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waywardpikin:
Still, why do women like attention so damn much? Even the ones that act b!tchy or like they don't give a damn about anything or anyone are only doing so to be noticed and for that attention. Shey attention na food ni?

Hian!

Na men no love attention. That's why they cheat and blame it on their wives for neglecting them.

When una jam the one wey no send, you will still come create thread. Gerrarahere mehn! Confused species...

pocohantas:
Na men no love attention. That's why they cheat and blame it on their wives for neglecting them.

When una jam the one wey no send, you will still come create thread. Gerrarahere mehn! Confused species...

Seems my comment struck a nerve. Make una calm down for the attention seeking that's my own. You'll meet some women, they'll want to dominate your whole life as if there aren't other pressing and more realistic things to do with time. The worst is when you're trying to rest after a hard day's work and her call comes in. That's 2 hours about to be wasted on the phone talking about sweet nothings!

Make una enjoy biko...

waywardpikin:
Seems my comment struck a nerve. Make una calm down for the attention seeking that's my own. You'll meet some women, they'll want to dominate your whole life as if there aren't other pressing and more realistic things to do with time. The worst is when you're trying to rest after a hard day's work and her call comes in. That's 2 hours about to be wasted on the phone talking about sweet nothings!

Make una enjoy biko...

Then avoid those kind of women and stick to the one who is okay with receiving/giving calls once in a month. There are lots of women like that, you guys find them unfeminine...like, how won't a woman be all over you? God's gift to women...

No nerve struck.
Are men the ones that don't like attention yet they cheat on their busy wives for neglecting them? You didn't answer that?

pocohantas:
Then avoid those kind of women and stick to the one who is okay with receiving/giving calls once in a month. There are lots of women like that, you guys find them unfeminine...like, how won't a woman be all over you? God's gift to women...

No nerve struck.
Are men the ones that don't like attention yet they cheat on their busy wives for neglecting them? You didn't answer that?

Generally, women are more outspoken than men. A woman can use three paragraphs talking about something while a man would only use one sentence. Men do a lot of processing, planning and thinking upstairs (not saying women don't o). Sometimes a man just wants to be by himself and ruminate. When a lady calls TOO much (and yes, there is such a thing) or complains regularly about his shortcomings he is likely to withdraw even further away from her. No one likes having to explain himself over and over again over the same issue. At this point he might even stop picking her calls because he knows that if he picks na nagging, complaining, and 'sorry sorry' go follow.

However, in the case where both parties are hopelessly crazy about each other (which you will admit is kinda rare these days), they will call each other 24/7 without these kinda complaints from the OP. But sometimes even crazy in love couples fall out of love over a period (OP's relationship has lasted over 2 years). If that is the case here the OP should just cut her losses and move on. No need to keep pursuing the guy and then bitterly start to slander him later.

I'm just explaining things from a guy's perspective because I'm aware men and women don't think alike. About your last question, both genders cheat so let's not dwell on that.

waywardpikin:
Generally, women are more outspoken than men. A woman can use three paragraphs talking about something while a man would only use one sentence. Men do a lot of processing, planning and thinking upstairs (not saying women don't o). Sometimes a man just wants to be by himself and ruminate. When a lady calls TOO much (and yes, there is such a thing) or complains regularly about his shortcomings he is likely to withdraw even further away from her. No one likes having to explain himself over and over again over the same issue. At this point he might even stop picking her calls because he knows that if he picks na nagging, complaining, and 'sorry sorry' go follow.

However, in the case where both parties are hopelessly crazy about each other (which you will admit is kinda rare these days), they will call each other 24/7 without these kinda complaints from the OP. But sometimes even crazy in love couples fall out of love over a period (OP's relationship has lasted over 2 years). If that is the case here the OP should just cut her losses and move on. No need to keep pursuing the guy and then bitterly start to slander him later.

I'm just explaining things from a guy's perspective because I'm aware men and women don't think alike. About your last question, both genders cheat so let's not dwell on that.

You didn't answer my question, Sir.
Men don't love attention,why do they cheat on their busy wives for neglecting them? This is the question, maybe you missed it.

I know both cheat, I also know both love attention in varying degrees. Answer the question.

pocohantas:
Some men change for better when they hit money, some change for worse. People will tell you he is busier, that's the perfect excuse. Sometimes it's more than that. You don't fit into his ideal day and plan anymore. Someone that truly loves you will make out time for you. If you have really played your part, call him, observe him and talk to him... then you will know where you fall.

After carefully observing my ex way back and doing my best to bridge the communication gap, I discovered I don't fit into his ideal day anymore. I made sure I GH steadily without PHing

There is something called work life balance, lots of men don't know about it. They feel it's normal their relationship suffers because they are making some money. They carry this same attitude into marriage and we end up with frustrated, konjified wives.

Giving you money doesn't mean he still loves you, he might be paying you your severance package...

You couldn't have said it better.

pocohantas:
You didn't answer my question, Sir.
Men don't love attention,why do they cheat on their busy wives for neglecting them? This is the question, maybe you missed it.

I know both cheat, I also know both love attention in varying degrees. Answer the question.

A man that wants to cheat will cheat, whether his wife gives him attention or not. Wouldn't you agree?

Greenbullet:
Why are you behaving like a fool , a man that is trying to make ends meet for both of you ,and you say he dosent care right now you should be there for him, go to his house to cook when he is at work, clean his house and make him happy, you are here complaining

What a load of balderdash! So you can advise your daughter to be going to cook and clean in a man's house like a maid in the name of relationship? Out of 24 hours, is it too much to take just a couple of minutes to reach out to someone you call a partner? He's not obligated to call her but she is supposed to go to his house and carryout maid duties, is that what you call a relationship?

@OP, the truth is love isn't just enough in any relationship/marriage. You claimed ur boo ain't calling you like he use to. The bitter truth here is that you're a lesser prority on his to-do list. I will only advise you to make urself indispensable by finding means to add value to his life or bring something of value to the table (not necessarily financial)

dominique:
What a load of balderdash! So you can advise your daughter to be going to cook and clean in a man's house like a maid in the name of relationship? Out of 24 hours, is it too much to take just a couple of minutes to reach out to someone you call a partner? He's not obligated to call her but she is supposed to go to his house and carryout maid duties, is that what you call a relationship?

they are different types of relationships ,the girl obviously knowns the attitude of her partner , how can you say that cooking and caring for him is maid duties, he is working hard for crying out loud , he wants a future for himself which needs maximum concentration , this is the time for her to establish her importance in his life, she should be there for him and call him even though she isn't called , I passed through this phase once when I was concentrated on my job , having someone caring for me was what helped me, my girlfriend (now fiancee) called me every morning by 5 am to wake me up for work , called me by 12 during break to ask me what I wanted to eat , she cooked and brought it yo the office, when I got home I also saw food, it's not because she is jobless (she runs a boutique) ,its because she knows my determination , she knows I wanted to build my own house ,and I had to work hard to do this , I am not saying my case applies to all, am saying my case applies to many, no man wants to stay in a rented apartment forever ,if you think this period is for lovey dovey then I am sorry , you are not the right woman for that man.

THANK YOU @ ALL
BUH IT ISNT AS EASY AS YOU ALL MADE IT SOUND

Glorialaw2020:
THANK YOU @ ALL
BUH IT ISNT AS EASY AS YOU ALL MADE IT SOUND

Yea. NOTHING is EASY

We jus strive hard to make it work.

VERDA:
While I think a some girls crave too much attention from their men, I don't think a two or 3 mins call in the morning to know how ur girl is and wish her a good day and another at night to wish her a good night or at least picking hers will stop any man from making money or indicate he is jobless.....same goes to other family members, everything in life is about balance, I work hard building my business because I want to be free later on to spend time and money on the people I love. There is so much more to life.

What happens to she calling the guy at night.
Must a guy do all the calling in a relationship to show he cares?
What is left for the girl to do?

laliga01:
What happens to she calling the guy at night.
Must a guy do all the calling in a relationship to show he cares?
What is left for the girl to do?

If you reread what i wrote,you will notice I also wrote "or him picking her calls" which implies she should call too.

toastedbread:
small matter. talk with him. maybe you're the one who's displayed some shady attitudes and he's acting on what you've shown him.
give him your attention. leave those Whatsapp guys and talk to him. sometimes he might just go online to see if you'll recognize his presence but you're too busy loling with ya chykers.
be more committed and he'll change.

Buhahaha... Lemme not talk.

IAMSASHY:
hey gal, no industrious man wl gv u al his time, he wl jst try as much as possible to b dere 4 u, it's only jobless bfs dat wl cul u morning, afternoon and night, dnt b deceived and pls gv hm some space, if u pester hm 2much,he wl b tired and begin to avoid u. Let hm cul weneva he misses u

I totally agree with you on this. Some ladies do not understand this.

QueenSekxy:
I keep telling girls...never trust the love of a broke guy..they can change once they start making money,,and will start seeing you as an old fashion....they start thinking that one woman is not enough for them
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nnem,better first struck him than wait to get strucked...who boyfriend epp sef..mtchew


broke baboons

You're really hurt. Sorry for all the heartbreaks.

IAMSASHY:
hey gal, no industrious man wl gv u al his time, he wl jst try as much as possible to b dere 4 u, it's only jobless bfs dat wl cul u morning, afternoon and night, dnt b deceived and pls gv hm some space, if u pester hm 2much,he wl b tired and begin to avoid u. Let hm cul weneva he misses u

Exactly!

Adaumunocha:
Buhahaha... Lemme not talk.

infact, you must talk! i want to see your write up. oya talk.

QueenSekxy:
I keep telling girls...never trust the love of a broke guy..they can change once they start making money,,and will start seeing you as an old fashion....they start thinking that one woman is not enough for them
.



nnem,better first struck him than wait to get strucked...who boyfriend epp sef..mtchew


broke baboons

y are u so pained? u even para pass the complainant! no cary ur relationship frustration com nairaland na

op what colour has he changed to?

toastedbread:
infact, you must talk!
i want to see your write up.
oya talk.

No comment.

VERDA:
If you reread what i wrote,you will notice I also wrote "or him picking her calls" which implies she should call too.

That I agree with you...so
Some girls have the impression you must call them every day and night to show you care.

laliga01:
That I agree with you...so
Some girls have the impression you must call them every day and night to show you care.

True that.....relationship is a two way thing, the moment it's nurturing is left for one party alone, it will crumble eventually.