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Jzhane 13/12/2017 Family 3 Comments

Dear Lively Stones,

My husband gave his side of the story of what happened in my marriage. Permit me to give my own side of the story as well.

First of all,I must say that I am very sorry for cheating on my husband with an ex. I am deeply sorry. I know I did something very wrong and unforgivable. The thought of it makes me cringe and I can NEVER forgive myself for what I did. I used to hear of people cheating on their wives and wives cheating on their husbands:never in a million years did I dream that could be me.


My name is Ebiere. I love my husband. We have been married for almost seven years. We are blessed with two lovely children:one boy and one girl.

When Malvin and I got married,we were very happy. One thing though that has been an issue in our marriage is the fact that I have more sexual libido than my own husband. Initially,I accepted the fact that my husband didnt like s*x as much as I did. But after my first child,it got worse. My husband may not touch me for almost one month. It was a miracle that I conceived the second time.

We have been talking about this for some time. He encouraged me to use sexual toys to satisfy myself,even porn. Though that helped but it was not the same. I told him we could seek medical help but he would not listen. He says he cannot go to a fellow man (i.e,a doctor) and say he cannot satisfy his wife,that its a taboo. I tried to get him drugs but he didnt take them as prescribed.

Another major frustration I have is that my husband’s earning has not changed since we got married. The same amount he used to earn is what he still does. Thats not enough for our family of four. Even though I work as a nurse,I also make very little as well. I have encouraged my husband to let me do some side business ,maybe start up a baby clothing shop but he will not agree. He says I should concentrate on raising our kids. Well,I try but we have constant financial challenges and as long as we are not having multiple streams of income,things may not get better. This financial tension causes tension most times. When its time to pay rent,school fees,feeding clothing,etc..we quarrel alot. I stopped asking my mum to assist us after almost seven years because,I was getting embarrassed by the fact that still couldnt stand on our feet.

Recently,I have seen not one,not two…nude pictures that some random ladies have sent my husband. When I asked him,he says he does not know them but how did they get his no? This is really frustrating me. Someone who will nit touch me for almost two to three weeks will be looking at other women naked bodies...see more

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Hello Mrs Malvin.
I thank you and your husband for agreeing to let us share your story. You are both going through alot at the moment and our prayers are with you.
First,I congratulate you for admitting your wrong. No matter what,you didnt have to cheat on your husband. If he did that to you,am not sure you would be quick to forgive.
Now,as I advised your husband,you both need to see a counselor. Once he agrees,I or any of our counselors can see you. I know he is hurting but its time to talk and begin to find solutions to your many issues,so that healing can begin. The infidelity is last straw but clearly ,there are many unresolved issues.
Lack of sex in a marriage is a huge challenge but it can be addressed.
The other issues,financial and emotional,all can be addressed. Let us know what both of you agree upon.This too shall pass.
God bless you.

ORAGBON:
Jzhane 13/12/2017 Family 3 Comments

Dear Lively Stones,

My husband gave his side of the story of what happened in my marriage. Permit me to give my own side of the story as well.

First of all,I must say that I am very sorry for cheating on my husband with an ex. I am deeply sorry. I know I did something very wrong and unforgivable. The thought of it makes me cringe and I can NEVER forgive myself for what I did. I used to hear of people cheating on their wives and wives cheating on their husbands:never in a million years did I dream that could be me.


My name is Ebiere. I love my husband. We have been married for almost seven years. We are blessed with two lovely children:one boy and one girl.

When Malvin and I got married,we were very happy. One thing though that has been an issue in our marriage is the fact that I have more sexual libido than my own husband. Initially,I accepted the fact that my husband didnt like s*x as much as I did. But after my first child,it got worse. My husband may not touch me for almost one month. It was a miracle that I conceived the second time.

We have been talking about this for some time. He encouraged me to use sexual toys to satisfy myself,even porn. Though that helped but it was not the same. I told him we could seek medical help but he would not listen. He says he cannot go to a fellow man (i.e,a doctor) and say he cannot satisfy his wife,that its a taboo. I tried to get him drugs but he didnt take them as prescribed.

Another major frustration I have is that my husband’s earning has not changed since we got married. The same amount he used to earn is what he still does. Thats not enough for our family of four. Even though I work as a nurse,I also make very little as well. I have encouraged my husband to let me do some side business ,maybe start up a baby clothing shop but he will not agree. He says I should concentrate on raising our kids. Well,I try but we have constant financial challenges and as long as we are not having multiple streams of income,things may not get better. This financial tension causes tension most times. When its time to pay rent,school fees,feeding clothing,etc..we quarrel alot. I stopped asking my mum to assist us after almost seven years because,I was getting embarrassed by the fact that still couldnt stand on our feet.

Recently,I have seen not one,not two…nude pictures that some random ladies have sent my husband. When I asked him,he says he does not know them but how did they get his no? This is really frustrating me. Someone who will nit touch me for almost two to three weeks will be looking at other women naked bodies...see more

www.livelystones.com.ng