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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by yinkslinks(m): 7:07am On Jun 26, 2017

must you eat in their house without contributing too after they house you? you are selfish and lazy bro

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by toltee4real: 7:08am On Jun 26, 2017

Dats the plain truth

jieta:
your reply is full of arrogance, i won't be surprise if people like you control their husband.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by guru03(m): 7:11am On Jun 26, 2017

U need to be a responsible man guy, u can't continue to squat with someone who has a family.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by almarthins(m): 7:12am On Jun 26, 2017

Oga just comot for the house. No complain again. The woman doesn't want you in their house and no be ur friend fault.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by hisMrs(f): 7:12am On Jun 26, 2017

Erukulele:
They have given you accommodation and you still rested on them for food, can't you hustle to get your basic needs?, you have given us your own side of the story the couple is not here to state theirs I can't judge them knowing fully well that you can never indict yourself even if you are wrong ,I once accommodated someone like you who turned privileges to rights and even tried to hijack my business. who knows what will happen between you and your next host, you can depend on people for life.

this guy's own is better o. there's a lady currently living in my house, her own is worse, she's so unkept and dirty, she even brought her child too, the pikin con stubborn join, the pikin dey piss for bed. I bought a bed with nylon on it for d baby to b sleeping in, but d mother insists she sleeps on d big bed and d pikin dey piss for bed, where I wan see sun take dry the bed for this raining season. The lady's own is so bad that she even selects what to you feed her, she is lazy towards house chores and she can thief from pot ehn.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by hillsway(m): 7:13am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

which part of lag you dey,cause I get one fallow apartment when I fit give you around egbeda as long as you get hussling spirit.By the way I feel your pain,cause one of my closest friend from way back when get mind lock me out of him crib couple of years back(due to fact that his dad apartment was in close proximity to my work place),later see say God pass am,when him popsi later sell the house and me by then done exit 9ja by then for a better offer outside.Just get back @ me and abeg double your hustle and prayer.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by daviefm(m): 7:13am On Jun 26, 2017

HOW OLD ARE U?
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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by nams77: 7:13am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
thanks for the advice. it is clear. i have to leave that house. i will pack my things today and leave for calabar first things tomorrow. Why i say ordinary is because these people are not suffering at all, they live well. i did not live there free. i did various jobs for the man and even stayed in the wifes store where she sells provisions. This is someone i senior with over 5 yrs. such behaviour was not so at the beginning now i am almost treated as if i came to do househelp. so i will never rely on anyone again as man can fail, but God never fails.

That's the problem. You see them as the end not a means to an end. Because they are well off shouldn't mean you cast all your burden on them and became a house help. If I were you, I would have just bn contented with only the roof over my head and go out every morning to hustle something, even if na labourer or conductor work. Come back in the evening and eat whatever is offered. Well, those are past tense now. Go down on your knees and pray to God to arise and show you favor as you step out to the unknown (Calabar). You might just walk into a miracle. Last advice- no one owes you anything in this world. Even your own brother can disappoint u. That's life. I have a very rich uncle who eats and dine with the former GMD of NNPC by virtue of his position in the oil and gas industry. This man can give me contract running into many millions but e no dey reason me and me no dey reason am at all. I'm living my life jejely

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by intrepidjay1(m): 7:14am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

it takes salute for diz kind period mk person accommodate n still go lengths feeding a grown up man..

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by hatchy: 7:14am On Jun 26, 2017

My friend you are a big fool for behaving like a child.
Don't you no that there is time for everything? Dont you know that once they started complaining and finding faults that your time in that house is up? They are kind enough,a family of three to absorb you in this perilous times and you want to put blame on them for being harsh on you. You have overstayed your welcome even if they housed you for one week,time for you to move. Be a man,take up the challenge and look for accommodation elsewhere even if its Batcher (temporary).

But wait o,you may be wasteful indeed because two spoon of milk is enough na considering that you are adult,must you scoop three even in presence of the wife?
Learn a lesson from this,no condition is permanent.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by LOVEGINO(m): 7:14am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

this guy no get shame o

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Foxrain: 7:15am On Jun 26, 2017

Oyindidi:
Sharraappp!!!!!!!!!!! What is ordinary fvcking milk! The guy is human, see how all of you are insulting the guy. It can be anybody for goodness sake. That guy is depressed and needed help but you all are claiming 3 spoons of milk is too much for a grown up. I'm almost weeping for the op, not cos of his problem but the way you people are attacking him.

Stressedout, go to Calabar. Next time look for advice somewhere else.

You sharrap too... Maybe you are out of your senses... Who are you to tell me what to say?

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by doskie(m): 7:16am On Jun 26, 2017

aribisala0:
Every body cannot hustle we are not created equally that is the unfortunate reality of life some are weak and some are strong. Some are intelligent and some are stupid. Some people fine while others wowo.There are many things in this life that we cannot changeThat is reality. Do you think stupid people woke up one day and joined the queue of stupidity. The other reality in Nigeria is that being rich is not always about how much you hustle. Next time you feel irritated by someone who does not match your high standards remember that you are not perfect also remember that life is very very short.
Always have a sense of humour. And don't take life that seriously .
@ OP welcome to the school of life ,we live and hopefully we learn

you are wise. not evey poor man is lazy. not every rich man is hardworking. not every comfortable person got to his position through sacrifice. the truth is, a bus conductor, a truck pusher, a carpenter, a welder, does more work than a bank manager. destiny cannot undermined. life just happens.
the most brilliant guy in my secondary school got admission 8years after waec. the dullest girl, got admission the year after waec. she graduated, we came to lagos the same year to look for job, today she is married to a very rich person, she lives and owns a supermarket in canada. back in the days, one would assume the brilliant guy better deserves all the luxury she has today. but that is life!
i met my coursemate in abuja who made a third class. i didnt believe what i saw. not yahoo! solar installer, driving benz. the firstclass guys are sweating in blue longsleeves and long ties with flat shoes. who would expect that?

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by KingGBsky(m): 7:17am On Jun 26, 2017

hisMrs:
nobody is perfect but d situation is bad already, he even feels its OK to wash his dirty linen in public

wait all u guls please dnt mention me.
una own just too much. like kilode?

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by wickyyolo: 7:18am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
they put my food for me. i dont take by myself. Anyone who can take me in should pm me. am fed up.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by wickyyolo: 7:19am On Jun 26, 2017

LOVEGINO:
this guy no get shame o

I SWEAR

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by wintersnow(m): 7:21am On Jun 26, 2017

Y'all should let him be naw...
Before we see another news on crime section tomorrow

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Oyindidi(f): 7:21am On Jun 26, 2017

Foxrain:
You sharrap too... Maybe you are out of your senses... Who are you to tell me what to say?

You know it that you don't have a mind of your own.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Nobody: 7:22am On Jun 26, 2017

Lalas247:
Imagine ... ontop say them let am stay
He has guts to take 3 heaps
And came here to cry

He better take bus to Calabar tonight

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Curdlebug(m): 7:23am On Jun 26, 2017

At your age you still behave like a kid,,, even if they are rich and you a struggling adult, they are right you are wasteful, in her presence you couldn't reserve your long throat, for you to admit you took 3 spoons of milk, which am sure it's table spoons full and not even a tea spoon(tea spoons don't exist in 80% homes) , and of which I suspect you took more than that 3 spoons which sparked rage from her... DO you know what it takes to shop provisions in this recession, it's expensive. After they feed you normal square meals, you devour provisions. You need to go back to the village and start over again, if you couldn't pay ur rent then it's a big deal bro,,. But how is it That you waited to b evicted without paying your rents. Anyways, I won't judge you, just stop living a wasteful life. Good luck

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by SunnDash(m): 7:24am On Jun 26, 2017

Guy I felt ur pain u knw wat look for a church stay wt dem for d time bein is just d trying moment in ur life, let them knw wat u can do for a living. let me say am partially involved in dis kind of mess u re going tru. Be strong we don't need to deliberate on ur frnd issue,God will see u through.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Flashmove: 7:25am On Jun 26, 2017*

First, You have to kneel down and tender apology to Nairalanders for calling it ORDINARY MILK.

What you cant afford to buy or get is not ORDINARY..

PLEASE MIND HOW YOU USE YOUR WORDs...

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by kowema(f): 7:26am On Jun 26, 2017

Sleyanya1:
Typically a Nigerian trait, we feel we are experts when it comes to real life issues, especially when we're giving our opinions on a social media platform.

How strong is your threshold really?
Most of us are graced to be where we are today ( not necessarily by our hustles). There are people who die in a simple hustling attempt due to pressures of life.

Because you survived it, you be 'just judge', thinking erroneously that everyone must be emotionally, physically, intellectually as sound as you?

Where's is human part of our thinking, where is compassion that should come before the opinions.

Yes, the advice given to the op, could be your best bet, but you don't have to dish it out as though you're in the Op's shoes. Your opinions are good (@ some of those above me) but they are mostly scornful and filled with so much resentments.

@ OP, best decisions don't come when you're Too excited (Over joyed) / heartbroken.

I suggest you calm down, retrace and re-examine yourself. Apologize to your friend and wife after a deep hearted appreciation. Plead with them to allow u stay for a little while, look for something doing, share your problems with good friends and take everything to God in prayer.

Try to leave before the appealed time frame.
Don't forget to appreciate them and Never hold any grudge.
Better days ahead. God bless you.

Ouchh!!!!.
A thousand and 1 hugs from me to you.

Finally someone with compassion plus enough wisdom to match all who have commented above.

It's amazing how we have lost our sense of being human just cus we are in a faceless forum.
I Kept scrolling down just to find 1 person, Just 1 person who would dare to be different.
Lord help us.

Meanwhile, Ur wife/Fiancee is a lucky woman.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Nobody: 7:29am On Jun 26, 2017

MMotimo:
Humility is a virtue you should embrace. Your topic " ordinary" is a turn off. When somebody is giving you something they don't owe you, you don't get to dictate what is ordinary or not. If it were ordinary, you should have bought your own milk. The fact that you have a roof over your head after your eviction is due to their generosity and who knows how big the apartment is but still they invited you in.

If your hosts say an extra spoon of milk is too much to stomach and they are causing drama because of that, you have 2 options:

Start to buy your own food or contribute to feeding and hope they will allow you decide your own quantity of consumption
Leave their house

You don't get to decide what is ordinary in another person's house.

Thank you for saying exactly what was on my mind.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by CoolChinex07: 7:30am On Jun 26, 2017

The story is so pathetic because I av a similar experience from my blood brother who was even the one that act me to come stay with them temporary while waiting to resume for my masters program after quitting from my job and leaving my rented apartment in PH. after few weeks, he start setting traps for me. that's wen I know that I av to leave. but before I could leave, he quickly instigated a major conflict between us and involving his wife in order to publicly disgrace me to leave. all because they taught that I will become a burden to them and demanding for money while running my masters program. I quietly moved out dejected but trusting in God. today I av completed my full-time masters degree in Nigeria premier university wit top grade without a dime from them but unexpected favours from different sources. And God av open wider oppurnitnities for me to make choice from. Lesson to learn is that no man will help you wen dey think u are completely down. Put more trust and hope in God and work harder in humility.

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Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Bcpump: 7:30am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

guy 3 spoons of milk? You are wasteful. if you did that in my house with milk I bought I will kick you out myself. if you bought the milk yourself, fine. 3 spoons is too much. next time two spoons of milo and one spoon of milk. Next time!

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Nobody: 7:31am On Jun 26, 2017

frostland:
Bros I feel ur pain it is nt easy to live wit som1 who is married, firstly the wife dont like u, secondly u should hav reduce the amount of food u take becus ur friend will always choose his wife over u

hmmm,i no fit stay with married ppl no matter how good they are.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by amba2017: 7:32am On Jun 26, 2017

the major problem is eating their food at all. from your report you are not doing any work at the moment and therefore you must not stay in lagos so I advice you relocate if possible

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Nobody: 7:34am On Jun 26, 2017

Greatzeus:
Please its better you leave that house before you are poisoned,please even if you have to go back to your relatives in calabar.Who knows,you might see an helper there,there people in Lagos with all his prospects who are still paupers, while there are people in the village who are rich.
Don't be downcasted,at least the guy is not your blood brother, I know a guy who left his brother's house because of insults he gets from the wife,just because he was jobless. The week he left,that was when he got a job.

me I can't stay with married ppl even if na my brother.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Nobody: 7:35am On Jun 26, 2017

stressedout:
Pls nairalanders, I am in deep mess right now. I have been living in my compound for 6 yrs now but due to some money issues I was evicted and my friend/fellow tenant was kind enough to take me in for the time being. It is him the wife and their small baby son that stays.

The problem started when the wife start complaining that am wasteful. i have never remained food they give me. from then they reduced quantity of food they give me and i dont complain.

Now just this morning am making tea and take 3 spoons of milk in her presence and all hell break loose. she starts shouting and call her husband that even them dont take more than 2 spoons. the man called me later and said it is time for us to part ways.

Am devastated now. i even used my last cash to buy a tin of milk for them. what do i do now? i have no where to go.

That's not the right way to gain respect. You were not even supposed to be eating there in the first place.

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by laclass(m): 7:35am On Jun 26, 2017*

Plz stop using the word "Ordinary ".you must have overstayed ur welcome in that house.I hate when people use the word ordinary when at that moment u don't have it . You shld learn to be patience when u don't have somethings in live at any point in time and stop judging ppl about when u use to .As long as u don't have it for now manage whatever u see from anyone assisting you at that moment until u sit up ,especially were there is a woman and child .na you pursue ur self comot for the house oh make I tell u..

Re: My Friend Wants To Chase Me Out Because Of Ordinary Milk by Dicksonpal: 7:35am On Jun 26, 2017

the Yorubas will say, eni to Lori o ni fila..... the person that' has head doesn't have a cap!!! baba go hustle... it's not all hustle that needs capital to startup,......

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