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Tosinex:
Wen I see topics like this, I just laff, because here is someone with 8hk, and about to get married, and yet still cracking brain, but here am I without shishi for account, wen will I get married sef...lolzz

This brings us to the irony of life bro

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

lol...omo ur babe no get chill oo

If she actually said this ,the she is nt worth it.Look for other woman to marry

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

For this statement above, I dare say u are about marrying wrongly, because this lady Z not ready to start n endure with u

gadgetsngs:
If she actually said this ,the she is nt worth it.Look for other woman to marry

I told d op the same . Y marry someone who Z not ready to start with u

BellaElla:
I need to ask, is the 500k all the money you have in your savings or just what you have earmarked for you wedding?
if the former is the case, please hold on a while and try to save some more or reduce your wedding budget by 200k . U should never start a marriage with an empty account balance.
If the latter is the case, i will proceed to breakdown the expenses for you.
Traditional marriage : (200k)
- attire for couple : 30k
-5 crates of malt (120pcs) : 15k
-Half bag of rice and condiments: 40k
-1 cow leg : 15k
- Marriage rites 100k ( This will work only if you have an understanding bride and inlaws)
Borrow a home theater system to her place for music and play from your phone using auxiliary wire.

Wedding / Registry : 300k
Groom suit, shoes, shirt :20k (You can get a wonderful suit from Ariaria market for 14k)
Brides outfit : 50k
Dj :10k (Get a friend to do Mc)
catering for 100 people : 100k .(Budget 1k per person, it will be enough) everybody must not chop
Chairs, canopies, decoration: 50k
Rings, Cake : 50k
photography :50k

Tips on how to save more money
1. Do trad and white same day. This saves half of the cooking and logistics fund which can be utilized elsewhere.
2. Use an open field for reception
3. Avoid buying asoebi with the hope that people will buy from you.most people especially family will just collect and not pay back. give colours of the day instead.
4. You do not need to print 200 invitation cards. about 20 pcs will do for your esteemed guests, the rest can be invited electronically
5. Please , please and please, do not waste money on plenty 5 step cake and a bejeweled bouquet, or even expensive bridal shoes. You will have no need them after that day
6. You do not need emblazoned souvenir bags, there are plenty plastic souvenirs sold for 100 naira each.
7. You do not need to collect photobook ooooo. Many photographers use that to scam couples . What I did during my wedding was that I hired 2 cameras video and photo (5D) for 2 days at 15k each per day. I gave a relative to take pics and he put the soft copies in a flash for me. everything for trad and white cost 70k and i Had great quality pics. I did the photobook and two frames at a later date when we had recovered small and it was way cheaper doing it myself.
8. Please do not serve alcohol at ur wedding if you want to cut cost.

If the 500k is for only wedding ceremony then you do not have wahala. Just ensure you and your bride are on the same page and she knows exactly how much you have to spend.
V

What a Woman! Godbless you plenty for this Advice. Your husband is Lucky to have such a wife

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

My brother am still planning mine with 500k and my woman has accepted that.

brainstorm with your woman and give her reason to comply, cos its your job to convince her and its her job to give further suggestion and agree.

but in the case whereby she refuse to buy your idea, I won't ask you to leave her, I would just say you now have the firsthand experience of the woman you gonna live with.

personal opinion!

MrBigiman:
I have a heart felt question to ask, can one conduct a wedding ceremony with 500k in this recession. Kindly advice and give a Bachelor a reasonable break down. God bless.

My brother am still planning mine with 500k and my woman has accepted that.

brainstorm with your woman and give her reason to comply, cos its your job to convince her and its her job to give further suggestion and agree.

but in the case whereby she refuse to buy your idea, I won't ask you to leave her, I would just say you now have the firsthand experience of the woman you gonna live with.

personal opinion!

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

my brother, u never see wife.

just take your time and look for one.

queenfav:
lwkmd.. Sorry but is she kidding ? How old is she? Your woman shud be able to plan arnd what u have. I am having my trad and registry marriage this December.The registry wedding will be a private affair, just few persons going with us.For the trad, we are planning for only 200 guests. Finally, we no go spend pass 800k.We settled for that to cut costs and save money for projects that will benefit our lives. Better that way, than clearing our account just so we can have a society wedding to the detriment of our finances. My point is she should be concerned abt your lives after marriage than a one day affair. Thankfully i and le boo are very real about our finances. We have a lot to do with money after marriage, hence decided to do what we can easily afford . If she wants you to steal, no wahala. But u have to sit her down and let her know what u can afford. I am sure she is trying to impress friends. Just tell her to be realistic. What you spend getting married isn't a guarantee that the union will be a happy one. Left to me sef, i would just walk into a registry, get married in jeans and go on vacation with d money i would have used to feed crowd. An older friend of mine told me how she and her husband got married with 25k,and they are still happily married after many years. They didn't have a reception, just paid for food for few friends who followed them to a restaurant. Bottomline, she has to understand and plan with what u have, except she wants to assist u financially. Don't empty your account because you want to marry, it's just one day. Una no go chop love o! Have a budget and stick to it. You guys will be fine with good planning.

Tbh u are very intellectual


Your type of woman is hard to find these days

missbeckykisses:
give her better kondoring like never before and runnnnn

Kai. Make God save man for destructive advice. It could be u or ur loved one. Lets not go dat way, if I am no longer interested I will simply let her be. Thanks anyways

wow these quoted figures are mind revealing.
So wedding ceremonies can actually be done perfectly with these lower sums.

BellaElla:
I need to ask, is the 500k all the money you have in your savings or just what you have earmarked for you wedding?
if the former is the case, please hold on a while and try to save some more or reduce your wedding budget by 200k . U should never start a marriage with an empty account balance.
If the latter is the case, i will proceed to breakdown the expenses for you.
Traditional marriage : (200k)
- attire for couple : 30k
-5 crates of malt (120pcs) : 15k
-Half bag of rice and condiments: 40k
-1 cow leg : 15k
- Marriage rites 100k ( This will work only if you have an understanding bride and inlaws)
Borrow a home theater system to her place for music and play from your phone using auxiliary wire.

Wedding / Registry : 300k
Groom suit, shoes, shirt :20k (You can get a wonderful suit from Ariaria market for 14k)
Brides outfit : 50k
Dj :10k (Get a friend to do Mc)
catering for 100 people : 100k .(Budget 1k per person, it will be enough) everybody must not chop
Chairs, canopies, decoration: 50k
Rings, Cake : 50k
photography :50k

Tips on how to save more money
1. Do trad and white same day. This saves half of the cooking and logistics fund which can be utilized elsewhere.
2. Use an open field for reception
3. Avoid buying asoebi with the hope that people will buy from you.most people especially family will just collect and not pay back. give colours of the day instead.
4. You do not need to print 200 invitation cards. about 20 pcs will do for your esteemed guests, the rest can be invited electronically
5. Please , please and please, do not waste money on plenty 5 step cake and a bejeweled bouquet, or even expensive bridal shoes. You will have no need them after that day
6. You do not need emblazoned souvenir bags, there are plenty plastic souvenirs sold for 100 naira each.
7. You do not need to collect photobook ooooo. Many photographers use that to scam couples . What I did during my wedding was that I hired 2 cameras video and photo (5D) for 2 days at 15k each per day. I gave a relative to take pics and he put the soft copies in a flash for me. everything for trad and white cost 70k and i Had great quality pics. I did the photobook and two frames at a later date when we had recovered small and it was way cheaper doing it myself.
8. Please do not serve alcohol at ur wedding if you want to cut cost.

If the 500k is for only wedding ceremony then you do not have wahala. Just ensure you and your bride are on the same page and she knows exactly how much you have to spend.

This one your husband found a good thing.

BellaElla:
I need to ask, is the 500k all the money you have in your savings or just what you have earmarked for you wedding?
if the former is the case, please hold on a while and try to save some more or reduce your wedding budget by 200k . U should never start a marriage with an empty account balance.
If the latter is the case, i will proceed to breakdown the expenses for you.
Traditional marriage : (200k)
- attire for couple : 30k
-5 crates of malt (120pcs) : 15k
-Half bag of rice and condiments: 40k
-1 cow leg : 15k
- Marriage rites 100k ( This will work only if you have an understanding bride and inlaws)
Borrow a home theater system to her place for music and play from your phone using auxiliary wire.

Wedding / Registry : 300k
Groom suit, shoes, shirt :20k (You can get a wonderful suit from Ariaria market for 14k)
Brides outfit : 50k
Dj :10k (Get a friend to do Mc)
catering for 100 people : 100k .(Budget 1k per person, it will be enough) everybody must not chop
Chairs, canopies, decoration: 50k
Rings, Cake : 50k
photography :50k

Tips on how to save more money
1. Do trad and white same day. This saves half of the cooking and logistics fund which can be utilized elsewhere.
2. Use an open field for reception
3. Avoid buying asoebi with the hope that people will buy from you.most people especially family will just collect and not pay back. give colours of the day instead.
4. You do not need to print 200 invitation cards. about 20 pcs will do for your esteemed guests, the rest can be invited electronically
5. Please , please and please, do not waste money on plenty 5 step cake and a bejeweled bouquet, or even expensive bridal shoes. You will have no need them after that day
6. You do not need emblazoned souvenir bags, there are plenty plastic souvenirs sold for 100 naira each.
7. You do not need to collect photobook ooooo. Many photographers use that to scam couples . What I did during my wedding was that I hired 2 cameras video and photo (5D) for 2 days at 15k each per day. I gave a relative to take pics and he put the soft copies in a flash for me. everything for trad and white cost 70k and i Had great quality pics. I did the photobook and two frames at a later date when we had recovered small and it was way cheaper doing it myself.
8. Please do not serve alcohol at ur wedding if you want to cut cost.

If the 500k is for only wedding ceremony then you do not have wahala. Just ensure you and your bride are on the same page and she knows exactly how much you have to spend.

Ha Ha Ha(In Adewale Ayuba's voice) Mrs BellaElla,women can manage for life,God. did you study economics? you will be a good house manager o,will you marry me?

Acidosis:
Please do not create problems for yourself. To buttress Ishi's point, majority of the problems we face today are man-made. We spend 20 hours creating problems for ourselves, and then struggle through the remaining hours of the day looking for solutions.

You have saved N800,000. Go ahead and marry a woman that shares same orientation with you. Many women out there do not need the 'ovation' kind of wedding... don't be scared of anything, they all possess the same body structure and endowment. Spending N1 trillion on a wedding won't automatically give you access to four brea.sts on your wedding night.

A group of businessmen just sat down and derived a way to suck out money from intending couples and they felt the best way to go about it is to build wedding dress worth millions, event centres, etc. Since they are aware that many people out there are mu.mu "sheep-ers" to celebrities, they make sure their services and products get endorsed by celebrities.

You are a human with a mind of your own, you can break the chain!

About the car talk, I sincerely think that you're about getting married the wrong woman. If your woman is not ready to take that public transport with you, then quit. Get a car at a convenient period when you're sure that YOU (not a girlfriend) will NEED it.

If Danfo is what you use, ensure you get a woman that feels comfortable in Danfo, if she bothers you with Uber requests, quit! She's not your type.

Abeg Mama Nkechi help me give this man one chill odeku and isiewu for this comments

Lawlahdey:
We sha like wasting money

me I want range before we marry.. is it ur money we r wasting amebo

Acidosis:
Please do not create problems for yourself. To buttress Ishi's point, majority of the problems we face today are man-made. We spend 20 hours creating problems for ourselves, and then struggle through the remaining hours of the day looking for solutions.

You have saved N800,000. Go ahead and marry a woman that shares same orientation with you. Many women out there do not need the 'ovation' kind of wedding... don't be scared of anything, they all possess the same body structure and endowment. Spending N1 trillion on a wedding won't automatically give you access to four brea.sts on your wedding night.

A group of businessmen just sat down and derived a way to suck out money from intending couples and they felt the best way to go about it is to build wedding dress worth millions, event centres, etc. Since they are aware that many people out there are mu.mu "sheep-ers" to celebrities, they make sure their services and products get endorsed by celebrities.

You are a human with a mind of your own, you can break the chain!

About the car talk, I sincerely think that you're about getting married the wrong woman. If your woman is not ready to take that public transport with you, then quit. Get a car at a convenient period when you're sure that YOU (not a girlfriend) will NEED it.

If Danfo is what you use, ensure you get a woman that feels comfortable in Danfo, if she bothers you with Uber requests, quit! She's not your type.

Am happy that nairaland still got knowledgeable people like you.. marriage is a "contract" wedding is a celebration of love, Love is a strong feeling of affection, anyone who wana commercialise marriage love weding or feels the need to prove a point to a partner you choose to live with forever isnt ready for the union

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

if she said these then am afraid u don enter one chance.
Better start looking for alternative because u may not manage or cope wit this kind of girl.

tosyne2much:
This brings us to the irony of life bro

my broda no be small thing oo

haymekus:
Tbh u are very intellectual

Your type of woman is hard to find these days

Thanks bro.

Tosinex:
my broda no be small thing oo

E go better my brother

I don't really know how to break this down... I just think if you're a cool dude with good number of cool friends, you can have the wedding of your dream while you spend 500k or a little more... You have these much resources - spouse, spouse friends, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues at work, company that employed you, associations you belong to, church etc. You've got networks and they have too, just utilize them all...
Meanwhile, you can count me a friend too... I can handle your souvenirs (bag-pack), notepads/jotter, invitation card & programme book...

Very Very posibble.....

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

Flee bro! That's not a wife but a schemer.

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

Please, go to 'run for your life ministry' and save yourself of an impending lifetime of regret. A woman that is willing to make such demands in this economy and on a frivolity such as wedding is going to be a joke of a wife. The question is, will you be happy spending that much? It sounds like the 500k is already a bit of a bother to you. I advise that every new couple should have enough funds to sustain them for at least two months assuming nothing else comes in after the wedding cos that is when marriage starts. Boss, you don try abeg. Make she add the remaining 900k if na so e easy.

500k is even too much

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

One chance marriage !!



Definitely, this lady happens not to be your type bro,


Ignore the red flag and face the music


by the way, how much is she going to contribute on the whole expenses or the marriage is only for you
.

Op you are matured for marriage yet and even if you are at all i will advise you to look for an independent woman and marry buy i think you want to marry a small girl who has ambision for riches so in this case, i think you a devil. you just want to spoil that girl's future. Go and look for a girl in your level aftall, from your story, it is clear that girl is not in luv with you na her toto yoi thief olee olee olee

MrBigiman:
Thanks. So far I have managed to save 800k. I told the lady we should try and budget 500k, so we still have some change but she claim I don't value her and says I should step it up to 1.4m. She also say I must buy a ride, DAT she can't be married and trekking.

sorry to ask how much is she contributing some women n their wahala. sorry ooh the Lord is your strength

queenfav:
lwkmd.. Sorry but is she kidding ? How old is she? Your woman shud be able to plan arnd what u have. I am having my trad and registry marriage this December.The registry wedding will be a private affair, just few persons going with us.For the trad, we are planning for only 200 guests. Finally, we no go spend pass 800k.We settled for that to cut costs and save money for projects that will benefit our lives. Better that way, than clearing our account just so we can have a society wedding to the detriment of our finances. My point is she should be concerned abt your lives after marriage than a one day affair. Thankfully i and le boo are very real about our finances. We have a lot to do with money after marriage, hence decided to do what we can easily afford . If she wants you to steal, no wahala. But u have to sit her down and let her know what u can afford. I am sure she is trying to impress friends. Just tell her to be realistic. What you spend getting married isn't a guarantee that the union will be a happy one. Left to me sef, i would just walk into a registry, get married in jeans and go on vacation with d money i would have used to feed crowd. An older friend of mine told me how she and her husband got married with 25k,and they are still happily married after many years. They didn't have a reception, just paid for food for few friends who followed them to a restaurant. Bottomline, she has to understand and plan with what u have, except she wants to assist u financially. Don't empty your account because you want to marry, it's just one day. Una no go chop love o! Have a budget and stick to it. You guys will be fine with good planning.

God bless you. im planning my registry now with just 70k.

BellaElla:
Issa very simple something
Tell her ok, you have heard no problem
Go and do introduction with her people.
Fix date for trad and tell everybody
1 week to the trad tell her you have not saved up to 1.4m and you have not bought car, that she should give you another two years to hustle
Na her family sef go come beg you make dem add their own money join
On a serious note, before you start planning any wedding, make sure both of you are on the same page as regards income, expenditure and saving habits.

There is no point promising what he knows he cannot do. The girl on her part I hope she has saved also for the wedding. Then for the car she saw you before she agreed to marry. Driving a car itself is not bad but the way she is going about it is annoying. Girls who give such stupid conditions are girls who earn income in the range of 50-70k. Yes, they see marriage as an escape route out of poverty. She wants everything but she has not taken her time to look at how well she has developed her self to live the kind of life she wants.
Then for the guy, I hope u didn't just go after a lady cos u think she wants marriage. Did u actually take you time to see u belong to same class. I am not talking about money now but in terms of exposure. This is what u get when a girl is ahead of u. To her she has to maintain that class and in terms of money can u afford it?

MrMcJay:
Beloved, verily I say unto you, you never get better wife.

She wants you to step up your wedding from 500K to 1.4M claiming you don't value her if you do it less than 1.4. Extravagance is not how much you spend but how much is left after spending.

She's making buying a car a pre-requisite for marrying you? There's nothing you'll ever do enough to satisfy that kind of woman. I honestly don't envy you right now.

You may want to argue with me cos you're in love but I can assure you, it takes more than love to sustain a marriage. She'll be unhappy that you can't meet her conditions adequately and you'll be unhappy that your futile efforts at meeting her needs are unappreciated.

Honestly....... The guy wan enter one chance