macof:
like I said if it doesn't cause harm there is no reason to change it.

davidif:


Really?? Greed doesn't cause harm?

CaptainGOOD:


common shut up ur mouth who do think u are,,,? where u not the person that started the war first.
BRING IT ON AND I WILL DISGRACE U HERE... IF NOT FOR THE COWARD MOD WHO ALWAYS SAVE U HERE NONE OF CAN MATCH ME HERE.
BRING IT IM WAITIMG FOR U

go to the same churches and see ur sister hussling for husband
go to white garment churches and na ur sisters full there.
even in the same abuja ur sisters are there servicing politicians.

google about ur brother ADEYINKA GRANDSON,, and see what he said about yoruba gals and politicans.
and why he tot yorubas should stop alligning with the not(your brother said all thsese)
go and make enquiry.

macof:
the culture of bride price is what I refered to
And I disagree about it being all about Greed...

The culture works for the igbos so what's the big deal? Be tolerant of others culture if you don't pay bride price where you are from

madone:
I started war not insult.point to note am not Yoruba. I wont totally blame u son. U must have grown up facing much abuses. Its written over ur post and comment that u re suffering from low self esteem. Its the normal igbo boy ranting that u re full of . Lol.... I have seen this from many derailed igbo boys alike ,the obidike- chest beating eeediot that u portrayed on this thread have shown how much of a loser u have been in life and how u fight everywhere you go to be recognized but still ur arrogant self that never listens to reasoning will always go back licking ur bruised ego. Mr community defender with knocking kneels. Ewu ne dozi obodo but unoya adiro nma.

davidif:


But from the account of the first hand witness: the woman herself, she and her husband had to go into debt just to satisfy the whims of the girls parents. Sounds like extortion and profiteering to me. A better solution would have been to agree on a manageable price that is within the couple's financial means not some gargatuan sum that they had to go into debt to pay. That's wickedness right there whether you call it culture or not.

Princedapace:



My dear, don't mind nairaland and her tribal bigots. No body forced anyone from marrying any body. She saw the list, she could av rejected it.

She could av opted to run with her husband. This nonsense rant online is useless. I doubt of the girl is even igbo. It may even be a fake account.

As for billing during marriage.. I just laugh at most Niaralanders.. Their hatred for anything igbo is top class..

Even in the north, some families give husband to be an expensive list. U keep buying expensive things till u get tired.. I av witnessed this live. Very expensive items the family of the lady requested.

Some families in the west does same too. There are many igbo families without expensive lists. It all depends on the family and has nothing to do with culture.. In my village, marriage is very cheap. It depends on the family bikooo..

I also see some useless people here calling igbo girls ashawo and all that.. I don't know what this platform is turning into.

I sincerely hate this platform. I may consider leaving it. The tribal insult is too much. All these Yoruba, Hausa, benue, idoma, ashawo wey dey enugu, Ibadan, Jos, kano etc are they not Nigerians? So why should a reasonable human come here and insult igbos and call their girls ashawo?

The type of country we are building is scary. nairaland has become a platform to insult entire ethnic group. I am disappointed..

CaptainGOOD:


Hehehehehe the coward afonja eeediot has chickned out... u are afonja u are from zambia.

BTW I tot u were threatning fire and brimstone.
Why the sudden decline... dumbfvck.
U would have pressed d button na..
And i will bash u here till u deactivate.. Oponu jati jati

safarigirl:
She should shut up or take her useless rant to her father's compound.

So, she could not say this trash to her father's face when they were draining the husband, but she has the gall to carry the matter to FB and disgrace her entire family compound? I hope they disown her if someone from her place comes across this post. Let us see who she will run to when her own suffering begins since she assumes Igbo women are suffering in their marriages


Useless child, they should have dashed her free to the unfortunate husband of an uncultured wife

luminouz:

U sincerely hate this platform..YET u MAY consider leaving it?
Does that make sense to u?
If u wanna leave.. Do so...don't boast about it biko!

madone:


[s]anuofia ....... I see now that u don't read post or have understanding of state of things that is why u posted ur first comment on this thread and it was way off the top.its ur type that go about screaming afonja without knowing the mean. No be only chicken out na cow in . anumpama . Forget afonja I no be Yoruba so that the moderators will not ban u and spoil our fun. So u feel that anyone that speaks against igbos ways of thinking is afonja. Nwaibiri. Shallow minded fool. Ur sisters with their yam legs in maryamaka blouses prayering for husband in lords chosen will swear for you soo[/s]n.

CaptainGOOD:


heheheheh E PAIN AM!!.
Trash!!..heheheh even ur conehead is so empty.
Afonja chameleon can not even string meaningful lines with ur made in ibadan english.
Omo ale!!.. go back to school.

macof:
the culture of bride price is what I refered to
And I disagree about it being all about Greed...

[b]The culture works for the igbos so what's the big deal? [/b]Be tolerant of others culture if you don't pay bride price where you are from

macof:
like I said if it doesn't cause harm there is no reason to change it.

if bride price did not put him in debt, marriage life would

macof:
The man was not ready for marriage...at least by what I understand
If a man can't pay bride price how can he prove his capability to take care of the woman and her children.

If the man failed to negotiate, then he is a fool, if the man doesn't know what he can't afford then he is a fool

I don't see wickedness, what I see is stupidity and inability from the husband's side

madone:

h[s]ahahaaaaa welcome to a new world am sure if u can read betwn the lines u LL think straight into the frustration running in ur blood line . Lol keep running from ur tue life of mediocrity. Okogbo. ur life must have really been destroyed by this afonja fellows or its just the latest thing trending on ur miserable mind.atulu[/s].

CaptainGOOD:



Hhehehe e pain am!.. .
Afonja chameleon go to school u no gree.
U are there "prayering"

miserable Skull miner i will frustrate u here.
U neva start o.. b@stard!.

madone:

if u think I ll you at ur childishness and leave u then u life . Maybe u are from anambra state the blood ritual champions, or from Abia or imo state the arm robbers. Or from enugu the homosexuals or u re from ebonyi state the carnivals human flesh eaters..... U LL end each day of this January crying for what am about to do with u. Am at work now I dedicate this weekend to you. I only beg u one thing don't let the moderators ban you for any reason cos e go pain me.

davidif:


Wrong! You don't know that. You are just speculating. Wedding is a one time event and marriage is for life. Don't conflate the two.



Once again, the bride price was not the issue, the issue was the amount that he was told to bring.




Great, let's blame the victim now not the stupid culture of greed and extortion. Awesome. Clap for yourself.

Mr. Man is it by force to marry? The man was not ready to marry from that family simple...

macof:

Culture should always reign supreme, it exists for a reason...if you don't like it you can go some place where such cultures dont exist and leave the people alone

ashjay001:


I wish!


I barely get an erection sef, when I'm with courtesans.

I move arnd nigerian states a lot, generally have to seek entertainment n quite inquisitive to boot, thats why I know so much. I actually buy them drinks n sometimes pay them to keep me company. I no sabi do short-time too
I prefer a mating of d mind to d actual act. It even improves d act, when ur minds are in sync. Call me for oloshos/runs girls, more bang for ur bucks

davidif:


See logic! The fact that I don't earn a million naira for a bride price does not mean that one is not ready to marry it might simply mean that it is way beyond his budget. You don't need to have a million to to live day to day as husband and wife. You can cut your cloth according to your size. If the bride price is more than your budget then that's plain cruelty.



Culture should never reign supreme. Knowledge, logic and reason Trump culture any day any time. No wonder this continent is still a mess after all this years.

davidif:


See logic! The fact that I don't earn a million naira for a bride price does not mean that one is not ready to marry it might simply mean that it is way beyond his budget. You don't need to have a million to to live day to day as husband and wife. You can cut your cloth according to your size. If the bride price is more than your budget then that's plain cruelty.



Culture should never reign supreme. Knowledge, logic and reason Trump culture any day any time. No wonder this continent is still a mess after all this years.

CaptainGOOD:



Hehehe u see ur username?.."madone" or "madman" definitely u are mad.
Hhehehe u are blaming ur phone yet u made another blunder ontop that. . Oponu radarada.

Tell me if u are not a curse to ur family...
After ur poverty stricken parents laboured and trained u in school there is nothing to show for it. TUFIA i spit on u!!.

Ur suffering father would have used the money to buy a bulldog to watch over house atleast that would be more useful.
Even a local BINGO would be more useful than the money wasted on u.

dear "Madman" i salute ur stupidity.

CaptainGOOD:



Hehehe u see ur username?.."madone" or "madman" definitely u are mad.
Hhehehe u are blaming ur phone yet u made another blunder ontop that. . Oponu radarada.

Tell me if u are not a curse to ur family...
After ur poverty stricken parents laboured and trained u in school there is nothing to show for it. TUFIA i spit on u!!.

Ur suffering father would have used the money to buy a bulldog to watch over house atleast that would be more useful.
Even a local BINGO would be more useful than the money wasted on u.

dear "Madman" i salute ur stupidity.

tossie101:


We are saying d same thing.
U ATTRACT WAT U ARE!!
thats d message...Low class cheap whores.
U cant attract a woman of virture

ashjay001:




Was just thinking of u, now saw ur mention.



Depending on how u look at it. To me, all ladies, initiated into d sexual act, are, to use ur language "low class cheap whores"

Cos, they can be had, if u're ready to do d needful. I prefer d hard cases. The supposedly, unbreakable, though married women are a no no!


Show me a 30yr old virgin, n i'll break her or a nun to be, or that babe rejecting all comers!


That doesnt mean I or u, should deride prostitutes. I actually respect them. Takes uncommon guts, to allow all comers, just to make a living.


The post u quoted, wasnt meant as a putdown, just an observation. Its hurts me, when I see desperate single ladies, who think, only marriage can make them complete or bring them joy. Imagine a lady, cutting short a 7days fast(praying for a husband), to satisfy ur sexual urges, all in d hope, u might be d one?



I saw an old friend yesterday, igbo spinster. Still hustling hard(recharge cards n drinks), her beauty eroding. I used to assist her, in my own little way(no sexual demands) and, u came to mind.

A yoruba/hausa lady, might have gotten a kid/s, continue her biz n carry her cross. But, igbos can be so dogmatic, claiming virtue. Some, even trying not to appear too successful, so as not to scare off suitors. Them full abj presently.



Talk to ur fathers, to reduce d bride price

Igbo men, generally marry late n tend to travel all over, seeking greener pastures, so as to meet d bride price. Most have started 'managing' d natives of where dey settle.


And, u can see ur ladies, marrying everyone but igbo men!



To ur opinion of me, as low class, it carries no weight! I am what I am, n a virtual opinion, is BS!

legitnow:
[s][/s]


I feel ashamed on your behalf.


Igbo women dis andf Igbo men dat.


Y cant u Yorubas respect urselves and leave the igbos alone.


Igbo women marry everybody else but Igbo men u said? Igbo men managing women where dey went to trade u said?


Yet here on nairaland, It is mostly yoruba men we see marrying everywhere.


Yet we keep seeing hausa and igbo men marrying from within their tribe.



Dude leave the igbos alone and face your yoruba people.

hammerF6:



Yoruba man obsessed with Igbos, y am i not suprised that u are still on this thread.

Wat do u aim to achieve? Igbo drop their culture an practice Yoruba culture?

We pay ur wedding expenses and as soon as we give birth and it is a girl, we carry her and give u or datch u after raising her?

I am trying very hard to understand wat exactly u want from us.

macof:


the practice began and has persisted because it serves a social benefit and it still does. Cultural norms like laws are created to benefit as much people as it can, not every single person all the time. Even though, most of the modern families calling for bride price do it for greed, it still has it's benefit and it is at least a little appreciation for their ethnic background, which is always a good thing.
there is a simple solution for those who do not like this ..... do not marry the girl, if her father sets a standard for the man who is supposed to take care of his daughter and he fails, he should move on..what's the big deal? it is not by force to marry his daughter



oh shut up! how many people in africa actually follow their culture when it matters? do not even come here to start blaming African cultures when most africans do not follow their culture, if africans did the condition would be so much better as many of such customs and ideas still hold potential for social, economic and psychological development and those that don't can be modified. So that some people hold on to the bride price aspect it means African is a mess because of the whole culture that isn't even dominant? use your head
with all the religion, post-colonial mentality and western-culture-philia which are the dominant basis for the modern African society, the continent will always remain a mess...that is why I defend real african culture when i see it, an African Renaissance is very much needed