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I swear she go call u herself no call her by herself she go look for u

The issue seems infinitesimal in nature. But that's something that bothers her.
I don't think you spoke to her intelligently,it sounded more like"take or leave it"

Find a way to communicate to her without threats and am sure she would come to terms

Only a broken nigga will have time table for calls,if you are in a long distance relationship calling is wat makes the relationship stronger cos u get more addicted to each other ,like if he or she hasn't called you will feel something is missing in you


I and bae works and even at work we talk she calls and I call l,when an angry at work I call her and hearing her voice alone cools me down.different people with different ideas sha

hmm girls can be very complicated. I do my best to call my girl 2 or 3tiems a day. But when I call her, she answer the call like am forcing her to. when I ask her how is she how is it evryone/evryting. All her ans will b fine or I thank God. hardly will she ask me how am I or my family. sumtime I wonder if she thinks I came from fruits family I can't just understand her.
So just let your girl know you are not Sis husband.
how time is she calling you weekly?

MhizSylvia:
That means she's jobless.

Before I married my wife, we seldom communicate even with the distance. We call only when Igbos necessary. This kind woman Nah she go call the guy every second when dem marry. And if he don't return the call she would say he is cheating. It is better they break up because she is really jobless.

Lewaluv:
I can understand. My bae facetime me on all 3 of his breaks plus we live together. Am tired oo

do you even understand what you wrote

Fxwarrior:
Davido

Omo na true o, na so I go write police report over a good motive.

she's not serious.. how often does she call u??

I call my girl not less than 5 times a day ,she also does that . All thanks to my cug package

eezeribe:
Just let her quietly go and die....

Lol... See comment.

stupidity:
I and my bae talk 5 to 10 times daily. That's what has kept us together all the years. She on WhatsApp but we don't chat. If I send "hey babes", next thing she'll send is "call me"

you might be enjoying this now, but that's a control freak you got. Trust me
Now to the op, Bros na money ur babe really need from u not call, she doesn't know how to tell u, na so women be. Take it from me
This ur girl's behavior is related to wat I said on davido's baby mama thread where she supported him in prayers cos of his present ordeal. That is someone who insulted her family oh. Guy na money dey mk babe misbhav, not call.

I remember before I got married, my wife's co-worker always had the idea I worked with a telecommunications firm. Out of the 24 hours a day, we spoke at least each day 3 hours per day. but now that we are married, no be here oo.



She understands the need for savings, so no time to waste money on airtime because we are now working in different time zones, so whatsapp video calls or messenger chats will do when MB is available or when I'm online or she is online permanently.



I would have said if the relationship was still on, the OP should try at least once a day, just to check up........

Reality will set once you get married.


BUT try this in your next relationship
#justSaying

Teenagers

Both of you should face your studies

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

So you no know say that phone you use dey whatapp fit do whatapp call and whatapp video call?

ikennaf1:
Why don't she do the call? Is it the sole responsibility of the guy?

Hahahaha, makes sense

BeautyBaebee:
Quit because of this minor issue? Trust girls, they can break up over any excuse once they start seeing sm1 else they like.
Op, move on. She's tired of you

bae take it easy na, someone can not play with u, is that how u use to do. You are quick to conclude she is seeing someone else while the op seem more confuse than the girl if u ask me, she say make him call her at least 3times a day yet Mr op say him no no waitin she want, if we assume say op no get money for credit what of WhatsApp call, I understand his temperament may not fancy excess display of affection or care but the dude no wan adjust at all, she no ask for money only that she wants to hear his voice frequently....that's a sensible request. 4times a week and yet the dude is not as busy as my hands on this phone... Heheheh

Guy since u too chat on wassapp, call her on wassapp I think its cheaper. U can video call her there too. That's what she cherish, u got to give it to her.

Neyoor:
Thrice a day is not too much now. It's obvious that most ladies need attention. Give her that attention if you love her and she do same.


Or



Pass her to me, let me help u kill her with calls

just passing by o

Hmmmn, if we do chat on whatsapp, Fb fine. I dont fancy calls, once or twice in a week is okay.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

Wat makes a relationship work is listening and trying abit to make the other happy. If she listens to u then u shud listen to her. Im not saying call her 3times a day bt definitely improve on ur calls. Maybe dats wat makes her happy. However if she's d immature type dat keep looking at every single thing going on in other people's relationships to now tell u wat to start doing in urs then call her to order.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

My friend, callin her 4 times in a week is not gud enof. May be someone has been callin her trice a week. you set her on the loose wen you told her to leave if she wanted 2. you shudnt have said that...

the excuse is too childish, I even realized dat too much calls on relationship do more harm dan good. Mennh, I don't have dat fvcking time wasting on a lady. Bro brase up n moving on wit ur life. Am talking from experience. Dey give dillution excuses wen dey want to break up wit a guy.

stupidity:
I and my bae talk 5 to 10 times daily. That's what has kept us together all the years. She on WhatsApp but we don't chat. If I send "hey babes", next thing she'll send is "call me"

re u working in Mtn ?? But to mi dat is jobless tin if u re working in bank because wen u gv 2ok out as 2ook

Just call her in the morning n say"Hello love"u end d call immediately n then call at noon and say "Hope ur fine?"end it immediately too,n then call at night and say "gudnight love n sweet dream"end it immediately too.be live me her three tyms call wud be completely.Don't bother coming to thank me as it would resolve d issue.

Den start caling her 3 times a day

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

Bros, Thank God that She is the one quitting . saves you stress so that you will focus and reset your life. Does She pay you for calling her 3 times.??

Nonsense . Useless girls of these days. When my father married my mother do they use phone? Yet they were 5&6 till death took my father 15 years ago.

Very well written. You come across as someone that has read a lot of romantic books and stuff. Well versed in these kinda topics. Weh done ma

RaggedyAnn:
I was on course to ignore the belligerent mentions from guys; but since you played the GE card, you've successfully pushed my buttons.

The Op says he's not a good caller. I don't think there's anything wrong with that in particular (mostly because I'm so terrible at that as well) But then he says he's not perturbed that she told him it's over; and before that he told her that she could end it if she won't accept him for who he is. You might think that's proper and self-evident, but it's in fact a very careless statement to make; people make compromises for their loved ones all the time, but the OP seems to have given off the vibe (even to his girlfriend as he has here) that the relationship wasn't of much value to him and didn't deserve any adjustments on his part. So, in my opinion, the problem isn't that he's a bad-caller but that he doesn't even love his girl to begin with. Why would he stress himself?

A lot of commenters are wondering how a person could squeeze out three calls to their girlfriend/boyfriend from their "busy" day. (WTH). Once in the morning, as you wake up; once before bed; and over lunch (that is if your day is so tightly structured that you have to schedule it properly). But, people who really mean to call, make it organic: to get her opinion over an argument you are having with a co-worker; to help you choose what brand of an item to buy in traffic; to find out if she's okay after you hear unsettling news from the state she lives in. It's possible. If you don't consider it necessary now then...........I wish you love in your life.

Now, to your grouse. This is not about entitlement it's rather about reciprocation. People have different ways of expressing love, and in a new(ish) relationship, there is often that period of 'storming' where people learn each other's love languages. It's not uncommon to go by what you're familiar with in the meantime, while you're figuring it out. If a girl is used to expressing her affection with frequent calls, she would interpret the Ops behavior as extremely cold. He already said she's financially self-sufficient, so he may not even be giving her the occasional gift to tell her she's on his mind. Well, it's obvious now that he didn't care for her; but if he did, it would have been up to him to show her how he expresses his affection. And she, in turn, would have learnt to trust it.

BeautyBaebee:
Quit because of this minor issue? Trust girls, they can break up over any excuse once they start seeing sm1 else they like.
Op, move on. She's tired of you

As in eh... My gf said I called to much and it's a disturbance, then she broke up...
#teamfucklove and move on

what is the difference btw chat and call? because I don't understand it. both of them no b communication? just yesterday bae said I called her only once but we chatted all through the evening only to wake up and she says "how many times did we talk yesterday", am like wtf!!!

MhizzAJ:
People don't understand that communication is key in any relationship

That's not an issue
If that's what she wants..then listen to her..maybe that's what she likes

Plain and simple!
It's not like it's every call that'll pass the one minute mark.

Hey beautiful just calling to check up on you

Honey mi you know I love you right?
Those kinda calls.

You just said she's rather self sufficient so doesn't require you spending on her. To call again come still dey hard for the OP

I think the girl was right for ending this though. OP says it's cos of the calls, did you read the line he said he's not perturbed by the break up? That must have been his general attitude in the whole relationship but n!ggers too clueless to even realize. Now he's blaming it on number of calls. Arindin somebody