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Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Aadibros: 4:11am On Dec 18, 2017 |
thotianna:That clearly tells you the age range and level of maturity of males who respond to topics like this. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Sanchez01: 4:22am On Dec 18, 2017 |
safarigirl:This mentality is so wrong. Not all men drink, smoke or gamble, let alone LovePeddler. I strongly believe you've been getting too much parlour gists which are far from the truth in reality. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Jrevelation(m): 4:22am On Dec 18, 2017 |
When you cant cook very well How will you be happy in that marriage |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by IamZam: 4:26am On Dec 18, 2017 |
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Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Aadibros: 4:34am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Sanchez01:check his age, back ground, exposure, level of education (formal and informal), hence, his comment |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by DeRay98(m): 5:05am On Dec 18, 2017 |
queenfav:Sisi, if you carry that mentality into your relationship or marriage you 'll wreck yourself even with a faithful man. For unfaithful known there are thousands of faithful men and there are undetermined numbers of unfaithful women who just pretend but their husbands are fathering another man's child. Women who have faithful husbands don't expose their husbands to their friends. So, little ones like you think such don't exist. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by DeRay98(m): 5:14am On Dec 18, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Bingo!!!.. Your type is rare here and nowadays. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Tyche(m): 5:25am On Dec 18, 2017 |
safarigirl: The app helped you recreate yourself as you wanted it. The niqqa is not far from the truth neither eye dey pain am |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by citadels(f): 5:31am On Dec 18, 2017 |
We know we have fault the female folks, but men contributes to our faults too. Most married men still don't appreciate their wives either, its like a scale falling out of their eyes after marrying. That's why I like being ur friend b4 becoming ur girlfriend, cos if we re good friends first we can b good partner, some men don't know how to be romantic. I have met one like that. So if u try being he sees u as if u re too desperate. 4 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by repogirl(f): 5:35am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Women this, women that ... As if the woman is the only person in the marriage. The simple truth is that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. 7 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Nobody: 5:40am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Total rubbish from silly kids who think marriage is what you see in the movies. Fortunately or unfortunately, women are more empowered these days, and divorce is no longer a taboo subject per sentence, so not everyone will have to put up with entitled man children because they want to please society 5 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by 124mumsy: 5:40am On Dec 18, 2017 |
EmirOMENT:this particular advice is for women, maybe some other time men we be treated dont just bring comparison to spoil d atmosphere. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Nobody: 5:45am On Dec 18, 2017 |
safarigirl: We are the patriarchy |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by olabright11(m): 5:45am On Dec 18, 2017 |
the number 4. and 2. is what normally lead to divorce, my quote is 'divorce Her and Mary the divorcee because someone mistake is a lesson for the other ' have a pleasurable relationship. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by franklingud(m): 5:47am On Dec 18, 2017 |
A woman that does all these things, simply doesn't love her husband. Maybe forced marriage or something. 1 Like |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by bitchcrafts: 5:48am On Dec 18, 2017 |
queenfav:What if you have simply said "...stay attractive"? The popular wisdom in my place goes " Don't do a thing unless it is for the importance of thyself, whoever ya doing it for is not promised, but you are promised" . You can tell him ya keeping it beautiful for him to water his ego, that's right, but deep down, know better. Did that sound like I'm dishing out instructions? Lol, my bad |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by opribo(m): 5:56am On Dec 18, 2017 |
When I was in school they used to say never marry a woman who doesn't love you. Now I have seen that hell fire cannot be worse than marrying a wrong woman who doesn't love you, it will be a living hell on earth. 2 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by justseyi(m): 6:01am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Chuks9000: From an unbiased front I'd say these things apply both to men and women 2 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Blessograo(f): 6:05am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Things men do that are not mistakes 1. Cheating on their wives 2. Taking them for granted and not appreciating their little efforts 3: expecting them to do anything that involves the house, children and taking care of them like kids. 4. Leaving everywhere dirty and waiting for their wife to come back from work to clean and cook even when they've been home all day or earlier and ask for sex from the tired woman 5. Taking care of everyone when they are sick including inlaws but even her husband is not home he's with side chick. Infact men have begin to define wifes as W: wife I: incubators F: food tunnels E: excessive S: sex Next time someone complains about ladies again think twic. 8 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Gracesofar(m): 6:11am On Dec 18, 2017 |
EmirOMENT: Probably coz the woman own the home. No matter wah goes wrong nd who z @ fault, the community doesn't care buh easy blame or lemme say pin the success or failure of the home on the woman. I hope u get my point |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Gracesofar(m): 6:15am On Dec 18, 2017 |
EsotericMonk: Don't bring the broken home thing. Even if z from one, he never chooses his parents. Every kid wants a happy family I guess some of us just ain't that lucky. I hope u understand me. The guy choosed z life, dz y he reasons the way he does. His not evident coz z from a broken home or so. We r all d way we r. The world won't stop throwing peels on our part it just depend how much advantage we can take of it. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by difference5050: 6:19am On Dec 18, 2017 |
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Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Lightening: 6:23am On Dec 18, 2017 |
mickeymimi: You are right if this nonverbal reaction to offences is one off or very occasional. If it becomes her settled way of getting attention, then there is a problem. Verbal communication is the only means that cannot be misunderstood. Men ain't mind readers. 1 Like |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by rosita33(f): 6:24am On Dec 18, 2017 |
hobermener:that is why it is called marriage. you most first court to understand yourselves and stop. giving marriage bad name olodo. if you can't marry, back your box simple. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Toks2008(m): 6:25am On Dec 18, 2017 |
1. Poor communication: In every relationship we find ourselves,communication is vital. No one is a mind reader and no matter what it may be that could be a reason for your unhappiness,speak out immediately in a stern manner and not laikadaisically. Many women are found of calling their hubby's relatives to complain about certain issues meanwhile the hubby at home does not have an idea of how hurting they are concerning that issue. 2. Sharing their marital issue with a male admirer/friend . Not every guy you know is responsible. We have some low lives that has no regard for any form of decency and it is no news that many guys are in this category. When you discuss your marital issues with an admirer or a male friend,most times what these guys hear is "im vulnurable,i need you as a succor". This is why most times,when a married woman take solace in a male friend,the end result is usually an illicit affair. 3. Being careless with male friends . I have always maintained that there is nothing like just friends between a married woman and another man. If he is not your childhood friend,co-worker,co-student,business partner then you have no business with him. Many married ladies have a careless habit of keeping male friends indiscriminately and worst still get so careless allowing these guys call them by their maiden names. I will never call a married lady by her maiden name because just as the name suggests,its her unmarried name but will rather put Mrs,sis,madam. When a married lady is called by her maiden name,it diminishes as well as tarnishes her respect,image and matrimony giving room for a potential unethical relationship between her and the "just male friends". 4. Seeking vengeance . Many married lady tend to take some actions in order to prove to their hubby that a sauce for the goose is also ok for the gander but unfortunately this will destroy your marriage more. When you take a revenge on your hubby by sleeping with another man because he cheats on you,of what use will that be to you? What value will that add to your life? Learn to maintain your dignity no matter what because at the end,the shame will all come back to you and as I always reiterate. ..nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing. 5. Talking down on your hubby. This is one foolish mistake many ladies do. You and your hubby are one and talking down on him means talking down on yourself. It is one thing to voice out what he did and another to use outright abusive words on him. In situations where a couple seperates,some ladies will not mind talking down on their hubby with a friend,their family and even with male suitors and i keep wondering if the woman thinks this will earn her any form of respect. If you call your hubby a sick man then what does that make you? Or you call your hubby an asshole then it takes an asshole to tango with such a man. No matter how angry you may be,don't ever rule out reconcilation and even if you are never going to reconcile,respect your matrimony with him even if he deserves no respect from you. 6.Moving out of their matrimonial home hastily over an avoidable reason . What excuse do you have for running out of your marriage? He cheated on you,he does not give you attention,he took you for granted,he curses you and many more are the excuses married ladies hold on to and i keep asking this one question; Will leaving solve the problem? Even a divorce is not a way out because its a 50/50 chance that the next man won't be worse so i advice that you confront that problem and try your best to solve it. 7. Believing there is always a better man out there . This is one foolish thing married ladies believe. That they will get a better replacement.There are more than enough never married ladies out there for the unmarried guys so you will do yourself a great honor by sticking to your husband. There is really no better man out there and except you are faced with an unrepentant violent man,please remain in your marriage because you will soon realize that its the same cycle we all go through in any union we find ourselves and there will always be one reason to leave any man you are married to. Many women divorcees realize this too late as they end up as a toy in the hands of randy men,as second wife,or end up single for a long time as many men will believe they are doing them a big favour by wanting to be with them. If you must throw in the towel on your marriage,make sure you have exhausted all means of reconciliation because i keep saying that it is better to be single at 40 than to be a divorcee at 20 and a 40 year old single lady is more maritally appealing than a 20year old divorcee,funny but true so think very well before you run out of your marriage. 8.Sharing their marital issues with single female friends .. Like seriously! it may surprise you to know that most of your friends who are still single are not happy that you are married so take your marital problem to them at your own risk. 9.Not looking sexy enough. If our sultry actress Omotola jalade is looking this sexy after three children then tell me why you can't look sexy too. Laziness is one big problem with most married ladies.Men get carried away by what they see so do yourself a favour, get that big tummy down and get into crazy bum shorts and flaunt that thing. We know you cant maintain that sexy look we saw the very first time we met you but at least try your best to look sexy for the next 30years for us after marriage. 10. Never sorry . Many women are so proud,egocentric and sturbborn to the extent that when they do or say things that are conspicously wrong,they will never or hardly apologize but rather would want to buttress the rationale behind their actions and most men see this as an appalling nature. Be quick to apologize even when you are right..men are naturally egocentric hence the need to bring down your ego to avoid the case of two men married to each other. 11.Geting insecure and monitoring her husband I have always advised married women to let their men be. Believe whatever he says even when it is clear that he is lieng.The moment you start getting overly jealous,suspicious is the moment you begin to lose your self worth. Don't bother whether he is faithful or not but sternly tell him to play safe if he must be unfaithful and warn him to do it far from you cos what the eyes do not see do not hurt. Yes this sounds crazy but trust me,it works like magic because the husband will likely be on his toes and respect you the more. Remember that a man will always be a man and you can never monitor him . 12.Not good enough in the kitchen and the other room : . If you are a married lady reading this please don't ever joke with these two places because any woman who knows how to use these two places will most likely have her husband where she wants him cos the way to a man's heart is forever through his stomach and down there. 13.Taking the job of a full housewife. As you can clearly deduce,being a full housewife is a big job because those who babysit get paid so I quite understand how demanding this can be but nevertheless,don't settle for that,no matter how demanding the task of keeping the home front can be, still do something to be financially independent. Your husband may tell you he does not want you to work promising to provide all your needs but we both know he really can't do that without asking funny questions from you when you demand for money so it is important to have something doing so that the financial pressure will be less on your husband and you can also be self reliant.Being financially independent can also come in handy if your hubby faces any financial crises so take this advise seriously because financial pressure is a great destroyer of marriage. I don't know if these make sense https://www.nairaland.com/3867979/13-awkward-things-married-women 4 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Lightening: 6:29am On Dec 18, 2017 |
cococandy: It is not specific sister. Most married men can easily relate to some or even all of these attitudes. Don't water down the thread with this kind of sacarsm. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Boyooosa(m): 6:42am On Dec 18, 2017 |
hobermener:To continue the human race and existence of course. One of the main reasons we get married is to reproduce offsprings, train them and by so doing, human race will never cease to continue. MW, it will be unfair to impregnate a woman and leave the responsibility of bringing up the contributive efforts to her and vice versa. So it is necessary they come together and share the parenthood together, it makes beautiful and more sense that way. That being trashed, op, I think one of the constant reasons women lose their marriages is when they rushed into marriage and they couldnt make amendment or adjust as necessary. |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Airtimex(m): 6:46am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Jupxter: God bless you bro... |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Nobody: 6:58am On Dec 18, 2017 |
dz matter slf weaken me, no wonda home wreckers full USA now, hence d alarming rate of divorce. i see dz trend dey gradually snake its way to Africa, Nigeria. God give me d computer eye wey go make me search for d woman wey go want to stick wit mi like Eve no matter what, d garden or no garden eden. Adam still glued to Eve, upon say tins went south and unforgiven. what i mean to say is dey only had eachother wit nobody else and adam saw eve as d extension of himslf. d solution to all our marital problems is to go back to the GENESIS? WHER'E IT ALL BEGAN. and trying to know where did we go wrong? "quote me if u feel me" 1 Like |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Lawalemi(m): 7:01am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Chuks9000:Thanks Man. I had to scold my wife for harassing our kids some days ago. Whatever was bothering her should not be suffered by the kids. They don't understand until you share with them and they can be so loving when they understand our challenges 1 Like |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Radiant1020(f): 7:07am On Dec 18, 2017 |
Aadibros: Wish I could like this comment one million times 4 Likes |
Re: Mistake Married Women Make by Mutuwa(m): 7:13am On Dec 18, 2017 |
queenfav: I admire the truth,always. 2 Likes |
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