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MissKim:
Please, Is Her Man Playing Her Or Just A Victim Of Circumstance?

HI

My girlfriend came to my house yesterday and during girls chit chat, she told me something that is kind of baffling to me.

She met this guy late 2015 on facebook and they later met in person. They have been in relationship since then till now. She told me she had 2 abortions for him last year immidiately she missed her period by taking a drug. He gave her his reasons, that he is not yet buoyant to foot pregnancy, baby, traditional marriage and that his place is too small to house relations that may want to visit.

She missed her period 4days ago and she told her boyfriend she will want to keep it and suggested him paying only bride price since he had the plan to marry her like he said, but he told her that, that will obstruct his plan to travel out by him making use of his budgeted money and also it is expensive for him now to keep to take care of pregnancy,mother and baby. He then suggested she starts taking unripe papaya, parsley leaves etc to miscarry since she just missed her period. She came to me feeling confused.

I told her if the guy truly loves her and want to make her future wife finances shouldn't be the problem...but in all, the decision is hers to make. It is obvious this guy is not that serious but may be wrong.

Just wondering how many of you would decide to marry their present girlfriend if such case presents itself. Though i do not support marriage because of pregnancy.

You how many abortions have you had? Postinor don full ur blood

TINALETC3:
Wetin concern me, wen dem dey enjoy, nobody cul me

SERIOUSLY

thornapple:
They are toasted bread. Toasted by deceptive men.

Are you sure?

tosyne2much:
What at if the lady in question insisted on unprotected sex?


Please stop making it look like guys are the only one that initiate unprotected sex

They are both responsible for that pregnancy.

He has as much responsibility as her in preventing the pregnancy. They were both careless.
It's unfair to blame the girl alone for getting pregnant, and to say she wanted to use the pregnancy to trap the man is wicked. If he knew he had so much at stake, he should have insisted on a condom.
When they say the kondo of poor men should not rise, many will start shouting forgetting that their destinies can be trapped/derailed by unwanted pregnancy.

eyinjuege:
They are both responsible for that pregnancy.

He has as much responsibility as her in preventing the pregnancy. They were both careless.
It's unfair to blame the girl alone for getting pregnant, and to say she wanted to use the pregnancy to trap the man is wicked. If he knew he had so much at stake, he should have insisted on a condom.
When they say the kondo of poor men should not rise, many will start shouting forgetting that their destinies can be trapped/derailed by unwanted pregnancy.

I think they are both careless sha

dominique:
I've never bought this excuse men give when they say a woman can use pregnancy to trap them. Is it so hard to use protection or do withdrawal method if you don't want to be trapped with pregnancy? The moment you have unprotected sex, be ready to face the consequences.

Since when did Nigerians start taking responsibilty for anything? It's always someone else's fault. Never theirs.

tosyne2much:
What at if the lady in question insisted on unprotected sex?


Please stop making it look like guys are the only one that initiate unprotected sex

You have a responsibility to protect yourself
If she's insists you say no. What if she had HIV?
You will gladly collect it because she insisted?

Mindfulness:
She should learn how to have safe s.ex FIRST.
It's the 21st century for God's sake. Unwanted pregnancies should be a thing of the past or extremely rare.

They should both learn

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MissKim:
Please, Is Her Man Playing Her Or Just A Victim Of Circumstance?

HI

My girlfriend came to my house yesterday and during girls chit chat, she told me something that is kind of baffling to me.

She met this guy late 2015 on facebook and they later met in person. They have been in relationship since then till now. She told me she had 2 abortions for him last year immidiately she missed her period by taking a drug. He gave her his reasons, that he is not yet buoyant to foot pregnancy, baby, traditional marriage and that his place is too small to house relations that may want to visit.

She missed her period 4days ago and she told her boyfriend she will want to keep it and suggested him paying only bride price since he had the plan to marry her like he said, but he told her that, that will obstruct his plan to travel out by him making use of his budgeted money and also it is expensive for him now to keep to take care of pregnancy,mother and baby. He then suggested she starts taking unripe papaya, parsley leaves etc to miscarry since she just missed her period. She came to me feeling confused.

I told her if the guy truly loves her and want to make her future wife finances shouldn't be the problem...but in all, the decision is hers to make. It is obvious this guy is not that serious but may be wrong.

Just wondering how many of you would decide to marry their present girlfriend if such case presents itself. Though i do not support marriage because of pregnancy.

cococandy:
You have a responsibility to protect yourself If she's insists you say no. What if she had HIV? You will gladly collect it because she insisted?

It's true sha

eyinjuege:
Since when did Nigerians start taking responsibilty for anything? It's always someone else's fault. Never theirs.

I tire o. Nigerian men hardly ever accept responsibility for anything.

This comment is disheartening. I just pity girls. Mr. Man, don't get angry when someone does the same thing to ur sister or cousin. Other operation python dance will fall on u

ecoeco:
Bros it is to our advantage Na

If not for their fish brain life will b very difficult 4 us o

Mindfulness:
If you can't say no to her request then there is a thing called the pull out method. Do I need to explain it to you?

Gosh, and some people think that there should be no s.ex education at schools.

Looking for a weak pullout-game-weak game meme but phone is not helping matters.

MissKim:
Please, Is Her Man Playing Her Or Just A Victim Of Circumstance?

HI

My girlfriend came to my house yesterday and during girls chit chat, she told me something that is kind of baffling to me.

She met this guy late 2015 on facebook and they later met in person. They have been in relationship since then till now. She told me she had 2 abortions for him last year immidiately she missed her period by taking a drug. He gave her his reasons, that he is not yet buoyant to foot pregnancy, baby, traditional marriage and that his place is too small to house relations that may want to visit.

She missed her period 4days ago and she told her boyfriend she will want to keep it and suggested him paying only bride price since he had the plan to marry her like he said, but he told her that, that will obstruct his plan to travel out by him making use of his budgeted money and also it is expensive for him now to keep to take care of pregnancy,mother and baby. He then suggested she starts taking unripe papaya, parsley leaves etc to miscarry since she just missed her period. She came to me feeling confused.

I told her if the guy truly loves her and want to make her future wife finances shouldn't be the problem...but in all, the decision is hers to make. It is obvious this guy is not that serious but may be wrong.

Just wondering how many of you would decide to marry their present girlfriend if such case presents itself. Though i do not support marriage because of pregnancy.

Tell your girlfriend not to abort that baby, it might be her last child she is about to abort.

It is very unfortunate that she couldn't make use of her brain after performing two abortions.

oyb:
Looking for a weak pullout-game-weak game meme but phone is not helping matters.

Take your time but I must see this meme.

SalomonKane:
This method doesn't always work. I know peeps who fell victim to it.

That's because they had no s.ex education at school.

Please advice your friend never to abort the baby under any circumstance. Aborting the baby will only make her to be the mother of a dead baby. Her cries and blood will forever be on her and I don't think that the baby will even forgive her in the next life. Give the baby a chance to live just as you are now living. Never kill an innocent soul.

Mindfulness:
That's because they had no s.ex education at school.

Is that so? So sex education in school usually involve the teaching of _coitus interractus? Wow

Sorry I miss the humour.

SalomonKane:
Is that so? So sex education in school usually involve the teaching of _coitus interractus? Wow

You learn when women ovulate and are likely to conceive and thus how to reduce the risk of an unwanted pregnancy.

Sorry I miss the humour.

Indeed.

dominique:
The Apple will not fall far from the tree. A man that thinks so lowly about women can't possibly have a daughter bright enough not to fall for the charms of fuckboys like yourself. She will definitely fall for the likes of her father.
Seems you have comprehension issues. Where in my post did I say the man must marry her because he got her pregnant? Being man enough and taking responsibility for your action doesn't mean he must marry her. Making a girl go through abortion after abortion without putting yourself in check is not only evil, its irresponsible. You won't know how bad it is until your daughter experiences same fate.



How safe are these options? So she should continuously risk her health by swallowing different pills and concoctions because a man does not deem it fit to prevent a pregnancy he does not want to be 'trapped' with.




You and your likes will be doing my daughter a huge favour by staying far away from her. It's only a girl with severe low self-esteem like OP's 'friend' that will fall for such fuckboys. A girl that knows her worth will never get attracted to such mess of a man.

Damn! You nailed it, girl!

Were somebody

1st, 2nd you did not know you are to use protection if you must before bride price. He has made it clear he is not marrying you becos he is going abroad, yet, you opened for the 3rd, unless you want to have a child to call your own becos the way it is, you are on your own, so the decision is solely yours right now. We women refuse to learn from others.

MissKim:
Please, Is Her Man Playing Her Or Just A Victim Of Circumstance?

HI

My girlfriend came to my house yesterday and during girls chit chat, she told me something that is kind of baffling to me.

She met this guy late 2015 on facebook and they later met in person. They have been in relationship since then till now. She told me she had 2 abortions for him last year immidiately she missed her period by taking a drug. He gave her his reasons, that he is not yet buoyant to foot pregnancy, baby, traditional marriage and that his place is too small to house relations that may want to visit.

She missed her period 4days ago and she told her boyfriend she will want to keep it and suggested him paying only bride price since he had the plan to marry her like he said, but he told her that, that will obstruct his plan to travel out by him making use of his budgeted money and also it is expensive for him now to keep to take care of pregnancy,mother and baby. He then suggested she starts taking unripe papaya, parsley leaves etc to miscarry since she just missed her period. She came to me feeling confused.

I told her if the guy truly loves her and want to make her future wife finances shouldn't be the problem...but in all, the decision is hers to make. It is obvious this guy is not that serious but may be wrong.

Just wondering how many of you would decide to marry their present girlfriend if such case presents itself. Though i do not support marriage because of pregnancy.

Ladies close your legs please he won't marry you cos he's already worried your womb is partially damaged

Mindfulness:
Take your time but I must see this meme.

them plenty



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Mindfulness:
Take your time but I must see this meme.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SPX4yfRaT8

dominique:
1. The Apple will not fall far from the tree. A man that thinks so lowly about women can't possibly have a daughter bright enough not to fall for the charms of fuckboys like yourself. She will definitely fall for the likes of her father.

2. Seems you have comprehension issues. Where in my post did I say the man must marry her because he got her pregnant? Being man enough and taking responsibility for your action doesn't mean he must marry her. Making a girl go through abortion after abortion without putting yourself in check is not only evil, its irresponsible. You won't know how bad it is until your daughter experiences same fate.



How safe are these options? So she should continuously risk her health by swallowing different pills and concoctions because a man does not deem it fit to prevent a pregnancy he does not want to be 'trapped' with.




3. You and your likes will be doing my daughter a huge favour by staying far away from her. It's only a girl with severe low self-esteem like OP's 'friend' that will fall for such fuckboys. A girl that knows her worth will never get attracted to such mess of a man.

1. Your ignorance has made you stupid without measure. Speaking the truth isn't the same as hatred for women. Your emotions will not colour the reality of this situation. If you are a friend to the lady in question and give her all the stupid advice you're so daftly proud about, you would be doing her more harm than good. Was she rapéd? Was she hypnotised? Did she not part her legs and receive him with both eyes open? Are you mad? Has your disdain for the boyfriend in question reversed the abortions already carried out and has she had a stillbirth or maybe the baby has magically disappeared? Stop thinking with your failed ovaries you emotionally unbalanced baboon. If she were your daughter is this all the rubbish you would tell her?

2. I find it ironic that you accuse me of poor comprehension when you have boldly shown repeatedly that you and logic are mutually exclusive. Now, idiot, tell me, of they do not get married or have a cohabitation arrangement does she not raise the child alone? Are you so stupid that you know not the meaning of inference and implication? Where do they release you idiots from?

By the way, who is making the girl go through abortions? If she refuses to evacuate the foetus will he do it himself or kidnap her and take her to someone to do? Are you really this daft? So, if he "becomes man enough and takes responsibility for his actions" but does not live with her, is that not raising the child by herself, you stupid bint?

If she were not interested in taking concoctions and medicines, should she not abstain from sex or getva female condom, or have unprotected sex only on her safe days? If she is not interested in having abortions, there is a world of options for her to choose from. She is not an imbecîle whose brain is on strike, she should protect herself.

3. A girl with a proper level of self esteem will not blame another person for her failures as a human being, she will take responsibility for her part in any misfortune that befalls her. That is a clear sign a girl has a high self esteem. You are clearly in Jo position to engender such in your daughters. I repeat, it would be a cold day in hell before I stoop so low as to be caught mingling with lowlifes such as the types you can birth and breed.

eyinjuege:
They are both responsible for that pregnancy.

He has as much responsibility as her in preventing the pregnancy. They were both careless.
It's unfair to blame the girl alone for getting pregnant, and to say she wanted to use the pregnancy to trap the man is wicked. If he knew he had so much at stake, he should have insisted on a condom.
When they say the kondo of poor men should not rise, many will start shouting forgetting that their destinies can be trapped/derailed by unwanted pregnancy.

The guy does not have as much responsibility as the woman in preventing a pregnancy. Feminists and feminist sympathisers continually inundate us with the fact that nobody should dictate to a woman what to do with her body. In fact, there is a common mantra, "my body, my choice". And so, I repeat, the lady has more than 90% of the responsibility in preventing a pregnancy. You women cannot have your cake and eat it too.

After two abortions, it would behove a right-thinking person to first analyse their situation and determine if the relationship fulfils their needs and if it is worth being in.

What you women are intentionally leaving out is the fact that this woman hasn't been forced to have sex. If she went back to have unprotected sex after not one but two abortions, then she needs to be kept away till she can think.

By the way, tell your sisters to stop fûcking poor men. It is the height of wickedness to saddle a man with a baby you know he cannot cater for. If he is not worth getting wet for, don't get wet for him.

These are the cold, hard truths I would tell my daughter if she were in this situation. Nobody in Nigeria can be forced to cater for a child except in Lagos state, and all it would take to move to Ogun is a pittance compared to the cost of child care.

Of course, you all can feel free to gather around and try to make her feel better about her stupidity but it will not do a dot of good for her. The reality now, is that she has a child coming with a very reluctant father. Yab him from now till tomorrow, it has not changed.

Good luck

Timbuktuo:
[s]1. Your ignorance has made you stupid without measure. Speaking the truth isn't the same as hatred for women. Your emotions will not colour the reality of this situation. If you are a friend to the lady in question and give her all the stupid advice you're so daftly proud about, you would be doing her more harm than good. Was she rapéd? Was she hypnotised? Did she not part her legs and receive him with both eyes open? Are you mad? Has your disdain for the boyfriend in question reversed the abortions already carried out and has she had a stillbirth or maybe the baby has magically disappeared? Stop thinking with your failed ovaries you emotionally unbalanced baboon. If she were your daughter is this all the rubbish you would tell her?

2. I find it ironic that you accuse me of poor comprehension when you have boldly shown repeatedly that you and logic are mutually exclusive. Now, idiot, tell me, of they do not get married or have a cohabitation arrangement does she not raise the child alone? Are you so stupid that you know not the meaning of inference and implication? Where do they release you idiots from?

By the way, who is making the girl go through abortions? If she refuses to evacuate the foetus will he do it himself or kidnap her and take her to someone to do? Are you really this daft? So, if he "becomes man enough and takes responsibility for his actions" but does not live with her, is that not raising the child by herself, you stupid bint?

If she were not interested in taking concoctions and medicines, should she not abstain from sex or getva female condom, or have unprotected sex only on her safe days? If she is not interested in having abortions, there is a world of options for her to choose from. She is not an imbecîle whose brain is on strike, she should protect herself.

3. A girl with a proper level of self esteem will not blame another person for her failures as a human being, she will take responsibility for her part in any misfortune that befalls her. That is a clear sign a girl has a high self esteem. You are clearly in Jo position to engender such in your daughters. I repeat, it would be a cold day in hell before I stoop so low as to be caught mingling with lowlifes such as the types you can birth and breed[/s].

All I can see is ranting of a pained lunatic. Don't expect me to lose my brain cells by reading all that trash you wrote up there. Maybe your fellow misogynists can read it all and dash you few likes. Continue to believe women are supposed to bend over backwards to kiss your arses while i train my children not to be like or end up with your likes.

dominique:
All I can see is ranting of a pained lunatic. Don't expect me to lose my brain cells by reading all that trash you wrote up there. Maybe your fellow misogynists can read it all and dash you few likes. Continue to believe women are supposed to bend over backwards to kiss your arses while i train my children not to be like or end up with your likes.

You have contributed nothing intellectual to this discussion. You have no intelligible rebuttal to my stance and you have resorted to ad hominems.

Don't forget to tell your children to blame other people for their problems. Surely, that will solve their problems. Adios, imbecîle

MhizzAJ:
He's not yet buoyant to foot pregnancy but he's buoyant enough to fvck her Super Story .

Now this bad...The guy in question s very wicked..Some men are not ready to have a committed relationship, all they want is 'chop and clean mouth'...
I just thank God for wise women

which wise women..were them day....

Timbuktuo:
You have contributed nothing intellectual to this discussion. You have no intelligible rebuttal to my stance and you have resorted to ad hominems.

Don't forget to tell your children to blame other people for their problems. Surely, that will solve their problems. Adios, imbecîle

Sorry, it's not my problem that you have issues with basic comprehension. Don't forget to tell your daughters to start swallowing pills and concoctions when fuckboys come for them because NOT getting pregnant is their sole responsibility. And when they do get pregnant, they should find their way to the nearest abortion facility. Even if they die in the process, the poor innocent boys responsible for their predicament must never be blamed. That's the price to pay for trying to 'trap' an ADULT with pregnancy.

What is even paining my soul iz dah when sense finally falls on her nd leaves dah douche she will be carrying her empty barrel upandan looking for whom to devour.