heendrix:
nawa o family issue weak me

even me...na God hand we dey

heendrix:
nawa o family issue weak me

even me...na God hand we dey

M

My advice is to put rat poison in their food when next they visit. This will put an end to all your worries

You cannot fight them effectively, just manage their excesses. #DahsAll

Prove to them that you will not get tired of your home...
Love ur husband to a pulp

Please guys let's ignore every tribalist on this forum and not reply their tribalism with tribalism but with silence. Trust me that's the way we can beat tribalist.

I know it hurts insulting your lineage but PLEASE IGNORE THEM
IGNORE THEM and watch as our silence kill them inside and drive them mad.

They may end up creating more monicker to reply themselves, still IGNORE and in the end OUR COLLECTIVE SILENCE will make a fool of them.

Every sane and educated person, please copy and paste along your text on Nairaland let everybody see it and let's KILL CYBER TRIBALISM TOGETHER.

Thanks for cooperating.

Ps: And my apologies if I am spamming but my goal is to spread this message and defeat tribalist who are no different from racist

MrsBimbo123:
My father in law is late (RIP), he was a good man and he never stressed me. When things were really rough for my husband, I didn't see any family member, in fact no one came to visit us except my father in law, my mother in law too is late.

My problem is my husband's two Aunties, for 2 years now they have been making my life miserable, always saying bad things about me to people. Someone in my husband's family told me that they are behaving like that because they think I am the one collecting my husband's money but God knows. They are always demanding large sum of money from my husband & I don't mind (it's none of business, even though my husband complain to me most times).

There was a day one of my husband's aunt told my husband to always tell them about anything he is doing. One thing I will never accept from any human being is someone disrespecting my mom, one of his aunt was talking anyhow to my mom few months ago (my mom is very old & she doesn't make trouble). They also talk anyhow to me in public and in the presence of my staff that I will even start crying due to the embarrassment.

I have complained to my husband several times & he told me to do whatever I wish to do to them but It's not in my nature to disrespect elderly people, they are really pushing me, if they continue behaving like this I might disrespect them.

I can remember how my husband's family members tell me that women don't stay long in their family before they go but which woman will stay long with the way they treat them.

I didn't know from the beginning, I have been with my husband for 5years now, he is a very good person, in fact he told me himself that he wish he has no family member, he also told me that he can't talk to them about the way they are behaving.

I will appreciate any good opinion, God bless you all.

Tell your husband to man up.

MrsBimbo123:
My father in law is late (RIP), he was a good man and he never stressed me. When things were really rough for my husband, I didn't see any family member, in fact no one came to visit us except my father in law, my mother in law too is late.

My problem is my husband's two Aunties, for 2 years now they have been making my life miserable, always saying bad things about me to people. Someone in my husband's family told me that they are behaving like that because they think I am the one collecting my husband's money but God knows. They are always demanding large sum of money from my husband & I don't mind (it's none of business, even though my husband complain to me most times).

There was a day one of my husband's aunt told my husband to always tell them about anything he is doing. One thing I will never accept from any human being is someone disrespecting my mom, one of his aunt was talking anyhow to my mom few months ago (my mom is very old & she doesn't make trouble). They also talk anyhow to me in public and in the presence of my staff that I will even start crying due to the embarrassment.

I have complained to my husband several times & he told me to do whatever I wish to do to them but It's not in my nature to disrespect elderly people, they are really pushing me, if they continue behaving like this I might disrespect them.

I can remember how my husband's family members tell me that women don't stay long in their family before they go but which woman will stay long with the way they treat them.

I didn't know from the beginning, I have been with my husband for 5years now, he is a very good person, in fact he told me himself that he wish he has no family member, he also told me that he can't talk to them about the way they are behaving.

I will appreciate any good opinion, God bless you all.

Weak man...what hypocrite..you should do whatever you like.... Is this what a man that should love and protect his wife and family should do? Who should do the fighting...him or you? When he hasn't done the fighting himself, he considers it fit for you to do so...he's loving but isn't shielding you...show him my post...it is his family..he should be man enough to do something about it..what a sorry ass he is...aunties that never bought him panadol...

Josh44s:
Woman you said it all, the two people you owe something to are late. Any other person is an intruder, be it uncles or aunties.

Gbam!!!

You married your husband not your inlaws though they are part of you now, learn to stay focused you must learn to persevere and be patient your marriage is still young things will stabilise with time

your husband should do more to protect ur marriage. But the fact that he doesnt support what they do, it means u still have ur husband. just ignore them

Thanks to everybody that shared their opinion on this issue, I feel a little bit better. Pls note : They are my husband's aunt, they are not his siblings (my husband's mother younger sisters). Honestly, I also don't mind my husband giving them money all the time after all it is his money even though they always think that I am also collecting money from my husband like the way they do but it's not true. I am working, whenever I buy anything for myself they will say that it's my husband that brought it for me(it is well). I wonder if they will wish that their daughter should be treated like the way they treat me. They are 20years older than my husband (old enough to be his mom, I think that's why he can't talk to them). The most annoying part of it is that they are the only one that knows the person with big nose or lips. Thanks alot everyone

Now to be sincere, you husband is a weakling...no offence...is not a bad thing tho.


But when a weakling marries a sensitive woman like you..chai...
Na india movie una go dey act so.


madam stop complaing..if those women insult you again, insult them back or say something that willl break their skull....

dont let anyone them push you around..you dont owe them anything..mybe your husband do...they should respect you as much as you respect them,,,


if they dont


two option

ignore
or
fight back



If you cant do anything.....they will make your life a living hell

Since your husband gave you a go ahead to do whatever you like to the aunties,invite them to your house and put a little bit of rat poison in their food . Case close

ReneeNuttall:


Ywc,if she goes ahead and do what her husbands says,the whole blame will still fall on her.After all blood is always thicker than water.

You've hit the nail on the head. A spouse may be divorced but blood relatives will remain. Use wisdom my dear. Your husband seems like someone that may not be able to stand when push comes to shove. So thread carefully. He is actually the one that is supposed to handle his people. Sometimes, by his mere showing them how much he loves you..., they will advise themselves cos they know he loves his wife and will defend her.
The way one treats his spouse outside is the way people will treat that spouse too. Same applies to treating your relatives the way you want your spouse to treat them.

VargasVee:
Your husband is at fault here.

Why would he continue to fund 2 overgrown babies who choose not to do anything meaningful with their lives but keep on demanding money just to spite you.

He should set boundaries and talk to them about their attitude or it'll continue.

Op! I Go with this Man's Opinion. thanks ....

U n ur husband mumu small o, na dis kain small issue na hin u com bring com NL. The challenge wey I fit solve wen I dey age 13. Firstly, check urself cos I smell lies in ur story. The story was ALL about allegations and nowhere I read you being faulty @ any point in time. Well na u get ur home, wetin dem too dey find for ur home except u n ur husband dey live for family house. If u r not living in their family house, then tell ur husband to choose BTW u n them. Lobatan.

My dear try and be urself,never u fight them.it is not d best.

zulex880:
Please guys let's ignore every tribalist on this forum and not reply their tribalism with tribalism but with silence. Trust me that's the way we can beat tribalist.

I know it hurts insulting your lineage but PLEASE IGNORE THEM
IGNORE THEM and watch as our silence kill them inside and drive them mad.

They may end up creating more monicker to reply themselves, still IGNORE and in the end OUR COLLECTIVE SILENCE will make a fool of them.

Every sane and educated person, please copy and paste along your text on Nairaland let everybody see it and let's KILL CYBER TRIBALISM TOGETHER.

Thanks for cooperating.

Ps: And my apologies if I am spamming but my goal is to spread this message and defeat tribalist who are no different from racist

Good

Let your husband do that not you...It may be misinterpreted if you try to talk to them about it.

Venica:
I will advice you to pray about it. some people are just so wicked. they will never remember you when you are in the pot of poverty but they will start shouting your name the moment you hammered. when next they come with their troubles, make it clear to them that you are just respecting them as elders n in-laws. but since they don't want respect , you are ready to handle them the best way they deserved. this will make them to think twice. above all pray. pray and pray. may God change their minds towards you in Jesus name Amen

all these prayer warriors in the house

It is the duty of every man to protect His wife,if your husband does not wake up to do that,they will turn him to a bachelor again..they are after his money and possibly they may be after his life to take over his property..but if you noticed your husband is an introvert in nature it means God gave you to him to protect. Please never hesitate to fight for your home. What you don't protect you lose . .Do away with evil family tradition and do the needful like Madam Stella would say.

Please ignore these people telling you to pray...the biggest mistake you will make in this situation is to do nothing.

However, the key lies with your husband, he has to man up and put his foot down.

He needs to make it clear to members of his family that they must respect you if they hope to get any form of financial assistance from him!

I dey wait for light to boil these

eezeribe:
you also wrote that "his aunties are always demanding money from him and it's non of your business,even though he sometimes complains to you"...

'And he told you to do whatever you like to his aunties,because there is nothing he can do about it '..

Both of you are indifferent to each other's plight,and until you both come together and figure out the best way to handle the situation...
There is nothing we nairalanders can do about it....
This is my own suggestion...
#God bless you too.

i totally stamp my support on this.

just imagine 2 grown ups who can't set boundaries in their family ties. one is coming to ask the federal Republic of Nigeria on nairaland for advice.
& for your husband to tell u such rubbish as "do to them whatever you wish," means he's telling you that you're ON YOUR OWN. what kind of man is that? yeye dey smell badly for una matter


abeg... move to the left joor.

Narldon:
In-laws

see you okay na

Remember you gonna be a mother inlaw someday

Stand on your feet lady

ReneeNuttall:
If am to go by your explanation,then it shows that ,ur sisters in-law are not to be blamed.Rather ur husband shld be blamed for the too much leverage and leniencies he gave them.Please don't get me wrong.From the little I understand about marriage, it is a life long contract between TWO people, not THREE not FOUR.Your husband gave his sisters the room to pokenose into his personal affairs,and that's what's causing all this problems.Am not saying he shldnt help his siblings, but there's a limit to everything. His immediate family ought to be his first priority. He shld tighten the nuts and make them understand that he has a family of his own to cater for ,and so they shld expect less from him.

Spot on girl

The worst part is the husband refusing to caution them. I mean what kinda husband refuses to defend his wife?

It pain me when u said ur aunt husband is asking ur husband to report whatsover is doing, madam na pikin u marry? No insults ooo

Otapiapia or hired killers will take care of your problems

girl4rmspace:


Spot on girl

The worst part is the husband refusing to caution them. I mean what kinda husband refuses to defend his wife?

That is how some men are, in the end he will kill the wife because he doesn't want the aunts to feel bad...don't be surprised..seen countless

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