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phazotron:
Eventually I decided to tell her (politely) to stop giving pple the wrong impression about both of us and because i don't want Covet what belongs to another. All of a sudden she starts to gie me silent treatment at work.

this was not a bad move at all, but it was impolite.

Imagine you like a girl, you like to talk to her, calling her all the sweet sweet names that you could imagine, and one day she walks up to you (politely) asking you to stop for whatever reason, you will feel terrible and rejected.

The fact that she says she has a bf might be a lie. Maybe she likes you, but couldn't express it directly (this is normal for Nigerian girls), so she shows it my been nice and by calling you pet names.

I feel bad that you didn't get the message.


Move on immediately, she is only feeling the pains of rejection. You know girls .

DJHANDSOME:
this was not a bad move at all, but it was impolite.

Imagine you like a girl, you like to talk to her, calling her all the sweet sweet names that you could imagine, and one day she walks up to you (politely) asking you to stop for whatever reason, you will feel terrible and rejected.

The fact that she says she has a bf might be a lie. Maybe she likes you, but couldn't express it directly (this is normal for Nigerian girls), so she shows it my been nice and by calling you pet names.

I feel bad that you didn't get the message.


Move on immediately, she is only feeling the pains of rejection. You know girls .

Bros she has a bf. Me myself I know. If the tables were turned, I wouldn't feel terrible and rejected. it's not very proper to be referring to someone (who you have no romantic ties with at all) with romantic names so much everyone around believes something is going on.

DJHANDSOME:
this was not a bad move at all, but it was impolite.

Imagine you like a girl, you like to talk to her, calling her all the sweet sweet names that you could imagine, and one day she walks up to you (politely) asking you to stop for whatever reason, you will feel terrible and rejected.

The fact that she says she has a bf might be a lie. Maybe she likes you, but couldn't express it directly (this is normal for Nigerian girls), so she shows it my been nice and by calling you pet names.

I feel bad that you didn't get the message.


Move on immediately, she is only feeling the pains of rejection. You know girls .

Bros she has a bf. Me myself I know. If the tables were turned, I wouldn't feel terrible and rejected. it's not very proper to be referring to someone (who you have no romantic ties with at all) with romantic names so much everyone around believes something is going on. Never ended the friendship. Just wanted that angle to stop. I've moved on already. Onus is on her to accept my apologies.

phazotron:
You better go for counselling because you sound like someone whose suicide/ obituary we could be hearing of soon. Frustrated soul. This is Nigeria. Eryone has challenges. Don't let yours overwhelm you. As long as there's life, there's hope OK?

Call me a frustrated soul? I bet you ll bite your bitter tongue to say that if it was in real world. Such a fishbrain who can't take corrections. So eager to be Stup1d.

phazotron:
Interested in me? Turned her down? Lolz. Someone who has a boyfriend.

so you've never heard of women who cheat on their partner?!

MrBrownJay1:
so you've never heard of women who cheat on their partner?!

Rather than me turning her down like most of yall have been saying, she's the one who's been turning me down sef. Before I got to know she has a boyfriend I actually gave her signs that I wanted to date her and she promptly let me know she has a boyfriend. One day I was like "you're special to me" and the next thing she does is to show me the gift her bf got her which is a signal saying "keep off boy." so who iz turning who down? Who is rejecting who? Iss like you guys don't get me at all.

phazotron:
Rather than me turning her down like most of yall have been saying, she's the one who's been turning me down sef. Before I got to know she has a boyfriend I actually gave her signs that I wanted to date her and she promptly let me know she has a boyfriend. One day I was like "you're special to me" and the next thing she does is to show me the easter gift her bf got her which is a signal saying "keep off boy." so who iz turning who down? Who is rejecting who? Iss like you guys don't get me at all.

bro, stop pretending like you dont have a clue what is happening here....

MrBrownJay1:
bro, stop pretending like you dont have a clue what is happening here....

Clue of wat? Wether u get where I'm coming from or not isn't even my concern anymore. My own is, it doesn't make any sense making everyone around bliv we are together when you have a bf you have no intention of leaving........does that make any sense to you at all Mr brown j?

phazotron:
Clue of wat? Wether u get where I'm coming from or not isn't even my concern anymore. My own is, it doesn't make any sense making everyone around bliv we are together when you have a bf you have no intention of leaving........does that make any sense to you at all Mr brown j?

of course it does NOT make any sense.... but stop pretending that you didnt know what this babe wanted OR why she is mad that you turned her
request for a fling down. let me give you a clue: she is mad because the man she wanted to fukc on the side does not want to go down to her cheap level... and now she has to face that man everyday at work.

MrBrownJay1:
of course it does NOT make any sense.... but stop pretending that you didnt know what this babe wanted OR why she is mad that you turned her
request for a fling down. let me give you a clue: she is mad because the man she wanted to fukc on the side does not want to go down to her cheap level... and now she has to face that man everyday at work.

She doesn't want a fling. Truss me. If she did we would have one. Besides I don't like d idea of messing around with another man's property. That charade had to stop. It didn't make any sense. you have no intention of leaving the guy yet you're hell bent on misleading the whole world? I had to put an end to it. I have a gut feeling that in the long run the whole thing would come back to bite me in the ass.

MrBrownJay1:
of course it does NOT make any sense.... but stop pretending that you didnt know what this babe wanted OR why she is mad that you turned her
request for a fling down. let me give you a clue: she is mad because the man she wanted to fukc on the side does not want to go down to her cheap level... and now she has to face that man everyday at work.

She doesn't want a fling. Truss me. If she did we would have one. I made several overtures in respect to that but she turned it down. Besides I don't like d idea of messing around with another man's property. That charade had to stop. It didn't make any sense. you have no intention of leaving the guy yet you're hell bent on misleading the whole world? I had to put an end to it. I have a gut feeling that in the long run the whole thing would come back to bite me in the ass.

phazotron:
She doesn't want a fling. Truss me. If she did we would have one.

the truth shall set you free... now we have a true picture of what is really happening here. so you wanted to have an office fling with her but she is the one who DIDNT.... not the way around (as you tried to portray in this thread)

I made several overtures in respect to that but she turned it down.

so you did decide to initiate an office fling, and she turned you down....so you came back and told her that this friendly nature of hers has got to stop. and now she is mad because you thought she wanted to sleep with you, while in fact you misread her signs of friendly banter (aka office joke). couldnt that be the issue here?!

Besides I don't like d idea of messing around with another man's property. That charade had to stop.

funny that you suddenly get some morals and say the above AFTER making several attempt to initiate office romance, lol!

It didn't make any sense. you have no intention of leaving the guy yet you're hell bent on misleading the whole world?

so the real issue that is hurting you is A) she didnt want to have a fling with you and B) that she is not ready to leave her BF for you either, right?

I had to put an end to it. I have a gut feeling that in the long run the whole thing would come back to bite me in the ass.

or is it that you got so offended when she turned your request for a fling down that you tried to turn around and look like you didnt want her....while in fact you DO (but she just doesnt want to have anything to do with you)?

MrBrownJay1:
the truth shall set you free... now we have a true picture of what is really happening here. so you wanted to have an office fling with her but she is the one who DIDNT.... not the way around (as you tried to portray in this thread)



so you did decide to initiate an office fling, and she turned you down....so you came back and told her that this friendly nature of hers has got to stop. and now she is mad because you thought she wanted to sleep with you, while in fact you misread her signs of friendly banter (aka office joke). couldnt that be the issue here?!



funny that you suddenly get some morals and say the above AFTER making several attempt to initiate office romance, lol!



so the real issue that is hurting you is A) she didnt want to have a fling with you and B) that she is not ready to leave her BF for you either, right?



or is it that you got so offended when she turned your request for a fling down that you tried to turn around and look like you didnt want her....while in fact you DO (but she just doesnt want to have anything to do with you)?

This thing is so simple.... You're just complicating the matter. Why do you keep bringing office fling into this thing? I'm not even into premarital sex. When I talk of fling I mean relationship. I tried to ask her out when I hadn't discovered she had a guy. If she did want anything to have to do with me she would have agreed a long time ago. I'm not a fan of games bro. With me a is a and b is b. If she has a guy let her stick to her guy. Doesn't mean we can't be friends. Perhaps you're just trying to be sarcastic and catch fun cause I've xplained the scenario very well.