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silkytouch:
Would you be kind enough to explain the bolded to me?
I've heard people say that a lot and I am yet to understand how that shii works, please make me understand.

handsomebanana:
Av sin dat nonsense allova nairaland.

Itz jst a coded way 2 mke d victims seem as d guilty ONE.

Lots of idiots here, dnt be surprised

goldbim:
unfortunately, I don't explain shii.do have a nice day..

stevedre:
. My father never had a long relationship with my mother and they are still together. Am sure many matured people here have the same experience with their parents so what is really going with today's marriages?
Seperation and divorce is now a norm in the society because of the couples selfish interest not minding the negative effects it will definitely have on their kids/family.
I don't believe a long term relationship is a guarantee for a successful marriage because a successful marriage requires allot of sacrifices and most importantly good family advisers.
Marry a slay queen if you really love her but make sure you change her circle of friends soon as possible and also be willing/ready to be a father and elder brother to help her adjust or you will regret it.

blogreporter:
Continue from the Photo:



''That was the last chance for her; then I told her that she will pay for all her evil.
She is already paying for her evils.

Her mother which supposed to be my mother in-law is the wast woman that you can ever deal with in life. She was the one that spoilt her female kids. All of them have gone astray. The woman is also a slay grand mama. Her nick name is 'mama G'.

In conclusion, the young lady is not yet ready to marry, she wanna continue playing games with men from different location; but my own case brought an end to all they games.

I advised other Malaysian men to go and try they own luck may be it might favour them; as for me , am done for a very long time. I will advise you little girl to desist from using my name in your fake stories; because of you continue, I might deal with you little rat legally.

I have tried my possible me best to help your life. I helped you because your a poor small girl; but your u grateful, you fool people around you, telling them so many lies. Most of them are wise, they know that your a fool and chip liar. Some of them fall for your chip lies; but that is never my business.

You said that I want to use you for a ritual right ? You are an ungrateful human being; continue making fool of yourself in a social network; but don't mention my name again. I am done with you 100%. Go and look for other Malaysian men; they will finally find out what you are then they will still ran away. You can never change nah, neither will your mother change.

I will not open up any of your dirty shit here; so don't be scared. I am a wise man; not stupid like you.

I am sorry for any pain I might have caused anyone due to my anger. May the gentle soul of your father rest in peace. He is a good man, I know that if he a life, all those things will not be happening to his children. I wish you good luck to your future clients all over the world. Electronic Money reporting.

blogreporter:
Its all started when a lady named Okibe Olivia in a way of trying to advise ladies to atleast date a man before marrying, revealed that she regretted her marriage with one Emeka Augustine a Malaysia based entrepreneur, and Boom it hit the internet, read it here and since then the lady has been slamming the guy, accusing him of trying to use her for rituals and all.. Ebiwalismoment.com tried to interview the guy but he wasn't responding. And he has finally released a statement this morning around 4: 20am, he also accused her mother of been a witch, and the one manipulating her, he added that she's prostitute and aborted his baby.. read all what he posted below!


http://www.ebiwalismoment.com/2017/08/olivia-aborted-my-baby-husband-to-lady.html

Cc: lalasticlala

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Abagworo:
The issue as usual is money. I now understand fully what transpired not minding the fake stories from the two adults. The girl confided in him and told him about her past and what she did to help herself and her family when they met and the Guy accepted. He also accepted taking full financial responsibility of the girl's mum which was an unwise decision. I am sure their issue started when the girl's mum needed money and he couldn't fulfill his promise which made the mum poison her daughter's mind towards her husband. The daughter needed to do runs again to help her mother which the husband couldn't tolerate. It's an everyday thing in Port Harcourt.

stevedre:
. My father never had a long relationship with my mother and they are still together. Am sure many matured people here have the same experience with their parents so what is really going with today's marriages?
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slamkobe:
BOTH TEAMS TO LIE --- YES that's the best option in this matter.

silkytouch:
Banana my brother, I must understand am today else I no go leave that babe.

InvertedHammer:
I bet you that your mother had no camera phone, fb or instagram page before or when your dad married her. It is very easy to establish contact with people these days.

I hope that answered your questions.

Btw, Malaysian guys always show up with youthful exuberance and phantom invicibility that attract "runs girls". Because they don't fly straight, they avoid judgmental ladies who may come from stable families. And Emeka and Olivia's kind of union is what they get.
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Lakeside79:
Your write up and logic and immensely flawed and are the recipe for disaster in marriage

Firstly stating that you can change someone is a very childish and immature thought process. I guess you are either a teenager or in your early twenties ?

When you grow up one of the first things you learn before you clock 21 is that you can not and I repeat you cannot change someone ... Propel can only change themselves nothing else .

Secondly people still at the end of the day never really change .. this is why if you want to know how someone really is look at their circle of friends or the type of people they feel comfortable hanging with then you will see who they are.

If you see a woman whose friends are whores and you think by forcing her to change her friends (which won't happen ) that you have changed her then sorry to burst your bubble but what you have their is a LovePeddler with no friends .

You assume alot , and that's fine giving that you are still a child but let me educate you. Your folks told you they didn't know each other long, doesn't mean they weren't friends or shared mutual friends ... But even if that's the case where they really happy ? Does living together with some one all your life mean you had a great marriage ?

I know couples living together just for their kids and nothing else , they both have partners outside marriage

And before you jump and swear both your folks are faithful , that again isn't a yard stick for judging a happy marriage

I once had an ex who I was faithful too not because I loved her but because I just am not the cheating type

So kiddo please learn more , life is a school , open your mind and don't be so naieve

ashjay001:
U dont get to change her circle of friends, cos, if u do, den u're gonna loose out!!

What u really need, is for 'her' to change her circle of frnds!? It has to come from within, for it to work.

stevedre:
I will not trade insults with you but for the records, I am happily married with two wondeful kids and I am old/blessed enough to take care my family and yours if given the opportunity so I think you should grow up and stop acting like the kiddo you ignorantly think I am. I have first hand experience when it comes to looking for wife while you are based abroad (I was in that category before I got married) so when I talk you take time, read and compredend before calling me a kid.
I changed from the player I was after I got married and it was a step by step process, family and kids brings out the inner man in you but I guess you will not understand because from your write up I can see you are not and have never been married but you dared to trade words on marital issues with me.
Go to romance section ro talk about dating and exs because I am way past that level in life, be wise, learn to listen to elders whenthey talk and travel allot when ever you can to expose your wraped up way of reasoning.

kingxsamz:
why did you date a prostitute?

Lakeside79:
Hmmmm , I can see clearly that you are a mindless sheep easily given to the whims of emotional outbursts .
I am a single father of my little princess who turned 3 last month .

While her mother and I aren't married , it's certainly not because I didn't want to, but because life choose to snatch her away during child birth . Next month is her third year remembrance you arsehole .

Oh being married automatically makes you an authority on marriage ?
Please ...I might not been married now and that's a personal decision, cause who I lost is irreplaceable, she was the reason I pushed my limits , she was the reason I conquered my weaknesses, she was all my reasons ...
If in future I ever remarry which I honestly doubt it would be because I have spent alot of time with the person , my daughter loves her, and we connect and a deep level.

So assume that spending time to know someone has no bearing on whether the marriage will be successful is both childish and ignorant to say the least .

You are just a child

Divay22:
she was only in for the money

stevedre:
My broda there are some steps that must be taken by man if you want your marriage to work, if she is addicted to online stuffs cut her off from it until she undertstands how it is affecting your home.
She will never be bold enough to confront it because it was not an issue until she met you. Sometimes as man, you have to cut off from some relatives and friends if you want your marriage to work, its a sacrifice that must be done with the couples supporting each other.

lefulefu:
why wont she?
na malaysian based bobo na

stevedre:
you are right but remember there was Nitel landline telephone and magazines which were the real deal then so still stand on my point that the society plays a bigger role in the way people behave. As for the malaysian guys you are right but honestly its not easy to find a good wife in Nigeria when you are based abroad. If these girls work you on facebook and whats app chat you will know that they professional, educated and smart runs girls. What baffles me the most is their age, the girls between 17 to 25 are so good you will think you have met an angel on earth. It is well with us.

Divay22:
Lol...
She one secure her future

BabaRamota1980:
Guy,
Something is wrong with your story, please clean it up.

Your ex died during child birth and next month is her 3rd year remembrance. Then your daughter should be three yr old next month, not last month....unless the mother had her three years ago last month and died two months later from complications of child birth....but definitely not at stage of birthing. Abi?

InvertedHammer:
Ever tried dialing those phones to reach someone? It used to be by appointment only and sometimes may involve a walk to call center only to be greeted by "all trunks are busy please try later". Talk about frustration in love. International call is on a whole new level.

Nowadays you can hook up with anyone from the comfort of your bedroom. No more international barriers. As if that is not enough, fb showed up with "borrow-pose" enticement. Instagram sef no help matter. Everyone is marketing himself/herself. A man wants to pose on top say "he don arrive" while a lady may be out to catch "the biggest mugu" she can attract. Guy man meets guy lady..na only devil go judge. Who wan suffer? All na packaging. If you meet some online slay queens in real life, you will vomit in disgust. I guess photoshop has to do its job.

When the cloud clears, the guys main brain takes over from the little head while the lady see say money no dey flow as represented online...washing of dirty linen in public ensues.
We must learn to adapt. The mindset of ladies in 1970s is not the same as the ladies in 2017. N450k phone gift for a slay queen? God forbid!

N450k is some people's 8 months' salaries. Add little money on top, you get a brand new wife. Or if down on your luck, take N50k from that money, take selected family member to the North and chop 24 strokes of cane. Voila! You get a 1999 model brand new wife. The good news be say you still get N400k balance in your account. Where was I?

Some people can only learn the hard way.
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Lakeside79:
Hmmmm , I can see clearly that you are a mindless sheep easily given to the whims of emotional outbursts .
I am a single father of my little princess who turned 3 last month .

While her mother and I aren't married , it's certainly not because I didn't want to, but because life choose to snatch her away during child birth . Next month is her third year remembrance you arsehole .

Oh being married automatically makes you an authority on marriage ?
Please ...I might not been married now and that's a personal decision, cause who I lost is irreplaceable, she was the reason I pushed my limits , she was the reason I conquered my weaknesses, she was all my reasons ...
If in future I ever remarry which I honestly doubt it would be because I have spent alot of time with the person , my daughter loves her, and we connect and a deep level.

So assume that spending time to know someone has no bearing on whether the marriage will be successful is both childish and ignorant to say the least .

You are just a child

stevedre:
Like I said boy, talk to me about issues like this when you have years of experience as a married man and not a baby daddy. You are really living a pained life and honestly, I am very sorry for your loss. I will stop here with due respect to your daughter and her late mum, please next time do no drag her into issues on a public faceless forum like nairaland out of respect for her. Do not take nairaland stuffs too serious because its just not worth it. Wish you all the best in life.

ashjay001:
I can see, u're one of those domineering men?!

Nowadays, if u insist on getting ur way, then, there might never be an end to d conflicts in ur home. Unless u plan on marrying a lesser educated lady, or one who doesnt mind being dictated to!

Why exactly do u think d divorce rate is astronomical? A lot of wives are calling their husbands bluff!