₦airaland Forum

oooduancalmdown:
Men fvck you!!! Leave Yoruba people alone and mind your business. This thread was opened by an Edo person, but somehow you iboes turned it to Yoruba matter. What is your problem? Why do you iboes love talking about Yoruba all the time? They swear for una?? Every time Na Yoruba matter una iboes shameless things put for head. We don't want inter tribal marriage with iboes. We are not same. Our ancestors never crossed part. If not for the British people, we won't be in same shytehole country with you. Mind your business and leave Yoruba people alone.
Leave us be!!!!!!

Yinkakatty:
Lol. I've never seen too o buh I think some must have dated tho', they just never make it to the altar because of family members who are strongly going to be against the wedding.

Safiaa:
Lol Okay

laudate:
Not true. How many inter-ethnic marriages have you surveyed? Five? Ten? Twenty? Or a hundred? I am a product of an inter-ethnic union, and so were my parents, and they are the most focused and understanding people I know. One common feature of inter-ethnic marriages is that both partners learn how to adapt to situations, families and events. In marriage what matters most is not just love, but respect, tolerance, sincerity, support, trust, loyalty and understanding. These are the things that foster compatibility, and not tribe. A person may come from your tribe, and yet may never understand you, but another person from a different tribe may be willing to die for you, in addition to understanding all the deep things that reside within your heart. Communication is the key!

TabletMan:
I am not fluent with English language, so how do i communicate with my wife especially when I am angry? I clearly see the reason you like/supporting inter tribal marriage .
Majority of inter tribal marriage I know lacks focus.

laudate:
And I asked you how many inter-ethnic marriages do you know, for you to have reached a conclusion that such marriages lack focus. What kind of focus, do they lack? I can understand 4 Nigerian languages, and I am even trying to learn more. If you cannot speak English, who told you that a prospective wife from another ethnic group, cannot learn your language? My grandmother learnt my grandfather's language, even though they came from opposite ends of Nigeria. Even if you can't speak English, can't you speak pidgin? Abeg, poor language skills are an excuse. If there is a will, there is always a way!

TabletMan:
Focus when bringing up their kids, the children will always grow up not knowing either paternal or maternal family members and for some others divorce will be their end result. Check stats and you will be surprise that divorce is common with inter tribal marriage.

TabletMan:
Lol... you are even fighting and throwing jabs with my tribesmen and preaching inter tribal marriage with your second finger.

SoapQueen:
It is very common. Na Igbo and Hausa I wan see.

laudate:
Oga, what you have said is very, very untrue! Did you conduct a survey or census, on the causes of marital break up, or inter-ethnic marriages? What stats are you talking about? Post them here. I know both my paternal and maternal family members, and they come from opposite ends of the country! The values imparted to children in order to make them good citizens or individuals, are the same across board. Values such as honesty, integrity, respect for others, hard work, accountability, responsibility etc! Is there any tribe that frowns at such things? I don't know who has poisoned your mind o, but it is highly unlikely that you know a lot of inter-ethnic couples. Are you saying people from the same tribe do not marry and get divorced?

BdorianGray:
Ha! Safiaa you better enter the magic carpet let's get lost in bliss...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PmvT7B3u7II

TabletMan:
The only reason why you're defending it, is because you're a product of one or let me say good product of one. people from the same divorce but it's always on the high side in inter tribal marriages.
You're just lucky to know your relatives both paternal and maternal. Believe me, majority of people involved in inter tribal marriages are just patching up a lot of burdens and most who can't stand the heat, go their separate ways in the end .

laudate:
Guy, I still say you have not seen many inter-ethnic groups for you to be able to draw an accurate conclusion. I grew up in Lagos and met couples from different parts of Nigeria, who had an inter-ethnic marriage. And for many of such couples, their relationships worked.

In many divorce cases, hardly would you ever find 'tribal differences' cited as grounds for divorce. You would hear of lack of money, sex, infidelity or violence. And such causes are not specific to a tribe, but are based on an individual's shortcoming.

Only unions where parental consent was not properly sought on either side, before such marriages were contracted, suffer from such dysfunctional status, that their children would end up NOT knowing their paternal or maternal relatives. The same thing also happens when parents come from the same ethnic group, but parental consent was withheld or grudgingly given before the wedding took place.

Growing up, I used to shuttle across different parts of Nigeria to spend holidays with paternal and maternal relatives, in various parts of the country. It was a lot of fun! Till today, I don't pay hotel bills in many places, because I always have a relative somewhere, who offers me a place to stay.

TabletMan:
Maybe the reason why I don't know much of inter tribal marriage is because I don't grow up in Lagos but my short stay at Abj and my long stay in my state of resident, 70% of inter tribal marriage I knew don't go well with my life philosophy.
My guy, you're just lucky to be a good product from inter tribal marriage.

Lol... you are even fighting and throwing jabs with my tribesmen and preaching inter tribal marriage with your second finger.

Safiaa:
you’re weird

laudate:
Don't mind that guy. There is a huge Akoko community in Ondo state. From Ikare-Akoko, to Oka-Akoko, Akungba-Akoko etc. Out of the present 18 Local Government Councils in Ondo State, the Akokos occupy four, from Akoko North-East, Akoko North-West, Akoko South-East and Akoko South-West. They are a pure Yoruba group.

oooduancalmdown:
You should be ashamed that your girls spread legs for every dickk and harry.
Shame

NIGHTMAREOO7:
Lolz the little boy is so immature and petty
Have u seen how he is ranting up and down.
From his comments u will easily tell he is filled with hatred

princfred:
@the last statement-Just like I wrote they are. Na so they carry Biafra war propaganda for head pass.

NIGHTMAREOO7:
He mofo is claiming he ain't Yoruba yet every comment he makes oozes that smell of hatred and we know them for

BabbanBura:
Very true ma dear. I have a friend that really loved to marry an igbo lady - dated three different igbo gals, and in each of the relationships the ladies were so into him, like they had died if they do not have him, but all of them couldn't withstand the family pressure of bringing a northern man who is not a catholic - that's how out of frustration the guy settled for an old class mate we all wondered what he sees in them and now they are doing so well in obodo oyinbo.
Guess what? The igbo ladies couldn't let him be after they all got marries even though all of them got married before he did. My guy is a dream of any lady - calm, gentle, physically handsome in all aspect, super intelligent, extremely god-fearing but with a little mix of bad-boy aura, highly family oriented, open-minded, goal oriented and focused, energetic and determined. He excelled in all the jobs he changed both in Naija and the US.
So yes i have seen a lot of such but the Igbo families are 90% of the time a huddle the gals cannot cross because of probably hate for the northern guys and Catholic Cultism

laudate:
Jackpot of what? Biko, commot from my front. You people just say anything to make yourselves feel good....

ZorGBUooeh:
Guy yu still dey kwote me wey don sleep wake up forget say i comment ,while yu still dey here wan die untop ibo pipu matter..Well am not surprised, na laziness cos am...I jst hope say yu nogo apply for tout work very soon.

BabbanBura:
Very true ma dear. I have a friend that really loved to marry an igbo lady - dated three different igbo gals and in each of the relationships the ladies were so into him like they had died if they do not have him but all of them couldn't withstand the family pressure of bringing a northern man who is not a catholic - that's how out of frustration the guy settled for an old class mate we all wondered what he sees in them and now they are doing so well in obodo oyinbo.
Guess what? The igbo ladies couldn't let him be after they all got marries even though all of them got married before he did. My guy is a dream of any lady - calm, gentle, physically handsome in all aspect, super intelligent, extremely god-fearing but with a little mix of bad-boy aura, highly family oriented, open-minded, goal oriented and focused, energetic and determined. He excelled in all the jobs he changed both in Naija and the US.
So yes i habe seen alot of such but the Igbo families are 90% of the time a huddle the gals cannot cross because of probably hate for the northern guys and Catholic Cultism

oooduancalmdown:
You should be ashamed that your girls spread legs for every dickk and harry.
Shame

laudate:
Oga, what you have said is very, very untrue! Did you conduct a survey or census, on the causes of marital break up, or inter-ethnic marriages? What stats are you talking about? Post them here. I know both my paternal and maternal family members, and they come from opposite ends of the country! The values imparted to children in order to make them good citizens or individuals, are the same across board. Values such as honesty, integrity, respect for others, hard work, accountability, responsibility etc! Is there any tribe that frowns at such things? I don't know who has poisoned your mind o, but it is highly unlikely that you know a lot of inter-ethnic couples. Are you saying people from the same tribe do not marry and get divorced?



Hello, I am not fighting your tribesmen, I am giving them a taste of their own propaganda, and insolent attitude. If they do not like the taste of their own medicine, na dem sabi. I will not turn a blind eye, and pretend it is ok for them to ridicule other tribes, without measure.

As for preaching intertribal marriage, I allow everyone to make their decision. Marriage is a personal issue, and people need to know the pros and cons in order to make the right decision for themselves. I have seen several inter-ethnic marriages that lasted for 40 years and those that did not; I have also seen couples from the same local govt area who speak the same dialect getting married, and the marriage did not last 3 weeks. I have witnessed those from the same tribe getting married too, and their union lasted. It all depends on the individuals involved.

oooduancalmdown:
Men fvck you!!! Leave Yoruba people alone and mind your business. This thread was opened by an Edo person, but somehow you iboes turned it to Yoruba matter. What is your problem? Why do you iboes love talking about Yoruba all the time? They swear for una?? Every time Na Yoruba matter una iboes shameless things put for head. We don't want inter tribal marriage with iboes. We are not same. Our ancestors never crossed part. If not for the British people, we won't be in same shytehole country with you. Mind your business and leave Yoruba people alone.
Leave us be!!!!!!

laudate:
Mechie onu! Keep kwayiet dia! You chaps think you have the monopoly of insults and derogatory remarks, and when others pay you back in kind, you start crying that they hate you.

laudate:
Thank you for telling the truth, Oga. Some people have been trying to deny the reality by flinging bits of propaganda around.

Luxuryconsult:
yea bro, akoko edo is in edo state, i'm just trying to point out some comparisons between the two states.. And luckily i have met few people from this akoko edo, they have basically every names you'd find in akoko, ondo state just that if an akoko man is named Opeke, akoko edo would be okpekpe. Just little different in the spelling. And to my last line, yea, tribal conflict. Buh not all though. Love knows no bound. Buh majority don't try at all.

BabbanBura:
It is a fact nobody can deny

revontuli:
It's five white men, you missed one!
The groom must be working at a foreign company full of white expats.
Congrats and HML to the couple!
Bridesmaids look great in their traditional dress.
I hope one of you guys invite me to such a Nigerian wedding some day!

laudate:
Stop using Wharf as your excuse. Even those among your townsmen, who have NO business at the wharf still run to Lagos. There is a wharf at Onne, why don't you use that one?