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gameboy55:
Look at urself...u re calling a human being "thing' and u re happy

Na the unlucky man wen go marry You I dey sorry for

He is a living thing...
Thanks to Jehovah

Nnemuka:
Does calling me a.single mum makes u happy? If yes then I accept Oya go and masturbate on that.
Bitterness Kee you DIA.. so I am bitter because I ask why an adult will seek permission from ordinary boyfriend before traveling like he pays her bills.
Tah run along

Nnemuka...Even if he is childish ,look at wat pained him ,he takes order frm d lady he didnt travel because his wife 2 be says so,nw he did replica of wat d woman have been doing thousand times she refused dat really broke my heart!dats wicked n selfish of her, as a man he deserves some respect...i love dating my seniors because of my IQ

YemiHadid:
No beef, but personally i might only marry a single mother if she's single because she's widowed. Any other reason is a No-No. Its the height of cuckoldery having to raise another man's kid while putting up with her 'entitlement mentality'. I'll only 'pump and dump' thatz all. Sound harsh, but thats the way it is. Remember the old adage, "she single for a reason" and that reason is usually bad. She didnt have the patience/good judgement to make it work with her baby daddy (even for the sake of the kid), why should she stick with you. The cons of dating SMs are just more than the pros - not worth it imho. Why settle for used goods when there's plenty of fresh ones about.

Read this too: http://www.returnofkings.com/84026/5-reasons-you-should-never-date-a-single-mother

Brethren be wise!

Where does this write up keep the men? I am no advocate of even pre-matital sex, and sadly its ladies that carry the public shame of the act. However the write up makes sense in some ways, just remember too that women don't get themselves pregnant. If men raised their standards, I mean character we will also have better women.

@Nnemuka dnt allow ur past experience cloud ur judgement on relationship matters...me am tall ,handsome,sexy n i have money but my past is filled wt ladies wickedness on me...i always cry lyk a baby because of ladies cruelty, but dat dosent change my humanity pure judgement...God once says in d bible dat he gives righteousmen gud women...i believe dat n it wl work 4 me /it wl work 4 u either

1x2x3:
Let me permit your ignorance from not reading through the posts. I didn't run here to look for solutions I'm done and I have more than enough issues I've managed in the past without coming here. I am only giving my advice by sharing my experience.

You should not be giving anyone advice. A person that generalizes lacks the ability to think critically. A person that lacks the ability to resolve relationship issues should not be in a place to even advise himself. A person that needs to be worshipped before feeling they are alive, has so many underlying issues they need to deal with before entering into even a friendship with another human being. It’s good that you are done with her. She deserves better to be honest.

Her big mistake is dating someone like you, and introducing her child to someone who from the first day he saw her and knew her status knew that he could not be with her for the long term. She probably sensed this, that is why she did not introduce you to her family. Actions speak louder than words. Work on yourself because with your attitude, even a single girl with a little self worth will have trouble marrying you. Next you will com here and insult short or tall girls... or maybe career women too when your relationship with girls of this characteristics fails. Lol.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Just pray for God's guidance on whom to marry. But who will now marry the rude mean ones?

its d unlucky men that will end with the rude mean ones

baby124:
You should not be giving anyone advice. A person that generalizes lacks the ability to think critically. A person that lacks the ability to resolve relationship issues should not be in a place to even advise himself. A person that needs to be worshipped before feeling they are alive, has so many underlying issues they need to deal with before entering into even a friendship with another human being. It’s good that you are done with her. She deserves better to be honest.

Her big mistake is dating someone like you, and introducing her child to someone who from the first day he saw her and knew her status knew that he could not be with her for the long term. She probably sensed this, that is why she did not introduce you to her family. Actions speak louder than words. Work on yourself because with your attitude, even a single girl with a little self worth will have trouble marrying you. Next you will com here and insult short or tall girls... or maybe career women too when your relationship with girls of this characteristics fails. Lol.

Bravo . You are very smart for your wonderful post. He who wears the shoe knows where it pinches.

baby124:
You should not be giving anyone advice. A person that generalizes lacks the ability to think critically. A person that lacks the ability to resolve relationship issues should not be in a place to even advise himself. A person that needs to be worshipped before feeling they are alive, has so many underlying issues they need to deal with before entering into even a friendship with another human being. It’s good that you are done with her. She deserves better to be honest.

Her big mistake is dating someone like you, and introducing her child to someone who from the first day he saw her and knew her status knew that he could not be with her for the long term. She probably sensed this, that is why she did not introduce you to her family. Actions speak louder than words. Work on yourself because with your attitude, even a single girl with a little self worth will have trouble marrying you. Next you will com here and insult short or tall girls... or maybe career women too when your relationship with girls of this characteristics fails. Lol.

OP I beg you ignore this bitter female, please try to understand when a bias mind is typing out of hate and ignore
This bitter lady turned a blind eye to your ex's disobedience and suspicious phone but only took note of your demand to meet her siblings, there you should know the kind of person she is and therefore ignore

Modified: I see you already responded to her smh. You are too filled with courtesy

lefulefu:
single dads are better options for single moms.most single dads/since moms relationships are much more smoother than single guys/single mom relationships.

True that and the single dad still has to be careful otherwise his other child will be a slave to the rest of the children.

Originalsly:
Hmmm....this is unfair to single mothers! Why tag them like this? To me this is all about knowing about a woman period before marriage...single mother or not. How can she meet your people but you can't meet any of hers? ...that's a big yellow flag right there. Why would you even consider marrying someone you know nothing about except what she told you? Why didn't the doubting Thomas in you wake up?
No doubt...there are many single mothers out there simply because they are not marriage material.... she is in this group...mother or not...but there are lots of them who are simply because they were played. We should stop painting them with a broad brush.

I have dated many of them and can tell you that 90% of single mothers are not marriageable.Deal with it.

1x2x3:
Lol @ he does not have kobo . My dear I earn well, live above average and drive my own car likewise her. My objecting was because she didn't sound convincing about where she was headed besides she travels before.

I will say she dodged a bullet. Why do you think you have the right to tell her whether to travel or not? You are the controlling type and will likely be dictating the number of maggi cubes that should go into your soup.
I will advise you go pick a local girl from village because no exposed person wants to be ordered around like a kid.

openmine:
Initially,very nice,welcoming and humble....after some months,they start trying to figure out how to control or dominate you with some little stuffs.....When they don't succeed with that approach maybe due to your stance,they get emotionally defeated and use the weapon of manipulation just to make them look like the victim or that you don't really love them enough....

Did I read a different story? It is the OP that is dominating the lady, you don't blame someone because you can't control them.

OP, permit me to insert some perception in this your writeup .
In life, we fail to understand that we have all the power to change any situation in our possession.
The Single Mum in question has all the right to decide what she want as you do too.
Going by what you said, I will say that you are still a kid by hurriedly jumping into conclusion without trying to play your second human [ acting or switching on your next comfort zone with different people ] characteristics, you can't just judge her by her words which she just expressed her believe and it is left for you to analyse her points with facts and correct it if found unpleasant.
so, young man go back to her if the love which you had for her is unconditional and talk things out for the good of both of you.

At the end you will understand that we are the problem and also the solution to our life.

TonyeBarcanista:
Please can you relax on this manipulative narrative?

A girl that is pregnant was pregnant as the result of the decision she took. If she decide to go for abortion, she is responsible for it, same if she decide to give birth to the baby.

A man has the choice of settling with a girl with clean antecedents rather than a retired abortionist or Baby Mama.

Guys must be wise

I know a guy must be wise, but he was should av spoken about d character of d lady not about her being a single woman. That was just my point. A virgin with that character is also bad.

1x2x3:
Thanks . It baffles me seeing certain comments talking about me being controlling and broke . These ladies won't cease amazing me

Nobody here knows your financial situation but from the story you wrote up there, it is obvious you love controlling people's choice and the funny thing is you would hate being on the receiving end.

CorGier:
Cecy, no point going all hypothetical.

Her purpose for travelling wasn't for business, OP stated clearly that she was on leave with the lame excuse of wanting to go "relax" someplace else.

In my experience with the "present day woman," if she feels the need to pick a fight just so she could wriggle out her way and leave town, then there can only be one motivating factor;
And that's the presence of one big, black, pulsing and venated cõck somewhere, she's creaming her panties for.
She came back way more relaxed, that's for sure.

Oh, she might be cheating. How is that a news? Isn't it foolish trying to control a cheating partner when you can just dump them?

PearlStreet:
Single mothers and some pussy-niggers with a warped sense of reasoning.

Another jobless one who thinks throwing around meaningless words make him special.

Hector09:
As for me she is right, marriage is all abt having a child/children, cus i dont see any thing special abt marriage, and i dont wish to get married to any lady

I wish you were born with single parent.

I'm expecting one useless single mother to come and preach nonsense here... I have dated like three single mothers before, seriously, the were nothing to write home about ..... I pity those single mothers who ended up being a single mother out of domestic violence or circumstances because most of we single guys always see u and the rest promiscuous single mothers as the same... Ibaje eru kan no mu no bu igba eru

ivolt:
Nobody here knows your financial situation but from the story you wrote up there, it is obvious you love controlling people's choice and the funny thing is you would hate being on the receiving side.

I didn't want to state how controlling she has been in the past but I see people think I'm controlling. I've mentioned several times that she stops me from traveling whenever she isn't chanced to go with me and I do respect that. She travels and this happens to be the very first time I objected since she was not convincing about her reason of traveling. And if you should know she returned with a brand new phone worth about 400k.

Anyway after reading some comments here I just laugh and laugh at how illogical some men can reason..........

Most single mothers if not all are victim of cruelty from men and that bitter experience will change their personality totally.... It takes complete and a God fearing men to sit them down and talk sense into them not tagging them as wicked or wayward and trying to shield the men from the blame.
Mind you there can't be a baby mama without a baby daddy

1x2x3:
Lol her job requires traveling sometimes and she does that with ease. In the past I've tried traveling on few occasions but the moment she isn't chanced to go with me she objects and I respect that. This is the very first time I objected because she wasn't sounding convincing about her trip and she told me she will go and face any consequences when she returns..... Who's Alpha here?

I think you are making this up to make her look bad. You once describe yourself as being a hard nut to crack and claimed to sense manipulations a mile away. But here you are confessing that a mere girlfriend can dictate when you can travel.
Being controlling is bad but being a sissy is far worse.

I think most who keep the baby is because abortion is out of option already, perhaps due to certain implications. All things being normal and timely, she would have aborted the baby. So, stop talking trash. If you are right she decided to bring a child into the world, congratulations to her. She should bring in more as a single mom. Marriage is by choice after all.

IamaNigerianGuy:
What a terrible thing to say.

More so as it is very harsh and untrue. A single mum at some point decided against an abortion and brought a child into the world.
What exactly is the abomination in keeping the baby ? The sex ? Or the fact that she chose life over death ? You prefer that the child be killed and the mother continue with her life ?

Man, your opinion is whack.

neocortex:
I think you are making this up to make her look bad. You once describe yourself as being a hard nut to crack and claimed to sense manipulations a mile away. But here you are confessing that a mere girlfriend can dictate when you can travel.
Being controlling is bad but being a sissy is far worse.

Make up stories to who's advantage? I didn't have to mention so many things because I felt it was unnecessary and in other not to bore readers with longer post. She dictated and some times as a man you have to consider when your woman isn't happy about you traveling if you aren't traveling from anything important. I simply stayed back.

The idea of stigmatising people and putting them in a box because of their circumstances is just wrong.

A lot of women have got the rough end of the stick from men who trick them, usually telling gargantuan lies to get into their pants.

Every single woman was made so by a man who made her pregnant and evaded responsibility. If you're not sure about her don't stick it in her. If you must, use protection.

I know a lot of single mothers. They are brilliant, well mannered and beautiful women who became that way because they dared to trust men. I can understand why they may have significant trust issues.

Raising a child in a home is tough enough, doing it all by yourself in this society is double trouble. They need understanding and support not judgement and condemnation.

To every single woman out there; your life may have taken a detour but your dreams are still valid. You will get there.

I wonder if the same judgement is dispensed to the men who are responsible for the creating the children.

1x2x3:
Make up stories to who's advantage? I didn't have to mention so many things because I felt it was unnecessary and in other not to bore readers with longer post. She dictated and some times as a man you have to consider when your woman isn't happy about you traveling if you aren't traveling from anything important. I simply stayed back.

If you didn't consider it a dictation then, it shouldn't be a bad thing now because you are no longer in good terms.

Chukapage:
are you a single mother?? your taking issues too personal here am sure u done already involve emotions

Didn't know the post was about single mothers alone, I will take my leave now.

neocortex:
If you didn't consider it a dictation then, it shouldn't be a bad thing now because you are no longer in good terms.

A woman dictates and you obey to let peace reign and when I objected once for her unconvincing reason of traveling she told me she will travel and face consequences when she is back and she did travel, returned with new iPhone X and you are here dribbling around? If you are single and ready to marry she's available and I can link you up.

CecyAdrian:
Didn't know the post was about single mothers alone, I will take my leave now.

biko leave if possible u don too para....

She said so many unimaginable things that it dawned to me she was pretending to be nice all these while. She said she wants a man that can take alll she does, I then asked her if she is ready to take all a man does she said no and I told her to look for a man and pay his groom price since she wants a man she can control. The bolded was the same thing a divorcee I was considering for marriage told me, I told her she has a long way to go and jejely left.[/quote]

MyOpinion1:
Anyway after reading some comments here I just laugh and laugh at how illogical some men can reason..........

Most single mothers if not all are victim of cruelty from men and that bitter experience will change their personality totally.... It takes complete and a God fearing men to sit them down and talk sense into them not tagging them as wicked or wayward and trying to shield the men from the blame.
Mind you there can't be a baby mama without a baby daddy

They should go and meet the men that made them Baby Mamas.

Meanwhile, who will waste time trying to "talk sense" into the head of a single mother when there is plethora of decent single ladies and virgins?

tmosco:
I know a guy must be wise, but he was should av spoken about d character of d lady not about her being a single woman. That was just my point. A virgin with that character is also bad.

Oga, Baby Mama and repented abortionists are NO-NO for me. I wouldn't mind a non virgin but that will be after investigating and knowing her past.

1x2x3:
Make up stories to who's advantage? I didn't have to mention so many things because I felt it was unnecessary and in other not to bore readers with longer post. She dictated and some times as a man you have to consider when your woman isn't happy about you traveling if you aren't traveling from anything important. I simply stayed back.

Bros, this shows you are a weakling and sissy in the relationship. You need to start taking charge of your affairs and stop allowing woman to control you.

BTW you seem to be trying so hard to make yourself appear like the good guy (Mr Nice Guy), and this is a complete display of weakness.

Every relationship has its own kinda baggage and challenge(s). The fact that you think all of these happened in your relationship cos you are dating a single mum is wrong, cos there are other men who have dated single ladies and ended up with a much worse experience but I won't blame you for how you feel. Every healthy working relationships has two people who really wants to be together in spite all odds be it with a single mum or a virgin. All I can tell you is, your relationship didn't work out cos you were in it with someone who shud have known better being a single mum but who chose not to cos she simply don't understand the concept of a good relationship and how to be responsible or committed to a cause. Sorry about your experience though