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eezeribe:
The irony of life... Rich guys and eligible bachelors don't give a Bleep about all these relationships and marriage brouhaha...
It's the broke guys who are always under pressure and ultimatums from their poor girlfriends and their impoverished families.
Young man I would advise you to forget about that girl and face your life please,you still have ample time to get rich and attract better girls from more decent families into your life.
Women are so greedy and their daughters inherit this greediness from them...
How will a woman who can hardly afford three triangular meals a day,be advising her daughter to hook up with a senator's son..smh.
ADVICE TO MY FELLOW YOUNG MEN :

(*) MAKE MONEY FIRST BEFORE THINKING OF WOMEN

(*)AVOID ANYTHING(I MEAN WOMAN) THAT WOULD DISTRACT YOU FROM CHASING RICHES.

(*)AVOID FEMALE PARASITES;ALL OF THEM WILL STILL LEAVE YOU WHEN THEY MEET A RICHER GUY.

(1)PLEASE STOP DATING OR MARRYING GIRLS FROM FAMILIES THAT ARE POORER THAN YOURS

(2)IF YOU ARE WORKING CLASS OR BUSINESS CLASS PLEASE STOP DATING STUDENTS AND UNEMPLOYED GRADUATES.

(3)STOP SPONSORING GIRLS IN SCHOOL,GO TO YOUR VILLAGE AND HELP YOUR COUSINS AND RELATIVES.

(4)ONLY STUDENTS SHOULD DATE THEIR FELLOW STUDENTS;ONLY UNEMPLOYED GRADUATES SHOULD DATE AND MARRY THEIR FELLOW UNEMPLOYED FEMALES.

(5)IF A GIRL HAS NO REGULAR JOB OR BUSINESS,PLEASE LEAVE HER FOR YAHOO BOYS AND SUGAR DADDIES;SUCH A GIRL HAS NOTHING TO OFFER.

(6)IF YOU ARE A GRADUATE,YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS EVEN LOOKING AT A GIRL WITH SSCE,NOT TO TALK OF SAYING HI.


(7)DEAR MEN,PLEASE STOP ALLOWING WOMEN SET UNNECESSARY STANDARDS THAT ALL THE MALES PUT TOGETHER IN THEIR OWN FAMILIES CANNOT MEET UP;IT'S TIME TO STEP UP YOUR GAMES.

*summary:stop going for ladies below your social class,take example from the marriages of politicians children and top business executives.

God bless you brother, how can a girl be pressurizing a guy and he wants to succumb, he can boast of 50k in his account and he wants to marry... So damn hiliarious... Again, God bless you bro for your write-up... You over mature

chuksonia:
Baba let me burst your bubble small truly if I were fvcking rich I'll be fucking random pussu till I'm 30 and probably wouldn't marry buh hey She's not a liability She's presently working with this new generation bank and I'm not a broke guy oh, I'm presently facing financial struggle that doesn't mean baby boi would remain that way hahba seems nobody has ever being in ma shoes in this forum

Chuksonia. Convience her and her parents and few friends then do only court marriage for now then after you can do the rest. Try to explain and convience them. You 'll be fine.

chuksonia:
this matter is stale come up with something better

stay there dey mumu.. you cant boast of 50k and you talking marriage. it's a pity you are a brother from the east.
focus I just wrote that so you get a message.

chuksonia:
I presently don't care the lady has really being ma inspiration as in She's all I've got Co's seriously no other lady entices me I don't have feeling for any other lady if I don't hear from her in a day na die for me and u know I can't call this infatuation

Eyah, ma nigga is madly inlove. Go on guy you've got my bag like school bag

Goodluck

Headlesschicken:
Let that innocent soul go,if yuh not ready to settle down pls let her be, so she can find someone serious,u done try chop.... Make others chop too....

seriously thunder that would fire u us still being processed so all u see to this is chopping���� humans self, maybe u should bring your babe lemme chop her too����

izaray:
Eyah, ma nigga is madly inlove. Go on guy you've got my bag like school bag

Goodluck

thanks Mama if you're a Yoruba babe kindly help out on how I can run your tribal marriage without causing trouble for myself financially, imagine if she was an Igbo girl who Is a graduate and is working presently with a bank babe her pride price go mad serious that's why I'm very thankful she's not even Igbo I've got from now till December to start posting pre weeding pix

tetula123:
stay there dey mumu.. you cant boast of 50k and you talking marriage. it's a pity you are a brother from the east.
focus I just wrote that so you get a message.

chairman your matter weak me,the fact that baby boi said he can't boast of 50k presently doesn't mean he's a broke guy oh! I dont mean to brag if i was into saving and spending less I'll worth some thick zeros I just bought ma first car last year so that one follow affect ma matter I've got an apartment I pay for oga so that I can't boast of 50k presently in ma account doesn't mean baby boi isn't to an extent comfortable.... I'm just in love with the right person and if u read ma story you'd know that we came a very long way to just separate over matter thats based on me not being ready for marriage !

chuksonia:
thanks Mama if you're a Yoruba babe kindly help out on how I can run your tribal marriage without causing trouble for myself financially, imagine if she was an Igbo girl who Is a graduate and is working presently with a bank babe her pride price go mad serious that's why I'm very thankful she's not even Igbo I've got from now till December to start posting pre weeding pix

Lol, i'm not a yoruba biko, team south south

happy200:
Chuksonia. Convience her and her parents and few friends then do only court marriage for now then after you can do the rest. Try to explain and convience them. You 'll be fine.

omg for the first time someone is saying something I can start working on ,thanks a lot God bless u baba lemme start planning towards this advice and we'll use it thanks once again baby boi is feeling happy already

I laugh in Yoruba language. I just hope you're ready for whatever is coming next ? that being said I really respect your courage.

See your life. Dat gal deserves beta

chuksonia:
chairman your matter weak me,the fact that baby boi said he can't boast of 50k presently doesn't mean he's a broke guy oh! I dont mean to brag if i was into saving and spending less I'll worth some thick zeros I just bought ma first car last year so that one follow affect ma matter I've got an apartment I pay for oga so that I can't boast of 50k presently in ma account doesn't mean baby boi isn't to an extent comfortable.... I'm just in love with the right person and if u read ma story you'd know that we came a very long way to just separate over matter thats based on me not being ready for marriage !

believe me bro, don't rush it, you comfortable but the fact is you still don't have enough,having a car doesn't make you comfortable, just relax, with what you wrote now I feel you got potential but don't let love make you do things in a hurry. I am in same shoe as you, just a year younger than you and the girls family already making her feel I am not useful (mind you I am yet to serve till November) I am still struggling trying to make ends meet, and they already telling her marriage.
I decided to focus on myself because I might end up doing something I will regret. don't let her pressure you if she can't wait let her go Nnwane.

memories1:
Wow! At least break up the epistle with paragraphs so it'd be easy on the eyes.

I jus tire

Listen bro...
Money does not make a man.
Man makes money.
At the appointed time, your finances will change.

You don't need only money to have a family...

To get married to the woman of your dreams is important. You are lucky to have found one.

Simply schedule an introduction with her family.
Keep it low key.
Get the list and negotiate it with her dad.
If they love you, they will make it easier for both of you.
Your girl can persuade her family to make things easy for both of you.

The bet marriages are not those with millions as budget.

Our great grand parents had low key ceremonies but happy marriages.

After the introduction ceremony, start providing the items in the list gradually. You can monetize some of the items... For Nigeria, we no dey marry woman one day.
Small small u go complete the items.

Meanwhile, you can have a court wedding. It will cost u less than 20k for everything.
Court marriage is legitimate.

Later, if you choose, you can have another low key church wedding.

Don't listen to those who make it sound as if you need unlimited fund before you can get a wife.

Some people were rich before marriage, but lost their income due to sickness, or job loss or business failure... Does that mean the marriage will end? Or cannot be sustained?

Go with what you have.
He that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

Limitless72:
So if you don't get married to her you would lose your senses or commit suicide... brother you're an IGBO boy... Be logical please... Think beyond your homornal secreted reaction (LOVE) ...Stop making this situation enigmatic for yourself..

Truth is she's not a MAN.. You're.!,,,Getting married to her because she's complaining of her biological clock shows she can't present anything of plenary value to the table...


You should ask yourself honest questions such as AM I READY TO GET MARRIED ?.. DO I HAVE THE WHERE-WITHAL TO START A FAMILY?. WHAT IS MY FINANCIAL STATUS?..WHAT DOES SHE BRING TO THE TABLE?,,,WOULD MY DECISION FLOUT MY COMFORTABILITY IN THE LONG RUN?.. etc......


Marriage is not moi-moi ooooooo.... If you rush in, you go rush out last last.....
You better go seek better counsel before your village people get your password.....

employed graduates should marry unemployed graduate. That crack me up bro

ObinnaVal93:
wait o...with wat u HV said u fink u don't deserve rain of abuses...I kuku trust nlanders..comon get out!!!!! first English zero..second ur brain na catarrh and coconut dey inside??...so becos she gv u deadline u wan borrow to 'wed'...so after d 'wedding' wat becomes of d 'marriage'...ngwa nu go and kee yasef na...lover boy..d worst part z u re an easterner... probably from anambra...cos na dem dey mumu dz type of mumu...no easterner from O TOWN can zuzu dz type of zuzu....egbon gv yasef brain...e nu ??

well its alright for the record its true anambra guys are foolish sorry to burst your bubble I'm from abia state and thats not mumu I suppose u haven't felt the four coners of an institution but you are here ranting hates oga go and sit your sorry ass down I don't need your useless advice ,its your papa brain that mucus would fill up with . ewu as if I ever mentioned borrowing for wedding motherfvcker

staggerman:
Listen bro...
Money does not make a man.
Man makes money.
At the appointed time, your finances will change.

You don't need only money to have a family...

To get married to the woman of your dreams is important. You are lucky to have found one.

Simply schedule an introduction with her family.
Keep it low key.
Get the list and negotiate it with her dad.
If they love you, they will make it easier for both of you.
Your girl can persuade her family to make things easy for both of you.

The bet marriages are not those with millions as budget.

Our great grand parents had low key ceremonies but happy marriages.

After the introduction ceremony, start providing the items in the list gradually. You can monetize some of the items... For Nigeria, we no dey marry woman one day.
Small small u go complete the items.

Meanwhile, you can have a court wedding. It will cost u less than 20k for everything.
Court marriage is legitimate.

Later, if you choose, you can have another low key church wedding.

Don't listen to those who make it sound as if you need unlimited fund before you can get a wife.

Some people were rich before marriage, but lost their income due to sickness, or job loss or business failure... Does that mean the marriage will end? Or cannot be sustained?

Go with what you have.
He that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.

God bless you so much man infact you're the best thing ever any lady or a man could have as a friend, seriously so far you're among those that said something meaningful in a long while here, I've being thinking to make the move afteral my father didnt have a dime when he married my mother and today he owns nothing less than 3cars and two solid house all in Lagos here with tenant paying annually shey he's marriage stop him from hustling as a gradaute and the man even married while he was still a student and earlier than ma age Now I'm a graduate with a woman who is also working in a bank and some bad belle just dey make me feel as if na ma matter worst pass, just negodu

tetula123:
believe me bro, don't rush it, you comfortable but the fact is you still don't have enough,having a car doesn't make you comfortable, just relax, with what you wrote now I feel you got potential but don't let love make you do things in a hurry. I am in same shoe as you, just a year younger than you and the girls family already making her feel I am not useful (mind you I am yet to serve till November) I am still struggling trying to make ends meet, and they already telling her marriage.
I decided to focus on myself because I might end up doing something I will regret. don't let her pressure you if she can't wait let her go Nnwane.

brother moral of the lesson for all undergraduate is that once you're in 100l please forget serious relationship just fvck the puccy and don't be committed wait probably when you're in 300l or 400 then u can start the search that's if you're sure you're going to make some serious cash ,that's the mistake I made started dating immediately I enter school I get luck I didnt even face tanke but its sure affected my cgpa buh hey baby boi isn't infatuating he's just really sure he have found the right one ....

yeyerolling:
See your life. Dat gal deserves beta

heart of men assuming I had a sugar mummy would I be asking for your advice, he without sin should cast the first stone .

elyna:
I laugh in Yoruba language. I just hope you're ready for whatever is coming next ? that being said I really respect your courage.

thanks oh I respect your laughter too.

chuksonia:
God bless you so much man infact you're the best thing ever any lady or a man could have as a friend, seriously so far you're among those that said something meaningful in a long while here, I've being thinking to make the move afteral my father didnt have a dime when he married my mother and today he owns nothing less than 3cars and two solid house all in Lagos here with tenant paying annually shey he's marriage stop him from hustling as a gradaute and the man even married while he was still a student and earlier than ma age Now I'm a graduate with a woman who is also working in a bank and some bad belle just dey make me feel as if na ma matter worst pass, just negodu

so u be unilorin guy . the truth be say her mum doesn't see u worthy, don't be surprised baby gal get person wey wan marry am and is giving u ultimatum u cant meet up with hahahaha

phemmyfour:
You have no biz with marriage if you don't have a reasonable income. Only a lazy, unreasonable and wicked man start a family like that. It hurts but that's the simply truth.

A man that cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel

its your kind of person that would push your sister to the hands of yahoo boy's, hahba so if I'm earning up to 100k monthly that means I don't have a reasonable income your matter worst I swear you're suppose to give a better advice instead ranting hates u dont know me and ma Worth and dont just judge baby boi cos he said he doesn't have 50k in the account presently its only OBO that can have 30milli in the account .

yeyerolling:
so u be unilorin guy . the truth be say her mum doesn't see u worthy, don't be surprised baby gal get person wey wan marry am and is giving u ultimatum u cant meet up with hahahaha

I never mentioned that I'm an alumni of unilorin how u find out, detectives on NL

chuksonia:
I never mentioned that I'm an alumni of unilorin how u find out, detectives on NL

better by far dey ur profile, face tanke slang too, ;Dno worry baby gal go soon see ya post

There is an adage that goes "To marry a woman is not hard, the money for the soup pot is where the problem lies". Think! That's what real men do!!

chuksonia:
its your kind of person that would push your sister to the hands of yahoo boy's, hahba so if [b]I'm earning up to 100k monthly that means I don't have a reasonable income your matter worst I swear you'[/b]re suppose to give a better advice instead ranting hates u dont know me and ma Worth and dont just judge baby boi cos he said he doesn't have 50k in the account presently its only OBO that can have 30milli in the account .

If you earn 100k per month, in 12 months you should be able to have above 50k if you really know what you are doing. Marriage is not a joke, you don't go into it without a plan/financial backing. Stay away until you have a steady income

guy free this girl naa. at least she don try. for good 6yrs, haba. now she want to settle down and you're not ready, yet still want her to wait for more years. she's even the one begging you to let her go. don't you understand the different BTW school life and real life. both of you were just living a school life for the past 6yrs, which is normal among students. but holding her down after graduation is what I don't like. this is time for hustle. go and make money. and ladies will line up begging you for marriage, then you will be left with choice.

chuksonia:
I presently don't care the lady has really being ma inspiration as in She's all I've got Co's seriously no other lady entices me I don't have feeling for any other lady if I don't hear from her in a day na die for me and u know I can't call this infatuation

Young man, it's a well-wisher that'll advise you to find stability before contracting marriage. The wedding bills may appear big but then you may as well find friends and family that would render some assistance, but once married, you are largely on your own and please do note that the demand of balancing a home post-wedding is not beans.

For a 26yr old man whose gf graduated same time as you, chances are slim that you'd be totally ready when her agitation to get settled to procreate starts. If you say yours is love, simply grow out of it however painful it would be for you.

We seen; we've tasted; we've been roasted, but we are still here. .........and that is what qualifies me as an experienced older bruh.

chuksonia:
brother moral of the lesson for all undergraduate is that once you're in 100l please forget serious relationship just fvck the puccy and don't be committed wait probably when you're in 300l or 400 then u can start the search that's if you're sure you're going to make some serious cash ,that's the mistake I made started dating immediately I enter school I get luck I didnt even face tanke but its sure affected my cgpa buh hey baby boi isn't infatuating he's just really sure he have found the right one ....

hahaha bro please leave that 100level thing I met mine in my 300l and she was in 200l I planned the usual eat and go but one thing lead to another me fell in love like never before don't know if it was how good the kitten is, even when she cheated( I wasn't a saint too) several times I still didn't mind. reading your story I saw a picture of myself,just graduated and waiting for service at same time hustling to at least feed myself. her family and friends been telling her to leave me she finally yielded( I swear if I get better money now I go marry her). But man got focus I still think of her and still love her but there's nothing I can do. just had to let go. the only thing is we still fu*k but nothing serious.

chuksonia:
well its alright for the record its true anambra guys are foolish sorry to burst your bubble I'm from abia state and thats not mumu I suppose u haven't felt the four coners of an institution but you are here ranting hates oga go and sit your sorry ass down I don't need your useless advice ,its your papa brain that mucus would fill up with . ewu as if I ever mentioned borrowing for wedding motherfvcker

modafucka dats wat it looks like... u haven't borrowed yet DAT doesn't mean u won't..judging from d way u sound... laughs... sorry to burst ur bubble too...I attended the UNIVERSITY OF
PORT HARCOURT... so u don't expect me to be a Bleep boy...kapish !!!..lest i forget..i meant to say catarrh nd coconut water full ya brain..and abians are not exempted frm Easterners DAT zuzu a lot...

idu1:
employed graduates should marry unemployed graduate. That crack me up bro

idu1:
employed graduates should marry unemployed graduate. That crack me up bro

idu1:
employed graduates should marry unemployed graduate. That crack me up bro

When I talk thT one....?

tetula123:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.
At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.
Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.
You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.
Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.
In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?
6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.
You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.
You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.
Written by @jaetomz

u just burst ma head pieces....
Standing ovation for you sir....
You fvcking nailed it....!!