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My Colombian girlfriend has been hinting that she wants to settle down and get married soon. She started talking about having kids and how many. Despite all that sounding great, I do believe that we’re not ready for it. It has only been 7 months since we met through LoveMe site and despite things going well and serious between us, I still think we’re not in a stage where we should be talking about marriage.

We’ve already met and it has only been twice since we’ve been together face to face and although I agree that the distance is really troublesome, I want us to progress in a healthy time and way. I don’t want to hurt her when I talk to her about the fact that I get a bit uncomfortable when she talks about “starting a family.” Even though we are both financially stable and I know that we can afford to do all that… I just don’t feel that it’s the right time.

It’s not like I’m saying that I won’t be marrying her nor do I have no intentions to… it’s just that, it’s not the time for me yet. So how can I tell her without hurting her feelings? I don’t want to lose her and I don’t want this to be a reason for trouble between us, especially with this distance… what should I do? I need HELP!

All this online love story sha

What should you do?
What are we, your therapist?
What are you, 10?


You're an Adult oga, tell her you ain't ready.
If she can't wait till you're ready, then, she might as well leave.

ntn 2 say

Oga, u don't want to marry and u don't want to lose her.. biko don't be a stingy, let her go if u don't wanna marry yet. I know u still wanna play around albeit why u don't wanna settle down, but she's refused to conform to the world of fuvkgirls.. let that girl go abeg

Flee Now if you do not nurse same plan with her..

Oga,
you should know b4 now that why she went into rltshp with you is marriage. If you are not ready just ask her for some reasonable time and be sincere, if she agrees, good but if not pls let her go.

princeking2:
Oga,
you should know b4 now that why she went into rltshp with you is marriage. If you are not ready just ask her for some reasonable time and be sincere, if she agrees, good but if not pls let her go.

Oga, thanks for the advice. I am dating her with intentions of marriage, it's just that... we're still at a stage of getting to really know each other. I don't want to rush things, I want it to naturally happen. But thanks...

missingyou35:
Oga, thanks for the advice. I am dating her with intentions of marriage, it's just that... we're still at a stage of getting to really know each other. I don't want to rush things, I want it to naturally happen. But thanks...

alright sir. All the best.

Op you are just beating about the bush. You don't sound like you really know what you want at the moment. Why dont you release her while you sort yourself out.

If you meet the one, you won't be dragging your feet especially as you are financially capable. You would have started making moves.