franchasng:
lol, fine morning bro

fine morning to you too.

Really

the guy in question should just run for his life


such lady is the devil that kills their husband when things finally get worse

this reminds me of the
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE CHURCH

KaBabs1:


And that's a bad thing? I disagree with you. She's just being blunt and telling the guy that she cannot reduce her standard of living and live in the suburbs. A man must be a man and must able to take care of his wife and kids. She is not aware of this man's plans at all and that is probably why she declined his proposal. My advice is the guy should tell the lady his plans. If she rejects him again then I guess she's not just into him.

But things won't always be rosy, what if the money grows wings and flies away? It's true there's nothing wrong with having standards, but I believe we should wise going about it.

KaBabs1:


And that's a bad thing? I disagree with you. She's just being blunt and telling the guy that she cannot reduce her standard of living and live in the suburbs. A man must be a man and must able to take care of his wife and kids. She is not aware of this man's plans at all and that is probably why she declined his proposal. My advice is the guy should tell the lady his plans. If she rejects him again then I guess she's not just into him.

Oga I am ashamed reading your comment, so what happens if they marry and something happens to their finance tomorrow, that means the wife will leave him and go after rich men since she can never lower her standards. Smh

jacyhelen:


he who fails to listen will land in the grave..
Love is blind but marriage,cheating and disrepectfull woman will open ur eyes.

I dey tell u!

Sapiosexuality:
Dude please, just show him this thread. I just pity the dude. He thinks love is enough to set eternity. If he goes broke in the marriage someday isn't the marriage going to collapse? Does he need such partner and can he deal with that for the rest of his life? Love is not enough. But I don't think he'd listen to us. I just pity the dude. What a pity! And the dude even listens to his parent on the tribe to marry from! Are you sure he's ready?

He's not!

he tells the lady his mine and the lady also tells him her mine. by now it w'll have occure to him that ladies of now a days they are all bound for something good and no something to suffer for. so if you're finally arive to a point that you have all it takes to go to any relationship of your choice and maintain it then forget about testing.

khristal87:
U see, when a lady loves u, she does nt really care abt hw much u earn if she wants to settle down with u...u may regret marryng dt lady... Jst my observation. Ladies like dt dnt even last one week with me. Immediately i disocover them, i quit.

Just left one who couldn't cook, no kitchen skills and was VERY PROUD about it (telling me she s not interested in cooking or learning how, and that we could always order for food, eat out or get a cook and how her ex was always doing the cooking and breakfast in bed thingy). Well, no be quarrel, she has rights to what she wants in life and me too get my own right and seeing her right be like my left, I kukuma jejely pack my load. I nor dey for wahala.

Get a cook? Where d money?!

Barzinime:
You want to do what you normally do abi?

lolz , we call it #assize.

So what was the point 'testing' her if he won't run after she failed?

duchez:


He decided to test this lady to find out if she will stick with him if the going ever gets tough (as a result of our insistence that the lady isn't really into him). And so he told her that the deal he was working on had failed and that he has become broke. He said he will like to marry her and try to sustain themselves on his current salary of about 180k pending when things become better but she replied that she can't marry someone who is earning 180k monthly. She feels it would make her drop from her standard of living as she wants to live inside the city of Abuja and not in the outskirts like Karu or Kubwa. Mind you, her parents live in one of these places and the guy is not even thinking of living in anywhere beyond these places like Nyanya/Mararaba.

This guy loves this girl so bad and is a very hardworking guy. He is hoping to get promoted when he completes his ICAN and is even looking at getting a better job in a bigger Government Agency or a Multinational company. He is so distraught at what the lady said. We have advised him to forget about her and move on, but he is considering opening up to the lady that what he said about the deal was just a test in the hope to make her re-consider him.

IForgotMyLoginD:
So what was the point 'testing' her if he won't run after she failed?

My Sista,

You have simply asked a question that is so simple and so valid. My concern is that we are raising "d.a.f.t" and weak boys these days. That is why fathers should spend more time in nurturing boys, so that they can grow up to be real men and not some mummy's pet.

Secondly relationship issues mostly come out with causalities that follow the same template - It is those partners that will harm them that they will choose to stick with

franchasng:
I didn't know such name exist here o

please be properly guided. Dingbang is a Chinese name.. Not some sort of joke..

.

When life become tough she will leave him and marry another person... Advice ur friend very well...Marriage is a school

These are my thoughts.
.. Your present girlfriend is not ready for marriage and does not want to 'suffer'. So let her go.
. Don't go back to your ex cos she could have moved on and she might need to be doing a lot of eye service to please your family members. That will be too much stress.

duchez:
Hello N'landers.

My friend just shared his story with me. I have advised him but I need your thoughts.

He met a lady around March this year and they became friends. He is an Accountant and works with a Federal Government Agency in Abuja. Along the line he asked her out and she insisted he finishes his ICAN before they can start dating.

Long story short, she later accepted to date him. Probably because he passed all but one of the exams in the Professional stage of ICAN. He recently invested some huge sum of money into a biz deal. He told me it was actually all of his savings and he would become a multi millionaire if the deal works out.

He decided to test this lady to find out if she will stick with him if the going ever gets tough (as a result of our insistence that the lady isn't really into him). And so he told her that the deal he was working on had failed and that he has become broke. He said he will like to marry her and try to sustain themselves on his current salary of about 180k pending when things become better but she replied that she can't marry someone who is earning 180k monthly. She feels it would make her drop from her standard of living as she wants to live inside the city of Abuja and not in the outskirts like Karu or Kubwa. Mind you, her parents live in one of these places and the guy is not even thinking of living in anywhere beyond these places like Nyanya/Mararaba.

This guy loves this girl so bad and is a very hardworking guy. He is hoping to get promoted when he completes his ICAN and is even looking at getting a better job in a bigger Government Agency or a Multinational company. He is so distraught at what the lady said. We have advised him to forget about her and move on, but he is considering opening up to the lady that what he said about the deal was just a test in the hope to make her re-consider him.

Please, were we wrong with our advice? Meanwhile, this guy's ex loves him like there is no tomorrow and she will gladly marry him even if he was earning 30k monthly but due to family pressure on him to marry a graduate and an Igbo lady, he broke up with her. Me thinks he can still persuade his parents to accept the lady.

If you were in our shoes, will you advice your friend differently?

Thanks for your comments. The lady earns around 180k but she mentioned that she spends around 300k when going shopping and she is scared she would no longer be able to do that if she marries him as she would have to contribute almost all her salary to maintaining the family.

If his parents are deciding the type of wife he shud marry then he is not yet ready na, any girl that arries him will suffer even if he earns 1Mill per month.

ibkkk:
If i were in his shoes,I'LL GO BACK TO MY EX against all odds.

That thing called love shouldn't be based on material things alone.UNCONDITIONAL LOVE lasts a lifetime.

It surprises me when people say unconditional love. There's no unconditional love on this earth again. Relationship sucks if there's no money.

The girl is fake, all is Abj girls leaving fake life, imagine ur parents are not staying in town and she is forming rich man pikin.... y cant u start life with 180k to me it is very cool , u both earn 360k which is very good to start life, but because of extravagant lifestyle u said no.
My advice to the guy is for him to leave the babe she is not the kind of lady that can stay with a man in a wen tins go bad, he should convince his parents and marry the oda lady, love don't care who u are ,wat u have or who u will be. All he needs now is a woman that will forever be with him in good and bad , a supportive woman and not a slay queen.... his parents needs to know that tribe is nothing or status but happiness maters and he also as a man should fight for his love cos marriage is a forever tin.
Thanks.

YOU ARE ON POINT.

[quote author=franchasng post=63018588]You sound naive. See my brother, there are millions of ladies right now, as in very hot looking and working class ladies living in Nigeria and even abroad with international citizenship looking for a decent guy to marry. You won't meet them if you don't package yourself well and first see yourself as a born king.

No girl is too pretty nowadays because there are millions of hotter girls everywhere you go today.

The simple truth is, the girl isn't into the guy simple. The girl has another guy she prefers that's deceiving her; that's how most ladies behave until that guy they love bleeps them up then their eyes will open to their past mistakes and great guys they lost and by then, they are clocking 30+ and desperate which drives better guys farther away from them.

Some guys are born mugus....even if they are earning 1million monthly, girls will keep fucking them up because they got no class, no efizy, no taste and are too mumuish, and I see this particular guy as su

People like complicating their problems. Advice your friend to find someone of his level to marry. The girl obviously comes from an upper class family and is used to a certain lifestyle. Such people are not willing to drop their standards for anyone and should be left for the Big boys to handle.The reason why there are so many people get divorced is the differences in lifestyle.

My advise: NEVER GET MARRIED.

Antina:


He says she knows his plan and he faked to her that the plan doesn't work out!! Meaning they are going to settle down with the 180k the guy is collecting!!

What if after the marriage things start going "south-south" will she still be maintaining her standard of living??

Not "South-South" please but rather "south".

Nwodosis:
My dear poverty is relative!

You're wrong! Real poverty is ABSOLUTE.

Who is she maintaining standard for in marriage? Who her standard epp?

Antina:


He says she knows his plan and he faked to her that the plan doesn't work out!! Meaning they are going to settle down with the 180k the guy is collecting!!

What if after the marriage things start going "south-south" will she still be maintaining her standard of living??

Honestly, I will advise your friend to run far away from this lady because from my experience such a Lady won't stay with him when things get a bit bad for him. She will never respect him and may eventually desert him. Your friend should look for somebody that will love him unconditionally. His ex is the best woman for him if possible.

KaBabs1:


And that's a bad thing? I disagree with you. She's just being blunt and telling the guy that she cannot reduce her standard of living and live in the suburbs. A man must be a man and must able to take care of his wife and kids. She is not aware of this man's plans at all and that is probably why she declined his proposal. My advice is the guy should tell the lady his plans. If she rejects him again then I guess she's not just into him.

slay queen, olosho, pepper dem gang spotted. Keep living a liability life dnt go and husle ur own..smh

please and please it is better you dont marry her and you do and later divorce

sucre:
@ops. Tell your friend to run � for his life o. Which kind love be that. Run run run to your ex o. If it's an ibo girl you need you will see good once especially in the east infarct master degree holders they will marry him for even 80k monthly income but his ex is the ideal wife. Don't marry that extravagant crook,he will regret.i have been married for nine years now against my families choice of marrying someone from the east but guess what, my family now celebrates the lady I married. PM me I need to talk to your friend. One should never make a mistake in marriage please, So you won't die before your time

wow, I love this I have pmed you.I need advice as well.

Nwodosis:

My dear poverty is relative!

Lol