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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by hokafor(m): 1:43am On Sep 13, 2017
It all depends on the woman, in my own case, she tells her friends everything about me even how much I have in my bank account. I m still thinking what to do with her because with that kind of girl ur life is in danger
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Nobody: 1:46am On Sep 13, 2017
I want my husband to be free enough to own up to me and for him to know that whatever he tells me in confidence is safe with me.

I don't intend to keep any secrets as well because secrets always end up coming to light and being worse than just owning up and telling the truth.
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Nobody: 1:47am On Sep 13, 2017
babyfaceafrica:
Secrets destroy relationships.. Say everything that your spouse deserves to know because only the truth can set you free...even if it will end your relationship say it!!!!....if you have a child, have dated hiabdeienss or family before...if you cheat..let him or her know..because or he finds out himself.....you are a gooner!!!

you mean gooner like Arsenal fan or goner?
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by nkenu(m): 1:55am On Sep 13, 2017
nice piece!!!
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Motunrayoreal: 2:18am On Sep 13, 2017
Interesting.
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by arnold123: 2:23am On Sep 13, 2017
agbonkamen:
Noted
looked at your pics and I got scared! lol
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by munas: 3:19am On Sep 13, 2017
soberdrunk:
The problem with relationships nowadays is that almost everyone is going into it with so many 'expectations', 'requirements', "terms", and "conditions', "My man must be this', "my woman must be that". Our fathers and mothers can boast of long happy marriages because they loved each other truly with little or no expectations, learnt to accept the things they couldnt change about each other so there wasn't any need to keep 'secrets'. I remember my Ex-girlfriend telling me 'it is either you drop the booze and sticks or i walk' and for months i was living a double life, carrying brush and toothpaste in the car and masking the smell of booze with bodyspray. One day i thought to myself for how long will i keep up and why will i even be with someone that wont accept everything about me so i bounced, the fact still remains nobody enjoys keeping secrets, they only keep secrets because of the terms and conditions attached to a relationship....... angry

You chose to leave your girlfriend and remain with alcohol and cigeratte? Stuffs that are bad for your health?
Your love for the girl should have been a mortivation to stop smoking and drinking.

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by YelloweWest: 3:23am On Sep 13, 2017
Flashh:
Samson told a woman his secret, she used it against him.

Not everything you tell your wife.
Not every thing a woman should tell her husband too.

I have property my hus is not aware of. Is that OK?
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by YelloweWest: 3:29am On Sep 13, 2017
ominirajj:

My husband is naturally secretive . He has been like that right from the beginning of our courtship.
Now am married to him for about 10 years ago
But his being too secretive is affecting me seriously. Don't know wether to let him be or push thing out of him
Don't push anything out of him. It's not worth it.
Give him a good dose of his medicine. Keep ur own secrets.
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Oluwatobiloba96(m): 4:19am On Sep 13, 2017
cheesy

Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by emmasege: 4:52am On Sep 13, 2017
Flashh:
Samson told a woman his secret, she used it against him.

Not everything you tell your wife.
Please tell them. Telling a woman everything could end the journey sooner than expected. Maybe only 1 out of every 1,000 women can absorb and handle everything told her.

Be wise, folks!

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Wizaugpet(m): 4:58am On Sep 13, 2017
Hmmm,
Nice One,,
If only them go gree hear o.
Some of this things wey women dy do is not always their Fault.
All those Attachments wey them dy use on their Heads the Recycle their Brain, making them to Reason things anyhow.. grin
Sha Allah we epp them!

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by godswillzeky(m): 5:32am On Sep 13, 2017
tongue
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by godswillzeky(m): 5:35am On Sep 13, 2017
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by godswillzeky(m): 5:36am On Sep 13, 2017
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Nobody: 5:48am On Sep 13, 2017
askseunoladele:
SECRETS MEN KEEP FROM THEIR WIVES

Men have secrets and they keep them very tightly to their chest. A woman almost ran mad during her husband's burial when another woman showed up with his son she never knew from Adam. They had a blissful marriage and she never suspected her husband was having an affair.

I'm not just talking about affairs. I'm also talking giving out money without your consent or extending secret hands to his family members. He can also have secret bank accounts, businesses and projects.

No marriage can survive on secrets. However, a wife's attitude determines how much of himself her husband will reveal to her. If you want your husband to open all his heart to you, you must be mature, faithful, loyal, dependable and trustworthy.

There are some women who have no secrets. Their friends know everything about their husbands including how many times they have sex per week. Learn to keep your husband's secrets secret.

Avoid jealousy like plague. Your husband will never tell you he's getting attracted to a lady if you are manic jealous and insecure. You may ask, why should he be attracted to her in the first place? Because you no longer do the things that attracted him to you so he's plain bored! He complained several times about it but you keep giving excuses so he gave up and fell in love with someone else. This may sound hard, but it's the truth. You can't keep a man glued to you by being boring, unromantic and frigid. So, if you are the secured woman who is loving and understanding, you can ask him why he is being attracted, he will tell you and when you make the necessary the adjustments, he will forget the other woman exists. It's as simple as that.

Give him free hand. Let him give whenever he wants to, after all it's his money. Never tell your husband not to give, you can rather wisely explain the pressing need at home and advise him to cut down on the amount he wanted to give to people.

Don’ t waste his money, if you do, he will not tell you how much he has in his accounts lest you make unnecessary demand on him.

Encourage his business ideas though you do not agree with them. If you object, he might go ahead with it in secret not minding whether he fails or not. Men love to take risks. Go on your knees and ask God to touch his heart instead of standing in his way.

Do not judge, criticize, abuse, make fun of and threaten him anytime he shares a secret, weakness, failure or temptation with you. Men love correction but not condemnation. If you attack him and make him feel like a criminal, he will never ever open up to you again, never.

May the good Lord grant us the wisdom to run our marriages in Jesus' name. Feel free to share. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele 2015, revised, edited and re posted.
www.askseunoladele..com

wife should not know everything about her husband, because una wahala too much angry
OP go and read Micah 7:5-6
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by agbonkamen(f): 5:51am On Sep 13, 2017
arnold123:
looked at your pics and I got scared! lol
why were you scared?
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Kaybaba5(m): 5:57am On Sep 13, 2017
Flashh:
Samson told a woman his secret, she used it against him.

Not everything you tell your wife.

I almost forgot
But u wake me up

Thanks

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by patola080(m): 6:04am On Sep 13, 2017
roqrules04:
Women are better at keeping secrets
says Wu D day u do something bad to her is d day u will knw how many of her friends n family members know about wot u told her
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by godswillzeky(m): 6:05am On Sep 13, 2017
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Tejiri41: 6:07am On Sep 13, 2017
Kuluosha:
i pray soon 2 be bride learn frm dis write up b4 dey start shouting my husb is a cheat up & down
So you are a female? grin
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by patola080(m): 6:12am On Sep 13, 2017
YelloweWest:

Not every thing a woman should tell her husband too.

I have property my hus is not aware of. Is that OK?
is ok so far ur man is jobless or d type dat move 4rm one woman to another or so far dat u re d one dat is gvin him food
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by olabright11(m): 6:17am On Sep 13, 2017
how I wish she could read this.
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Bobulopsy(m): 6:29am On Sep 13, 2017
nice write up.Op thanks for this
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by nomsreal(m): 6:33am On Sep 13, 2017
YelloweWest:

Not every thing a woman should tell her husband too.

I have property my hus is not aware of. Is that OK?
And you guys trust each other? Prefer not to marry than that kind of secret.
Can't judge though, maybe I'm not seeing the whole picture
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Oshin56(m): 6:41am On Sep 13, 2017
A man should have a secret because that makes him a man but not a secret of having child outside marriage

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by SoniaUK(f): 6:42am On Sep 13, 2017
Flashh:
Samson told a woman his secret, she used it against him.

Not everything you tell your wife.
They where not husband and wife. Get some sense.
Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Diso60090(m): 6:43am On Sep 13, 2017
Flashh:
Samson told a woman his secret, she used it against him.

Not everything you tell your wife.
take one beer for my care

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by Ameeria: 6:50am On Sep 13, 2017
Hmmm, monkey dey do himself, he think say he dey do banana.

This reminds me of a friend's husband. Guy died in an accident but before then, he and his wife were separated. He did a lot of shady deals that always brought the Law to their doorstep. Eventually, she packed her bags and kids and left. Within a two months, he died.

To cut long story short, he was always coming around her buying stuffs for the kids, paying their tuition and generally being their daddy. I would cajoled her to go back home and sort the issue but she was hell bent on him sorting his issues first. One day, he was in an accident and died. Immediately, his friends took possession of his phones, went to raid their house and took possession of his death certificate. They did this in the guise of helping her sort issues. Remember, guy was shady and never opened with his wife. Even the house he was building in Ajah became history. She doesn't know where it is or where he kept the papers...his estate went into thin air. Her consolation was that he left her with her babies.

My advice, get a lawyer if you wanna be secretive.

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Re: Secrets Men Keep From Their Wives by cuedish: 6:51am On Sep 13, 2017
kissniyi:
HAHAHA. AT LAST. IM FIRST TO COMMENT, CNT STILL BLIV THIS. I DEDICATE THIS SPOT TO ALL ASUU STUDENTS ON STRIKE.

Na dream you dey?

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