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Hnmmmmmm....am speechless

Westaslave2:
Nnemuka u ar a single mother! such bitterness n grief spirit in u,take it easy

Does calling me a.single mum makes u happy? If yes then I accept Oya go and masturbate on that.
Bitterness Kee you DIA.. so I am bitter because I ask why an adult will seek permission from ordinary boyfriend before traveling like he pays her bills.
Tah run along

Thank God for that single mum oooo...
Imagine the type of thing she would have ended up with? Chai

baby124:
Poster, something is very wrong with you. You dated this woman for 1.5yrs and then you are coming here to insult her because you guys had a fight. You refuse to compromise when she needed you to. You made no effort to be outgoing so that your relationship can be more fun. You didn’t act like you wanted a future with her but you are quick to dangle that prospect whenever she wants to do something you don’t want her to do. How will you go and call her siblings whom you have never met to settle a fight.

So what if she’s not on good terms with her siblings, how is that your business? So if you marry, every fight you have will result in you reporting her to everyone. So many men have married single mothers and they love their wives. Because your relationship did not work out, you insult all single mothers. You want her to be under you in marriage and take all the trash you give. Is that normal? When small trash she gave you, you are on NL bashing her this badly. You are a hypocrite and a badly trained person.

She is better off running away from you. You are also quite immature. I bet you thought because she is a single mum she should have no dignity, pride or self esteem. This is probably why you went for her because you thought she should worship you because of her “handicap”. Kudos to her. Please find a single girl. No woman will be under you but beside you as a partner. So stop living in fantasy land.

���� You see why I so much like u for here?

Nnemuka:
Thank God for that single mum oooo...
Imagine the type of thing she would have ended up with? Chai

I thank God for her too and I will be very happy for her to find someone as soon as possible. If you have a brother who is single and ready to marry please send his number.

BiafranBushBoy:
Single mothers have taken over the thread...

Most of them are useless!!!

Very Useless... Have an in-law like that Single mother to two different men. At first they pretend...but if you prick them more..they explode like a grenade. Single moms r a no-no for any Sane man.

dont u think she might just be a lesbian who isnt willing to be under a man for freedom sake but for societal pressure

Only1mi:
My pastor said.... Hehe

My pastor said indeed. And this one sef follow for husband material..

TonyeBarcanista:
OP goofed by doing nothing while she travelled without his permission...


BTW We aren't interested in catching any present day woman! If a woman's loyalty is not 100% she should face front. After all, we don't whine when we are unmarried...

Lol

1x2x3:
I thank God for her too and I will be very happy for her to find someone as soon as possible. If you have a brother who is single and ready to marry please send his number.

You are not happy...
Go back to your pastor let him minister unto you another geh so you won't end up frustrated.
8 pages ontop someone who no longer has your time .

baby124:
Poster, something is very wrong with you. You dated this woman for 1.5yrs and then you are coming here to insult her because you guys had a fight. You refuse to compromise when she needed you to. You made no effort to be outgoing so that your relationship can be more fun. You didn’t act like you wanted a future with her but you are quick to dangle that prospect whenever she wants to do something you don’t want her to do. How will you go and call her siblings whom you have never met to settle a fight.

So what if she’s not on good terms with her siblings, how is that your business? So if you marry, every fight you have will result in you reporting her to everyone. So many men have married single mothers and they love their wives. Because your relationship did not work out, you insult all single mothers. You want her to be under you in marriage and take all the trash you give. Is that normal? When small trash she gave you, you are on NL bashing her this badly. You are a hypocrite and a badly trained person.

She is better off running away from you. You are also quite immature. I bet you thought because she is a single mum she should have no dignity, pride or self esteem. This is probably why you went for her because you thought she should worship you because of her “handicap”. Kudos to her. Please find a single girl. No woman will be under you but beside you as a partner. So stop living in fantasy land.

God bless you...

1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rathe
r than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

people have flaws, maybe you guys were not meant to be. Abeg comman and marry me. But me I don't have friends like that, quick to anger but resolves it. I give listen ears. lol abeg no mind me.

1x2x3:
Her story was that she got pregnant for a man she wanted to marry only to find out few days to her wedding that the man is married to someone else and just wanted to make her a second wife.

Everything in the link you sent is 100% spot on.

And she wanted to make you second husband too.
Bros, thank God for your life but you see, it is not limited to single mother. You can experience the worse from single lady as well.
When you see a lady being desperate for marriage either single mother or single lady, run for your life.

It's as if they used to use charm (or possessed) to the extent that no matter what God reveal to you or what people tell you, you will just want to marry them at all cost.
It's only when God loves a man or need him for a special assignment that He rescues him from such ladies because they are not just bad wives in the making, they are equally destiny destroyers - they are weight.

baby124:
Poster, something is very wrong with you. You dated this woman for 1.5yrs and then you are coming here to insult her because you guys had a fight. You refuse to compromise when she needed you to. You made no effort to be outgoing so that your relationship can be more fun. You didn’t act like you wanted a future with her but you are quick to dangle that prospect whenever she wants to do something you don’t want her to do. How will you go and call her siblings whom you have never met to settle a fight.

So what if she’s not on good terms with her siblings, how is that your business? So if you marry, every fight you have will result in you reporting her to everyone. So many men have married single mothers and they love their wives. Because your relationship did not work out, you insult all single mothers. You want her to be under you in marriage and take all the trash you give. Is that normal? When small trash she gave you, you are on NL bashing her this badly. You are a hypocrite and a badly trained person.

She is better off running away from you. You are also quite immature. I bet you thought because she is a single mum she should have no dignity, pride or self esteem. This is probably why you went for her because you thought she should worship you because of her “handicap”. Kudos to her. Please find a single girl. No woman will be under you but beside you as a partner. So stop living in fantasy land.

Full and correct analysis

Nnemuka:
You are not happy...
Go back to your pastor let him minister unto you another geh so you won't end up frustrated.
8 pages ontop someone who no longer has your time .

Lol you obviously want my attention . My dear I'm living large enough to be bothered. Send me the number of anyone you know that needs a wife . If you feel she's nice enough I will gladly share her contact with the person you refer

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1x2x3:
I'm sorry I'm saying this and it hurts my heart to agree with the warnings of marrying a single mother. I'm not the best writer but I will try to narrate my experience and findings.

First of all I would like to point out that there are very few single mothers who can make a good wife while majority of them will ruin you and make your life miserable if caution is not taken.

I've been dating a single mother of a 5 years old boy for about a year and half she is 30 and never been married. I wouldn't just jump into such relationship but for the fact she is someone I knew back in my School days however, we lost contact for about 10 years before we met again and I kind of understood the story she told me and the circumstances she had the child (Till date I didn't bother verifying her story of course I don't care).

We dated for about a year and she got talking with a few of my friends and sibling but the striking thing is she is yet to introduce me to any of her friends or siblings even though I knew she have many siblings and some friends (I did question her about this and she said she doesn't have someone she can really call a friend).

Looking at the kind of reserved life she lives I felt this could be normal but still something kept telling me there's more to these whole pretentious reserved life because I'm introverted and can easily figure out who's pretending to be one. Mind you, she is the church going type who prays and wants my well being yet I could still figure out there is something not clear thus my reason for taking my time to propose to her. This is actually not my fault as there is no way I can figure out who she is unless through someone close to her.

About 6 months ago a pastor that is yet to meet her in person told me that if I marry her I will end up divorcing but being the doubting Thomas type I gave no ear to whatever the pastor has to say until recently when something unfolded.

She lives 3 hrs drive away and comes visiting most of the weekend. Here is the major problem which I must admit I'm at fault but I thank God I was at fault because it paved way for the revelation. Throughout the time we've been dating I only visited her once which she complained about, I wasn't just too comfortable going there to spend time and do certain things (I didn't just find this right but I'm very much comfortable if she visits alone or with the kid). She complained a few times about me not visiting until 2 weeks ago she told me she was traveling to Abuja.
I inquired about her reasons of traveling and she said she needed to rest since she's on leave (Redflag). Her reasons didn't sound logical so I objected, I told her I wasn't comfortable with her traveling, she kept insisting and she jokingly said she will go and face the consequences when she returns. We talked about this for days and she eventually went against all odds and traveled.
On getting to Abuja she started acting funny like not taking calls or calling and when she finally returned my call I told her not to call me until she is back from her trip (I needed to avoid unnecessary worries)

She returned after 4 days and called knowing fully well we've got issues to thrash. She started complaining I don't give her attention as much as she wants (she seems not to be able to deal with my introverted person anymore). The ranting was becoming rude, sounding like a different person from whom I thought I knew. We got to a heated point I had to ask for any of her siblings number, she immediately became defensive and threatened that if I dare contact any of her siblings (7 of them) that I won't like the outcome . It occurred to me she isn't in good relationship with any of her siblings even though they talk sometimes. She just doesn't want me to contact anyone. Out of her rudeness I asked her if she is ready to be under a man since she has brought up marriage issues on few occasions. She said she isn't ready to tolerate bulllshitt of men afterall she has a child, marriage is about children and if things aren't working in a marriage everyone can find their way . The pastor's words occurred to me instantly. I took about 2 hours telling her how much she needs to adjust and understand she isn't supposed to tuzzle with a man else it will be hard for things to work in a home.

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control.

Still scary to me she pretended all these while, going to church and acting very responsible hoping I marry her which I genuinely had intentions to but for the fact something kept telling me I needed more time to know her.

At the end its obvious she is used to being a single mother and if she divorces tomorrow it will be nothing new to her.

Guys make sure you scrutinize that single mother before you jump in. There's a reason she's single and in her 30's.
I found out she's not in good terms with her siblings because she doesn't like taking orders or listening to advice. They've talked to her about being rude and disrespectful but rather than listen she drew bad blood between her and all her siblings.

You are very controlling, she is not your wife yet, so how dare you object to her travelling?.

You can't control a human being like yourself unless one with low self esteem, even your kids you don't control them, how much more an adult like yourself.
Oh , I guess it is because she is a female you automatically expect her to be subservient.
You claim to be a christain brother but your reasoning and way of behaving is archaic.
You haven't proposed to her yet, still you feel you deserve the contacts of every member of her family while you were simply being a boyfriend.

Did it ever occur to you that your woman is an extrovert she kept on trying to spice your relationship up and also encouraged you to be a bit social but you locked up claiming "am an introvert".

she was on leave and decided to make good use of it by travelling but you refused her going like you have a right, so she could be with your "introverted self" to put it mildly, as you claim. If you were that interesting and fun to be with she would want to spend every second with you, trust me.

You kept reiterating on how you are introverted no you are a simply boring individual, who is also rigid and wants every lady to bend to your whims, You are the problem here.

Besides there's nothing wrong with the lady you guys are just not compatible.

1x2x3:
It may not be a fuse to you until you find yourself in such situation. I didn't want to mention everything but she got new iPhone x from from her trip which I know she can never buy with her money. There were so many things that demanded explanation but she flared up that I asked questions.

aghhh!... Was right then in my suspicion. Na runz she go do for abuja. Anytime a girl tells me she's travelling to abuja my mind starts doing 360 and start making plans on how to make my exit b4 she returns. Dat abuja is the original sin city. Ladies go there to do runz jobs while d guys are into gigolo stuffs. Aghh Abuja.

Demure1:
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You are very controlling, she is not your wife yet, so how dare you object to her travelling?.

You can't control a human being like yourself unless one with low self esteem, even your kids you don't control them, how much more an adult like yourself.
Oh , I guess it is because she is a female you automatically expect her to be subservient.
You claim to be a christain brother but your reasoning and way of behaving is archaic.
You haven't proposed to her yet, still you feel you deserve the contacts of every member of her family while you were simply being a boyfriend.

Did it ever occur to you that your woman is an extrovert she kept on trying to spice your relationship up and also encouraged you to be a bit social but you locked up claiming "am an introvert".

she was on leave and decided to make good use of it by travelling but you refused her going like you have a right, so she could be with your "introverted self" to put it mildly, as you claim. If you were that interesting and fun to be with she would want to spend every second with you, trust me.

You kept reiterating on how you are introverted no you are a simply boring individual, who is also rigid and wants every lady to bend to your whims, You are the problem here.

Besides there's nothing wrong with the lady you guys are just not compatible.

Did you read through the thread to discover I stated she objects a few of my travels as long as she isn't available to go with me? She travels but for this particular trip she sounded unconvincing about the reason for the trip that's why I objected and she boldly told me she will go, come back and face the consequences.
I'm out of the relationship already there's no 2 ways about it from all she said I can't post here. Thank you for contributing.

MYHUBBY:
my fears in marriage is dating a church girl despite I'm a Christian. their hypocrisy can be so annoying



I just need an intelligent girl that had the fear of God not those spirit koko that carry church for head but filled up with satanic mind



thank God for your life op

haha all those spirit koko girls dat will be speaking in tongues and prophesying.. Yeye. There was one in my lodge like dat. Na so dis one go cover head dey shout emmanuel d God of elajah..elohim etc. For all her firebrand na our 74 yr old landlord still dey nack dis girl like no man business. Abeg a normal level headed kind hearted girl is much better.

lefulefu:
haha all those spirit koko girls dat will be speaking in tongues and prophesying.. Yeye. There was one in my lodge like dat. Na so dis one go cover head dey shout emmanuel d God of elajah..elohim etc. For all her firebrand na our 74 yr old landlord still dey nack dis girl like no man business. Abeg a normal level headed kind hearted girl is much better.

na dat one u see bro. I have one SU at my side, her own law pass 10 commandments


she don't like me to sex because is a sin but I'm free to suck her, kiss and romance. talking about hypocrites fear those girls that carry church for head.

MYHUBBY:
na dat one u see bro. I have one SU at my side, her own law pass 10 commandments


she don't like me to sex because is a sin but I'm free to suck her, kiss and romance. talking about hypocrites fear those girls that carry church for head.

werey SU girl

He doesn't want to marry any lady, na by force So, him not putting himself in a marriage he sees as trap means he's not responsible?? nawa o.

Cutehector:
no, you need to grow up! Fvking man up and take responsibilities. After all there at men out there who take charge of ladies.

CecyAdrian:
Why would you try to involve a third party in your relationship issues, does that mean when you marry her it will always be a community meeting if you guys have issues? (I think that lady dodged a bullet with you). You are dating her, what's your business with whatever issue she has with her family and why use it as a yardstick to judge her. Are you sure the family didn't push her to the wall in the past before she became the person she is now?

My pastor said this or that is what ha destroyed so many homes today. You even remembering what that pastor said means he successfully planted a seed of discord in you, so any little thing the girl does will be termed 'this I what my pastor was talking about.

Oga, leave the girl alone, it's obvious you dated her for the free sex, you didn't care about her feelings or emotions and didn't assure her of her place with you.

see as you sef carry matter for head like weave biko chill....advice op and shift no dey tackle the guy like sey u know am personally!!

Tallesty1:
They're not the only available options ni. There are girls out there who are not baby mamas and have not done any abortion so we go for them instead.

You young ladies clearly don't understand the problems that are associated with marrying a single a parent.

Single parents tend to love the child they had for that other person more than the ones they will have with you because the see that child as a consolation for all the things s/he passed through in the hands of the other person

This creates division among children and causes frequent misunderstanding between the couple too.

I'm not generalizing though but we need to accept the reality.

single dads are better options for single moms.most single dads/since moms relationships are much more smoother than single guys/single mom relationships.

CecyAdrian:
And you are getting intimidated by my defense? See, first rule of relationship is, never ever involve a third party when having issues, if both of you can not repair the mess you caused then, you have no business being together (free advice). She doing it in the past doesn't mean it's right or that you should tow that path too.

The pastor is even her pastor ( I need answers to this before I continue)

are you a single mother?? your taking issues too personal here am sure u done already involve emotions

portablefola:
Hnmmmmmm....am speechless

okay. permit me to deliver a speech:
ladies and gentlemen,
i can not marry a single mother.
i can marry a young widow.
thank you.

portablefola:
Hnmmmmmm....am speechless

okay. permit me to deliver a speech:
ladies and gentlemen,
i can not marry a single mother.
i can marry a young widow.
thank you.

1x2x3:
Did you read through the thread to discover I stated she objects a few of my travels as long as she isn't available to go with me? She travels but for this particular trip she sounded unconvincing about the reason for the trip that's why I objected and she boldly told me she will go, come back and face the consequences.
I'm out of the relationship already there's no 2 ways about it from all she said I can't post here. Thank you for contributing.

I didn't read through because I didn't want to be biased and base my own comments off another person's advice.

No, you cant blame me, thats why its good to always write a detailed summary for i only wrote my comment from what I deduced from the little bits you laid out from your first write up.

She told you not to travel not once but thrice, well that's wrong, for in any relationship autonomy is essential , you dont own whoever you are with and they deserve to have a life in and outside of that union. They don't stop living simply because they are dating you.

Since you do listen to her courtesy demands she does the same, I said all that cause I thought it was one-sided and mainly from your end . You have left the relationship well good for you, wish you the best in your next.

CecyAdrian:
Lol, reason why I said 'let's assume'. But what if she went for a girls time out with her friends who contributed and bought her an IphoneX, OP himself said she has a lot of friends and she is not doing badly too

what's this rubbish you just scribbled.
omg.

eghuan1:
With all these comments am seeing here, you guys are making me scared o, because am currently dating a beautiful single mum who is over a year older than me.
Though we've been together for about two months now, she has introduced me to her friends, elder sister and her aunt. They all spoke good of her.

But what is giving me hope is that the ex husband has another child with another woman who is not with him. So the problem may not necessarily be the women here, but the guy.

But I de with my looking glass sha

does her ex still call her on phone? Do they watsap?. Guy forget weda her ex don marry and born pickin. Dats not enuf reason for u to lose guard.anyway u say d lady don introduce u to her ppl..its all god but sti shine ur eye small sha.

gameboy55:
U say wat!!

so u mean a single mum have not once carried out abortions?

well it will shock u that most single mums became single mom for the fear that if they abort the child, they might ve no more chance of having another based on the number of abortions they ve carried out in pasts, I am not just saying this, I know wat I am saying and You know this too.

I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS!
THANK YOU!!!!!

Nnemuka:
Thank God for that single mum oooo...
Imagine the type of thing she would have ended up with? Chai

Look at urself...u re calling a human being "thing' and u re happy

Na the unlucky man wen go marry You I dey sorry for