got married last year July and before that we were in a long distant relationship for several years(both in different countries) before coming together 6 months before our wedding.

I think that was why I never noticed or should I say all the times we were together he never oggled women in front of me. The first time I noticed it was we were at a wedding. I was part of the bridal team and we just finished and was getting food for him. I caught him oogling(not just staring) at a lady over and over again and staring at her legs, ass etc and just continuously staring at her that he never even noticed when I came up next to him. I was upset and I could see he was embarrassed about it and said nothing.

This happened a couple of times. Basically every time we step out of the house the first girl he sees it's like he steps into a trance and starts ogling right next to me sometimes even turning around. He literally does this to every single woman and it is starting to work on my nerves.

I have spoken to him about it that yes everyone, m and f, notice good looking people. Staring briefly and then going on is okay. But when you are in the presence of your wife and you constantly oggle women unashamely for so long is so disrespectful to me. It really makes me feel bad to the point I start to dread going out with him cos I know will have to deal with his ogling.

Not only is it uncomfortable for me but at times the ladies he oogles also notice and it can get uncomfortable too especially when they are with their partners.

I really don't know what to do about this anymore because if we were just dating I would have ended the relationship already but now we are married.

Sometimes I also feel like "ogling men" just so that he can see how it feels like so that he can stop it.

Am I the only one going through this? How do you deal with it? Men do you have to oggle other women like that especially when your wife/gf is present.

Atleast, he's not cheating on u.
What men understand most about women is their body.
That's why i love my bae.
If we are walking together or staying out somewhere n a pretty endowed lady passes by.
She'll be like; Baby look at that gal, she's really fine.
ME: oww, she's very hot... but not as hot as u baby.
*all done codedly n jokingly*

maybe u dont possess ur husband"s spec.hmm some men go just open eye marry woman wey dem no feel any sexual attraction for.hmm una dey try oo.

what he is doing aint cool.
like the man above me has put it, his woman steps and turns it all into a fun game.
the only way a woman can control her man's oogling of other females is to take out the "forbiddenness" of the act. instead of fighting him on it and legitmizing his fetish; allow it. its power over him is that you dont like it and that makes it forbidden to him and therefore desirable.you have to neutralise this dynamic. when you see him oogle a gal , comment "she is pretty isnt she!". he will be shocked/embarassed/set free, by your non-confrontational attitude and new-found agreement to it all. once its no longer forbidden it loses its power. you will see this tendency of him oogling drop gradually.
i once had a gal who did that to me and it solved many issues between us.i even caught her oogling some dudes herself.and i played that same game on her.and it all ended well.
you should be able to talk to your guy about some females he finds attractive and vice versa.all my GFs get to know the female celebs i fancy and they share with me the male celebs they fantasize about.it makes us human.and brings us closer.
try it.

wtfcoded:
Atleast, he's not cheating on u.
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says who?

Its very bad, tell him to stop, its too annoying and you hate it when he does that.



I went on a date with a guy, during the time, all he does is ogling women and making insensitive comments about any lady that passed, I told him plain that I won't hang out with him again, and that's it, I don't like what I hate.