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lowkey28:
I toasted one and after 2days she said " Can you help me with 1k". Na so I block am sharp sharp. That one na thief na. If I tell am say make we do something she go say no .

truthsayer009:
Hmmm I know you teasing me.

noble71:

OP you are right on personal opinion but you are wrong on the general statistics, a typical Nigerian babe is praying for a rich guy and nothing more. Most of them don't have any thing to offer aside sex, they believe that a typical Nigerian guy is coming for sex and nothing more, so they go for his money. That's how morally bankrupt the Nigerian society is.

Mean while I have popcorn for sale.

safarigirl:
ha! Dem boku for higher institutions. Girls that will feed a nigga with their father's money....better food wey dem no dey even chop.

Only thing is dude must either be:

- Good looking
- Intelligent (as per he dey help their GP)
- Funny

If you no tick any of these three boxes, nothing for you

DouglasH92:
I have read comments from a lot of Nigerian men on this forum and other platforms on social media that basically assert that all women want from a man is money. These men believe that the only concern the average Nigerian girl has when dating or looking for a man to hook up with, is the size of his pocket. But is this really true? Of course not.

In my opinion, anyone who thinks this way has so stripped himself of any modicum of self worth or self-value and has heaved all this worth and value unto money, something external from himself. Such a person believes himself and his qualities not adequate enough to interest, intrigue, gratify or satisfy a woman, so he finds a savior in money to answer to all these needs.

Like let's be realistic here. Women are humans just like men are, and as humans women have needs other than monetary needs. They have qualities that they find attractive in the opposite sex that can interest them and satisfy a need, and cause them to invest themselves in such person. Money isn't everything. And I am not saying money isn't a criterion women look out for, but money isn't the only criterion like most men think, and most times it isn't even among the most important criteria. To be honest some women don't even place money high on their priority list when evaluating a man. There are other qualities that matter more and these qualities are subjective. There are women who would invest themselves in men that are intelligent, or men that are confident and hardworking, or men that are good looking and well groomed, or men that are highly skilled in a field that interests them, or men that are funny, witty or good with words, or men that are adventurous and well exposed, or men that know how to please a woman sexually. There are lot of qualities.

A relationship is a journey of different courses and there are women that love to explore these variety of courses based on their interests and likes. But when a man nests a flawed notion of women as just wanting a man that has money, then his reality begins to manifest just as he believes, and invariably these are the kind of women that he'll meet.

In my opinion, any man that thinks this way is either extremely ignorant or has low self esteem because he doesn't perceive himself as having qualities that can attract and keep women besides money. I mean for fucksake there are men who are being taken care of by their girlfriends. There are men their girlfriends would be willing to do anything for, whether monetarily or otherwise. In such cases it is definitely not money that's keeping her, then what is? Obviously it's other qualities the man possesses that she values higher than money.

Rarity is what separates the most sort out for from those who aren't sort out for. When you possess something that is valuable to someone, and that thing is rare to find, you will become extremely valuable to such person. Many people have money. Finding a man who has money these days is the easiest thing to do. Having money doesn't separate you from the crowd. What separates you from the crowd is the qualities you possess and to the degree you possess them. Instead of coming online to whine about how women only care about money, why not try developing your best qualities and use them to attract women. No one can love you if you don't love yourself first. No one can value you if you don't value yourself.

moscobabs:
What 90% ladies want from men is Money and what 90% of men want from women is sex

I dey lie?

noble71:

OP you are right on personal opinion but you are wrong on the general statistics, a typical Nigerian babe is praying for a rich guy and nothing more. Most of them don't have any thing to offer aside sex, they believe that a typical Nigerian guy is coming for sex and nothing more, so they go for his money. That's how morally bankrupt the Nigerian society is.

Mean while I have popcorn for sale.

nonut:
Something is still involved but in kind. The intelligent guy helps her with her assignment/tutorials which some pay good money to get.
The tall and good looking guy provides warmth and security, which some women would die for.
The funny guy makes her happy. I'm sure you know that AY Live charges people in the show while she gets it for free.
In the end, money or something else is the reason for most relationships.
Even ladies from rich homes wants their man to support to show that he cares.

noble71:

OP you are right on personal opinion but you are wrong on the general statistics, a typical Nigerian babe is praying for a rich guy and nothing more. Most of them don't have any thing to offer aside sex, they believe that a typical Nigerian guy is coming for sex and nothing more, so they go for his money. That's how morally bankrupt the Nigerian society is.

Mean while I have popcorn for sale.

safarigirl:
how can you be in a relationshipbwhere nothing is involved?

The purpose of a relationship is to fulfill a need for financial security, academic security, emotional security or just procreation. You think anyone would be in a relationship if they could fulfill all these alone?

The OP is just saying that money is not always the main goal for women and that I agree with

nonut:
At the end of the day, the guys are saying the same thing. The op is partially right that money is not always the case and those opposing him are right too.
He's wrong by saying that any man who thinks women want only money in a relationship has low self esteem. That means a majority of Nigerian men have low self esteem and I totally disagree with that.
They're saying this cos it's something that always works, 95% of the time.
Would you choose an unsure route if there's a proven way to get where you're going faster?

tosyne2much:
Na hungry girl you jam ooo

safarigirl:
how can you be in a relationshipbwhere nothing is involved?

The purpose of a relationship is to fulfill a need for financial security, academic security, emotional security or just procreation. You think anyone would be in a relationship if they could fulfill all these alone?

The OP is just saying that money is not always the main goal for women and that I agree with

Edupin:
*very correct*
All of those stuff is hardly obtainable in our naija country. You need proof(money) to get attention talkless of audience. And it does matter your person, any thing goes as long as the money is flowing.
Probable is d reason why most of them are good for money rituals.

safarigirl:
a majority of Nigerian men have low self esteem, I wholly agree with that.

They shroud it under this whole superiority complex garb, but most of them have inferiority complex, hence their various insecurities and their constant need to put down the women.

There is a societal failure as regards the proper training of the Nigerian male and it reflects in their relationships and views of women, same goes with the women to some extent, but that of the men is most glaring

safarigirl:
a majority of Nigerian men have low self esteem, I wholly agree with that.

They shroud it under this whole superiority complex garb, but most of them have inferiority complex, hence their various insecurities and their constant need to put down the women.

There is a societal failure as regards the proper training of the Nigerian male and it reflects in their relationships and views of women, [b]same goes with the women to some extent,[/b]but that of the men is most glaring

Herelefant:
Thinking that what you know is the globally accepted standard (we are talking about misogyny and sexism here), when you are rural as Bleep...nah, outback....nah cave dwelling.

Some ladies I know have a net worth higher than 95% of the Nigerian population...it ain't beaten and abused currency that they are looking for.

If ratchet is all around you, then maybe remove yourself from that environment. There are some focused gals who could change your life.

It's not a case of utopia.

I can go on, but since y'all have a problem with these ladies actively patting you down and extorting you, maybe start a support group, so you can share the same experiences, to help reinforce your theories.

Those guys without big banks, with good women.....well done!
Those guys with big banks, with all sorts of women......well done!
You are the winners, the 5% that the other 95% make look good!

To the '95%', if women want money, and men want sex....well, that is the oldest profession, no?
A solution is there, and obvious, yet you still fail and complain.

If na lie, na lie. Only truth hurts. Please begin the cursing and swearing...like I give a shite.

Jaqenhghar:
My sister bone that thng joor
even tye girl feeding her boyfriend is doing so with hopes that he will become rich someday and marry her returning the favour. Those relationships when it doesnt work out in tue ling run, yo ever notice how bitter and resentful such babes become?

safarigirl:
oh? So, if you spend five years of your life feeding a woman and doing everything, you aren't hoping she marries you? If she leaves you for another man maybe because you didn't become successful, you won't be bitter and resentful?

My dear, it is human to be bitter and resentful after giving your all to someone onk to have them leave you. Don't twist this into some attack against women.

The idea of being in a relationship is to eventually marry said person. If you have no plans to marry a woman, stop eating her food, stop having sex with he and cut herd off totally. How you go dey chop person food like that and you know say you no go marry her? You no get conscience?

Jaqenhghar:
Im not blaming them for being bitter and resentful either
but thats beside the point. We are disccussing money and truth is every girl wants a man who can give her money.. The tree of love is watered with money

safarigirl:
the topic basically says "MONEY is not EVERYTHING"....however, most have interpreted it as " you can be broke and she'll stay"...which may be true, but still.... Some people have other requirements that money cannot make up for

Honestly, not every girl is solely after money like you guys make it seem. I keep saying this and people think I'm joking, but there as certain men I can never date even if they have money, I don't care how much. Money may be nice, but some things are nicer.... Like intelligence

safarigirl:
the topic basically says "MONEY is not EVERYTHING"....however, most have interpreted it as " you can be broke and she'll stay"...which may be true, but still.... Some people have other requirements that money cannot make up for

Honestly, not every girl is solely after money like you guys make it seem. I keep saying this and people think I'm joking, but there as certain men I can never date even if they have money, I don't care how much. Money may be nice, but some things are nicer.... Like intelligence

ColtPython:
So you'd prefer a guy who is intelligent, witty, funny and is, at least, "financially stable".

Those personal features you expect in a man is also mirrored toward what guys expect in a girl.

safarigirl:
guys expect a woman who looks like Nicki Minaj or Eva Longoria, preferably quiet most of the time and with the brains of a bimbo.

Intelligence does not rank highly in the requirements of most guys


Good morning

safarigirl:
guys expect a woman who looks like Nicki Minaj or Eva Longoria, preferably quiet most of the time and with the brains of a bimbo.

Intelligence does not rank highly in the requirements of most guys


Good morning