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MrBrownJay1:
some people are funny indeed... although we fall in love, it doesnt mean we love foolishly regadless of acts and issues between you both. there are specific reason why you fell in love with a person, and so long as these foundations are in place, love will remain. the minute that person is NOT the same on any of these important foundations of love, then automatically any smart person must re-evaluate their stand on that union.....and love will start to fade away.

example: you fell in love with him because of his good heart, great humble character and gentle spirit, yet after a few yrs, he turns into a bitter abusive demon, do you seriously think that the love will still be present? of course not, it would have died a natural slow death. the sad issue here is that some people are so hell bent on hanging unto love that they will stay around these demons, and try to reignite the fire of the old days, while its just IMPOSSIBLE.

The highlighted is where the problem is MrBrownJay1.
If you've ever fallen in Love and have nurtured a relationship that lasted, you should agree that Love induces some sort of amnesia tendencies. People happen to forget the specifics after an active while and tend to hang on to hope when things begin to crumble presumably becos theyre so used to that one's company and hv built an imaginary future castle with that one playing active role in it with their mind. Even when the relationship crashes, one's still going away with a portion of that person and when one heals from the effect of the crash, the scars are still there and a part of one still wish things had worked out. That doesn't seem like a fade away to me, it seems more of letting go of your favorite meal the doctor said you should stop eating and that doesn't also have to mean you've stopped loving that food...

Love your ideas.

bitchcrafts:
The highlighted is where the problem is MrBrownJay1.
If you've ever fallen in Love and have nurtured a relationship that lasted, you should agree that Love induces some sort of amnesia tendencies. People happen to forget the specifics after an active while and tend to hang on to hope when things begin to crumble presumably becos theyre so used to that one's company and hv built an imaginary future castle with that one playing active role in it with their mind. Even when the relationship crashes, one's still going away with a portion of that person and when one heals from the effect of the crash, the scars are still there and a part of one still wish things had worked out. That doesn't seem like a fade away to me, it seems more of letting go of your favorite meal the doctor said you should stop eating and that doesn't also have to mean you've stopped loving that food...

DerahAlex:
Love your ideas.

You're welcome.

I don't love..I only show care

but sad enough they mistake it for love..

bitchcrafts:
The highlighted is where the problem is MrBrownJay1.
If you've ever fallen in Love and have nurtured a relationship that lasted, you should agree that Love induces some sort of amnesia tendencies. People happen to forget the specifics after an active while and tend to hang on to hope when things begin to crumble presumably becos theyre so used to that one's company and hv built an imaginary future castle with that one playing active role in it with their mind. Even when the relationship crashes, one's still going away with a portion of that person and when one heals from the effect of the crash, the scars are still there and a part of one still wish things had worked out. That doesn't seem like a fade away to me, it seems more of letting go of your favorite meal the doctor said you should stop eating and that doesn't also have to mean you've stopped loving that food...

lol, well said... and thats what is called LIFE EXPERIENCE! you get away with the memories of the good time, and try to forget the bad. why would you want to forget the good stuff that happened in your life (just because someone turned into an idiot)?! its part of your life's CV, this is the natural life cycle, that we ALL will go through. here is the important clue here: the loving memories will always be there but the loving feeling will be dead and gone.

remember, just because you loved that food before, the day you realise that this food was made out of dog shiiit, you may have memories of how you loved eating it, but you will NEVER EVER remotely think of eating it again

MrBrownJay1:
lol, well said... and thats what is called LIFE EXPERIENCE! you get away with the memories of the good time, and try to forget the bad. why would you want to forget the good stuff that happened in your life (just because someone turned into an idiot)?! its part of your life's CV, this is the natural life cycle, that we ALL will go through. here is the important clue here: the loving memories will always be there but the loving feeling will be dead and gone.

remember, just because you loved that food before, the day you realise that this food was made out of dog shiiit, you may have memories of how you loved eating it, but you will NEVER EVER remotely think of eating it again

Touché, Just that the words 'death' and 'fade out/away' and whatever they stand for are gradually becoming erroneous to me in the deeper sense of my being. I only use these words so my audience can have an unfeigned grasp of my locution, but truly, I believe nothing ever truly dies, Not even 'mortals' .1st and 2nd Law of thermodynamics ''simplified" is my witness nothing ever truly dies. It can only transform into something else, In this context, the worse state love can transform into is perhaps 'extreme dislike' which itself has particles of love encrusted in it when you atomize it's constituents, magnify it for you to identify. I'm saying that you can only strongly hate something after you've most possibly loved it/ or had something to do with it too much (that's arguable of course). That's why I believe Once you've attained the status of Truly Loving someone, you cannot truly fall OUT OF LOVE, you can only perhaps truly LET GO - what you call "loving feeling dead or gone" or HOLD ONTO, (even after knowing you can't have it) which leads you to the Strong love emotion; HATE, If you would forgive my paradox.

In simple terms, Once you fall in Love, you're fukced! It's the simplest philosophical principle out there .

bitchcrafts:
Touché, Just that the words 'death' and 'fade out/away' and whatever they stand for are gradually becoming erroneous to me in the deeper sense of my being. I only use these words so my audience can have an unfeigned grasp of my locution, but truly, I believe nothing ever truly dies, Not even 'mortals' . 2nd Law of thermodynamics ''simplified" is my witness nothing ever truly dies. It can only transform into something else, In this context, the worse state love can transform into is perhaps 'extreme dislike' which itself has particles of love encrusted in it when you atomize it's constituents, magnify it for you to identify. I'm saying that you can only strongly hate something after you've most possibly loved it/ or had something to do with it too much (that's arguable of course). That's why I believe Once you've attained the status of Truly Loving someone, you cannot truly fall OUT OF LOVE, you can only perhaps truly LET GO - what you call "loving feeling dead or gone" or HOLD ONTO, (even after knowing you can't have it) which leads you to the Strong love emotion; HATE, If you would forgive my paradox.

In simple terms, Once you fall in Love, you're fukced! It's the simplest philosophical principle out there .

you are going deep.... and although what you wrote made a lot of sense, IMHO you ruined it all with the above in bold.

lets go back for a minute, as much as some love can turn to hate, others can turn to beautiful friendship. it doesnt always turn to extreme negativity. also, you love someone, then that love dies and you meet someone else that makes you love twice harder etc that you dont even have time to hate anybody. its people with too much time on their damn hand/head that go around hating someone who is out of their life. its a mental diseases, and we certainly shouldnt base such a wonderful thing called LOVE on the action of sick people.

the majority of sane people, love deeply, and then fall out of love and move on with their lives (remembering the good stuff and using the bad as an experience), simple.

the simple issue here is to remember how the feeling of love made you become the best version of your damn self, THATS what should be remembered, THATS what is important here. THATS what will always make falling in love GREAT!

if the 1st thing you remember when thinking of love is heartbreak, then that person has turned their love to the FEAR of love and they need to get mental help before putting themselves back on the market again, as they are damaged good.

MrBrownJay1:
you are going deep.... and although what you wrote made a lot of sense, IMHO you ruined it all with the above in bold.

lets go back for a minute, as much as some love can turn to hate, others can turn to beautiful friendship. it doesnt always turn to extreme negativity. also, you love someone, then that love dies and you meet someone else that makes you love twice harder etc that you dont even have time to hate anybody. its people with too much time on their damn hand/head that go around hating someone who is out of their life. its a mental diseases, and we certainly shouldnt base such a wonderful thing called LOVE on the action of sick people.

the majority of sane people, love deeply, and then fall out of love and move on with their lives (remembering the good stuff and using the bad as an experience), simple.

the simple issue here is to remember how the feeling of love made you become the best version of your damn self, THATS what should be remembered, THATS what is important here. THATS what will always make falling in love GREAT!

if the 1st thing you remember when thinking of love is heartbreak, then that person has turned their love to the FEAR of love and they need to get mental help before putting themselves back on the market again, as they are damaged good.

If my sense of inference is still working right (it undoubtedly is), I think what you did here majorly, is to do a good job at expounding on our mutual views especially as it relates to letting go(a positive energy) and holding onto (a negative energy). . .

Once you fall in Love you're bleeped means you can't truly control what the outcome will be just as nobody has any say /control over his final days or what the circumstances leading to his exit from earth will be. I hope you understand?