tosyne2much:
You sound myopic to matters of heart and affection

Listen up, if you are sexually indiscipline, don't every think every other guy is programmed that way because I don't know how you carried out your hypothesis that virtually every guy who keeps friend with a lady sees her as a prey
to satisfy his sexual urge

Speak for yourself, not for everybody

Lol...I cant relate with this well well,,,the kind of guys that will say...."I swear I wont put it in, just let the two of them be looking at each other"....Lol......

Most cases (not all tho!), the reason why a guy and a lady will be best friends without emotions or sexual exploit is if one or both are totally unattracted to each other. Meanwhile I can tell you for a fact that...attraction grows with time, that unattractive lady today will just gradually start appearing attractive little by little due to proximity and familiarity.

There is nothing wrong in ladies keeping male friends, but a lady cant have a male guy has her best friend and think nothing will happen. It might take a while but something will eventually happen.....this no be theory o..na from experience.

Intrepid01:


Lol...I cant relate with this well well,,,the kind of guys that will say...."I swear I wont put it in, just let the two of them be looking at each other"....Lol......

Most cases (not all tho!), the reason why a guy and a lady will be best friends without emotions or sexual exploit is if one or both are totally unattracted to each other. Meanwhile I can tell you for a fact that...attraction grows with time, that unattractive lady today will just gradually start appearing attractive little by little due to proximity and familiarity.

There is nothing wrong in ladies keeping male friends, but a lady cant have a male guy has her best friend and think nothing will happen. It might take a while but something will eventually happen.....this no be theory o..na from experience.

Oga, leave that guy with his his so called "education".

He thinks the heart and emotion operates on logic and reason.

Some think, everything In life is black and white. Intelligence is not by posting list of 10's.

This thing is confirmed, a guy and a girl as friends, time is just the only factor that will affection grow.

Experience will trounce logic everyday.

Acidosis:
Reality: Approximately 80% of rapes are committed by someone the victim knows – a friend or acquaintance.

It always start with friendship So to avoid stories that touch, it's best to set the record straight; some ladies today have become victims because a guy somewhere perceived their actions as "green light".

Boss, leave them and there so called male friends.

People who have seen things are talking, inexperienced fellas are also countering.

I will say it again, you only know yourself but cannot estimate how the other person is seeing you and interpreting your actions.

You give him an innocent hug everyday, sister, he may think you are leading him on.

Fix your issues and get a same sex friend.

Next2Bezee:


Why did the male friendships now disappear when yoi got married?

A lot of girls & guys love being friends with the opposite sex & it's usually because they like the attention they get from the opposite sex more than the one they get from someone of the same sex. So it's not just you.

But then again, it only makes sense to drop all that attention the period you decide to swear yourself to just one from the opposite sex (marriage).

I'm not saying its wrong for girls to have male friends but those girls like the attention & will naturally have some of those friends gunning to remove her pant in the near future. So these kinds of people are not suited for relationships.

Sir, they didnt disappear but some gaps were given so that I could focus on my new life and every responsible man or woman should do so. And per the attention, that was not d case for me. I cherished d talks, being free and being fully myself without judgement which u might not necessarily feel with some females.... some of u guys need to change ur mentality mehn

Prec1ous:


You are very funny, you are actually the one not thinking.

If we go back to ask you so called male friends, 90percent regret not sleeping with you. Just try it.

The fact that they respected you enough or mis-timed there strategy towards you does not rule out the truth.

And you are not special, you must have been too unattractive or worthless for them to bother.

A guy is telling you something about majority of guys, you are here countering with female oriented arguments and what you like.

You are married right?

I guess you still keep male friends, continue.

You will swallow bone soon

What's that ur name again? I replied to the notion people have regarding women with male friends ( they are sleeping with them and all that bullcrap). Please try understanding what u read before commenting.. Even if am d ugliest girl in the room, I no go fit touch u with a 1000 feet pole .

Prec1ous:


You are very smart, but how many are like you?

some even know nothing about boundries, they feel it is black and white. Those ones always get burnt!

But i still feel you have to work on yourself too, guys will naturally want to protect and pamper you and not hurt you. This will give a false impression to you that all is well when it is not.

This will lead to a situation where even in your wrong, they wil not correct or lash you. This comfort will not make you strong person. One day, those guys will leave.

Forget the hurt and get a female friend, it will show you more about yourself!

thanks 4 dat.but 4 having female friends,i will try but its nt easy

I cannot have a female friend without fvcking her except she is not attractive or older than me

Kenfil:

Even if am d ugliest girl in the room, I no go fit touch u with a 1000 feet pole .

I can't actually be in a room with the ugliest girl and in this case YOU!

to reach me you will need more than a 1000 feet pole, because I am afar off you in miles you cannot measure.

Danielmoore:
I cannot have a female friend without fvcking her except she is not attractive or older than me

This is a man talking and not those cock-chopped entity who reek of decayed hypocrisy trying to appear smart and brilliant.

Even if the intention was clear at first, if that girl is attractive, something else must crop up.

Unless the guy is an eunuch, is castrated or like you said, that girl is an OGRE!

It works for some people...
It doesn't work for others.

Not every guy is wired to have sex with every female friend.
Some have tried it and it ruined great friendship, so...now they know better.

It would work easily if it started on a clear note, not when you convert a guy with romantic feelings to a friend [friendzone].

In all, everything should be done with moderation and caution.

Kondomatic:
Who's a best friend?

Oh no, not today.
Just tell me what you're driving at.

Prec1ous:


This is a man talking and not those cock-chopped entity who reek of decayed hypocrisy trying to appear smart and brilliant.

Even if the intention was clear at first, if that girl is attractive, something else must crop up.

Unless the guy is an eunuch, is castrated or like you said, that girl is an OGRE!

Bro, if i say I'm not feeling you.
Let them come here to act all sanctimonious.

imustsaymymindo:


Some of us are genuinely nice. This is the reason why most boys stop being nice too because the girl interpretes it as he just wants to have a taste.

I said "hardly" it's like 10%.
Why should they stop being nice if they're genuinely nice from the onset?

leathalbeast:
LMAO, why is it deadly?

LOL, if the guy also wants the girl, and the girl is stupidly telling her 'bestie'. He'll capitalize on her boyfriend's weakness and do his thing. That's when the girl will realize the Holy spirit is your comforter not male bestie.

Prec1ous:


This is a man talking and not those cock-chopped entity who reek of decayed hypocrisy trying to appear smart and brilliant.

Even if the intention was clear at first, if that girl is attractive, something else must crop up.

Unless the guy is an eunuch, is castrated or like you said, that girl is an OGRE!

I think you're right. When I was in 200L or so I had this friend whom I visited in his hostel and at home because we resided in the same state. We were close and I got to meet his mum. She liked me and she was always around whenever I visited.

Fast forward to this fateful day, when I got to his place he was home alone. Immediately I entered, he tried kissing me and I found myself struggling with him. He was more powerful but I succeeded in avoiding the kiss. His mum came back and we acted normal.

After that day, I foolishly went to his hostel and his room mate was even around. He tried kissing me again and we had to struggle. After that day I stopped talking to him. He noticed and asked what was wrong and I poured out my heart to him. He apologised and he said, "I was only trying to find out if you like me". I was irritated and I stopped visiting him since then.

I've also experienced the same thing with two friends. Since then, I made up my mind not to be too close to guys because I feel they'll try to take advantage of me. Who knows, I may not be lucky the next time. Funny enough, my boyfriend already warned me about having male friends but I didn't listen. Too bad I've not been able to share my experience with him but now I know better.

makydebbie:
I'm coming back to modify.
Oya I'm done cooking.

Op firstly, I'll tell you, you're not insecure in anyway. You're even smart not to over look it and see it as something normal.

Our nowadays ladies, will say girls do backstab, gossip and other shitty things. Truth is, most guys that are 'acting' nice are not so nice. Ladies! Wake up! They just want to fvck you and move on. There's nothing like guys are more caring than ladies. Of course they want your honeypot so why will they show their real colors? From friend, to bestie, to confidant, to friends with benefits without you knowing how you guys ended up there. Guys are smart, they'll take your excesses, they'll listen to your rant, they'll comfort you. My dear, it's all for the greater good. If you don't like female friends, then be on your own. It's not every boy on the street that is your male friend. Most of them will even see your actions as green light, but then, you're just nice to your 'friend'.

At the end, they just want to fvck you. Later we'll see thread that "all guys are the same". Everything starts from friendship, they'll start from there, when they're done destroying your pussy, you'll be wondering why nigga doesn't have your time again. You gave him the opportunity on a golden platter. Guys are very patient, they'll wait, take your rubbish, fvck, move on and tell their friends. I don talk my own, I feel like creating thread on this nonsense sef.
Ladies, be wise. You no fit keep yam and goat together, something must happen.

Lalasticlala I no fit rant for nothing make this thread reach fp abi Horlohlah?

Preach sister

Horlohlah:
Preach sister

I hope they listen.

makydebbie:
I hope they listen.

They won't... they will only want to justify themselves and for those saying not all guys wants to get in between a ladies legs...It's not one sided, if you have no intention of sleeping with her, along the line,she is prone to fall in love with you due to all the care and attention you are giving her.

makydebbie:
Oh no, not today.
Just tell me what you're driving at.

I am not driving at anything.

First, you must know what you're speaking against to be able to win your argument. Secondly, anybody reading your comment will think it is only guys that cross best friends boundaries to ask for sex.

And finally, that something hasn't happened to you or someone you know does not mean that it doesn't happen anywhere.


Best friend doesn't happen only between young boys and girls, I bet it never crossed your mind that a married responsible man can have a close genuine relationship with another married or single woman that doesn't involve sex or talks of sex.

Horlohlah:
They won't... they will only want to justify themselves and for those saying not all guys wants to get in between a ladies legs...It's not one sided, if you have no intention of sleeping with her, along the line,she is prone to fall in love with you due to all the care and attention you are giving her.

Even the stupid boys will come here acting all sanctimonious that they're genuine. Pls goan tell my nephew that one maybe he'll believe.
Exactly! At a point you may even feel indebted to him, you may fall in love and your case is different if your "male bestie" is single. Lola I must create a thread on this ooo. Maybe next week the article will be ready or you no trust me again?

makydebbie:
Even the stupid boys will come here acting all sanctimonious that they're genuine. Pls goan tell my nephew that one maybe he'll believe.
Exactly! At a point you may even feel indebted to him, you may fall in love and your case is different if your "male bestie" is single. Lola I must create a thread on this ooo. Maybe next week the article will be ready or you no trust me again?

They should come and let me tell them a story of a guy who had a girlfriend but made his female best friend a top priority and he later left the gf for the bff

I trust you ma, issinoh you

Tori46:


I think you're right. When I was in 200L or so I had this friend whom I visited in his hostel and at home because we resided in the same state. We were close and I got to meet his mum. She liked me and she was always around whenever I visited.

Fast forward to this fateful day, when I got to his place he was home alone. Immediately I entered, he tried kissing me and I found myself struggling with him. He was more powerful but I succeeded in avoiding the kiss. His mum came back and we acted normal.

After that day, I foolishly went to his hostel and his room mate was even around. He tried kissing me again and we had to struggle. After that day I stopped talking to him. He noticed and asked what was wrong and I poured out my heart to him. He apologised and he said, "I was only trying to find out if you like me". I was irritated and I stopped visiting him since then.

I've also experienced the same thing with two friends. Since then, I made up my mind not to be too close to guys because I feel they'll try to take advantage of me. Who knows, I may not be lucky the next time. Funny enough, my boyfriend already warned me about having male friends but I didn't listen. Too bad I've not been able to share my experience with him but now I know better.

it's because the society has twisted it that if a guy don't make move it's the girl that will call him weak. some guys only learned from past experience. they take a girl as just friends after some time the girl tag them not man enough, or too dull to decode. or might be gay or just a weak guy. i have been there before so for this reason plenty of guy just want to make the move either they like the girl or not. this is where the problem comes from

Kondomatic:
I am not driving at anything.

First, you must know what you're speaking against to be able to win your argument. Secondly, anybody reading your comment will think it is only guys that cross best friends boundaries to ask for sex.

And finally, that something hasn't happened to you or someone you know does not mean that it doesn't happen anywhere.


Best friend doesn't happen only between young boys and girls, I bet it never crossed your mind that a married responsible man can have a close genuine relationship with another married or single woman that doesn't involve sex or talks of sex.

LOL, that's because I was speaking to the ladies, yes ladies cross boundaries for sex but not only sex. They fall in love because of the love care and attention the guys give them. They may even see it as "green light" and start catching feelings.

I've had a "male friend" that started telling me crap along the line then sef I was single. See ehn, most of the guys I've met started asking me out or giving me green light at some point and other times, I was the one catching feelings too. Then I asked one, why can't we just be friends!! It's like goat and yam my dear, I don't see it happening except your bestie is your twin.

Married man keh, maybe he is her childhood friend who he finds unattractive.
Can you have a girl with aggressive boobs and ass as bestie without thinking some things?

Prec1ous:
I still stand by my view.

A guy and a girl cannot be friends.

It is either they have a past romantic history, living in present romance or building the ground work for future romance.

Let us stop deceiving ourselves, the only relationship they can have and I will be half assured is if they are business partners.

All the girls I have dated, they all called me friends and I LOVE YOU entered into the equation from nowhere. Next, we were frolicking under the sheets, so called friend.

This is a secret, the easiest way for a guy to get a girl is to play the friendship card, along the line just change the game by adding romance, checkmate, she is yours.

If you as a girl cannot get female friends, then there is something wrong about you as a person and your attitude.

Guy also have problems and fights but the only time a guy calls a girl friend is when his game to see her pant is not in the advance stage.

Girls beware, you so-called male friends if given the chance will sleep with you without even thinking twice. Except you are transgender or have leprosy.

It is not ethical, someone will get confused along the way.

This is also a precursor to rape in some cases. The day they will gang rape you, your eyes go clear.

This is a guy's secret, we all want to sleep with that beautiful so-called friends of ours.

So girls, keep deceiving yourself.

If your best friend is a boy and he is not hitting on you then:

-You may not be as attractive as you think.

-You have a bad personality and we know guys are tolerant and pussy no dey bite.

-You are being preyed on the till you are vulnerable, he is watching till he can launch. When I don't know, a man can wait if he is certain to conquer.

- You are transgender or blocked.

You only trusted male friends are:
Husband
Father
Brothers
Sons

Dis guy deserves a national award

If a girl has many male friends its obvious they are having sex with her. Don't take people's stories here as gospel truth. Girls may say they have a male friend but they won't know that male friend masturbates to them every night.
a girl can't be friends with a bunch of men without loving men and the thing that makes men men---the p*nis.

Horlohlah:
They should come and let me tell them a story of a guy who had a girlfriend but made his female best friend a top priority and he later left the gf for the bff

I trust you ma, issinoh you

Comma gist me jare I want to hear.
If you no trust me, who will?

Prec1ous:
I still stand by my view.

A guy and a girl cannot be friends.

It is either they have a past romantic history, living in present romance or building the ground work for future romance.

Let us stop deceiving ourselves, the only relationship they can have and I will be half assured is if they are business partners.

All the girls I have dated, they all called me friends and I LOVE YOU entered into the equation from nowhere. Next, we were frolicking under the sheets, so called friend.

This is a secret, the easiest way for a guy to get a girl is to play the friendship card, along the line just change the game by adding romance, checkmate, she is yours.

If you as a girl cannot get female friends, then there is something wrong about you as a person and your attitude.

Guy also have problems and fights but the only time a guy calls a girl friend is when his game to see her pant is not in the advance stage.

Girls beware, you so-called male friends if given the chance will sleep with you without even thinking twice. Except you are transgender or have leprosy.

It is not ethical, someone will get confused along the way.

This is also a precursor to rape in some cases. The day they will gang rape you, your eyes go clear.

This is a guy's secret, we all want to sleep with that beautiful so-called friends of ours.

So girls, keep deceiving yourself.

If your best friend is a boy and he is not hitting on you then:

-You may not be as attractive as you think.

-You have a bad personality and we know guys are tolerant and pussy no dey bite.

-You are being preyed on the till you are vulnerable, he is watching till he can launch. When I don't know, a man can wait if he is certain to conquer.

- You are transgender or blocked.

You only trusted male friends are:
Husband
Father
Brothers
Sons

I would agree with you to some extent but that doesn't mean any guy that doesn't fall into the category of trusted male friends you mentioned cannot be friend with a lady except sexual benefit is involved.

I have quite number of female friends whom we share thoughts, secrets and others things together without even crossing my mind for once to sleep with or have feeling for them.

makydebbie:
Comma gist me jare I want to hear.
If you no trust me, who will?

Lol...as if you don't know already, who else?

makydebbie:
LOL, if the guy also wants the girl, and the girl is stupidly telling her 'bestie'. He'll capitalize on her boyfriend's weakness and do his thing. That's when the girl will realize the Holy spirit is your comforter not male bestie.

hahahaha I get you. but if the boundaries are set and both parties pursue their friendship over other interests then it will work. I have a female friend and things work out OK between us.

makydebbie:
I hope they listen.

nope, the won't obey. guys will keep fvcking them. you that you are preaching, are you a virgin?

most nigerian girls are really vulnerable

my observation

if you need free sex, and you are not in a relationship.... just act as a best friend to a beautiful girl

this is the thing, make sure she's in a relationship, make sure she tells you everything ....make sure you are a pillar to her, someone who she can lean on

now when you want free sex all you have to do is what? cause a fight between her and her boyfriend I wonder why my body dey sweet me

when there's a fight who does she run to? her so called best friend ... her so called best friend comforts her, makes her more vulnerable, and bam she's turned on

and blah blah blah she would bring up the why did you do this to me card?

what do you do? don't act harsh. tell her you're sorry, hug her....tell her she's the most important girl in your life, once again she becomes vulnerable , you strike one more time

at the end when she's tired, she tells you get out ..... you move to the next beautiful girl

make sure you have like 3 girls that need you as best friend... you go dey bang free every week, just stir a fight that's all


well its someone story though not mine

bottom line: no strings should be attached

makydebbie:
LOL, that's because I was speaking to the ladies, yes ladies cross boundaries for sex but not only sex. They fall in love because of the love care and attention the guys give them. They may even see it as "green light" and start catching feelings.

I've had a "male friend" that started telling me crap along the line then sef I was single. See ehn, most of the guys I've met started asking me out or giving me green light at some point and other times, I was the one catching feelings too. Then I asked one, why can't we just be friends!! It's like goat and yam my dear, I don't see it happening except your bestie is your twin.

Married man keh, maybe he is her childhood friend who he finds unattractive.

Can you have a girl with aggressive boobs and ass

as bestie without thinking some things?

your IQ only revived around boob and ass. by the way do you feel a thing for girls with boob and ass?