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Adaumunocha:
Read dude read!

Adaumunocha:
Hollup! Are they gay ni? Dude better whaka straight go look for a lady to marry. Your friend just fulfilled his social obligation to avoid d wrath of d society in which he came out of.

DanseMacabre:
So were you digging his ass or was your ass being dug?


If it's the former, then look for another hole. However if it's the latter, then the only one I feel really sorry for in this sordid tale is your ass.

Eight years is a helluva long time bro.

DeadRat:
I Cant believe I Read A Damn Gay Story... All I Can Say Is "You Are Insane"... You Need Jesus.

DeadRat:
I Cant believe I Read A Damn Gay Story... All I Can Say Is "You Are Insane"... You Need Jesus.

Adaumunocha:
Bashing men? Well, I admit my mistake. You a fan?

JohnIbori:
Strange, we have Jesus already and guess what? Jesus has no problem with me. If by being gay I'm a sinner, please tell me if you don't fornicate or lust after men. Sister sin is sin no matter how you paint it. Even judging me now which you just did is sin as well.

JohnIbori:
So I met this guy 8yrs ago on twitter, we connected instantly and before we knew it we were in hot love. Like most relationships, ours had its ups and downs. We later broke up for a while and both moved to Canada individually about 3years ago, somehow he reached out to me, we met up and rekindled our relationship (all the while we were dating he had a GF) perhaps this is the place where I tell you all we are both guys.
He's always telling me how much he loves me and how he's not sure he can live with the pain if we ever break up again and heaven knows, I love this guy too so much.

Fast forward to September 2017 (Last month) I found out he was getting married to his long time gf not even directly from him, I was in his house and his friends were talking about aso ebi. Then they asked me if I would come to Lagos for the wedding. I was shocked because I didn't expect someone I call my bf to have made such plans behind my back. I didn't even know he had proposed to the girl. and I wasn't devastated because I had always expected it.

I didn't confront him about it, I never brought it up with him at all. Maybe he got tired of it all and decided to officially tell me by saying "Oga, I'm getting married next month in case you haven't noticed". Just like that, out of the blues. In all of this I was calm because I had always expected it, I just thought I'd be given at least 6 months notice to get my sh*t together
He's getting married on Saturday and still called me yesterday to say he misses me. When the was talking all I could think of was his wife and how we were disrespecting her. (Ps: I don't know her)

Now I know I'm being selfish because last last I will marry a girl too, it's just I once told him we're out of Naija we can bullshit everyone's opinion and fucking get married in Canada no-one has to come so far we're happy but no, he's doing it for his family he says, I'm the first born he says. Ultimately I wish him a happy married life and I've concluded staying away from him and his marriage even though I know it'll cause me pain and that's not what he wants but I have to respect myself and not end up being the Bob risky in his life.

He has told me he'll call off the wedding if I ask him to, but I know that's not what he wants. A friend even advised me to go for the wedding that it might help make things easier if I get to see his "wife" but I can't help feeling I'll stand up when they ask who doesn't want these two to be together.
He still thinks things can be like they were even after his wedding and a part of me wants that as well, but I know our bread can never be toast again.

What can I do?

ehis05:
enlighten me pls

tracyfemmmm:
Its really hard being a gay person from an African background and I can understand the pressure on ur Bf's part. I would say however that u should not settle for less. U cannot share him with his wife because even though his body will be yours his duty will be with his new family. I suggest u find a way to move on. Its not easy dating someone still in the closet but there is a limit to which u can take. The limit is when they marry someone else. U cant find ur own happiness and bliss if he is still taking up emotional real estate in your heart knowing its not gonna lead anywhere.

Ginaz:
Ewwwww. Two men with strong body kissing and f***king in the ass.

O.p I don't mean to be judgmental ,believe me I'm not but it feels so irritating. Like being given poo to eat, that's how I react to gay men. Yuck!

JohnIbori:
Strange, we have Jesus already and guess what? Jesus has no problem with me. If by being gay I'm a sinner, please tell me if you don't fornicate or lust after men. Sister sin is sin no matter how you paint it. Even judging me now which you just did is sin as well.

tracyfemmmm:
Its really hard being a gay person from an African background and I can understand the pressure on ur Bf's part. I would say however that u should not settle for less. U cannot share him with his wife because even though his body will be yours his duty will be with his new family. I suggest u find a way to move on. Its not easy dating someone still in the closet but there is a limit to which u can take. The limit is when they marry someone else. U cant find ur own happiness and bliss if he is still taking up emotional real estate in your heart knowing its not gonna lead anywhere.

lilmax:
lol....and you shall continue in sin because you have grace?

crap....this is the line everyone got wrong, knowing the right thing but can't do the right thing

JohnIbori:
Why not get f*ked in the ass first, see how it feels, then come back to edit this statement

tuoyoojo:
this is solid evidence that many nairaland people comment from the topic without reading

they are both guys o.....doing strong things to each others butt holes

they cannot have kids in case you have not noticed

Diamond13:
Homosexuality has repercussions. You need Jesus. It is not yet late to ask for his assistance.

JohnIbori:
Being in a same sex relationship doesn't necessarily mean one cannot be sexually attracted to a girl (not in all cases). I like boobs I f*king love Pussy too. But in me and my soon to be ex BFs case and in a whole lot of cases, we don't have an emotional attraction to girls.
I have both sexual and emotional attraction to boys in a way that I don't have with girls.