supersystemsnig:

Word...

Why don't she do the call? Is it the sole responsibility of the guy?

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

Same happened to me but I'm way past that. Either you take me for who I am and I for who you are or quit.

IamLEGEND1:
if she wants to talk to you 3 times a day then she should call you. I don't know what is so hard to understand about that.
Nigerian women and their skewered sense of entitlement are the bane of every man's existence in this country.

Bitch_if you feel like talking, call me..... I'm not gonna waste my time and money calling you just so I can listen to you breathe on the phone.
I dey ration my calls..... a 10min call every 2days and if you exhaust your quota then you're O.Y.O

LMAO. I nearly choked with laughter here. I remember calling my chic for 45 minutes and told her that was her call for the week and she should expect my call again in 7 days

I call my gf once in a week or two weeks...


understanding is what matters

ikennaf1:


But does she call you? I'm forced to think she rather calls someone else.

as in eh.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

if it's a long distance relationship then 4times a week is extremely poor

The day my ex complained I wasn't calling her as much as I should, that I ought to be calling her at least 3 times a day, I didn't know when I responded by asking, is it food? She was so pissed by my response that I had to apologise.

This man is working with 19800 ohh. 4 times a week is very very reasonable. Remember he has to call family, some colleagues probably and most importantly his provost before Cds to report about his stomach ache.

Modelqwen:






3times a day?
that's way too much.
i once broke up with a guy because he calls too much. that's stalking.

my current bf doesn't call like that.. like 2 days no
call but we do chat... If he trys kinda stalking me...
i will ignore his calls... He know me wella.

Very sensible of you.

Lmao if its me then the girl would have left since. Me that will have 5k bonus credit to expire tomorrow and I will prefer to just admire the credit till it expires than to call somebody. I hate calls eh. My exes and future gf sef have all complained about it. 4 times a week is even too much for me. If I call u it's either I need something from you, which u will know, or I really care about u, which u will also know.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

She's either jobless or a nag

MhizzAJ:
People don't understand that communication is key in any relationship

That's not an issue
If that's what she wants..then listen to her..maybe that's what she likes

So it's because it's what she wants he should just do it? what about what the guy wants?
they chat on whatsapp, what does she want to do with the call? maybe to show off to friends each time her phone rings she'll be like oh that's my boyfriend he's calling me again. lol.And who said its the guys sole responsibility to be the caller?

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

I’m just like you Bro. What’s the point talking on the phone when don talk about everything for WhatsApp.
Baba, if she can’t accept you for who you are then she has other reasons jare.

MhizSylvia:
That means she's jobless.

Sister, you're highly blessed. Is this what they call "ukwu nwanyi owerri? "

Ifakiland:
Ur a corper, dat alone makes her feel ure probably with anoda gal that's y u don't have her time to call. I suspect ur gf has trust issues...yes she sent u a breakup text, trust me when a gal really wants to break up, she simply stop calling/chatting/texting....Nigerian gals don't breakup tru text, she was just kidding...go visit ur gal, hug her and bang the fork out of her...

Words of the wise

MhizzAJ:
People don't understand that communication is key in any relationship

That's not an issue
If that's what she wants..then listen to her..maybe that's what she likes

The guy is not perturbed and has henceforth moved on. He just want to read into the girl's brain and see what is twitching inside there.
@op, the girl herself is a minor and the case is also a minor. The girl just sought an excuse to opt out and nothing more
Meanwhile, you are also a honey pot licker, you were not that in love with her, you are swearing in vain here on NL to get our attention.
Summarily, you guys are not good for each other because u r not in love and she is too naive to understand serious relationship which I guess u r up to.

She nw ave an option B.

It shouldn't be a problem placing the calls, just out the phone beside a sounding speaker each time you dial her number.

Abeg, is she paracetamol?

kimbraa:
3times a day calls is demanding for too much. Is the guy you're asking to call that much jobless?. Yeah, it's a relationship and people do uncomfortable things to please their spouse or make it work, but that shouldn't take the place of common sense.

They'll get tired of hearing from each other sooner. Secondly, repetition in an act makes it monotonous which kills interest.

For the fact that she wants her boyfriend to call her as much as her sister's husband calls means she's jealous of what her sister has. The girl in question is immature 'cause even if she was jealous, she shouldn't have made the comparison to her boyfriend. That's was too lame.

Sometimes, you'd have to make your point with actions. When he calls to say the same thing every time, it will bore her alright and he'll get what he wants eventually...Less or no calls.

Oh well, we all cannot be diabolical, can we?

Don't mind your girlfriend jawe...and that doesn't mean shes loyal to you. Girls are very deceitful bro but this 10 Tips will make your Relationship Last Long or Forever -> http://www.frabidel.com/blog/10-tips-to-make-your-relationship-last-long-or-forever/

agbonkamen:
Ordinary call 3x in a day is causing this breakup......if she does not pick your calls now you starting complaining now she want your calls Wahala.....Nigerian guys are bad lovers only knows open and close......(3mins)

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How many times do you call your bf in a day?

Is it bad if she call him instead?

This call break up weak me pass

agbonkamen:
Ordinary call 3x in a day is causing this breakup......if she does not pick your calls now you starting complaining now she want your calls Wahala.....Nigerian guys are bad lovers only knows open and close......(3mins)

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How many times do you call your bf in a day?

Is it bad if she call him instead?

This call break up weak me pass....

Relationship is about compromise. Now, see it this way. You told her to leave if she can't accept your none-frequent call habit. Are you not only thinking about yourself? Can there ever be a good relationship without sacrifice? You often have to sacrifice a habit for it to work out. If we all refuse to give in or change a thing about ourselves, it just can't work. She left not because of the call but because you are self-centred, not ready to learn or change a thing for your relationship. What will it take you to improve on calling her? Thought you will say you are such a busy person at work or you can't afford airtime for such calls. But here you are just hard and unwilling to change a simple thing about yourself. Guy, she left cos you don't want to sacrifice you for her.

Try to do her wish and see what next



Seriously woman likes call with their man maybe in other to show that they are in serious relationship

She's suffering from what my people will refer to as UMUAZINESS(childishness)....leave am, when u don waka eh...she no go believe am. She get wahala.

Op no even reply to her message no even ask her why . although I know you will not mind me.

ikennaf1:

You girls and sense of entitlement... What about she calling him? Or she doesn't know how to call? After you'll be seeking for gender equality whereas you put yourselves in your places.

I was on course to ignore the belligerent mentions from guys; but since you played the GE card, you've successfully pushed my buttons.

The Op says he's not a good caller. I don't think there's anything wrong with that in particular (mostly because I'm so terrible at that as well) But then he says he's not perturbed that she told him it's over; and before that he told her that she could end it if she won't accept him for who he is. You might think that's proper and self-evident, but it's in fact a very careless statement to make; people make compromises for their loved ones all the time, but the OP seems to have given off the vibe (even to his girlfriend as he has here) that the relationship wasn't of much value to him and didn't deserve any adjustments on his part. So, in my opinion, the problem isn't that he's a bad-caller but that he doesn't even love his girl to begin with. Why would he stress himself?

A lot of commenters are wondering how a person could squeeze out three calls to their girlfriend/boyfriend from their "busy" day. (WTH). Once in the morning, as you wake up; once before bed; and over lunch (that is if your day is so tightly structured that you have to schedule it properly). But, people who really mean to call, make it organic: to get her opinion over an argument you are having with a co-worker; to help you choose what brand of an item to buy in traffic; to find out if she's okay after you hear unsettling news from the state she lives in. It's possible. If you don't consider it necessary now then...........I wish you love in your life.

Now, to your grouse. This is not about entitlement it's rather about reciprocation. People have different ways of expressing love, and in a new(ish) relationship, there is often that period of 'storming' where people learn each other's love languages. It's not uncommon to go by what you're familiar with in the meantime, while you're figuring it out. If a girl is used to expressing her affection with frequent calls, she would interpret the Ops behavior as extremely cold. He already said she's financially self-sufficient, so he may not even be giving her the occasional gift to tell her she's on his mind. Well, it's obvious now that he didn't care for her; but if he did, it would have been up to him to show her how he expresses his affection. And she, in turn, would have learnt to trust it.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

Bro wait o! Are you her parole officer�

RaggedyAnn:
If you aren't perturbed that she broke up with you then I'm not surprised that you wouldn't call her three times a day. You probably aren't meant for each other. When you meet someone you're crazy about, you'll call her enough times to make her a part of your day. Not just the perfunctory (4) calls per week.

Bro, I love you #NoHomo