Hello friends. As the thread suggest, have you ever dated a girl that once said no?

How did you make it work? What gave you confidence that she will eventually accept , what were the signs she gave ? How long did it take to make that happen?

Just share and I will appreciate it as I am in that boat now. I will be sharing my experience as we proceed.

Thanksm

Yes.

At first, she said "No". That I look like a playboy, but after a while, she gave in and was head over heels...
She even started telling me to come and see her family.

I'll like to read interesting stories.

No

Once she says no.
I don't insist again..
Beside she'd be happy if I don't persist her to accept me.
Love no be by force na.

Listening

olihilistic:
Once she says no.
I don't insist again..
Beside she'd be happy if I don't persist her to accept me.
Love no be by force na.

Dats it bro..abi she b Gold?

mypains:
Hello friends. As the thread suggest, have you ever dated a girl that once said no?

How did you make it work? What gave you confidence that she will eventually accept , what were the signs she gave ? How long did it take to make that happen?

Just share and I will appreciate it as I am in that boat now. I will be sharing my experience as we proceed.

Thanksm

It can become Yes, there's a rule called constant exposure, when people see things they don't like initially constantly, they begin to like it after a while. Persist,how her your good sides ( ladies like consistency when wooing them,i learnt this the hard way, don't flinch, be consistent, and unveal yourself,i'm sure, you'll get a yes, if you obey these principles ).

makydebbie:
I'll like to read interesting stories.

Hello sweetheart, your boo of life safedavis is here missed me?

We all said No before the YES So every guy experienced it.

This is not rare na. Expecially in nigeria universities where most females don't knw what they want

Ajoboss:
Dats it bro..abi she b Gold?

I tire ooo.
Girl go later tell you say..
I accepted you because of say you too worry me so you no get opinion when I d do my things.
This is 21st century.

Most times when they say NO, I use to be persistent Until I stopped. I can't make someone to like me....PERIOD!!

There are many ladies looking for boyfriends...and one cannot hold me for work

Some girls after accepting u, they will tell u "its because I don't want to look cheap that's why i didn't accept b4"

I came to read comments.

For me, a no means a no. There are more women in the world so i can't kill myself on top your matter.

makydebbie:
I'll like to read interesting stories.

does this look like literature section

Jupxter:



It can become Yes, there's a rule called constant exposure, when people see things they don't like initially constantly, they begin to like it after a while. Persist,how her your good sides ( ladies like consistency when wooing them,i learnt this the hard way, don't flinch, be consistent, and unveal yourself,i'm sure, you'll get a yes, if you obey these principles ).

Thanks. Unlike what some guys thinks. I know from experience that girls don't initiate chats or call a guy that whom they say they don't want to date... But in my case, I get the call and get the chat.

One time I promise to call but I didn't and she queried why I didn't call. If I don't communicate for some days, she reaches out to me and we get to talk for that day and much longer.

My experience with other girls is the opposite. They don't call or text, even though I do things to make it work. So I grew to use the text and call to know when to stop And accept that they are not interested or don't want me.

But in this case she calls and text.

olihilistic:
Once she says no.
I don't insist again..
Beside she'd be happy if I don't persist her to accept me.
Love no be by force na.

well, if a girl u are interested in does not call you or text you, bros u don't have to insist.

It is not wise. Sometimes pride make them act like that.

Have u not also noticed in some case when u stop communications and distance yourself they want to draw near to you?

It is not every girl you give up on except all u wanted was just sex and nothing more and we know the set of guys that just want sex as well as the age they fall into.

I have given up on a girl before and regretted it later. Good girls are not easily found around.

Do they ever say NO...im yet to meet one who does

my girl didn't say no categorically, she told me then that it is tentative. I was hoping she will not say no after trying to prove to her. thanks to God she gave in later n we still together

fartkay:
my girl didn't say no categorically, she told me then that it is tentative. I was hoping she will not say no after trying to prove to her. thanks to God she gave in later n we still together

Yeah, this one is something similar. She didn't say no actually but about Catching Feelings.

mypains:


Thanks. Unlike what some guys thinks. I know from experience that girls don't initiate chats or call a guy that whom they say they don't want to date... But in my case, I get the call and get the chat.

One time I promise to call but I didn't and she queried why I didn't call. If I don't communicate for some days, she reaches out to me and we get to talk for that day and much longer.

My experience with other girls is the opposite. They don't call or text, even though I do things to make it work. So I grew to use the text and call to know when to stop And accept that they are not interested or don't want me.

But in this case she calls and text.

She's interested in building friendship first,she's going to decide during the friendship period, just try not to slip into the friendzone permanently in this phase,try to use phrases that hints at you wanting her, so she doesn't ambush you into the friendzone permanently, enjoy !

Jupxter:




She's interested in building friendship first,she's going to decide during the friendship period, just try not to slip into the friendzone permanently in this phase,try to use phrases that hints at you wanting her, so she doesn't ambush you into the friendzone permanently, enjoy !

exactly bro. Yeah, she has hinted on taking things slowly, one step at time in her words, but you know when you get too close to most girls, they abuse it and like you opined, friend zone is a dreaded territory.

But above all, I enjoy communicating with her at all levels. We crack jokes and play a lot. She is really and amazing person to be with.

I got a lot to want to give her but it doesn't make sense doing all that when things aren't straightened out.

Well, I will keep at it but for now I think I should focus on some other things and don't try to forcefully convince her too much.

mypains:
exactly bro. Yeah, she has hinted on taking things slowly, one step at time in her words, but you know when you get too close to most girls, they abuse it and like you opined, friend zone is a dreaded territory.

But above all, I enjoy communicating with her at all levels. We crack jokes and play a lot. She is really and amazing person to be with.

I got a lot to want to give her but it doesn't make sense doing all that when things aren't straightened out.

Well, I will keep at it but for now I think I should focus on some other things and don't try to forcefully convince her too much.

You're doing the right thing, she's carefully studying your character, be careful not to snap. She doesn't want to be pressured or forced in any way

Jupxter:



You're doing the right thing, she's carefully studying your character, be careful not to snap. She doesn't want to be pressured or forced in any way

exactly. She has, on about 3 or more times, hinted on studying me.

One was a DP on my whatsapp. She asked who was that. Which I told her and said she wanted to ask if the person was my girlfriend. Cos she would have been sad if I said yes. Though she said it like she was joking but I know that is her way of confirming things about me not to make it look like she is interested.

Another she said hope I didn't invite any other girl to sleep over. I said no, and she said are you sure? Same goes for my travel inquiries too, asking if I was travelling this period, I said no and she said are u sure.

There are numerous cases like this.

olihilistic:

I tire ooo.
Girl go later tell you say..
I accepted you because of say you too worry me so you no get opinion when I d do my things.
This is 21st century.

no mind dem jare

Ajoboss:
no mind dem jare

lol.. Funny dudes. It boils down to purpose and intents.

Once she says NO then i'm off. Even if she jokingly said that.

Some ladies with dem talk...I don't want to look cheap....are u okirika Or tokunbo goods Na human Una be na..abi

Gofwane:
Once she says NO then i'm off. Even if she jokingly said that.

oh cool

optional1:
We all said No before the YES
So every guy experienced it.

error of generalization. my first babe actually asked me out and professed her love for me.
recently, one babe wanted to ambush me into the dreaded friendzone but i rejected vehemently.
a king cannot play second fiddle in his kingdom.

once she says no, her future yes in insignificant