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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ImpressionsNG: 12:33am On Jan 24, 2018
Hmm
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 12:35am On Jan 24, 2018
Ceasefire come ceased go Be this one o the one you know better pass the one wey u no know anything e fit go do you bad
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Csami(m): 12:36am On Jan 24, 2018
People think marriage is a joke. Because he/she writes what gets to you and you think you both have this marriage compatibility and are made for each other. The real world is out there watching you guys with binoculars.

WTF is a promise ring?

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Toluensdollars(m): 12:39am On Jan 24, 2018
I understand very well, the feelings and pains of not getting married to the one whom your heart beats for. The issue now is not relationship, its about marriage because with what i read here, d lady in question is very happy in her relationship with her new guy which is good for the health of their relationship. But here we are talking about marriage, and i want to belief d lady in question understands what marriage truly means and also knows the difference between marriage and relationship. For me, i won't advice her to dump d one she truly loves and go for d other guy who's been disturbing her for marriage while she doesn't have any feelings for him, d marriage will definitely crash. Its better to be single than someone to have a broken marriage. I can tell u authoritatively that divorced women/ladies are not always emotionally and psychologically stable. My candid advice is for her to follow her heart, if waiting for d guy is what will give her everlasting joy, then she should wait. She mustn't succumb to pressures at home concerning d issue of bringing home her life's partner. After all, she's d only one who's going to deal, bear and accept every shit and happiness in d union. Marriage isn't something one can just jump into, tell her to take her time to think about it. Success

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by biggieoflife: 12:42am On Jan 24, 2018
It was Caesar she liked. But he wasn’t persistent enough..blablabala
I feel like tearing her hot slap....fiction or no fiction

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by LesbianBoy(m): 12:44am On Jan 24, 2018
biggieoflife:
It was Caesar she liked. But he wasn’t persistent enough..blablabala

I feel like tearing her hot slap....fiction or no fiction

I swear! As i read that part, e just be like say make i nack am jazz! grin grin grin

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by clive2u(m): 12:44am On Jan 24, 2018
follow your heart, meanwhile
today is my birthday so some kind person should surprise me by asking for my bank account number then sends some good sum into it to shut those people that say it's only girls that get such favours. 08121443025 thanks in advance
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Chimasco95(m): 12:45am On Jan 24, 2018
Ve got notin much to say to U than to advice U to follow ur HEART. Ur happiness ought to be ur number one priority and nt trying to make ur mum/parents happy. If actually u ve found true love, dnt let it go cus TRUE LOVE is hard to find and when found, ought to protect and pamper it like an EGG

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by MrMcJay(m): 12:57am On Jan 24, 2018
No matter the advice I proffer, she'll still do what is in her mind. So, I'll pass.

Next story please.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Applaner: 1:07am On Jan 24, 2018
summary plz
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by written007: 1:25am On Jan 24, 2018
The long piece says it all ; its either the lady is a nag or I think the guy isn't the right guy judging from how far I stretch my phone screen away from my face ,and yet my screen still can pick the whole write up...should we now wear our glass to bed...
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by written007: 1:25am On Jan 24, 2018
How do I say sorry in the 3rd person?? Yeah right! The op said I was sorry...peace bought? OK let's rest now.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ruggedtimi(m): 1:28am On Jan 24, 2018
tell caesar to go back to rome.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Gentleguy90: 1:28am On Jan 24, 2018
missjo:
This is the story of a man who chose to be a gentleman and is on the verge of losing the woman he loves to another man.

Here's how the story went and still goes:
Caesar will be 30years old in May 2018. At about this same time in January last year, he ran into the woman who would cause him to love like he has never loved before. Her name is Sara.
Caesar and Sara both attended the same secondary school, but they never spoke back then. This was until they were added to a WhatsApp group made up of Alumni from their graduating set.

Caesar joined the group much later than Sara did and at first he didn't take notice of her much. Although he always saw comments made by Sara and found them intriguing, he didn't make any move towards her instead he focused on flirting with some of the other ladies in the group whom he used to speak to back in secondary school. This went on until Sara started developing a crush on the mysterious alumni who always seemed to have the right words to flirt with and she didn't hide it. She called out to him and being the attention lover Caesar is, he responded and asked her for a photo so he can know he was talking to.
Both of them developed a friendship that was mainly built on flirting and counter-flirting until they decided to chat each other up privately. Caesar told Sara outrightly that he liked her and wanted to have a relationship with her but she turned him down because according to her, she was already in a serious relationship.

Caesar was also in a relationship too, but once he and Sara started talking, she was all he could think about. This not withstanding, he wasn't ready to keep chasing a girl who said she was dating when he knew deep down that he was also dating even though she never asked.
He stopped chatting to her privately for about 5months and they only exchanged pleasantries during debates in the WhatsApp group. By July 2017, Caesar had started having issues in his relationship but he still didn't know how to go about telling Sara to just leave her boyfriend and be with him. Over the next few months, they would exchange private messages and act like friends. This was until November 2017 when Sara admitted to Caesar that her relationship was hitting the rocks .

She said her boyfriend had been talking about marriage since they started dating in January and was supposed to have rented a flat that would herald the beginning of their union only for her to find out that he renewed his rent for another year in his single room bachelor pad without informing her. Not to mention the fact that they were constantly fighting and arguing. On hearing all this, Caeser finally saw a way in and he took it without hesitation.
He started being persistent and made sure he let her know how he has felt for the past 11months.

Fast forward to January 2018, Sara has seriously fallen in love with Caesar even though she has not officially broken up with her boyfriend of one year who all of a sudden has started making plans to visit her family for the 'first knocking' (Introduction). The problem is, Sara is not interested in marrying him anymore as all she wants to do is to be with Caesar.
She invited Caeser over to her city and to her surprise he leaves a promise ring with her the night before he leaves and tells her that the ring is a promise from him showing that he is ready to take the plunge head deep and make her his wife. Meanwhile, her boyfriend of one year has not proposed or given her any ring. All he does is to say he is doing the introduction in February like he is suddenly in a hurry.

Now this is the reason why he is suddenly in a hurry. Caesar, Sara and her boyfriend are all Alumni in the same WhatsApp group. The boyfriend and Caesar are actually friends although not too close and Caeser only found out who this mystery boyfriend is after he visited Sara and she told him. She was told by the boyfriend to keep their relationship a secret from all old classmates before then but because he is suspecting that Sara and Caeser are seriously talking, he wants to rush and be the one who married her.

Sara's mum has given her an ultimatum to get married this year because she will also be 30 and according to her mum, she must get married this year. Caeser however may not be ready to marry her this year because he needs to sort out some things, which is why he gave her the promise ring (he actually attached the ring to her necklace so that she will always have it dangling on her neck and close to her heart).
They are both in love and have always been, and Sara blames Caeser for not being persistent last year. She blames him for letting her stay with her boyfriend till now even when she never really loved him.

Now her mum has told her that she must marry her boyfriend regardless of the love she feels for Caeser.
Both Caeser and Sara have both shed tears as they spoke tonight over the usual video call they share every night. Sara wants to be with Caeser for the rest of her life, but her mum is on her neck and this has left her broken because she does not feel any love for her boyfriend, she never did..she only dated him because she was single and he was the one who was persistent as at January last year while Caeser gave up too easy even when he was the one she really wanted.

Please you guys, ladies, ogas & madams, what do you think is the appropriate solution to this very delicate matter. I need your help and input please cry cry
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by cassyrooy(m): 1:34am On Jan 24, 2018
Sara, your problem is very a critical one, a wrong choice and an uncertain one.

My lil contribution:

1. Don't marry for the sake of pressure/pity; your mother's pressure might be strong but try to keep deflecting it.

2. Ceaser is a very uncertain choice, he might be peppering you up to feed on any mistake; he knows your desire and possible position and can manipulate it just to 'cut his share' and move on, without any regards for the consequences that you may face.

3. To the bf that wasted time before trying to get her wedded too sha has some fault, delay is dangerous. What was he thinking all year?

4. To the mom, calm down, in your era, photographs might have been used to marry and later love blossom, but these modern eras has spell more marital crisis and the trend ain't slowing down for no one. Consider and picture your daughter in the best and most happiest union that will leave you proud and happy as a mother.

Parents should just jettison this idea of having age ceilings for their children, it tend to bestow unwanted pressure on them. Marriage self no be by force na.

Lemme park here!


But the story get as e be sha!

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by freecocoa(f): 1:35am On Jan 24, 2018
Its obvious you think this place is filled with stupid kids, to come up with this nonsense of an annoying story, mschew.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by willyboss: 2:03am On Jan 24, 2018
Why did Sara lead him on when she knew she had no love for him? She should have ended the relationship. Sara should know that it isn't always greener on the other side. My two kobo

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Xisnin(m): 2:05am On Jan 24, 2018
You are about to lose an unserious playboy. You should be happy because you already 30 years and
finally found a serious suitor.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by sulakishop(m): 2:05am On Jan 24, 2018
Thanks to sex doll
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Moboj: 2:38am On Jan 24, 2018
My small advice is this
Let Sarah's life and happiness evolve around just "her" so whatever happens in future,you get yourself to thank or blame,marriage decisions can be dangerous,being in a fully conscious mind only makes it a better one smiley your Mummy might leave you with "if's" and "had it been"
It's your life make your decisions wink
Remember it's a lifetime one

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by jaychubi: 2:57am On Jan 24, 2018
missjo:
This is the story of a man who chose to be a gentleman and is on the verge of losing the woman he loves to another man.

Here's how the story went and still goes:
Caesar will be 30years old in May 2018. At about this same time in January last year, he ran into the woman who would cause him to love like he has never loved before. Her name is Sara.
Caesar and Sara both attended the same secondary school, but they never spoke back then. This was until they were added to a WhatsApp group made up of Alumni from their graduating set.

Caesar joined the group much later than Sara did and at first he didn't take notice of her much. Although he always saw comments made by Sara and found them intriguing, he didn't make any move towards her instead he focused on flirting with some of the other ladies in the group whom he used to speak to back in secondary school. This went on until Sara started developing a crush on the mysterious alumni who always seemed to have the right words to flirt with and she didn't hide it. She called out to him and being the attention lover Caesar is, he responded and asked her for a photo so he can know he was talking to.
Both of them developed a friendship that was mainly built on flirting and counter-flirting until they decided to chat each other up privately. Caesar told Sara outrightly that he liked her and wanted to have a relationship with her but she turned him down because according to her, she was already in a serious relationship.

Caesar was also in a relationship too, but once he and Sara started talking, she was all he could think about. This not withstanding, he wasn't ready to keep chasing a girl who said she was dating when he knew deep down that he was also dating even though she never asked.
He stopped chatting to her privately for about 5months and they only exchanged pleasantries during debates in the WhatsApp group. By July 2017, Caesar had started having issues in his relationship but he still didn't know how to go about telling Sara to just leave her boyfriend and be with him. Over the next few months, they would exchange private messages and act like friends. This was until November 2017 when Sara admitted to Caesar that her relationship was hitting the rocks .

She said her boyfriend had been talking about marriage since they started dating in January and was supposed to have rented a flat that would herald the beginning of their union only for her to find out that he renewed his rent for another year in his single room bachelor pad without informing her. Not to mention the fact that they were constantly fighting and arguing. On hearing all this, Caeser finally saw a way in and he took it without hesitation.
He started being persistent and made sure he let her know how he has felt for the past 11months.

Fast forward to January 2018, Sara has seriously fallen in love with Caesar even though she has not officially broken up with her boyfriend of one year who all of a sudden has started making plans to visit her family for the 'first knocking' (Introduction). The problem is, Sara is not interested in marrying him anymore as all she wants to do is to be with Caesar.
She invited Caeser over to her city and to her surprise he leaves a promise ring with her the night before he leaves and tells her that the ring is a promise from him showing that he is ready to take the plunge head deep and make her his wife. Meanwhile, her boyfriend of one year has not proposed or given her any ring. All he does is to say he is doing the introduction in February like he is suddenly in a hurry.

Now this is the reason why he is suddenly in a hurry. Caesar, Sara and her boyfriend are all Alumni in the same WhatsApp group. The boyfriend and Caesar are actually friends although not too close and Caeser only found out who this mystery boyfriend is after he visited Sara and she told him. She was told by the boyfriend to keep their relationship a secret from all old classmates before then but because he is suspecting that Sara and Caeser are seriously talking, he wants to rush and be the one who married her.

Sara's mum has given her an ultimatum to get married this year because she will also be 30 and according to her mum, she must get married this year. Caeser however may not be ready to marry her this year because he needs to sort out some things, which is why he gave her the promise ring (he actually attached the ring to her necklace so that she will always have it dangling on her neck and close to her heart).
They are both in love and have always been, and Sara blames Caeser for not being persistent last year. She blames him for letting her stay with her boyfriend till now even when she never really loved him.

Now her mum has told her that she must marry her boyfriend regardless of the love she feels for Caeser.
Both Caeser and Sara have both shed tears as they spoke tonight over the usual video call they share every night. Sara wants to be with Caeser for the rest of her life, but her mum is on her neck and this has left her broken because she does not feel any love for her boyfriend, she never did..she only dated him because she was single and he was the one who was persistent as at January last year while Caeser gave up too easy even when he was the one she really wanted.

Please you guys, ladies, ogas & madams, what do you think is the appropriate solution to this very delicate matter. I need your help and input please cry cry

Love doesn't pay bills

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by hillsway(m): 3:24am On Jan 24, 2018
That lady go later regret!

1)For being indecisive

2)She's a bait from what I read up there and a bait would she be in the hand of both guys.

3)Neither of those guys love her,na just competition dey make them act up.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by simple765: 3:28am On Jan 24, 2018
Sara, don't let your mum put you in a fix and lure you into undesired marriage. Convince her to let you marry the person you love.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by SweetyMarvel00(m): 3:34am On Jan 24, 2018
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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by DedeNkem: 3:35am On Jan 24, 2018
Before I give any advice, I must say that uour story could have fitted well in four paragraphs at most!

When next you tell a story on a forum, make it damn short! Go into details only when people request! You are not blogging here. If your story MUST be long, make sure it worth it!!

My take on your story;
- Sara is a player.

- She's dribbling the two guys.

- If she didn't love her one-year man, she won't call him her boyfriend. Unless she is a gold digger.

- There's absolutely nothing wrong in "rushing" to marry your love when it is clear you may lose him or her to someone else if you didn't. I'm talking about her one-year boyfriend.

- Why is she finding it hard to end a relationship with a man she claimed she has no love for?

- Her mother or anyone has no right to force her into marrying anyone she loves or not! We are in 2018 not 19018!

- Does Caeser loves her? Only Caeser can tell. But I have my reservation in my summary.

- If she loves Caeser, she should go for it. One shouldn't marry for marrying sake. Only marry someone you love and who loves you too.

My advice:
There's a big difference between having a crush on someone and actually loving someone. You can't love someone you're not already dating! Love at first sight doesn't exist.

Sara should be true to herself and stop playing games!

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by LordSkinnie(m): 4:26am On Jan 24, 2018
Abeggi, she's 30!

She should decide whats best for her life. She isn't dependent on her mum anymore so her mum must not always decide her life choices anymore too.

But a promise ring is nothing too sha on.

Mama like her. If she is too confused, make she wait small.. male sex dolls will soon full everywhere. All that love talk na shit!

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by jaxxy(m): 4:43am On Jan 24, 2018
If lord caesar can't marry her dis year he shud leave her alone pls. Which one is promise ring? Does he think she still in high skol or a teenager Cos those are the ones who deal with promise rings. I think caesar is still a baby and time waster. The year just began he shud work out his plans and marry her this year or throw his promise ring in the trash bin. Thx
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Caveatemptor(m): 5:27am On Jan 24, 2018
Why is this in the family section?
What a poorly written novel.

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