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Don't marry a GUY who plays naira bet.

Op, are you a female hiding behind a male moniker?

am still searchn fr wia u made a logically ballful sense in dat long epistle

tee59:
Lies, some guys do these and still have girls trolling over them. So far money is involved, girls of today will never mind d trash you wrote up here. �

girls of today? Aunty how about you

Okay ladies you can all marry jollof rice since it's a jolly good fellow. Mschwww...

Which num be ur own?

drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!

Greenbullet:
You are insane, I put my mother first, my wife is next.

How would you have felt it if your dad put your grandmum first before your mum?
...always implementing you your grandmum's opinion in your house over your mum's opinion.

Come to reality; you, your wife and kids are one family before any other person.

Note; I said WIFE, not girlfriend.

abimic:
Jodha, come in here let's Roll, which of the listed can you manage....

Read well

Still waiting for the perfect guy? Kindly create him yourself. Transmission over

Where you got it wrong is that it still remains impossible for a lady to commission a marriage. You settle for your parents house instead till a man boldly accepts all the bad qualities of you and put you under his roof. My people used to say...' A poor man has no policy's likewise ' a broke(all babes) can't commission a marriage' Since it's still the man that will take the first decision to get married my dear ask ur 40yr colleagues why they can't possibly decide to settle down instead of Shiloh evryyear.

Chi59:
I see so many foolish statements for childish fellows. When you write a long list of qualities you want in a woman, no body complains, but when ladies insist on refusing to settle for less, you start crying like a baby that was refused breast milk. What's wrong with you all?

kense88:
Also note that not making it yet, does not mean he is lazy. Finally, your ambition/success has to match his.

Pls understand that I'm not talking about ambitious ones, I like ambitious ones but there are some men outside there who targets independent ladies to depend on them and milk them. Talking from experience here.

who cares if she marries me or not. some people never still get sense hmmm.

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Pussickpunk:
He'll belittle your sense of reasoning cos it's oozes stupidity...of course you don't wanna be with a person who's on a higher plane

heh.Do you know that you have just exposed your immaturity? You are not civil at all . you dont know me . In short, don't quote me again! we differ.

HeyCorleone:
But I can change for you.

Lol, that'd be nice...

Women worship money though not all,but I have seen stupid guys marry quality girls because of benjamin,when you have money most women wouldn't have time to notice your faults even when they have spotted it they simply ignore.

nerd51:
Lol, that'd be nice...

So what do you say?

I'm Leon btw.

you are right, my ex has everything listed here..... i was so happy dumping he's cheating and womanizing act, i feel so relieved now, he was a big burden to me

ImaIma1:
When you get married, your wife becomes your family

Wife is different... she is part of family

posts like this makes me wants to send thunder to the writer, one less dumbass to worry about. but then I see there are about 7billion people in the world not everyone can be like me...so I just chill and enjoy the comments. if you marry any girl you only did her a favor.

sexdoll:
personal experience?

sorry for your terrible and hopeless situation.

No. When you counsel pple on marriage, u hear a lot. God will give us the strength to stay calm and focus in marriage

I'm clear of all.... except the last one. I just love maryjane

drezzyx:
Are you one of these as listed above?

Are you married or in a steady relationship?

AmazonTopaz:
You are not serious.
So your mother doesn't have a husband?

I see you are very serious. Well, my mom is a rare gem. She occupies a very special spot in my heart and life...my lover can take the next spot. Period!

LaExpert:
How would you have felt it if your dad put your grandmum first before your mum?
...always implementing you your grandmum's opinion in your house over your mum's opinion.

Come to reality; you, your wife and kids are one family before any other person.

Note; I said WIFE, not girlfriend.

I am sorry you don't value your mother, the best you can do now is to tell her to her face that you value your wife over her.

EverestdeBliu:
I see you are very serious. Well, my mom is a rare gem. She occupies a very special spot in my heart and life...my lover can take the next spot. Period!

Nobody is disputing the place of a mother but for a married man to say he would listen to his mother and work for her interest over that of his wife and put her in second place is suprising.
Any way it is your life and choice.
You and greenbullet are high on something.I hope you won't feel bad if your future wives choose their fathers and mothers over you and work for their interest.

must you copy everything/Agbaya!

sinola:
so who will marry them....if guy get money,all those xters will be invisible

drezzyx:
Imagine if you married a guy…but then realised he had bad habits that couldn’t be cured? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at why you need to avoid guys with these 10 habits.

Prince Charming might have flaws, but he doesn’t have bad habits that can ruin a relationship. While it’s impossible to find the absolute perfect man (we’ve looked, he doesn’t exist) that doesn’t mean you should drop your standards and marry a guy who has annoyingly bad habits. For a man to be marriage material, he has to be completely the right man for you. Sure, he will still have flaws (don’t we all?), but flaws are different from habits. Habits are things we’ve learned to do over the years; they’re ingrained in our behaviour and we do them automatically. Not only can they annoy you, but it’s also practically impossible to get a man to change his ways. If a guy has some of the following 10 habits? He isn’t marriage material.

He’s Full Of Excuses

He can’t just give you a straight answer for why he let you down, and instead resorts to his Big Book Of Boyfriend Excuses. Each time he makes an excuse, he’s displaying his immaturity to you. Moreover, there is a good chance he’s lying. Excuses are the resort of children – and you want to marry a man, not a child.

He’s Narrow Minded

Guys who are narrow minded really frustrate us, don’t they? We just wish they would be more open to doing something other than watching sports all weekend, and we wish they would stop making snap, judgemental comments about people. Some guys can seem to be the most open-minded people about certain topics, but become closed off when it comes to other topics. And it’s really annoying because it can contaminate your relationship. For example, imagine you want to hang out with a guy friend you haven’t seen for a while. You know what this guy is all about, and you know what his “intentions” are – to hang out and catch up! Meanwhile, your partner mistrusts him, tells you all guys just want sex from you and won’t let you see him. If your man is still stuck in the 19th century with his close-minded views, he’s hardly worth marrying.

He Shouts

Any guy who has a habit of exploding with anger is a no-go as far as Beauty and Tips is concerned. If you’ve met a man who shouts, screams and verbally abuses people, stay well away from him.

He Breaks Promises

If your man casually breaks promises with you all the time, it isn’t a good sign. What this should tell you is that this is a bad habit he’s picked up down the years and is unlikely to change anytime soon. Broken promises are frustrating. If he breaks a promise early on in the relationship, it’s not a huge deal. But if he keeps doing it, you need to take this as the huge red flag that it is. In simple English, he’s disrespecting you and the relationship, and taking you for a fool. It’s a sign that he doesn’t care enough about you (or anyone for that matter) and probably won’t be changing in the foreseeable future. After all, he doesn’t seem to see it as a problem. But as the movies teach us, those who break their promises suck (it’s usually dad’s breaking their promises to their kids, and yes, they suck. And can you imagine what would happen if you guys had kids and he broke his promises to them, too?!)

He Lies

Breaking a promise is one thing, but if he brazenly lies to your face and you know it’s a clear lie, it’s a major warning sign that this is a guy you can’t trust. Lying is a bad habit that’s easy to get into and hard to get out of. If you’ve caught your man lying red-handed on more than one occasion, you’ll need to consider the very real possibility that he isn’t worth marrying.

He Doesn’t Put You First

If a man doesn’t put you first, you have to ask yourself the question – when will he put me first? The answer is probably never. Guys who don’t prioritise their women are instead in the habit of prioritising their buddies, their work or their hobbies. Love comes last, and if it’s always been this way in your relationship, there is a good chance that it won’t change.

He’s Possessive

It’s okay for someone to be a tad possessive at first. It’s even kinda cute. But you two have been together a while and he’s still being extra clingy, it’s a habit he’s probably not going to break. In fact, it probably means he’s a control freak. And that kind of man isn’t worth walking down the altar with.

He Likes To Win Arguments

If he gets a smug sense of satisfaction whenever he wins an argument between you guys and literally hates the fact that even once he could be wrong, it’s a bad habit that you should take as a red flag. No one in a relationship should go into an argument wanting to win. Instead, the goal should be a resolution that suits both parties. If your partner always has to be right? He isn’t worth your time.

He Won’t Take Responsibility

When we refuse to acknowledge our mistakes and take for responsibility for something that was OUR fault, we’re behaving like children. Worse still, we’re passing the blame onto someone else. Even worse, we’re not giving ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes. If this sounds a lot like your man, he isn’t marriage material at this point.

He Has An Unhealthy Lifestyle

If he drinks and smokes too much while you’re trying to lead a healthier life, it’s a strong sign that you guys aren’t meant to be. Sure, he could cut down on his drinking and quit smoking. But if he’s tried in the past to no avail, it might be best if you avoid this kind of guy.

Stay happy!

The kind thunder wey go fire the OP yansh is gathering momentum. just imagine this beautiful nonsense she has just posted

shugamummy:
Where you got it wrong is that it still remains impossible for a lady to commission a marriage. You settle for your parents house instead till a man boldly accepts all the bad qualities of you and put you under his roof. My people used to say...' A poor man has no policy's likewise ' a broke(all babes) can't commission a marriage' Since it's still the man that will take the first decision to get married my dear ask ur 40yr colleagues why they can't possibly decide to settle down instead of Shiloh evryyear.

Open your eyes and come out of your cave. Look around you, it's the 21st century. Many of these patriachial laws have been broken down.. They no longer exist.

Besides, what's so wrong with getting married at 40? Many women don't reach menopause till they are over 50.
It's stupidity to think that getting married at 40 is a terrible thing to happen to a woman.

Wise up!

Everything stated here describes me except 2. But who cares. I make nothing less than 3m monthly. Who tell u say I dey look for wife sef

A man can have some of dis faults and still be very good in other areas

I put God first