iamrealdeji:
best comment I've read today,you really nailed it

tosyne2much:
I hope all these people making a benchmark of 150k as a prerequisite for marriage are from Nigeria sha? A country where an average youth roams around the street without any hope for the future

As for me, I believe that late marriage is the reason why we have high rate of nuisance, rape and all forms of sexual immoralities in the society. And that's why a man in his thirties is still chasing anything on skirt due to misplaced priorities.

I believe in the biblical saying "never despise little beginning", so, there's no general financial standard for every man that wants to marriage because we all have different preferences.

Or are there not people earning as low as 18k per month and their wives aren't starving? So I believe understanding the kind of person you want to marry is all that matters

Alikote:
pls educate them ,my married friend still stay with his father in their old house in lagos with 60 k salary at 42

humilitypays:
In present day Nigeria under president Buhari/Osinbajo, you need at least NGN200,000 monthly to live a basic life and live in a decent 2-bedroom apartment in a low income city area in Nigeria.

But if your wife to be is working and earning at least NGNG100,000 monthly, that is very okay to start a family with her...if not, it won't be that easy with the current inflation.

Mathematically:

House rent per annum = NGN350,000; NGN30,000 monthly

Monthly feeding with your wife alone = NGN3000 x 30 = NGN90,000 monthly feeding

Other daily expenditures + helping family members, etc = NGN100,000 monthly

Clothing and others monthly = NGN50,000

Total projected/estimated monthly expenditures = NGN30,000 + NGN90,000 + NGN100,000 + NGN50,000 = NGN270,000

So with an income of NGN270,000 monthly, u can start a decent home with your wife to be, good luck

iamrealdeji:
my guy,my married neighbour sleeps on the mat at the corridor whenever his wife's relatives are around,he vacates the one room he lives with his wife for them. I once sent this guy to fill my gas cooker for me and he stole part of my money and threw the receipt in a tyre for me not to know the actual amount just to feed his family,you should see how this guy complains bitterly whenever he wants to buy their baby's pampers. no rest of mind for him because he borrows money to take care of his family at times if there is no money,and yet,other older married men usually say he has not seen anything yet that it would get to a time he would feel like he's just fetching water into a basket and feel like running away when they have their second child and children start school and all.
A caretaker that rented my shop to me advised me not to rush into marriage. he said he rushed into marriage and now he's in his 40's,he is struggling so hard,sold his car for him to pay his children's school fees when they entered higher institution and upkeep,one child even had to wait for another . he said the reason he's so backward is because he rushed into marriage. his salary is not bad but raising family in Nigeria requires preparing well before marriage. there is nothing like favour coming after marriage o,its pure lie and African formulated fallacy. most marriages I've seen are not like that at all,only few men become successful after marriage and its because they're on the way to success even before marriage or just lucky. married men that didnt prepare well before marriage are the ones that are feeling this recession most,I do pity them. lots of married men that didn't prepare well always do soughts of illegal stuffs even after salaries just to take care of family,send them to buy you something,they would always try to steal part of your money and tell you the wrong price,many of them have done that to me

GOFRONT:
Have u ever met a lady u ever want to Marry but Money no dey for u to marry her until she gone??

iamrealdeji:
one well I regret the fact that I over reacted but Nigerians should stick to their own personal opinions. with due respect,you shouldn't say it's better,you should rather say it's better for you. you guys just talk about marriage and act as if divorce doesn't exist. if you divorce,it somehow crumbles the future of your children and you deprived them of having to live with dad and mum and God will purnish you for it. even if you're rich as Bleep and young,one still have to prepare so well and be very mature mentality and tolerant enough before jumping into marriage.what leads to marriage is immaturity of couples because they didn't prepare fully for it and they're not mature mentally. another thing I'm sick of is the way people see marriage in this part of the world like it's a great achievement . people don't even mind their businesses and respect other people 's opinions when it comes to marriage. everybody is entitled to his own opinion. if a girl says she can't marry a broke guy,why are you to question her based on what she believes in,its her choice,if a guy says he wants to marry this or that type of woman and have this or that before marrying,why must you question him based on what you feel is right for you? will you feed his family for him? will you be there whenever his wife gives birth through CS? no,Nigerians will never help you ifvyou need them,they will not be there for you,but when it comes to marriage discussion,they would rush to say this and that to you and it doesn't mean they like you,they just want you to act like them. if anybody chooses not to marry at all,what's your business with it? that's why Oyinbos will always progress,they respect what everybody believes in. I'm not saying people should be very rich before marriage o but we should learn to respect each other's opinion. Isaac Newton never married nor have a child and he is well respected and contributed to human race more than an Alhaji in the north with 70 children

rash47:
happened to me twice,the lack of money then quench the little confidence I needed to make things work,so painful I couldnt handle things properly they both walked away...ohhh Mr money where are though. From those experience I learnt a great deal.

kaykith05:
Abeg, na how many youths dey earn up to 60k for my area sef. So dem no go marry again abi? Well me, I earn lesser and I married last March. Grace is essential.

blip:
[s]You can have an income of 450k and it will never be enough depending on the type of woman you marry. I'll simply say marry a lady who knows how to manage your finance well and is not an exorbitant spender[/s].

Laralag:
It is true that there are lots of mature single sisters in our society today, it is also true that there are loads of single men in our society. could it be that men not settling down is the reason most women are still single. Most of the men we dated as undergraduate migth still be single 10years afer leaving school ( I know a lot). Most men I have asked, excuse boils down to money even though they have jobs.
This brings me to my question how much should a man be earning before he should start thinking of marriage all things being equal.

thesuave10:


Who are the "they"

vizkiz:
minimum of 150k monthly

PrecisionFx:



How many degree holders in Nigeria earn over 100k per month

Airtimex:


I understand your point, Nigeria is a different country entirely... >

80k job will do and importantly, the woman should be working too...
My thought though...

fabre4:
many of you are deceiving yourselves here how many jobs pay 150k and above in Nigeria

NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.


My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.


Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_


Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.


Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°°

iamrealdeji:
tosyne I used to think you're intelligent. and who told you secondary school students don't sleep around,rape,etc? what is stopping you from marrying now so that you wouldn't chase anything in skirt or raping around? leave bachelors alone and go into marriage if you want to. marrying early or late has nothing to do with creating nuisance or whatever. everybody has his own plans. to some,a 24 year old guy must be married,to some,a 26 year old guy marrying is late marriage,different strokes for different folks

lincs25:
Some people are saying 100K, 150k, let me not even mention above the one listed. If you join federal civil service even with your degree is few ministries that will pay you up to 100k. You guys will remain single, I am working in the North, here somebody that is selling water will got married to two women. A jerry can of water is 20n, do you think in a month the person will make up to 20k yet he survive with the two wives.

Juliearth:
It largely depends on the location....a monthly income of 100k for instance might not go far in Abuja but can in states like Plateau,Kaduna....however,I belief in humble beginnings-you dont need tarty billion for the akant before you take the bold step,start out small and grow together.

NaijaElba:
Marry now with the little you have. Don't wait to
be a millionaire, Have kids early so you can grow
with them. Grow with your kids and succeed with
your wife. You will never finish making money or
achieving your plans. You might still not succeed
at your target year. So start your life early, with
consistency you will grow.


My father said this to me: _When i was 25, i was
talking about making billions before i marry.
Many years later, billions didn't come, yet no kid
no wife... I had an opportunity to marry the most beautiful love
of my life very early, But my fear was, can i
really take care of her? But right now She's married with
Four grown up children. The guy that married her
was still schooling then, but had the courage.
They worked hard and succeeded together. I
failed, so please if you can feed yourself, you can
feed your wife. You have to believe it, marry
early, don't wait.

Don't make our mistakes, I see
my childhood friends play with their kids.. Most
of them are not doing as well as me.. But they
are happier with their families..
Trust me it isn't money only, but Rather your Maturity, your
happiness depends entirely on your wisdom and the way you Handle Life. With
a well planned life they are happier.


Trust me it
isn't money, What is our problem? Build mansion, buy the latest Car in Town, marry Sharon stone type, but still we don't have those things we dreamt of,
and of course the years we wasted, we can never have them neverrrr!!!_


Please don't be 60yrs old and your kids will still
be in their 20's..What are you supposed to be at
that age? Their grand father.
Please young men, take my advice seriously.


Marry, don't be afraid, that girl you are finding too many
fault in has many good qualities if you look well.

Don't think you will get every thing before you
settle down. God can change your life in a blink,
with a good and Focus wife by your side, you will succeed
by God grace....Amen

*Ladies, please try and pass this across to Ur boyfriend or fiancé* *Guys please have a re-think and tell other guys about it too... And consider this advice*°°°°°°°°

PrecisionFx:



Depends on social status...

30k, 40k, 50k, 100k, 5 million...... All can serve.