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bobokeshington:
I have a friend who is getting married soon but still lives with his parents. Although, he stays separately in another apartment but still in that same building. He said he isn't buoyant enough to rent an apartment that suit his Lady's standards.

So is it okay for him to get married in his parents house or he should just find a means to move out?

bobokeshington:
I have a friend who is getting married soon but still lives with his parents. Although, he stays separately in another apartment but still in that same building. He said he isn't buoyant enough to rent an apartment that suit his Lady's standards.

So is it okay for him to get married in his parents house or he should just find a means to move out?

amokeme:
To me it's wrong.. when it gets to a certain age, a man is suppose to be on his own, doesn't matter if is just one room, be independent.

And as for the bold, I'm really not understanding I mean, I do but I don't get why that is always an issue. If she has a standard, she should help contribute towards the said standard.

xynerise:
You said he is not buoyant enough and you still wants him to find a means to move out, to where exactly, under the bridge?

Suit his Lady's standard?

How much did she contribute?
He should better rent to his own standard and not to impress someone who didnt assist

bobokeshington:
The guy said he can only afford like a room self con but the lady feels its small and she is even ready to drop a single penny...
And you know you ladies know how to get a man to do your wish especially when he's in love....

bobokeshington:
The guy wan go borrow money ni o

amokeme:
Is or is not?

tosyne2much:
Why would a man comfortably harbour his wife in his parents house and see nothing wrong in it? Some things don't just seem right even though it's not stated in the law

Even without being married, there was a point I was no longer feeling comfortable staying under the roof of my parents. I will rather leave my father's duplex and live with my wife in a one room apartment

xynerise:
Poor decision. You don't borrow to rent an apartment when your income won't fetch you money for next rent

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Too many monitoring eyes. Such is normal in many societies though

bobokeshington:
That wife isn't willing to live with you in that one room apartment and you really do love her. What Do You Do?

bobokeshington:
His income should be able to but he doesn't has a budget for it and can't afford beyond what I initially stated at the moment

xynerise:
He should start from a room apartment

valentineuwakwe:
let me ask you first, is their any law that forbids one from staying in the same compound with his parent and get married? to me I hv never seen and dis is none..as long as its not in the same apartment, no problem...if it suites the couple to stay in the compound, better...it's Ida personal choice and besides he told you he is not yet bouyant. .....he should be lucky its a different apartment in the same compound...

bobokeshington:
She's not ready to drop a dime

wristbangle:
Getting married in your parents' house could be a terrible decision as most especially when your mother ( in law) to your wife may be creating an uncomfortable environment for her when it comes to marital affair/decision.

Also, if your wife to be can't manage a self con apartment pending when you get a better one shows she may not withstand marital financial pressure in the long run.

For me, what you can afford is what you should go for. Don't raise unnecessary debt that would be difficult for you to pay within a stipulated period. Don't because you want to satisfy her wish, you start your marriage on deficit level.

Lastly, double your hustle bro and keep praying God bless it.

tosyne2much:
Your head correct jawe oga Wristbangle... The only time you can consider living in you parents' house together with your wife is when unexpected events happen that left you in no choice

wristbangle:
Prof tosyne2much, that's it my brother. The bible made reference to a man leaving his parents home and form his. If unforeseen circumstances happen that may lead him to stay in his parents house, that should be temporarily.

bobokeshington:
She's not ready to drop a dime

tosyne2much:
Why would a man comfortably harbour his wife in his parents house and see nothing wrong in it? Some things don't just seem right even though it's not stated in the law

Even without being married, there was a point I was no longer feeling comfortable staying under the roof of my parents not to talk of bringing a wife into the same house. I will rather leave my father's duplex and live with my wife in a one room apartment

amokeme:
Read the initial post well o. The guy doesn't have a problem leaving his parent's house, but the wife to be is not comfortable with the accommodation he can afford. So its safe to say, she is the one hindering him from moving. And then she isn't ready to contribute towards her supposed standards