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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by nazablossom(f): 8:02am On Jan 24, 2018 |
LesbianBoy:maybe the guy is now a handsome, six-packed and rich young man. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by luminouz(m): 8:22am On Jan 24, 2018 |
missjo: I stopped reading when I got to d 'they both cried' part!!! |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 8:24am On Jan 24, 2018 |
Give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and give to boyfriend what belongs to boyfriend. Ylou are running from boyfriend because he stays in a sine room. GOD WILL JUDGE YOU |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 8:26am On Jan 24, 2018 |
Mr ceaser let her go. If you want to marry her do that. The ball is in her court and while she claims" her mother this, her mother that", she is quite old enough to make her choice. And her stand of no choice is a choice. Just pretend to let go, dont call, text, reduce shit on the chat group, and watch how the boyfriend drops her since the competition from you (ceaser) does not make her relevant anymore, when the boyfriend does this she will have no body to fall back on. Except you, guess what, you can then marry her or date her or whatever. I don't like people like you, I think it's wrong to take something that belongs to another, regardless of how he treats her, if she felt so bad about it she would have left, and I can bet that all this information about her not loving him, how she's only with him because of pity came solely from her, it begs the question. If its so bad..if it has always been bad why didn't she leave him, if she did leave , it would have been a clear green light to you. Chasing her tho is folly as you will regret her as a wife, do you think marriage will always be rosy, what happens when you argue, she will go and be telling him, or some new guy, and start another love triangle. Take a step back and look at this well, pretend to let her go, yes its not easy. And watch her make her decision. But regardlesw of what she chooses , the other guy will never marry, please do not tell her this. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by grandstar(m): 8:35am On Jan 24, 2018 |
[quote author=missjo post=64460732]This is the story of a man who chose to be a gentleman and is on the verge of losing the woman he loves to another man. Here's how the story went and still goes: Caesar will be 30years old in May 2018. At about this same time in January last year, he ran into the woman who would cause him to love like he has never loved before. Her name is Sara. Caesar and Sara both attended the same secondary school, but they never spoke back then. This was until they were added to a WhatsApp group made up of Alumni from their graduating set. Caesar joined the group much later than Sara did and at first he didn't take notice of her much. Although he always saw comments made by Sara and found them intriguing, he didn't make any move towards her instead he focused on flirting with some of the other ladies in the group whom he used to speak to back in secondary school. This went on until Sara started developing a crush on the mysterious alumni who always seemed to have the right words to flirt with and she didn't hide it. She called out to him and being the attention lover Caesar is, he responded and asked her for a photo so he can know he was talking to. Both of them developed a friendship that was mainly built on flirting and counter-flirting until they decided to chat each other up privately. Caesar told Sara outrightly that he liked her and wanted to have a relationship with her but she turned him down because according to her, she was already in a serious relationship. Caesar was also in a relationship too, but once he and Sara started talking, she was all he could think about. This not withstanding, he wasn't ready to keep chasing a girl who said she was dating when he knew deep down that he was also dating even though she never asked. He stopped chatting to her privately for about 5months and they only exchanged pleasantries during debates in the WhatsApp group. By July 2017, Caesar had started having issues in his relationship but he still didn't know how to go about telling Sara to just leave her boyfriend and be with him. Over the next few months, they would exchange private messages and act like friends. This was until November 2017 when Sara admitted to Caesar that her relationship was hitting the rocks . She said her boyfriend had been talking about marriage since they started dating in January and was supposed to have rented a flat that would herald the beginning of their union only for her to find out that he renewed his rent for another year in his single room bachelor pad without informing her. Not to mention the fact that they were constantly fighting and arguing. On hearing all this, Caeser finally saw a way in and he took it without hesitation. He started being persistent and made sure he let her know how he has felt for the past 11months. Fast forward to January 2018, Sara has seriously fallen in love with Caesar even though she has not officially broken up with her boyfriend of one year who all of a sudden has started making plans to visit her family for the 'first knocking' (Introduction). The problem is, Sara is not interested in marrying him anymore as all she wants to do is to be with Caesar. She invited Caeser over to her city and to her surprise he leaves a promise ring with her the night before he leaves and tells her that the ring is a promise from him showing that he is ready to take the plunge head deep and make her his wife. Meanwhile, her boyfriend of one year has not proposed or given her any ring. All he does is to say he is doing the introduction in February like he is suddenly in a hurry. Now this is the reason why he is suddenly in a hurry. Caesar, Sara and her boyfriend are all Alumni in the same WhatsApp group. The boyfriend and Caesar are actually friends although not too close and Caeser only found out who this mystery boyfriend is after he visited Sara and she told him. She was told by the boyfriend to keep their relationship a secret from all old classmates before then but because he is suspecting that Sara and Caeser are seriously talking, he wants to rush and be the one who married her. Sara's mum has given her an ultimatum to get married this year because she will also be 30 and according to her mum, she must get married this year. Caeser however may not be ready to marry her this year because he needs to sort out some things, which is why he gave her the promise ring (he actually attached the ring to her necklace so that she will always have it dangling on her neck and close to her heart). They are both in love and have always been, and Sara blames Caeser for not being persistent last year. She blames him for letting her stay with her boyfriend till now even when she never really loved him. Now her mum has told her that she must marry her boyfriend regardless of the love she feels for Caeser. Both Caeser and Sara have both shed tears as they spoke tonight over the usual video call they share every night. Sara wants to be with Caeser for the rest of her life, but her mum is on her neck and this has left her broken because she does not feel any love for her boyfriend, she never did..she only dated him because she was single and he was the one who was persistent as at January last year while Caeser gave up too easy even when he was the one she really wanted. Please you guys, ladies, ogas & madams, what do you think is the appropriate solution to this very delicate matter. I need your help and input please [/quote She should marry Caesar. Marriage is a journey of no return ] |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Niyinficient(m): 9:20am On Jan 24, 2018 |
Simple case ......leave the boyfriend cos marriage is not a day's job.....marry your heart....you mum will understand later...simple. Life is not all about marriage abeg. 1 Like |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Authenticity(m): 9:26am On Jan 24, 2018 |
INFATUATION..........better heed to your parents Advice. Very soon your eyes go clear,,,dats not love oooo,,,its infatuation with the so called ceasar |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by hangel50: 10:06am On Jan 24, 2018 |
well,let"forget about the promise ring..because it does nt guarantee that he would marry you,firstly i think you should forget about what your mum thinks,because she will not be there with you when you wil be facing the ugly marital issues...go for who your heart longs for.....and not under any pressure...delay is not denial....it"nt a matter of how far bt hw well.....best of luck. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Napoleonsammy(m): 10:22am On Jan 24, 2018 |
caesar caesar caesar |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by AreaFada2: 10:24am On Jan 24, 2018 |
AntiBrutus: Surprisingly I took time to read the very long story before replying. She should not allow herself to be pressured into marrying a guy she does not love. Her mother will not spend 50 or even more years with the hubby, but this girl will. So following her heart means following who she loves. Do not marry out of pity, gratitude or pressure generally. I do not have to write a reply as long as her epistle to make sense sir. 1 Like |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Worksunlimited: 10:26am On Jan 24, 2018 |
Dude! Man up and say you are the dude in question... The whole story justs puts ladies as confused beings.. She was the one that said mba!, when. Caesar first state im church mind. Dude left her and later came back when she started complaining her relationship was hitting the rocks.. Now, after much much, she is blaming Caesar for not coming on time.. As in, can you just imagine d babe shifting blame on Caesar, who only did what any rational man would do..l? Caesar should better bail o.. That babe is a confused drama queen.. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 10:32am On Jan 24, 2018 |
At 30, una still dey cry, dey do video chat. Issokay |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by mikemedi38(m): 10:37am On Jan 24, 2018 |
nice article thans for sharing |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by InfernoNig: 10:37am On Jan 24, 2018 |
Op. I know its you. Well just don' think about it. What will be will be. Just flow with the ride. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ImaIma1(f): 10:45am On Jan 24, 2018 |
It is very common for another guy to sweep you off your feet at the time when you are planning to get married. The guy comes as a knight in shinny armour...more loving and caring than your boyfriend. He listens to you with undivided attention...calls you often to ask how you are and if you have eaten...filling up in areas where your boyfriend is slacking. More often than not, IT IS A TRAP. He might turn out worse. Promise ring...till 2025 |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by adisabarber(m): 11:08am On Jan 24, 2018 |
You always speak wisely ImaIma1: |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ImaIma1(f): 12:08pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
adisabarber: Thanks. I am really blushing |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:09pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
adanny01:Caeser was honest, he said it clearly that he's not sure he will get married this year. He's looking to settle down next year. 1 Like |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:13pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
donsimo:To be honest, I feel it's just a game to him. When I asked him why he kept our relationship private from the group since last year, he outrightly said that he wants to wait to upload our wedding pics and shock people because he knows he has competition and he wants to show them that he's the one who got the woman. I don't understand why a grown person would think like this , I don't at all. 1 Like |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ImaIma1(f): 12:19pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
missjo: You should be careful then because you don't know if Ceasar is part of their little game or competition. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:24pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Mmhmmmmmm, thanks. This is noted |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:29pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
ImaIma1:Nope he is not. Caesar has been asking me who my boyfriend was since February last year but I told him to mind his business. I finally told him last week when he came to visit me in my city, he never knew my so-called boyfriend was in the same alumni group and they were old classmates. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:36pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
lastmessenger:Thanks for this |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:40pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
Yakzo:Oh thank goodness for understanding that part. And it's not the money that's his problem. Even if he was going to renew his rent, what stops him from discussing it with me first since we both already agreed to rent a bigger place. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:41pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
shakurkings:Mmhhmmmmm |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:42pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
8stargeneral:Real-lifewood sir |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:45pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
tellmemore15:Thanks a lot for passing this accross without any judgements, I appreciate it. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
missjo: Better odds with ceased, but am not sure if any would even want you again, I mean this is two friends, and its like you are play both sides. |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:50pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
Csami:It's a proper wedding ring that's not worn on the finger until the wedding day itself. It is kept hanging on a bracelet or necklace and moved to the finger where it belongs after taking the vows. 1 Like |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:54pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
biggieoflife:Smh |
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 12:56pm On Jan 24, 2018 |
ruggedtimi:Lol, that's not his real name. I don't know who might be reading hence the name changes |
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