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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by nerd51(f): 12:42pm On May 19, 2018
HeyCorleone:
Funny how I'm guilty of about 5 things above and I'm proud of myself.

Clap for yourself
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Ishilove: 12:42pm On May 19, 2018
ON POINT!!!
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 12:45pm On May 19, 2018
Marriage is overrated, period.


Who says a woman can't change her man and vice versa?!
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by pennylland: 12:45pm On May 19, 2018
NO MEN IN TOWN,JUST MANAGED/WORK ON WHAT YOU HAVE
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by jobonnairaland: 12:45pm On May 19, 2018
This guy is full of wuss.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 12:45pm On May 19, 2018
Ishilove:
ON POINT!!!

We have heard o.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Silentscreamer(f): 12:45pm On May 19, 2018
nice one op.. Nl fvck boys wont like this thread
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by SniperSmurf(m): 12:46pm On May 19, 2018
Op angry

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 12:46pm On May 19, 2018
My mom is first always!!!

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Ishilove: 12:47pm On May 19, 2018
Earthbound:


We have heard o.
Don't tell me you display all these traits? cheesy
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by NairaMaster1(m): 12:48pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!


I cannot really understand the write up.

For the bachelors you mean you will allow your wife to be go hang out or catch up with another guy on weekend?

I fear for this indomie generation.

Very soon no woman will marry in Africa again and that may be favorable to guys. Just back her baby mama and allow her to be catching up with male friends.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by finest0007(m): 12:49pm On May 19, 2018
Open minded? Its hard to be open minded on every issue. If I look at myself, I'm guilty of 3/10. Nobody perfect last last. If you listen to these writeups, OYO

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Mcslize: 12:49pm On May 19, 2018
Bro drezzyx

There is no perfect human being on this earth, thus your write up doesn't hold ground. Aside that, you already broken the bro code. I don't like it when a man act like a woman puppy. It will make ladies always take you for granted. As a man you need to be dominant in your dealings with ladies. Push and pull. Smile today and squeeze face tomorrow as too much of everything is bad. And don't be a woman sissy.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by bettercreature(m): 12:49pm On May 19, 2018
I have all the issues on that list except issue number 4 and 10.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by engrchykae(m): 12:50pm On May 19, 2018
Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.
the only woman who stood by me and believed in me when even my dad disappointed me is my mother.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by zinaunreal(m): 12:50pm On May 19, 2018
Guys dont marry a hungry woman she will finish you
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by sexdoll: 12:51pm On May 19, 2018
the writer must be a pussified nigga.

Imagine!

Saying ladies should not marry guys who don't put them first!

Jisos!

No wonder women think they are so important whereas in actual sense they are totally useless.

Well sha, na this type of nigga dey worship ground where a woman stands

Nigga now you listen to me, you MUST put yourself first above any other woman in this world.

That's why you are a gee.

Stop worshiping women because, believe it or not, those women whom you are worshiping will never ever value you at all...

In fact, the more you worship them, the less they value you!

that's woman for you.

well sha, the women who will want to listen to you OP, are those who are under 30.

those who are 30 and above know that hustle (for husband) is real. grin grin grin

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by wink2015(m): 12:51pm On May 19, 2018
drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!


NICE SHARE!

But who will now marry these bad guys that you listed their habits?

Abi dem no go marry for life? grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by martineverest(m): 12:51pm On May 19, 2018
they will marry such guys as far as he got money in his acct
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by NairaMaster1(m): 12:52pm On May 19, 2018
Silentscreamer:
nice one op.. Nl fvck boys wont like this thread

I think it's the Bleep boys that will like it because the life is about Bleep to you people now until your eyes opens.

Tell Chioma to go hang out with another man on weekend and see what will happen to her Porsche.

If you meet a rich guy you won't think of hanging out with another man.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 12:52pm On May 19, 2018
I see so many foolish statements for childish fellows. When you write a long list of qualities you want in a woman, no body complains, but when ladies insist on refusing to settle for less, you start crying like a baby that was refused breast milk. What's wrong with you all?

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by bettercreature(m): 12:52pm On May 19, 2018
Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.
Keep decieving yourself! It doesnt work that way
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by HeyCorleone(m): 12:52pm On May 19, 2018
nerd51:


Clap for yourself

But I can change for you.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Nobody: 12:53pm On May 19, 2018
white girls have their specs in a relationship, some just need love , some just need a muscular guy, some need a tall guy and so on...
But nigerian girls have the same spec: Money! Money!! Money!!!
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by engrchykae(m): 12:53pm On May 19, 2018
Amazinpeace:
Can't stand a man that doesn't keep to his words/promises, neither can I stand a man that lies. Being honest and a man of your words are very important to me.
my girlfriend lies to me but she will tell me how she hates to be lied to.
Women are really funny and subtly wicked
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by okenwa(m): 12:55pm On May 19, 2018
Foolish statement everywhere

Who then should ladies marry?
Who told you that ladies are perfect?

In marriage, a man becomes what you make him to be.
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by PointZerom: 12:56pm On May 19, 2018
Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.
Only boys can do this but real men put their wives far ahead of mummy and daddy.

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Aplaudez(m): 12:56pm On May 19, 2018
Momma first! anything else next! if it's not okay by you the door Is open!

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Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Aplaudez(m): 12:57pm On May 19, 2018
PointZerom:
Only boys can do this but real men put their wives far ahead of mummy and daddy.
I reserve my comment!
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by thunderbabs: 12:58pm On May 19, 2018
Put my gf first? Say wetin? shocked


God First,
Myself, and
Girlfriend
Re: Don't Marry Guys Who Have This 10 Habits... by Babaalawo: 12:58pm On May 19, 2018
Plus my flat headed brothers.Igbo kwenu!

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