In reply to @shugavee (broke guys shouldn't toast babes), I have this to say.
It takes more than words of mouth to approach a lady as a broke nigga. That a guy is broke doesn't mean he has no ambition. Infact, being broke and still have the guts to toast a woman means the guy knows what he wants.
Whoever said ambition has to do with money and material things alone. A girl's ambition could be to raise a broke guy from the floor. Likewise a guys ambition could be to find happiness and love before anything else. So many ways leads to success and happiness.
You just can't draw a line and call it a standard.
I have a friend who today is a big boy. He met his wife when he couldn't even afford a stick of cigarette for himself. She was already working with Chevron then. She practically packaged him and today they have 3 kids with my guy on the driver's seat. She has since left chevron traveling around the world with her husband's wealth.
Whoever said being broke is equal to being sad and reclusive. One way you know a man that has ambition is when he sees beyond his present state. Toasting a woman, especially the financially strong ones, is no mean feat. That's one way you know a man who knows what he wants in life.
If you can't toast a woman when you are broke how then do you think you can defend your territory (her interest) when the money comes.

Most of the ladies screaming "I can't date or marry a broke man" have forgotten that their mothers married/dated their fathers when the man had little or nothing from the onset. Some of these ladies even still have broke dads.

Wooing a lady has little or nothing to do with a fat purse or not. It's all about self confidence, they're still rich guys that can't ask a lady out no matter the status of the lady.

the important question IS: shouldnt broke guys date?! and if not, WHY NOT? is it forbidden to date a person by going to sit in a park?! is it forbidden to date a person by happily walking hand in hand while getting to know each other? must a man spend money in order to get to know someone? cant this man share his meal with this babe?

some greedy broke aass women have really put a spell on any man who thinks that having extra money is a NECESSITY to date.


so long as the rent is paid, the bills are paid, belly is full and there is food is in the fridge and he can clothe himself in a presentable manner, THEN whether he is broke after that is called TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS! these deluded women should learn from that.

MrBrownJay1:
the important question IS: shouldnt broke guys date?! and if not, WHY NOT? is it forbidden to date a person by going to sit in a park?! is it forbidden to date a person by happily walking hand in hand while getting to know each other? must a man spend money in order to get to know someone? cant this man share his meal with this babe?

some greedy broke aass women have really put a spell on any man who thinks that having extra money is a NECESSITY to date.


so long as the rent is paid, the bills are paid, belly is full and there is food is in the fridge and he can clothe himself in a presentable manner, THEN whether he is broke after that is called TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS! these deluded women should learn from that.

That's the point bro. They have taking the whole thing to e new high. Twisting and turning everything upsidedown just to prove a nonexistent point.

OP,oil dey ur brain. But u for just leave that yeye "gold digger " to live with r mediocre mentality.

Moneyspeakingz:
OP,oil dey ur brain. But u for just leave that yeye "gold digger " to live with r mediocre mentality.

My brother. All in the name of twisted feminism

Sheuns:


Most of the ladies screaming "I can't date or marry a broke man" have forgotten that their mothers married/dated their fathers when the man had little or nothing from the onset. Some of these ladies even still have broke dads.

Wooing a lady has little or nothing to do with a fat purse on not. It's all about self confidence, they're still rich guys that can't ask a lady out no matter the status of the lady.

Fact.

ogmask:
That's the point bro. They have taking the whole thing to e new high. Twisting and turning everything upsidedown just to prove a nonexistent point.

but men have to understand the demon they are up against..... because only MEN can change the failed state of mind of these broke aass desperate goldigging babes.

of course these babe dont want to be toasted by broke dudes (who no like better thing), because the majority are broke and lazy and instead of getting a job (or ask their damn father) to provide them with all their necessities of life, they instead wants some donkey to pamper them, shower them with foolish gifts and eating at fancy restaurants. but guess what? if men simply said NO, then these babe would have nobody to turn to, and therefore would get their act together.

sadly, so many brother are so desperate for toto that they will fall for these demons tricks and become mugu to these criminals... under the guise that they will get unrestricted access to the coochie (when any smart man knows that the price of coochie is a dime a dozen)

MrBrownJay1:


but men have to understand the demon they are up against..... because only MEN can change the failed state of mind of these broke aass desperate goldigging babes.

of course these babe dont want to be toasted by broke dudes (who no like better thing), because the majority are broke and lazy and instead of getting a job (or ask their damn father) to provide them with all their necessities of life, they instead wants some donkey to pamper them, shower them with foolish gifts and eating at fancy restaurants. but guess what? if men simply said NO, then these babe would have nobody to turn to, and therefore would get their act together.

sadly, so many brother are so desperate for toto that they will fall for these demons tricks and become mugu to these criminals... under the guise that they will get unrestricted access to the coochie (when any smart man knows that the price of coochie is a dime a dozen)

Guy nor kee mi abeg. My belle dey pain me for laff.
Seriously, this kind of mentality is a slap on the very hardworking and unassuming beautiful ladies out there, making it sound like the babes who date broke guys are sick.

ogmask:
Guy nor kee mi abeg. My belle dey pain me for laff.
Seriously, this kind of mentality is a slap on the very hardworking and unassuming beautiful ladies out there, making it sound like the babes who date broke guys are sick.

bro the issue is very simple o....

if a babe asks a man for ANYTHING (lets call it X), then that man's reply should be:" how did you provide your life with X before you met me?!" OR "why dont you ask your papa to buy you X?"

so if a babe ask you to pay for her Brazilian hair, because she supposedly want to be beautiful for you, and blackmails you by saying:"dont you want me to be beautiful?" your simple reply should ALWAYS be:"how did you provide yourself with Brazilian hair before you met me? whatever you did before, please continue doing it!" EOD.

MrBrownJay1:


bro the issue is very simple o....

if a babe asks a man for ANYTHING (lets call it X), then that man's reply should be:" how did you provide your life with X before you met me?!" OR "why dont you ask your papa to buy you X?"

so if a babe ask you to pay for her Brazilian hair, because she supposedly want to be beautiful for you, and blackmails you by saying:"dont you want me to be beautiful?" your simple reply should ALWAYS be:"how did you provide yourself with Brazilian hair before you met me? whatever you did before, please continue doing it!" EOD.

Abi oo my brother. That's the point. Some of this "I can't date a broke guy" crusaders, only remember they have needs the moment a new toaster (mugu) comes around.

ogmask:
Abi oo my brother. That's the point. Some of this "I can't date a broke guy" crusaders, only remember they have needs the moment a new toaster (mugu) comes around.

but let us all be honest on the issue... if a babe says she cant date a broke guy, while she pays for her own upkeep and does NOT beg for handouts, then fair enough. to each their own level, but if it is just a poverty alleviation trick then hell NAH!

MrBrownJay1:


but let us all be honest on the issue... if a babe says she cant date a broke guy, while she pays for her own upkeep and does NOT beg for handouts, then fair enough. to each their own level, but if it is just a poverty alleviation trick then hell NAH!

Good point.. but they will hide under the cloak of "at least he should be able to buy me small gifts". Whatever happens to falling in love for reasons other than money..

ogmask:
Good point.. but they will hide under the cloak of "at least he should be able to buy me small gifts". Whatever happens to falling in love for reasons other than money..

true, but these ones can easily be dealt with, and the important question here is not how much you should spend but WHY SHOULD YOU?!. if a man decide that he wants to spend on a gift for his gf because he believe she DESERVES one, then by all means let him A) decide what he thinks she deserves and B) make it a one off gift. even recharge cards shouldnt be handed recklessly, because you indirectly would be creating a monster. in what crazy world people get rewarded for absolutely NOTHING?!

btw if a woman is attracted to a man because of money then that can never be love, ever!

MrBrownJay1:


true, but these ones can easily be dealt with, and the important question here is not how much you should spend but WHY SHOULD YOU?!. if a man decide that he wants to spend on a gift for his gf because he believe she DESERVES one, then by all means let him A) decide what he thinks she deserves and B) make it a one off gift. even recharge cards shouldnt be handed recklessly, because you indirectly would be creating a monster. in what crazy world people get rewarded for absolutely NOTHING?!

btw if a woman is attracted to a man because of money then that can never be love, ever!

My brother money has changed the colour and flavour of love ooooo. More like flowing with the tide. Like, If you can't do my bidding you are broke.
Ordinarily, I won't move a bat for this but, it shouldn't be like it's a standard all women must follow. This days some women will pour out their entire village problem on a guy all in the name of I can't date a broke guy.. God is watching ....

It takes nothing to ask a girl and broke is relative.there some ppl who might consider whizkid broke and zukerberg as the ultimate rich bloke. Na so e be. All i can say is dat dudes should be focused. U make small change and u carry d money go smoke and drink and carry olosho and d remainder u spend am inside nairabet and u expect a level headed babe to look ur way when u ask her out. It doesnt work dat way nau.

MrBrownJay1 post:

btw if a woman is attracted to a man because of money then that can never be love, ever!

kpakam!

ogmask:
My brother money has changed the colour and flavour of love ooooo. More like flowing with the tide. Like, If you can't do my bidding you are broke.
Ordinarily, I won't move a bat for this but, it shouldn't be like it's a standard all women must follow. This days some women will pour out their entire village problem on a guy all in the name of I can't date a broke guy.. God is watching ....

nah bro, money has never changed the colour/flavour of love, love will always remain LOVE... its only deluded women (and/or the Kim K of this world) who have changed "their" definition of love.

lefulefu2:
It takes nothing to ask a girl and broke is relative.there some ppl who might consider whizkid broke and zukerberg as the ultimate rich bloke. Na so e be. All i can say is dat dudes should be focused. U make small change and u carry d money go smoke and drink and carry olosho and d remainder u spend am inside nairabet and u expect a level headed babe to look ur way when u ask her out. It doesnt work dat way nau.

well said bro, but then should men pay for extravagant gifts to babes who A) they havent married; B) are selling themselves to the highest bidder; C) cant even afford (or dont deserve) a tenth of what they are asking a man to spend on them; or simply D) are just as broke as the man they are begging to?

the sad reason why so many gave up on these broke aass hungry desperate goldigging babes and settle for drinking/smoking/oloshos and betting, is in major party the fault of these demanding women.

MrBrownJay1:


nah bro, money has never changed the colour/flavour of love, love will always remain LOVE... its only deluded women (and/or the Kim K of this world) who have changed "their" definition of love

True bro. I meant same.

MrBrownJay1:


nah bro, money has never changed the colour/flavour of love, love will always remain LOVE... its only deluded women (and/or the Kim K of this world) who have changed "their" definition of love.



well said bro, but then should men pay for extravagant gifts to babes who A) they havent married; B) are selling themselves to the highest bidder; C) cant even afford (or dont deserve) a tenth of what they are asking a man to spend on them; or simply D) are just as broke as the man they are begging to?

the sad reason why so many gave up on these broke aass hungry desperate goldigging babes and settle for drinking/smoking/oloshos and betting, is in major party the fault of these demanding women.

there are ladies who deserve a good gift from their men. In short there ladies even if u purchase a car or rent an expensive flat for her that wont even compensate for what she has done for u. Imagine a scenario a man with a kidney problem..his wife voluntered to give up one of her kidney for her husband..now would all the material gift the guy buys for her be enough for wat she did? Of course not! Having said that, its foolish when some men spend extravagant gifts on some random girl he just knew out of the blues. Dats just complete foolishness.you can never buy a woman's affection with money or gifts.dats just d plain truth.

lefulefu2:
there are ladies who deserve a good gift from their men.

once in a while, yeah

In short there ladies even if u purchase a car or rent an expensive flat for her that wont even compensate for what she has done for u.

sure, so long as such gift was not blackmailed by her

Imagine a scenario a man with a kidney problem..his wife voluntered to give up one of her kidney for her husband..now would all the material gift the guy buys for her be enough for wat she did? Of course not!

the day any babe gives her kidney to you then fair enough, she DESERVES it (important word being "deserve". some of them babes asking for gift would never even spare a chewing gum, even if your life depended on it.

Having said that, its foolish when some men spend extravagant gifts on some random girl he just knew out of the blues. Dats just complete foolishness.

(even if they have dated for years), unless she deserves a gift, she shouldnt get one. being in a r/ship for years doesnt automatically mean the babe deserves anything. does it?![/quote]

you can never buy a woman's affection with money or gifts.dats just d plain truth.

sadly, you are wrong here.... because A) these animals are not women and B) many of these "so called" women are selling their affection to all the highest bidder, and the minute the mugu start dropping the cash then these babes start to be affectionate/loving (fake of course) in order for him to drop more. many would not like these men's sight and be turned off by them (even would despise these men) but the minute these bobos drop some money, they will fukc their brains out, thus such man would believe that she cares about him.

Gathering of the brokkklyns

MrBrownJay1:


once in a while, yeah



sure, so long as such gift was not blackmailed by her



the day any babe gives her kidney to you then fair enough, she DESERVES it (important word being "deserve". some of them babes asking for gift would never even spare a chewing gum, even if your life depended on it.



(even if they have dated for years), unless she deserves a gift, she shouldnt get one. being in a r/ship for years doesnt automatically mean the babe deserves anything. does it?!

you can never buy a woman's affection with money or gifts.dats just d plain truth.

sadly, you are wrong here.... because A) these animals are not women and B) many of these "so called" women are selling their affection to all the highest bidder, and the minute the mugu start dropping the cash then these babes start to be affectionate/loving (fake of course) in order for him to drop more. many would not like these men's sight and be turned off by them (even would despise these men) but the minute these bobos drop some money, they will fukc their brains out, thus such man would believe that she cares about him.

the last point u just hit on...even if u buy her affection with money all she will give u is fake love. The money d money reduce or a richer nigga comes along d babe babe will dump u.dats just the basic fact. Its important u have a woman who will always give u her geniune support anytime anyday. U need a gennuine woman to give u her support in case anything goes wrong. There have been cases of some wives conniving with their lovers to murder their rich husbands or to kidnap dem for ransome. Thats what happens when u marry a woman who is only interested in ur money.

lefulefu2:
the last point u just hit on...even if u buy her affection with money all she will give u is fake love. The money d money reduce or a richer nigga comes along d babe babe will dump u.dats just the basic fact. Its important u have a woman who will always give u her geniune support anytime anyday. U need a gennuine woman to give u her support in case anything goes wrong. There have been cases of some wives conniving with their lovers to murder their rich husbands or to kidnap dem for ransome. Thats what happens when u marry a woman who is only interested in ur money.

well said but sadly, many brothers dont understand that.... and karma never fails:"what you get with honey, you will lose with honey" because there will always be a richer man out there (unless your name is Jeff Bezos)

Oyindidi:
Gathering of the brokkklyns

as the chairman of the SBMON (Stingy/Broke Men Of Nairaland), let me formally welcome you to this thread.

MrBrownJay1:


as the chairman of the SBMON (Stingy/Broke Men Of Nairaland), let me formally welcome you to this thread.

Hahahaha.... Drop some bottles on the table

Oyindidi:
Hahahaha.... Drop some bottles on the table

as a proper stingy man, let me get you a glass of tap water instead, its more refreshing (and suited) for such discussion, lol!

MrBrownJay1:


as a proper stingy man, let me get you a glass of tap water instead, its more refreshing (and suited) for such discussion, lol!

MrBrown, welcome properly not even maltina?

MrBrownJay1:


but men have to understand the demon they are up against..... because only MEN can change the failed state of mind of these broke aass desperate goldigging babes.

of course these babe dont want to be toasted by broke dudes (who no like better thing), because the majority are broke and lazy and instead of getting a job (or ask their damn father) to provide them with all their necessities of life, they instead wants some donkey to pamper them, shower them with foolish gifts and eating at fancy restaurants. but guess what? if men simply said NO, then these babe would have nobody to turn to, and therefore would get their act together.

sadly, so many brother are so desperate for toto that they will fall for these demons tricks and become mugu to these criminals... under the guise that they will get unrestricted access to the coochie (when any smart man knows that the price of coochie is a dime a dozen)

Its so pathetic that the moment you don't give them gifts or money, they tag you broke and stingy

Oyindidi:
MrBrown, welcome properly not even maltina?

Maltina how? everything here is free: FREE tap water to get FREE life education... which will lead to a life FREE of hassle.

Oyindidi:
Gathering of the brokkklyns

One hustler sighted.

oluwashedy:
Its so pathetic that the moment you don't give them gifts or money, they tag you broke and stingy

Sadly, it has eaten deep into their skin.