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IGBO LADIES ARE THE MOST LOVING MARRIAGE PARTNERS

There are good women everywhere but there are certain virtue you observe in most Igbo ladies that you do not often see in other women. It is when Igbo ladies marry only within their ethnic group; they are more willing than most ethnic groups to marry down. Most Yoruba ladies would not marry below their “level” unless some circumstances demand it. In the case of Hausa ladies, their families usually introduce them to men above their level. Other ethnic groups may vary.

What is even more surprising is why well-informed Igbo ladies would be willing to marry Ogbete Igbo men when they could do better! Some of us are so envious when we see a well-rounded lady being followed by one of our brothers. You can bet that she is Igbo! The same lady would never consider anyone outside of her ethnic group on the same level with our brother. It baffles some of us. We must ask what it is that makes modest Igbo man score so high with Igbo ladies!

Indeed, some Igbo men have complained that too many of their women are marrying outsiders, especially Yoruba men. The excuse is that Yoruba men cannot find such beautiful ladies in their ethnic group. Nothing can be further from the truth because the well informed Igbo men also marry Yoruba ladies gleefully. Igbo men must learn from Yoruba men, the days we control ladies are gone, ladies marry whoever they chose. Beauty is created in every ethnic group.

Unfortunately, Africans are going through some inferiority complex right now since high toned skin, whether bleached or natural in African girls are mistaken for beauty. This has created separate industry and market for bleaching creams. Unnatural hair that is not theirs have taken over the different hair styles we used to admire and many men just loved. It was Eddy Okonta, glorifying Abeni’s ikebe in one of his songs as ayakata.

Seriously, most Yoruba men would not even dare go to Yoruba ladies above them asking her in marriage unless they wanna hia wod! If they dare, you can be sure none of the ladies would be on the level of Igbo ladies that would marry down; but only to Igbo men. By the time ladies are well educated, they must have established some relationships while in school; though others may miss out. In that case, these ladies would rather stake their chances on good education.

You can also be sure that when these Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo ladies are marrying outside their own ethnic groups, they are going for men above their levels. One of the hot debates is that if you are not an Igbo man, the dowry for Igbo ladies are intentionally raised. Some of us have forgotten that the same is true for Igbo men based outside or in Diaspora when home to marry Igbo lady. By the time many of these Igbo men get back to their base, they are almost broke!

If all the stories are true, Efik or Calabar ladies have been judged the best in Nigeria. It could be the best stew no other ethnic group or country can compete with. It is called edikang ikong. Any human that has never tasted it, must do so before they die. It will be an exaggeration to say that alone can make a woman, Calabar ladies know ways to men’s heart and care for them. Money surely play a part in keeping the best woman but the woman makes a good family.

We like to fool ourselves about Igbo dowry. The fact is well informed and educated ladies come with higher investment, so they demand higher potential. Yoruba or Hausa ladies are as dear as Igbo. It is your choice if you want to pay now or later. Nobody is selling their daughters since no one can pay for care, love and money invested from birth. Sooner or later ladies will demand investment that will take care of their families, even when they have their own money!

Nevertheless, demanding too much money up front in terms of dowry, showoff to entice a lady above your standard and conspicuous spending with bank loan may become detrimental to the modest actual incomes of the couple. There are enough problems to overcome getting used to one another, going broke early in the marriage as a result of extravagant ceremonies demand for exotic honeymoon, white and traditional wedding can take its toll.

All the money could be used as down payment for a house, land or investments that will bring returns to a modest couple. It is not a problem for rich parents that can take care of expenses including honeymoon vacation and guest travels. But too much spending that both husband and wife have to pay for has led to grave consequences beyond divorce.

Marriage is a long term relationship, get to know each other, including planning for the-day-after financial reality, so that parents and friends can be well advised of what can be afforded. No one should be carried away with the glee of marriage only to cry when all the guest are gone. It is even worse when men marry hoping to reap from the hard work of the wives because of her profession or her rich parents.

It has led to problems in Diaspora where couples kill one another. There are silent cases where men inflate their education or professions only for the wives to find out they married someone well below their standard. There was a lady that quit a responsible position to travel out only to find out the man she married lied about his profession and financial status. She ended her life!

Africans and Asians have been vindicated. Polygamy is not a barrier to good ladies since studies have come out that men in a polygamous relationships live longer on the average than those in monogamous relationships. Even Europeans found a way around monogamy by getting into serial monogamous affairs. So their best way of finding out the qualities of women is marrying serially to a woman in the village or every continent. Watch out for the one that might kill you.

After all these, there is a special class of men regardless of their ethnic group known as fine and bad boys. They break all the rules above. Many ladies fall for them, even high class responsible ladies from all ethnic groups bow at their feet. Most of them, could say all of them have nothing to offer but sweet mouth and clean white shirts. Some ladies buy everything for them just to be accompanied by “presentable” men. Unfortunately, broke boys jump from one lady to another.

In short, Igbo men are lucky with their women regardless of their financial or educational level, their women can only say no. Yoruba women would look at their men that dared, from head to toe, wondering who this ambitious man wanted as a wife. Most Hausa ladies are still modest and influenced by families than their sisters from other ethnic group. But hurry up, not for long.

Farouk Martins Aresa

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How many of them have you married to come to this conclusion, cos the last time I checked, one can only speculate.

dont u get tired of comparing tribes?

another dick measuring thread

Indeed.

Op why

Op, preach it, Igbo men are 2 caring,dey don't no hw to 2much grammar, actions speaks 4 dem

ubunja:
dont u get tired of comparing tribes?

I just get tired at the way some people behave

He could have made his point without drawing any comparisons

IAMSASHY:
Op, preach it, Igbo men are 2 caring,dey don't no hw to 2much grammar, actions speaks 4 dem

As if she's Igbo

Sentimental bullshii...I didn't even read it...

Op u are just a mad tribalist the best women for marriage in naija are northern women if u good nigerian male u should know dat stop dis ethnic gratification we are one enuf of all dis nonsense dis is 2018

IAMSASHY:
Op, preach it, Igbo men are 2 caring,dey don't no hw to 2much grammar, actions speaks 4 dem

aboki the ops is talking about ladies not igbo men

by the way igbo ladies are the most scammer in Nigeria history

So, you'v not heard that Yoruba ladies are the best to marry, you'll never lack pepper.

When they urinate, pepper will start germinating where they urinated.

rubbish Igbo ladies and infidelity are like five and six

You don't have to insult women from other tribes just to praise us .
No I don't accept that.
Be it Igbo, Yoruba, Ijaw,hausa,bini,isoko,efik,idoma,ogoni etc we are all unique in our own ways.
#womenPower
#oneLove

I've forked 5 married women and 4 were igbos and dey all claim to have married their he goat hubby cos dey were rich and dey just needed to marry....Igbo women are the worst set of biitches to marry....they usually don't marry for love.

donstan18:
So, you'v not heard that Yoruba ladies are the best to marry, you'll never lack pepper.

When they urinate, pepper will start germinating where they urinated.

no be only pepper. na onions.

Yeye

Ifakiland:
I've forked 5 married women and 4 were igbos and dey all claim to have married their he goat hubby cos dey were rich and dey just needed to marry....Igbo women are the worst set of biitches to marry....they usually don't marry for love.

How far,

Omo Ifaki. Y u dey fork married women. You sef, nawa oo.

And its true most Igbo ladies marry for money. I know many who did. No.love there. The parents will be like "you better marry who will take care of you(and imagine the fat bride price now)

About infidelity, u sef, Oko ashewo. And stop calling women bitches.

Ifakiland:
I've forked 5 married women and 4 were igbos and dey all claim to have married their he goat hubby cos dey were rich and dey just needed to marry....Igbo women are the worst set of biitches to marry....they usually don't marry for love.

I always laugh when some people praise igbo women( especially igbo men)..I am like are you blind or you just want to troll other tribes...marry igbo women at your own risk ...that is all I have to say...start from Nairaland...if you see any married woman commenting and seeking attention, arguing on romance section with boys all day long..check well...na igbo woman...I just dey pity their husbands. ...go to any hotel and watch ..80% of all the women hiding and coming out of hotel rooms na Igbo women..

ubunja:
dont u get tired of comparing tribes?

They don't, they are onye ara

I just wonder why some people just read headlines and come to conclusions without reading. There is praise for every woman here without putting any ethnic down.

If anything the only ethnic that came on top are Efik women. Next time read and understand.

If all the stories are true, Efik or Calabar ladies have been judged the best in Nigeria. It could be the best stew no other ethnic group or country can compete with. It is called edikang ikong. Any human that has never tasted it, must do so before they die. It will be an exaggeration to say that alone can make a woman, Calabar ladies know ways to men’s heart and care for them. Money surely play a part in keeping the best woman but the woman makes a good family.

What is wrong with praising and flattering one another anyway, is it not better than constant bashing?

Op thanks for a change.

Enough with the tribal banter pls! All tribe gates the capacity to love truly. No one pass each other.

There is nothing wrong with praising one another. I am glad the writer is not Igbo. He just admired how Igbo women are willing to marry down, only if it is Igbo men.

Did you read the whole article?

naijacentric:
Op u are just a mad tribalist the best women for marriage in naija are northern women if u good nigerian male u should know dat stop dis ethnic gratification we are one enuf of all dis nonsense dis is 2018

He wrote exactly the same thing about Hausa women.

Most Hausa ladies are still modest and influenced by families than their sisters from other ethnic group. But hurry up, not for long.

Madam, I agree with you. This writer may be be in love with Efik lady that got him in cloud 9.

Amarabae:
You don't have to insult women from other tribes just to praise us .
No I don't accept that.
Be it Igbo, Yoruba, Ijaw,hausa,bini,isoko,efik,idoma,ogoni etc we are all unique in our own ways.
#womenPower
#oneLove

pweetiedee:
How far,

Omo Ifaki. Y u dey fork married women. You sef, nawa oo.

And its true most Igbo ladies marry for money. I know many who did. No.love there. The parents will be like "you better marry who will take care of you(and imagine the fat bride price now)

About infidelity, u sef, Oko ashewo. And stop calling women bitches.

its the gospel truth, Igbo women are prone to infidelity.The family of the bride even add petrol to fire by encouraging their daughter to seek comfort(wealth) before love.That is why you see married Igbo ladies whoring and you hardly catch them.Reminiscing my university days, in my lodge alone I knew about three Igbo ladies that had school boyfriend and they were even married.There was one I was close to then, she usually complains that her husband was too old.I really pitied their husbands, the innocent men will be hustling and their wife will be destroying their progress through illicit sex. please, no insult I am Igbo and I speak from numerous encounter.

vingeophysicist:
its the gospel truth, Igbo women are prone to infidelity.The family of the bride even add petrol to fire by encouraging their daughter to seek comfort(wealth) before love.That is why you see married Igbo ladies whoring and you hardly catch them.Reminiscing my university days, in my lodge alone I knew about three Igbo ladies that had school boyfriend and they were even married.There was one I was close to then, she usually complains that her husband was too old.I really pitied their husbands, the innocent men will be hustling and their wife will be destroying their progress through illicit sex. please, no insult I am Igbo and I speak from numerous encounter.

lool

pweetiedee:
no be only pepper. na onions.
Yeye

E pain u?

pweetiedee:
no be only pepper. na onions.
Yeye

Yeye nkegi dia

donstan18:
E pain u?

Everything na pain?
I found wat u typed funny. Looks like u have no sense of humour.

pweetiedee:
Everything na pain?

I found wat u typed funny. Looks like u have no sense of humour.

Just the same way i found yours funny, that dog meme should have let you know .... my sense of humor dn full de pour sef.

Abi, can't I pain in peace

donstan18:
Just the same way i found yours funny, that dog meme should have let you know .... my sense of humor dn full de pour sef.

Abi, can't I pain in peace

Lol. e dey ur body

pweetiedee:
Lol. e dey ur body

Nne, imaka zi.