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mejai:
if u like bring heaven for dem, dey will never be satisfied. buy washing machine, she will complain of ironing clothes all d tym.
buy yam pounding machine, she will complain u eat yam too much.
u know what..... u just can't kill ursef in satisfying women. do d necessary things and drink beer with ur guys

Toks2008:
It is so disheartening that in many parts of the world, many married men have lost their wives and what they have is a maid, child-minder,cook,Nursing mother, children teacher, financial partner and so on all in one person

How can one woman be all the aforementioned and still be in her right state of mind to be that sweet romantic lady you married? how can a man get angry when a woman complains of tiredness after tending to the child, cook, clean the house, wash cloths, run errands and in most cases also go out to work in order to augment what the man brings home.

A wife is not synonymous to a slave. Men should get their wives all the necessary home appliances like washing machine, hoover, dish washer, food processing machine and so on to make life easier for their wives and also try to help them out in any way possible so that the wife they married will still be available to tend to their needs cos a worn out woman can never think straight or satisfy her husband's emotional and sexual needs.

Don't lose your wife.

Papiikush:
Baba how many wars have you been to?

How many dangerous jobs had claimed your limbs and fingers? Don't be cruel man...get your woman the necessary things needed to make her life and work in YOUR HOME easier.

Don't look for an excuse to be a miserable husband. I just pity the lady that falls into your shackles.

lefulefu:
for someone who loves white women u certainly don't have the typical character of guys who's are into white chicks.bros with this attitude the white girl will kick u out of her house.u think she will cook for u. Why u acting like all those 17th century men.na wah for u.

zezebabyxoxo:
Honestly, if the man is the sole provider in the home and the wife does not work, I see no reason why she should complain about house chores. But clearly, realities have shifted from traditional gender roles. In the light of our current economic situation were wives work full time and are increasingly making significant financial contribution to their homes, should domestic chores still be the woman's sole responsibility?

dingbang:
person wey her yarnsh strong like cement

victorian:
God bless you Toks, what you said is absolutely true.
Men out there use their wives as slaves, although not all men. But some categories of men. I truly pity their wives. What a life.

My family friend bought a brand new car for his wife, a cleaner comes every weekend to clean the whole house and wash all their clothes, with kids clothes, toys and all. While the wife feeds the two kids she has and before noon either go for pedicure and manicure or fix a new hairstyle and attend to their extended families and friends later on.
One married man, who is one of our neighbors said, my family friend is spoiling his wife he doesnt know. Why pamper a woman so much?
I looked at him with shock! And I replied pamper? Are u for real? Isn't she is wife? And he has the means, why would he become mean and stingy to his wife.
Oga, such mentality is bad. Don't make your wife appear old before her time, then later u go chasing small fresh girls. And u are the one who made her look weary and worn out. Smmhh.

Can't you see how fresh his wife looks with those kids. No one will even believe she has even given birth. Abeg, he loves to pamper her and see a fresh wife every night he's back from work. Remove eye Biko.
He didn't complain to you.

Some men sha.

Toks well done jare.

Kwenty:
Once a man is equal to the task and shouldering all the family responsibility, both emotional security and otherwise; the wife needs not complain.
But in a situation where the woman is hustling too to assist in the family upkeep; then it's wickedness to overlabour her with house chores.

AntiBrutus:
Toks toks...
Don't worry, they will hug you today.
Nobody will remind you to go get married as usual.

Sha pray make menists no twist the thread for you.

"Toks, you may sit, you're safe" *in Ebuka's voice*

Toks2008:
See una life! I stand with the truth but because ladies love to hear what they want to hear...they give their own meanings to my threads...

I did not write this to make any lady happy. ..but as usual..I am just frank.

XML33:
Western women and black women aren't the only kind of women in the world. There are lots of other "races" of women that live in societies that understand the roles of men and women and apply it to their cultures. East Asians: The Chinese, Japanese and Koreans understand the roles of men and women. Indians understand the roles of men and women. Middle easterners understand the roles of men and women. The only societies that don't understand the role of men and women, or are being manipulated by the powers that be to modify these roles, are western nations, and you can see how dysfunctional their families are. You can see how fuçked up the society is. You can also see how sad their women are - because they are switching/equalizing the roles of men and women, thereby creating an environment that forces men to act like women and women to act like men.

Papiikush:
Baba how many wars have you been to?

How many dangerous jobs had claimed your limbs and fingers? Don't be cruel man...get your woman the necessary things needed to make her life and work in YOUR HOME easier.

Don't look for an excuse to be a miserable husband. I just pity the lady that falls into your shackles.

XML33:
It's the responsibility of a woman to take care of the kids and tend to most of the house chores because that's what she's created for. Enough of this equality/switching of roles nonsense. Most women naturally want to take care of children. Most women naturally want to tend to the needs of their husbands. I'm not supporting over labouring a woman with duties or not considering how stressful certain home duties can be. But the fact remains that these things are her duties and she should do them without complain. Just the same way a man should provide for the family and offer protection & emotional security to his wife as well as shower her with affection and care without complain.

Men have been going to wars and dying in their millions for thousands of years and no man has complained. Men have been doing the dangerous jobs and losing fingers and limbs for thousands of years and no man has complained. I don't see why women should complain because of ordinary house chores.

lefulefu:
for someone who loves white women u certainly don't have the typical character of guys who's are into white chicks.bros with this attitude the white girl will kick u out of her house.u think she will cook for u. Why u acting like all those 17th century men.na wah for u.

KingOfAmebo:
Female ass licker spotted...why don't you just tell your female friends to also play the role of a husband or help provide for the family as well.

So you sabi pass God way sey him create woman to be man's helper abi? Na people like you go end up washing pant and bra for your wife while she go sit down for house dey watch tv...woman wrapper.

E no go better for the girl wey give you eforiro chop.

If I sey thunder fire that your big head now you go sey I no dey wish you well.

# spits on thread.

tevinsolt:
What a load of horse-crap. I want to address this part of your first statement "....because that's what she's created for."

you are making a claim that the purpose for the existence of the female species is to do that which you've made mention of in the part preceding the quoted phrase above.

What is your evidence to back that up? because you sound as though you were present at the brainstorming meeting that came up with the fantastic idea of making females for the purpose of doing house chores, while men go off and fight wars that was likely started by WOMEN? hmm something to think about

or just maybe (just a thought) your upbringing has conditioned your mind to think women were "CREATED" for whatever it is you make up up-there, or just some internet BS you've read at some point and have decided to take on and continue to propagate to support your opinion.

tevinsolt:
What a load of horse-crap. I want to address this part of your first statement "....because that's what she's created for."

you are making a claim that the purpose for the existence of the female species is to do that which you've made mention of in the part preceding the quoted phrase above.

What is your evidence to back that up? because you sound as though you were present at the brainstorming meeting that came up with the fantastic idea of making females for the purpose of doing house chores, while men go off and fight wars that was likely started by WOMEN? hmm something to think about

or just maybe (just a thought) your upbringing has conditioned your mind to think women were "CREATED" for whatever it is you make up up-there, or just some internet BS you've read at some point and have decided to take on and continue to propagate to support your opinion.

donstan18:
Wonderful writeup by the OP.

I think the questions should be,

1: How many wives do we have these days? : In as much as I know not your definition of wife, I can tell that we'v got few wives in Africa these days, what do we have? , we have ladies that wants to bear MRS, ladies that aren't emotional, financially, physically and spiritually committed before entering a marriage, ladies getting married for the sake of "I'm married" hence trying to avoid our African societal view on single ladies.

2: How many women turns out to be the woman their man use to know?
: This is where ladies usually fail woefully, we'v seen where couples who dated for 4-5 years divorced after 6 months of marriage, a guy while dating a lady will be helping in chores, won't be bothered much about your financial supports, won't even allow you do some chores for him, why?, possibly because there's this good and awesome woman he sees in you, but why do most of them normally changes immediately they marry you? Simply because you changed from the woman they use to know to another, feeling you are now his wife.

3 : How many women of these generation are child-minders, cooks, nursing mother, financial partner and so on?.
: Can a social media addict possess all these qualities? , we have many of them here on Nairaland , don't we?, we have married women who jumps from one thread to another to fight and quarrel with secondary school boys everyday here, are they not the wives we are typing about? Hahahah . ...how do you expect these set of women to possess all these above listed qualities?, how's that possible?, I might not leave here If I continue highlighting the proves that we have less wife materials these days.

4 : What's your definition of a wife?

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Do we still have the mothers we had then?, do we?
No, rather we have pinging mothers, social media addicts with no atom of shame.

The truth remains that every woman is directly or indirectly responsible for any actions and change in her husband.

With all due respect Mr Toke, the thread should be DO WE STILL HAVE WIVES ? , the answer to this question will give men a go ahead reason and order to tell and answer your question Where Is Your Wife?

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If only people practice what they preach online about relationship and marriage, we wouldn't have been suffering the problems we are facing in relationship these days.


Once again...Nice writeup.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
The complain come when she has a tedious job and you expect her to do these chores like WTF!? Come back home after a tedious day and the wife is expected to go straight into the kitchen and cook and the man will b there watching tv...

lefulefu:
for someone who loves white women u certainly don't have the typical character of guys who's are into white chicks.bros with this attitude the white girl will kick u out of her house.u think she will cook for u. Why u acting like all those 17th century men.na wah for u.

XML33:
Who are currently fighting the wars in the middle east? Men or women? Who are currently defending Nigeria in the north? Men or women? For thousands of years men have shouldered the responsibility of protecting the state/country/nation which usually comprise of vast populations of women. Have you ever seen men complain? Is doing house chores more stressful and life threatening than fighting wars?

Who are currently working in the dangerous coal mines in various parts of the world? Men or women? Who are currently working in dangerous underground oil rigs in major parts of the world? Men or women? Who are currently attending to potentially dangerous large power plants and electric grids in major parts of the world? Men or women?

We could play this game in reverse you know. Men could start complaining and ask women to assist equally in these dangerous tasks and we'll see how the world turns out.

For thousands of years women have been taking care of the home and kids, and society has progressed smoothly. Now you closet Marxists want to change all that with your equality & switching of roles nonsense. Everything in life comes with it's own stress and burden. No one should expect to have things easy. Attend to your duties and stop complaining.

Did I or did I not say men have the responsibility to provide for the family? Did I or did I not say men have the responsibility to shower care and affection on their wives? But does it mean women shouldn't do their duties without complaining? A woman expects a man to be the bread winner and perform all his duties without complaining but she can't do common house chores without complaining?

gentlegenius:
You are right... But that's why I will never allow my wife to do any tedious job. In fact, I won't even allow her to work for anybody. I will simply create a job(business) for her where she will be the boss and have people working for her instead of her to work for people. Then she'll be free to choose when to go for work and when to stay and take care of her home.