₦airaland Forum

dafeyankee:
I am available.

Make them come marry me.

madridguy:
I blame poverty.

thowbie7ven:
But you mention Men spending their salaries on women hence leading to low or no saving required to setting up a Family...now you're saying he should spend little...you women sef, una too dey contradict una selves too much...

yeyerolling:
Unneccessary high standards forgetting that there are more women dan men. Cost of marriage rites. Intro dat oyinbo does over dinner, we go sow cloth cook food. Do trad and white wedding con rent hall join do reception. With every tins costing 1m or more. The babe will say dey hv to rent 2 bedroom flat and also get her a car. Na dem sabi o dey wont wanna spend der money too. Once saw d akkant balance of a babe at work looking for husband. I was shocked to my bones o. She no.get car, shes 31 and had 13m in her akkant. How many 31 year old guys hv 2m self.

majekoam:
You think banning sex for six months will change anything? Those who fool around will get married and still cheat, the marriage will likely crash and you are back to square one. Its depends on the man if he wants to cheat he will and by the way this your sentence is nonsense:

" Ban premarital sex for six months and see whether men would not get married.And having different relationships prior to marriage would not allow them to progress, they have to spend so much sustaining their girlfriends, so business would go down or they can't save their salary"

So you havent heard the stories of a man providing for everything and then finding out his Fiance was sleeping with other men?? Even some were mentioned here on nairaland.

Stopped being IGNORANT in stating that this is somehow 100% down to the fault of men.

Even in general I cant stand it when people Say "Men/All men are this...." "All women/women are this"...Its Irritating.

darkmarky:
Mchew... When I am ready to marry, I will look for a wife in the neighboring countries.. Nigerian women are something else

EVILFOREST:
Guy. Abeg take am easy ...
It's not easy on these Ladies oooo
After all, na guys like me and you slack those pussssies......
The COUNTRY hard.
I can't even resign one of my jobs, because I keep dishing out cash to single siblings that are graduates every week

darkmarky:
Mchew... When I am ready to marry, I will look for a wife in the neighboring countries.. Nigerian women are something else

Prettyenit18:
when I said very little I meant it. Like one thousand naira every 3months just to show that you care.

Prettyenit18:
As far as am concerned, the major reason why men have refused to get married is because the society has made premarital sex legal. Ban premarital sex for six months and see whether men would not get married.And having different relationships prior to marriage would not allow them to progress, they have to spend so much sustaining their girlfriends, so business would go down or they can't save their salary.

Islie:
http://pmexpressng.com/single-women-cry-scarcity-suitors/

walexy100:
Can"t the eligible women stabilise themselves financially and go for the men;must men do everything?

Prettyenit18:
1) Don't be insultive am just stating my own point of view.
2) you still don't understand what I meant by "the society made premarital sex legal." if the society was better and premarital and post sex were to be frowed up. Men would get married and marriages would last because they are concentrating on their spouse.
3) you are right some women are wicked too. Maybe men should not spend so much on their fiancé.
4) the reason why I mentioned only men is because they are the ones who propose to women especially in African society. You are Also right about it not been 100% men's fault-- if the ladies did not open their legs who would the men sleep with? But it's still 70% their fault because must ladies open their legs hoping that he would marry them.

Proudlyngwa:
Poor economy has nothing to do with getting married .People are becoming more materialistic and are not willing to make sacrifices .

slyng:
I think it's common to a particular set of people, their guyz tend to remain single until they supposedly make enough cash. if they dont come for you, is it me that will come? gbagbe

majekoam:
People Need to stop blaming the economy. That is nonsense.

The reason are people choices.

A young man will earn a salary and spend most of it on fooling around, buying "fresh clothes", clubbing. Where will he find money to provide for a family when he doesnt save? If you earn a modest salary must you go out? If you have friends that make you feel bad for not coming out...omo you dont have friends. If they know you want to settle down a good friend will push you to do the right thing. Lastly many young men cant put their ego/immature mindset away and thats why they dont marry or if they do the marriage fails.

A young woman will be make money and be spending it on materialistic things and doesn't save. If you feel that as a woman you have a right to a relationship/marriage because you are simply a woman you are very far off. In my limited experiences ive been involved with women who expected the world but yet will not call unless you do, will not come to see you unless you pick them or give them money beforehand etc etc

If people treated other as they would want to be treated then you would see things change. The real reason for this dearth is that people want to take as much as they can with the least of effort....Do you know what kind of people have that mindset THIEVES AND CRIMINALS.

Wise up. If you want to get married know that everyone has weaknesses. Work on yourself. Look for people who are willing to change. Lastly stopped being fooled by only looks (They will fade, especially if the person is a**hole) and money (can be made and lost)....the really dont mean sheeet.

Peace

ivolt:
Stop perpetuating this myth, there are no more women than men.
However, there are fewer financially stable men than eligible women.

Rexnegro:
they Are more than something else my broda... their sense of reasoning alone is awkwardly awkward, how much more their doings ...abeg which Country You dey go make I follow for back maybe Your future wife neighbor or her friend go Be my own wife. hala me when You Are ready to go lol

thowbie7ven:
reply your mail pls...

majekoam:
Firstly I dont know where I have insulted you. If it is calling you ignorant i feel that is justified because you made an erroneous statement that is not 100% true. Even since biblical times pre-marital sex was occurring. People weren't automatically killed for it...or not to my knowledge. There are examples where one of Jacobs/Israels daughter was forced upon. They didnt kill the man...it was later when he came back to marry her. It was then that Reuben and Simeon killed him out of revenge. Pre-marital sex is frowned upon...not illegal. I fully understood what you meant. Society has relaxed about the issue. Fine. Totally agree.

Secondly you have made another comment: "But it's still 70% their fault because must ladies open their legs hoping that he would marry them" Please justify this. If you can explain I will apologise and not say another thing.

Lastly this is your first post:
"As far as am concerned, the major reason why men have refused to get married is because the society has made premarital sex legal. Ban premarital sex for six months and see whether men would not get married.And having different relationships prior to marriage would not allow them to progress, they have to spend so much sustaining their girlfriends, so business would go down or they can't save their salary.

Well. I call heaven and earth to witness what I am about to say. I am 28. I gave my Life to Christ April 9, 2015 and since then I have not had slept with another woman. I Own/Manage a Table and Pure water company and looking into getting a second job. I am not an ugly guy. I might not be anything spectacular but I know im not ugly. I have been wanting to get married for a few years. I am not a womanizer as it is not in my nature and with having 4 sisters my conscious wouldn't feel right if i were because I can only imagine how furious I would be if someone did that to my Sisters. I have been involved with four women....EVER. Two of them were not interested in knowing me the morning after (from the days I used to go clubbing). The two others were not interested in putting any effort. I realised I wasn't fully right with God and that I had to mature, grow and become a man. So tell me...hasnt my testimony completely destroyed the comment you made above?? If it hasnt why has a man who doesnt womanize, engage in premarital sex anymore, has an income and is progressing not able to get married?? Maybe it is more than SEX!!!!

Normally i dont go hard at people especially women but I will blast anyone that wants to generalize all men. Im sick of all the hypocrisy.

In my experiences women cheat more. I have NEVER cheated on a girlfriend. I have been cheated on....so when i see people talking about all men i get irritated. LADIES IF A MAN CHEATS ON YOU SAY THAT MAN CHEATED ON YOU AND NOT ALL MEN because that is what has happened. MEN THE SAME APPLIES.

GENERALIZATIONS ARE WHAT DESTROYS SOCIETIES. All YORUBA'S ARE THIS, IGBO ARE THIS, HAUSA'S ARE THIS....MEN ARE THIS, WOMEN ARE THIS....YOUTH ARE THIS....

Im Out...before I explode.....

columbus007:
yeah you are fvcking right,for instance the yoros are very easy to get married to,just get them pregnant first,then secondly after birth look for a carpenter to do a flat kpako maybe 1k,then look for 3k for her after which she can go and start selling agege bread all over the street.

alexistaiwo:
Let's stop deceiving ourselves.
There's nothing like shortage of suitors, do those pre-wedding people and Saturdays weddings crews fall from heaven

Look around you and tell me how many single ladies you see possessing marriageable characters

After already dating like eight guys I know in a space of two months, you want me to marry you when it's my turn to expand the honeypot.

Kolewerk

Prettyenit18:
If you go back to your previous post and read it carefully you would see where you have insulted me.

Sweetheart I am a lady, I don't know how to put it in words but most women open their legs with hopes that he would marry them. But luckily for me I had a painful childhood so I don't have much faith in humanity. I have refused to open my legs.

Wow, so you are financially independent and you can cater for a family, that's very good. Because you repented, and stopped following women your business succeeded and you are progressing. You have agreed with one of my points.if you really want to get married you can, just go to the village and look for a decent girl. Or tell your parents to help you find one.

When I said most girls that open their legs for guys are hopping to get married I wasn't referring to oloshos.

thedondada:
Lol.

This is simply saying people should get married because of sex. It's irrational and such a marriage is doomed for failure. What if the sex isn't as mind blowing as they both expect it to be. And they begin to wonder if another person would be better.

Your point of view is your choice that doesn't make it reasonable.

It would only make black market sex cost more.

No need to discuss further.

majekoam:
I see it. Im sorry I shouldn't have called your sentence nonsense and I will agree to disagree.

Vado:
So many relationships have gone sour because of financial restraints. Today girls aren't cut for that Surulere bus like our moms did.