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Another dear pregnant woman needs our advice and prayers:

This is my second pregnancy. When I discovered I was pregnant with our second child,we were very excited. Timi,our little girl was almost two years old,a perfect time to plan to enlarge our family. As usual,we started to plan for the arrival of the baby. I started my antenatal classes and all was well. I am presently in my second trimester,however,I am dealing with my husband’s attitude and behavior which is causing my blood pressure to rise.

Not long after I entered my second trimester,I observed that my husband was not into love making as usual. I mean,I was thinking he was being considerate by not allowing me to be under too much pressure but after a month,I became a little worried. He didnt even touch me for a full month. I then had to ask him what the problem was. He said he didnt want to bother me. I told him I wasnt complaining. Later on,he said its work stress. I decided to allow him rest. But I was still bothered as the second month is half way through and he still is not showing any interest in sex.

What is funny is that with pregnancy,there is a lot of emotions and hormones driving me. I feel very hormonal and really want my husband but he seems not interested. This is killing me.

I had to pick it up with him. I was so angry and told him he was denying me my right as a wife. He blurted by saying he cannot be aroused by the sight of a pregnant belly anytime he sees me. I am alarmed because,during my first pregnancy,we made love until the baby was born.

My gut tells me that something is wrong so I cannot let this go. I have cried my eyes so much. At my last ante natal,my BP was unusually high. My doctor had to ask me what the problem was. I finally had to tell him,I had to tell someone because it was really bugging me. I have actually thought of the possibility that he is cheating on me.

The doctor asked me to call my husband to see him. When I told him,my husband asked me why the doctor wants to see him,I told him. And that made him very angry. We quarreled and he actually walked out of the house that night.Again,I have been crying and really emotionally traumatized.

I had to speak to my elder sister about this matter. She counselled me to be patient and continue to pray for my husband. She does not want to talk about it to him because,it is obvious that my husband does not want to talk to anyone about it. He says he does not need anyone to counsel him on our sex life.

The reason I am writing this to you is because,I am so disturbed. I have tried to pray and not be bothered but its very hard. I am also afraid that he may truly be cheating. If that is true,I cannot wait to find out as I don’t want to loose my husband.

Please share with the group members,I really want sound advice on what to do.



From Maggie,

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Truly.. People change when the get married

Is it that the sex drive increases when one is pregnant
Too long...didn't read all of it though

Well, this sure is not a serious issue. Most men who are married will want to enjoy their first year of marital bliss with their spouse to any lenght of time even if she's pregnant. It's the first taste of conjugal bliss for both couples and as time begins to wear away diminishing returns will begin to creep in if the flames of their compactibility is not kept alive.

I believe there are issues bothering him and this has made him completely switched off from those sexual excitement. It could be stress or some financial challenge. Or maybe he doesn't find it interesting or exciting making love to his pregnant wife. Other factors could cause it.

All she has to do is put on a smiling face, keep fit (even with her preggy state), wear those sexy lingerie or hot bumshots while at home and use her feminine 'moves' to initiate sex at any given opportunity. Trust me all these will wake his libido and he will be back to his 'banging' expertise/prowess...

MhizzAJ:
Is it that the sex drive increases when one is pregnant
Too long...didn't read all of it though

You gotta read 'coz it applies to almost all the preggy ladies of which you will be someday

MhizzAJ:
Is it that the sex drive increases when one is pregnant
Too long...didn't read all of it though

yes it applies to all preg woman..
your sex drive increases

some men cn b funny shaa, it mayb dat ur stature changed and he is no longer attracted to u, I no a man dat always threatens his wife dat d moment she begin to grow fat, dat she wl leav his house and d threat manifested after d wife delivered dia first child. During ur romantic periods, always find out 4rm ur partner Wat really attracted hm/her 2 u, try 2 keep dose tins place 2 keep d fire burning, pray and work on ur self and dresses too.

DrinkLimca:
How did you pass your English exam paper in waec?

Meaning??

DrinkLimca:
Too lazy for you to read what the op posted..

I find long articles boring
Guess you read it
Could you summarise for me

DrinkLimca:
A pregnant wife is worried that her husband is denying her sex and she thinks he is cheating.

Straight to the point
Gracias

I have a feeling the Op is daelyar