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MrBigiman:
Advice very much appreciated

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

jashar:
Eeerrmmm...... No vex ooo... Are you sure you want to marry that lady?
Just a question oooo....

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

queenfav:
lwkmd.. Sorry but is she kidding ? How old is she? Your woman shud be able to plan arnd what u have. I am having my trad and registry marriage this December.The registry wedding will be a private affair, just few persons going with us.For the trad, we are planning for only 200 guests. Finally, we no go spend pass 800k.We settled for that to cut costs and save money for projects that will benefit our lives. Better that way, than clearing our account just so we can have a society wedding to the detriment of our finances. My point is she should be concerned abt your lives after marriage than a one day affair. Thankfully i and le boo are very real about our finances. We have a lot to do with money after marriage, hence decided to do what we can easily afford . If she wants you to steal, no wahala. But u have to sit her down and let her know what u can afford. I am sure she is trying to impress friends. Just tell her to be realistic. What you spend getting married isn't a guarantee that the union will be a happy one. Left to me sef, i would just walk into a registry, get married in jeans and go on vacation with d money i would have used to feed crowd. An older friend of mine told me how she and her husband got married with 25k,and they are still happily married after many years. They didn't have a reception, just paid for food for few friends who followed them to a restaurant. Bottomline, she has to understand and plan with what u have, except she wants to assist u financially. Don't empty your account because you want to marry, it's just one day. Una no go chop love o! Have a budget and stick to it. You guys will be fine with good planning.

vanvick247:
Cool advice and congrats in advance.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

BellaElla:
I need to ask, is the 500k all the money you have in your savings or just what you have earmarked for you wedding?
if the former is the case, please hold on a while and try to save some more or reduce your wedding budget by 200k . U should never start a marriage with an empty account balance.
If the latter is the case, i will proceed to breakdown the expenses for you.
Traditional marriage : (200k)
- attire for couple : 30k
-5 crates of malt (120pcs) : 15k
-Half bag of rice and condiments: 40k
-1 cow leg : 15k
- Marriage rites 100k ( This will work only if you have an understanding bride and inlaws)
Borrow a home theater system to her place for music and play from your phone using auxiliary wire.

Wedding / Registry : 300k
Groom suit, shoes, shirt :20k (You can get a wonderful suit from Ariaria market for 14k)
Brides outfit : 50k
Dj :10k (Get a friend to do Mc)
catering for 100 people : 100k .(Budget 1k per person, it will be enough) everybody must not chop
Chairs, canopies, decoration: 50k
Rings, Cake : 50k
photography :50k

Tips on how to save more money
1. Do trad and white same day. This saves half of the cooking and logistics fund which can be utilized elsewhere.
2. Use an open field for reception
3. Avoid buying asoebi with the hope that people will buy from you.most people especially family will just collect and not pay back. give colours of the day instead.
4. You do not need to print 200 invitation cards. about 20 pcs will do for your esteemed guests, the rest can be invited electronically
5. Please , please and please, do not waste money on plenty 5 step cake and a bejeweled bouquet, or even expensive bridal shoes. You will have no need them after that day
6. You do not need emblazoned souvenir bags, there are plenty plastic souvenirs sold for 100 naira each.
7. You do not need to collect photobook ooooo. Many photographers use that to scam couples . What I did during my wedding was that I hired 2 cameras video and photo (5D) for 2 days at 15k each per day. I gave a relative to take pics and he put the soft copies in a flash for me. everything for trad and white cost 70k and i Had great quality pics. I did the photobook and two frames at a later date when we had recovered small and it was way cheaper doing it myself.
8. Please do not serve alcohol at ur wedding if you want to cut cost.

If the 500k is for only wedding ceremony then you do not have wahala. Just ensure you and your bride are on the same page and she knows exactly how much you have to spend.

MrBigiman:
Advice very much appreciated

BellaElla:
I need to ask, is the 500k all the money you have in your savings or just what you have earmarked for you wedding?
if the former is the case, please hold on a while and try to save some more or reduce your wedding budget by 200k . U should never start a marriage with an empty account balance.
If the latter is the case, i will proceed to breakdown the expenses for you.
Traditional marriage : (200k)
- attire for couple : 30k
-5 crates of malt (120pcs) : 15k
-Half bag of rice and condiments: 40k
-1 cow leg : 15k
- Marriage rites 100k ( This will work only if you have an understanding bride and inlaws)
Borrow a home theater system to her place for music and play from your phone using auxiliary wire.

Wedding / Registry : 300k
Groom suit, shoes, shirt :20k (You can get a wonderful suit from Ariaria market for 14k)
Brides outfit : 50k
Dj :10k (Get a friend to do Mc)
catering for 100 people : 100k .(Budget 1k per person, it will be enough) everybody must not chop
Chairs, canopies, decoration: 50k
Rings, Cake : 50k
photography :50k

Tips on how to save more money
1. Do trad and white same day. This saves half of the cooking and logistics fund which can be utilized elsewhere.
2. Use an open field for reception
3. Avoid buying asoebi with the hope that people will buy from you.most people especially family will just collect and not pay back. give colours of the day instead.
4. You do not need to print 200 invitation cards. about 20 pcs will do for your esteemed guests, the rest can be invited electronically
5. Please , please and please, do not waste money on plenty 5 step cake and a bejeweled bouquet, or even expensive bridal shoes. You will have no need them after that day
6. You do not need emblazoned souvenir bags, there are plenty plastic souvenirs sold for 100 naira each.
7. You do not need to collect photobook ooooo. Many photographers use that to scam couples . What I did during my wedding was that I hired 2 cameras video and photo (5D) for 2 days at 15k each per day. I gave a relative to take pics and he put the soft copies in a flash for me. everything for trad and white cost 70k and i Had great quality pics. I did the photobook and two frames at a later date when we had recovered small and it was way cheaper doing it myself.
8. Please do not serve alcohol at ur wedding if you want to cut cost.

If the 500k is for only wedding ceremony then you do not have wahala. Just ensure you and your bride are on the same page and she knows exactly how much you have to spend.

MrBigiman:
I have a heart felt question to ask, can one conduct a wedding ceremony with 500k in this recession. Kindly advice and give a Bachelor a reasonable break down. God bless.

queenfav:
Uwc bro.. About the car thing.. Please shine your eye bro. I sense she has serious "obiageli" (i have come to enjoy) mentality. Look before you leap! From what you said, i am not sure she is financially and emotionally ready for marriage. Sorry, but i need to be honest here.She has to know marriage isn't all sugar.. Ability to adjust and weather the storms of life matters a lot. I see nothing wrong with trekking while married. So long as you have plans in motion, and hustle to ensure you don't trek for too long.. A car isn't a sign of being wealthy in my opinion.. Let her check her friends or whoever is advising her. She clearly cares a lot about what the world would say, hence the need to impress.I like comfort a lot, but the ability to plan around what you have, without being overly extravagant is key. You can't please the world, so don't let her make u go broke trying to keep up with the Joneses.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

jidedavid:
Cut your coat according to your size... i dont even know why i would spend millions on wedding sef.... my own opinion na introduction, Engagement and registry.... anything more than this, or her family demanding for more?? make dem carry their pikin i no marry again be that.. and they will be damned when i already don plant seed inside her womb

Ishilove:
MrBigiman, church wedding is not by force, neither is it scriptural. It is us humans that have imposed man made doctrines on ourselves. What you should do is traditional wedding then church blessing.

I advise you follow this lady's break down but transfer what you want to spend on white wedding to the trad.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.