudeness:
Ordinary marriage..Btw two pple that love each other.......and we have started getting towards murder..

How is it convenient for pple to talk about killing a fellow human just because of "I don't believe what u believe".......

OP u don hear now...the matter don dey reach kill,kill oooo...dem don warn u oooo

I'm outta this thread mehn

we are not in an Islamic state, nobody can kill anybody, dat is wot am saying should I continue or call it quit

slayminder:

so wot is ur point

my point is right were I explains were A. She will be killed B. He has to become a Muslim C. They can flee the country together. She can never convert. She will be killed.

me become a Muslim? I can't, it means I will be d only Muslim both in father side and mother side dat can't happen

slayminder:

we are not in an Islamic state, nobody can kill anybody, dat is wot am saying should I continue or call it quit

Islam is Islam it doesn't have to be an Islamic state or country.. They kill their daughters in Sweden too it calls honour killings because the daughter put shame on the family.. The quran gives very specific instruction..

slayminder:

we are not in an Islamic state, nobody can kill anybody, dat is wot am saying should I continue or call it quit

Oga...if u love this girl enough...if u are sure she loves u too and the family ain't radical Muslims like some pple saying kill, kill, kill since morning..abeg marry am..nothing go happen....if they were gonna kill her or even u they would have warned u to leave their daughter alone at this stage of dating..u won't even be welcomed in the first place

cos I just remembered I know of the daughter of a muslim Cleric who married a Christian then in ikorodu...I remembered that the man never attended the wedding despite the guy agreed to do a Nikai all for love... she was banned from her family for years...later the father had to forgive though...mayb all these kill, kill could happen in the north..