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Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by MyOpinion1(f): 5:30pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
!by[quote author=TonyeBarcanista post=68145935] They should go and meet the men that made them Baby Mamas. Meanwhile, who will waste time trying to "talk sense" into the head of a single mother when there is plethora of decent single ladies and virgins? of course not all guys are cool but there are still responsible ones who will do that. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by openmine(m): 5:33pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Xisnin:Its imperative that you read before commenting.....no pun intended! Go through the Op's post and other subsequent posts,you will notice that she has been the one trying to control and manipulate him..... Aside the said lady's trip to abuja which op objected due to the fact that she wasn't convincing enough,I don't see any place in his post where he was domineering or controlling.... And besides,is it wrong to ask a loved one where he or she is travelling to esp if it might be to the person's detriment? In fact Op stated clearly that there were trips he wanted to make but was stopped by the same lady....or didn't you see where he stated that part? As for my post bro/sis,I was only relating my own experience to OP's post which is very true about "domineering" ladies! 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:34pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
MyOpinion1:What makes them responsible? You mean sissies that don't know what they want and those that are easily manipulated? |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 5:35pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Tallesty1:so very true.. |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 5:41pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
openmine:single moms get their own for body abeg. Their own wahala plenty pass dat of a single girl. U have to contend that the baby daddy might still be banging her and dere's nothing u can do about it. If u want to correct her child if e do wrong dat one na another big wahala. She might not respect u..she might consider u an upstart since she don already get one or two pickins from different men. Single guys wey dey date single moms dey try oo.with d number of single girls around why not leave the single moms for d single dads to date. Easy tin to do so as to avoid double wahala. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by openmine(m): 5:44pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
lefulefu:Na true sha..... 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by MyOpinion1(f): 5:49pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:if that is your definition of being *responsible* then I need not stress myself further 3 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Xisnin(m): 5:49pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
openmine:He is the one trying to withold an adult's right to travel. It is good to ask your kid where they are going because you know better but never try that with an adult, at least not one whose livelihood doesn't depend on following your orders. She doesn't have to convince him or any other person. I have no problem with him breaking up with her, his life his decisions. It is just the way he sounded like someone who just discovered a nobel winning invention and his poor attempt at blaming her and single mothers for the decision he took.
His first post clearly stated her major "flaws", which is that she travelled when he ordered her not to and she refused to give him her family members number. Every other thing was an afterthought. It is one thing to say that he broke up with her because she is domineering, but entirely different thing to try to make the other party look bad because they allegedly sinned in the past. Is it so hard for the OP to tell the lady that she can't stop him from traveling? I believe one can breakup for any reason even made up ones but one must also take responsibility for such decisions. Nobody was made to satisfy another person, if you don't like someone, move on, no whining, no generalisation, no victimising or sympathy-seeking. 5 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Princewell2012(m): 5:52pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Just thank your God. There is one in my place of work. Believe you me any man who live with that girl in the same room for 48 hrs deserved a medal. Though the office where she works doesn't know this as she can pretend alots. She is rude, arrogant, abusive, I mean very very insultive. But if you see where she will be playing and laughing hmm you think she is an Engel. The annoying part of it is that she sleeps around with men. In fact it will be very difficult for you to know why her former husband left her Whether for adultery or bad character. This one has a very bad character. I have jokingly told her several times. It is just of recent she just finished her one month prayer where she live in a Church. When I saw your thread honesty I though she was the Lady in question. Oh. The worst part of everything is that she hate correction. Each time I sees those ogas laughing and playing with her I just shook my head because they don't know who she is. 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by 1x2x3: 5:55pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Xisnin: There's no victimization or sympathy here. I've moved on and made it known to her. Sharing my story is for people to learn. I only found out someone has a similar experience here then went ahead to marry the lady after all the signs, he's currently divorced. I am not in for sympathy or validation. I've made my decision and that's final. |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 6:01pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
1x2x3:Not just single mothers there are mature marriage--able greater percentage amongst them. The lesson to be learnt is simply- single ladies/guys alike who have not discovered themselves are dangerous to live with. Marriage with them results in divorce, painful instead of blissful one and in extreme cases death of either of them from abuse. Once a single person whether mother, lady or guy fails to understands before entering the marriage covenant that it is an unending school of character development but thinks rather it's all about his/her pains, problems solved, comfort, happiness all the time that's a danger zone! Please next time it is important to present your facts in a way that you don't end up demonising single mothers. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by LaudableXX: 6:10pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Netanyahu1: This a long epistle on single mothers. Oya, write one on single fathers, too. we are waiting....! 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by IamaNigerianGuy(m): 6:11pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
ZestAri: With each of your writings you expose your state of mind more. 3 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by lionphil(m): 6:11pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
HeWrites: Be careful what you pray for...I've heard of several instances where a girl had a baby at a tender age. The baby automatically becomes the family's last born. No one gets to know apart from immediate family members. In such a situation, you as the groom to be would also not know. *if OGUN FINALLY KILLS YOU AFTER YOU MISTAKENLY MARRY ONE I'M SORRY FOR YOU. 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by LaudableXX: 6:21pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
CecyAdrian:....and later those small girls end up growing wings, and turning round to show them pepper! So sad. 3 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by openmine(m): 6:21pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Xisnin: but she once stopped him from going why cant he do the same.....or does she have more say than the guy? Xisnin: Bro for me your submissions are relative....it all depends on the upbringing... If you are married or in a serious relationship, you will be asked about your movement by your partner...unless you are too proud,you will always tell your partner about where you are going to.... it has nothing to do with control like I said earlier,its about love and care..... My gf out of respect and love for me will always tell me where she is travelling to.....and also state her purpose of such trip...."Nothing to hide,nothing to fear"..... and some times when she forgets I also ask....there is nothing wrong about that! Different strokes for different folks! ...My mum will always tell us where she goes to even when she travels.....thats for reaching out purposes! It doesn't in any way limit her.... One of the purposes for asking about one's movement esp relationship is to show trust and loyalty to each other! Xisnin: according to him,she didn't sound convincing but she went anyway and started behaving strangely! As for the family number,according to previous posts by OP,she had once used his friends and family members to beg on her behalf,so why can't he do so esp when its now obvious that she issues have remained unresolved..... as for the afterthoughts, he is the one telling us his own side and he can decide to explain in subsequent posts if any one needs more clarifications..... Thought the only part I take exception to is the part where op made a generalisation of all single mothers based on his experience with just one of them..... Aside that,every other thing he said is true! |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by HeWrites(m): 6:34pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
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Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Ohidata: 7:01pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Originalsly: Miss, I don't think we should castigate him just yet for trying to reach out to her family. It makes sense to at least know a few members of a lady's family if truly one is serious about marrying her, and vice versa - or don't you think so? Furthermore, part of the reason we are experiencing this outrageous rate of crumbling marriages is that people (men and women alike) see the signs that their intended partner have issues that may not make the relationship work but choose to ignore them and believe that "God" will see them through it all. When the centre no longer holds, they cry fowl. My dear young people, this is my word... go into a relationship with sincere intentions and with something tangible to give your partner other than beauty & curves in the case of ladies or money and comfort in the case of men. There are men whose wives are the prettiest females to behold yet they cheat and there are women whose husband's provide more than enough money and comfort yet they cheat. Create time for each other as a couple, talk through your problems and difficulties, show respect to one another, don't take each other for granted, hold no grudge, share everything in common, never deny your spouse sex, respect your in-laws, make your spouse's happiness a priority and above all make God the centre of your marriage 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by VULCAN(m): 7:24pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
It's just you brother, just you. The words that came out of the girls mouth tells you what to expect. So if you can't decode what the girl meant by all she said then you still have a long way to go. Out of the abundance of the heart...... MaziOmenuko: 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by laluski(m): 7:34pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
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Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by laluski(m): 8:08pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
greyham: My dear brother there's ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG in dating a single mum.they are human beings and are NOT perfect.single girls are even worse. Single mums don't hide their characters for long cos DEM NO SEND.NO PRETENCE.she good...she good.simple So if yours is OK in a lot of ways,by all means go ahead.like I said.they're NOT perfect.Good luck 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Viergeachar: 9:17pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
MaziOmenuko: Did you marry a single mum |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Nobody: 9:39pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
laluski: There is EVERYTHING WRONG in dating a single mum. When you start catching feelings you open new thread on nairaland and I will be there to tell you the same thing. LEAVE SINGLE MUMS ALONE. They can be your friend, but don't date them. Your life, your choice. 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Makschinchin: 9:45pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
HeWrites: Hahahahaaaa, what if you marry one unknowingly only to find out after you're married |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Originalsly: 10:13pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
livinbygrace: Ok....but it would only be fair for you to say what percentage of the childless females you dated is marriage material. |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Originalsly: 10:28pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
Ohidata: Miss?!...I'm not castigating him for trying to reach out to her family.... which he should.... but trying to leap into marriage without really knowing much about her and her family. Wayyy too many marriages fail because of this.... guys falling head over heels in love with a girl ...physical attraction. ... and are ready to dive into marriage ...doesn't matter whether or not the girl loves them in return....nor her character good or bad...whether she is lazy...a liar or a runs girl...doesn't matter....until after the wedding eyes begin to clear. After all....love is blind. |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by LaudableXX: 11:16pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
greyham:Guy, grow up and stop talking like a teenage kid. If you have a relative that is a single mum, will you advise that nobody should marry her? Women become single mums for a variety of reasons. Among single mums, there are good ones, and bad ones. Some may become single mums out of wedlock. Others may end up being single mums because they were divorced, or their husbands died at an early age, so they became widows. Some of the single girls without kids that you are looking at, may have had abortions that you knew nothing about. Dem no dey write am for face or forehead. Some may even have dated sugar daddies old enough to be your father in the past, or may have been runs babes. Who knows? There are good single girls, and bad ones too. Free your mind, abeg. 4 Likes |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by LaudableXX: 11:20pm On Jun 03, 2018 |
livinbygrace: 1 Like
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Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by princfred(m): 7:10am On Jun 04, 2018 |
Children from the first dad will be constant reminders of what she had with other men or they will be source of nostalgia to her and cause of mood swings. |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by justcallbuki(f): 12:33pm On Jun 04, 2018 |
pedrilo:I'm married with children for years and I know what I'm saying.....BTW I don't need your advice.OK.....thanks bye! |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by pedrilo: 12:52pm On Jun 04, 2018 |
justcallbuki:lol no p, im happy for u, but are u saying its good to marry out of pity? |
Re: My Experience With A Single Mother I wanted to marry. by Moji12(f): 1:50pm On Jun 04, 2018 |
Tallesty1:please tell that to those dogmatic set of men who believe to b a single mum is jus trying to tie a man down or whatever they v stationed their minds to believe. Their is more to dat, though I don't blame them cos the society has made the females to b on the receiving end. |
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