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| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by chiefojiji(m): 9:27am On Sep 02, 2017 |
BRos go marry ur wife.... So far u will be happy with her. You're not going to be living with your mom any more.. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Danieldexii(m): 9:27am On Sep 02, 2017 |
this is serious o...eleyi gidi gan o, bt seriously mother is very important, bt u cnt just let go of d gel nani, 9 yrs? haaaa, if u liv d gel, I pray u c som1 like her, tru love scarce bliv me, u c 1 n u r saying "my mum say" oga o, or is d gel a runz gel? cus 9 yrs u neva for once mistakenly Introduce her...u sef fk up |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by dojnr4real: 9:27am On Sep 02, 2017 |
A lot of parents have caused havoc I mean serous havoc for their children as regards this topic. You have bn with this gal for nine years not nine days. For you to stick to her for these periods of time it means you guys truly love each other. Indeed there is something spectacular about her... Bro don't trade her for anything, don't make any edict that will expatriate you in life. The worst thing that can happen to a man is to crumble in the hand of a wrong woman.. Why the rejection? You mum have to speak up else she shouldn't stand your way..Your gak need your like never before dont let her down in this time of trial. Goodluck 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 9:27am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: Father's blessing is okay..yu can do without mother's blessings...If you have thought about your actions well before now, you won't be here....you time waster 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by detagabriel(m): 9:27am On Sep 02, 2017 |
[quote author=Passy089 post=60045040]I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her.... So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her. I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me. what should I do?? Bro from my own personal experience,you should listen to your mum....There are certain things that mother can see now and it will take you 10 years for you to see it. You could do the follow things 1. Fast And Pray about it until you hear from God or You see a sign 2. Try and study her character again..please remove your emotion while doing it(The best way to know who a girl is study her family members dead or alive ) 3. finally study the character of her frenzs and HER FORMER FRENZS( her former frenzs go get better gist for that you may not actually know) please do not judge me..na condition make crayfish bend |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Sterope(f): 9:27am On Sep 02, 2017 |
We know you do but you don't seem to have established boundaries with your parents. If you ha d, your mum would know better than to give you those conditions. Your parents can be wrong or right. There are many instances where they have been wrong. You should be allowed to forge your own path, make mistakes and learn from it. Passy089: |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by olafriend88(m): 9:29am On Sep 02, 2017 |
pls dont fight your mum, and dont stop ur relationship bcs to get ur choice after her it might not be easy..by if your mumsy should ask you abt her always tell her you mean my love mum, my love is irreplaceable in heart,you cant do with out her |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by donspero(m): 9:29am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Olanrefront3355:i was provoked 2 yab you this morning, but i would ignore your foolishness, so your mum no give you reason, she just come and told you 2 frop out of skol, and you tell your self she's my mum she can't be wrong, your mum wakes up and tell don't pray 2 wat evr God you serve that her spirit dont approve, your dullard brain would agree. it's ok continue, your mumu nvr do 3 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by starstunna1313(m): 9:29am On Sep 02, 2017 |
greatmarshall: Bro you are on point.. I believe in that 9 years she has seen ur worst and best behaviors, your hard and good times and she never gave up on you. Why give up on her now. Besides if you could stay with her that long am sure you can stay with her married. Your spouse is for life partner not your mother's 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by kaziblake(f): 9:30am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Op I am sorry to say this but you and your mum are wicked. You dated for 9yrs without introducing her to hit family despite sticking with you thru thick and thing. Secondly your mum is wicked for rejecting her without giving you tangible reasons if I were you I will go on with the marriage without her consent because if that lady swear for you at mid night it will never be well with Y'all. Nine years no be beans o. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 9:31am On Sep 02, 2017 |
But op, why you know take her to mommy earlier, she would have detected the issue & things won't escalate that long UNLESS OF COURSE YOU ALSO SUBCONSCIOUSLY KNOW SOMETHING IS WRONG & DECIDED TO IGNORE IT DUE TO LOVE. HABA 9 years no beans, women have great intuitions, just ask it mom why she rejects that girl completely, she must have observe SOMETHING |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by livinbygrace: 9:31am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Some parents destroys their children"s lives with their oversabi attitude,if you really love her,pray to God and let the will of God be done.Sometimes you have to ignore your parent advise and do what is obtainable.If you loose that girl now,it will take you the grace of God to get a better lady.I was told the same thing over 10 years ago and till date am regretting.The same lady i was advised not to marry,has graduated ,married with kids and at close to 40, am still single with no serious relationship and the same parents are the one putting pressure on me now.So my dear,all you need is prayer and act accordingly. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by dingbang(m): 9:31am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Stevengerd:I despise this reasoning... Its annoyinh 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by ConcernedNL: 9:31am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: She can't choose for you. Good women who are loyal and supportive are hard to find. Don't give up, tell your dad how you love her so he can talk to your mum. Shield your woman from all this mess too. Mums could be funny sometimes. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Lewaluv(f): 9:33am On Sep 02, 2017 |
The mother has no reason to not like the lady. The mother is just jealous. If your own mother tell you to collect your money and to leave it in the middle of the road you will just do it. I see you king mumu. ssogundele: 2 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 9:33am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: Selfish family... You're selfish, your mother's selfish.. The girl OMG... I hope you can bear what is coming after you've dumped the girl sha? You don't know what you're playing with...NINE YEARS...OMG...I'm sure just your dad is the ...this is annoying... sme girls sha..Date a guy nine years without knowing his family..If she's reading this post, i advise her to dump your sorry ass, you this weak man...If you had considered this could happen you would have taken her to your mum long ago...You only care about your interests just like your mother..And i won't mince words..We all grew up in family where disciplined is upheld, to play the card of, my family didn't allow to bring girls na big lie..at 25 you could have inititiated this action..If i were her brother, OMG...this is annoying...what a loser... You don't know many men take took this action,many of them end up dying prematurely sha...You don't know? Nine years... Selfish thing 4 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by kibra4u(m): 9:33am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: Is it your mother that will stay with her for the rest of her life or you. Shine your eyes o........ 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Stevengerd(m): 9:33am On Sep 02, 2017 |
dingbang:If u say so bro! |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by dingbang(m): 9:34am On Sep 02, 2017 |
zealblinks:something isn't wrong somewhere . the only person who is doesn't want the best for him is his mother..sometimes we should cut this nonsense talk of mums knowing best.. Dats rubbish.. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Afhounja(m): 9:34am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Opakan2: You are very correct, bro. But... She doesn't even necessarily have to see the fiance doing something somewhere. Her body language alone could have given off everything his mother needed to know about her. Women have mastered the art of disguising their true characters. That is why it is easy for the average woman to tell if someone is genuine or just fronting. That is also why the kind of manipulations that a woman will successfully use on a man will not work on her fellow woman. |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by helpee(m): 9:35am On Sep 02, 2017 |
I rarely contribute to thread such as this cos your mind is made up on what to do. My experience.....most relationship not approved by parent will eventually be doomed. You cant betray your girlfriend but you can betray your mother. If you gp ahead to marry her against your mum wish you have created a life long problem for yourself. If your mum eventually forget your wife wont forget and will make life hellish for your mother. You will constantly find yourself having to settle issues between your mum and your wife. I am not saying she is not your wife but find a way of making your mum agree. If she insist on a NO, my brother....run from that girl. She will get a better you and you will get a better her so no need to marry out of sympathy. Marriage is deep....and no woman, i mean no woman can love you as much as your mother unless she is naturally evil. In these days that women abadons their marriage at the slightest provocation, dont marry a woman your family dont support. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by vivie01(f): 9:35am On Sep 02, 2017 |
RSVP: Sorry to quote you but most times it means bad at the end of the day. We all have different levels of discernment. I've had such first time feelings before and it turned out to be true eventually. @op, the earlier you take action and face reality, the better for you. Be sober, approach your mum so she can at least give you a headway on her reason for disapproval of the lady. |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Delightbaby(f): 9:36am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Bros, follow your heart and happiness and not what your mother said. You are old enough to know exactly what you want in life. This is a lady who have stood by you for 9 years, whom you have understood, then when it's time for you to take it to another stage, an obstacle just creep in. Moreover, your mum don't have any cogent reason for her disagreement or is she from the same place with you? Bros, don't allow anyone to determine or dictate your happiness for you because the devil you know is far better than the angel you don't know. If a women can stand with you for 9 years, what again are you asking God for. Don't make a mistake you will live to regret in your whole life because my mother said this my mother said the other. Thanks 1 Like |
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| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by prof22(m): 9:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Go to d creator of your mother, fiancee n talk to him in prayer n fasting, he can do a factory reset on all parties involved. Passy089: |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by RSVP: 9:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
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| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 9:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Lewaluv:You are very stupid for telling him to ignore his mother. Is only fool that will ignore his or her mother when it comes to marriage. You can ignore your mother when you want to marry because, most of you are desperate when it comes to marriage. This is why am always against people bringing sensitive issues to Nairaland. Because we have a lot of senseless advisers here. 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by petitejolie(f): 9:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
mofeoluwadassah:don't mind him, he was busy philandering and test driving others. wen those gals showed him sege he now decides to settle wit d poor gal. now his mother's spirit doesn't accept her. OP re u the only son or first Son? |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by chuckjoshua(m): 9:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
mofeoluwadassah: The truth had been spoken. How can you date someone for 9 years and she never visited your parent's house? Are you for real, Op? 1 Like |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by futurism: 9:38am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089:Are you a man? You dad is cool and that's all that matter. But why wait to propose before your mum could see a woman YOU LOVE? Na wa o. |
| Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 9:39am On Sep 02, 2017 |
vivie01: I agree.. it may turn out bad, meaning the mother would have been right...but it makes it his fault... would any lady like to be dated for nine years without meeting the guy's family? Which is why, whichever way it tilts, its his fault... |
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