Lalas247:

and the ladies chatting shit

ask them how many guys they have asked out ....

ask them o
people confuse reality and dreams .....

adesina746:


I have answered you now no because it is not right simple as it is

adesina746:

Well the truth is this i agree that the world has turn to something else because of the wild ideas everybody has. But that does not change the fact that a lady has to be submissive to her man in all ways
It is Gods law in all religion irrespective of the religion and also a cultural law everywhere. And inturn it is the duty of the man to guide, provide, protect his woman and in so doing respect for her feelings and need then comes to play. Hope u understand

Ladyhippolyta88:

This is the 21st century and times have changed and life is dynamic not static.Laws do change,Culture also changes,some religions have different sects so their laws/doctrines differ.

That said I earlier pointed out that I am not religious,Submission to me is mutual and I sometimes do it and the person I do it to must reciprocate in return.Submissiveness is not a gender thing it goes both ways.
And I don't need anybody to guide,protect me blah blah I can do all that.
I don't believe that or go with stereotyping,I go with my rules what works for me and not what religion says.

Everyone has what works for them and that your advice cannot work for me.

LivingFree:
I completely disagree with this... 2 of the best relationships I've had were born out of me approaching the guy. You don't 'ask' a man out... you just approach, make yourself available and convey the message that you admire another human being. Unless you attracted to trash you won't be treated any less for displaying love for another being.
So, it's not men that are the problem it's the kind of men YOU are attracted to. The worst case scenario for me would be a polite, 'no... I'm with someone' or 'I'm really sorry I don't have those feelings for you'. And my self pride is too high to be damaged by the truth! I love and respect the truth. Girls... Pick the man you want instead of settling for a man that wants you... that's my 2 cents

You don't have to lie to prove me wrong

mhisbliss:
And aside the bible you're always quick to reference, what doctrine or legal law proclaimed it isn't right for a guy to submit to a girl in this modern world?

mhisbliss:
You don't have to lie to prove me wrong

mhisbliss:
I was hanging out with my brother and his friends today and they were talking about girls, i was so engrossed with my phone so they thought i wasn't listening to what they were saying, but i was, they were talking about girls, i concentrated on a particular girl who asked him out and he said no because he doesn't like her and all that,

I noticed that most guys find it attractive when girls ask them out, to some its bravery and it takes alot of courage, and they might end up cherishing you because of it.

Some think its desperacy and will look down on you from then onwards, asking such guys out has alot of backlash, it gives them this idea that they're a worthy prize for the troubles you had to go through to ask them out, then comes the puffed up ego and attitude, they always threaten to leave you the moment something goes wrong, afterall they're so cool you had to ask them out, then they walk around with thier shoulders high like deputy jesus, you'll never be respected in such relationship.

Then theres the question of wether he feels the same way about you, guys are polygamous in nature, they want something they go get it, its in thier nature, he might be into someone else, not you who asked him out, coercing him to start feeling the same way you feel about him is not happening,

The desperate girl who threw herself cheaply at him by asking him out won't have the same value as the one who played hard to get and he had to invest his time and effort to get her after trying For a very long time.

ladies be wise, we ain't white people, never ask a nigerian guy out, unless you're prepared to pamper, worship, adore, beg deputy jesus for the rest of your life, and he'll still be giving you childish attitude.

Show him all the green light you can, if he's too stupid not to get the clue, save whatever dignity and self esteem you have left and leave him alone.

mhisbliss:
How can they ask guys out when they know exactly what I'm talking about and what it feels like to ask a guy out?

me I'm a mordern age woman, I'm outspoken, if i feel something for a guy I'll tell him bla bla bla,

they're just saying it because its nairaland, they ooze hypocrisy, especially that poco woman, she should ask a guy out and tell me what happened afterwards then I'll take her serious

LivingFree:


Wow. Sweetie, not everything is about you...

I am very comfortable telling a "God amongst Men", that he is a "God amongst men".

I would've expected a more fresh approach to life coming from a young lady but I guess you don't want to test the boundaries of life and that's not my problem.

My self-esteem isn't dependent on what others think about me...

adesina746:


It may also interest you to know that my woman also asked me out and i must tell you that till today we are fine. U may choose to believe it or not . But i can never leave her for another lady because she has values.

Now its not about who asked who out. Its about compatibility and Gods blessing at times

I know of a friend who is also married to a lady he met got down with same week and now they are married today with a female child and the other ladies that formed hard to get has been discarded by him so what are we saying

mhisbliss:
I wasn't there so arguing with you is a total waste of time and you know it is

LivingFree:


Wow. Sweetie, not everything is about you...

I am very comfortable telling a "God amongst Men", that he is a "God amongst men".

I would've expected a more fresh approach to life coming from a young lady but I guess you don't want to test the boundaries of life and that's not my problem.

My self-esteem isn't dependent on what others think about me...

Why would your life story be about me, its boring and I'm not a boring person, my self esteem is very high as well and I'm not about to throw it away by throwing myself at a nigerian man, we have different interpretations of life and that's why shouldn't impose lawlessness on me thank you

adesina746:


And what legal law also proclaim that it is right?

Sebi
we have all seen where modern age is leading us to. For once forget being sentimental and try to reason about the facts. May be u will see a little sense in what am saying. I agree some men might be out of place in their behaviour at treating women. But that does not change the fact that ones a woman finds herself in a relationship she should follow the principles that will make life easy for her part of it is submissiveness.

mhisbliss:
His stupidity is sickening, don't blame him, its nairaland, the useless looser thinks he should have an opinion since he's faceless

mhisbliss:
How can they ask guys out when they know exactly what I'm talking about and what it feels like to ask a guy out?

me I'm a mordern age woman, I'm outspoken, if i feel something for a guy I'll tell him bla bla bla,

they're just saying it because its nairaland, they ooze hypocrisy, especially that poco woman, she should ask a guy out and tell me what happened afterwards then I'll take her serious

mhisbliss:
Instead of answering questions you just jump at another issue entirely, the submission should be mutual not one sided

mhisbliss:
I was hanging out with my brother and his friends today and they were talking about girls, i was so engrossed with my phone so they thought i wasn't listening to what they were saying, but i was, they were talking about girls, i concentrated on a particular girl who asked him out and he said no because he doesn't like her and all that,

I noticed that most guys find it attractive when girls ask them out, to some its bravery and it takes alot of courage, and they might end up cherishing you because of it.

Some think its desperacy and will look down on you from then onwards, asking such guys out has alot of backlash, it gives them this idea that they're a worthy prize for the troubles you had to go through to ask them out, then comes the puffed up ego and attitude, they always threaten to leave you the moment something goes wrong, afterall they're so cool you had to ask them out, then they walk around with thier shoulders high like deputy jesus, you'll never be respected in such relationship.


Then theres the question of wether he feels the same way about you, guys are polygamous in nature, they want something they go get it, its in thier nature, he might be into someone else, not you who asked him out, coercing him to start feeling the same way you feel about him is not happening,

The desperate girl who threw herself cheaply at him by asking him out won't have the same value as the one who played hard to get and he had to invest his time and effort to get her after trying For a very long time.

ladies be wise, we ain't white people, never ask a nigerian guy out, unless you're prepared to pamper, worship, adore, beg deputy jesus for the rest of your life, and he'll still be giving you childish attitude.

Show him all the green light you can, if he's too stupid not to get the clue, save whatever dignity and self esteem you have left and leave him alone.

mhisbliss:
Why would your life story be about me, its boring and I'm not a boring person, my self esteem is very high as well and I'm not about to throw it away by throwing myself at a nigerian man, we have different interpretations of life and that's why shouldn't impose lawlessness on me thank you

Preshy561:

my dear,NL is full of pretentious beings.

both men and women!!
don't feel flabbergasted about it.


I am not disappointed at some pretentious comments here,worst is that the guys that claimed they were toasted never agreed to marry these ladies.
and the ladies here that form civilization didn't end up with those ones they approached.
lool,I can't stop laughing.

Will chat you when I'm back dear.

LivingFree:
I completely disagree with this... 2 of the best relationships I've had were born out of me approaching the guy. You don't 'ask' a man out... you just approach, make yourself available and convey the message that you admire another human being. Unless you attracted to trash you won't be treated any less for displaying love for another being.
So, it's not men that are the problem it's the kind of men YOU are attracted to. The worst case scenario for me would be a polite, 'no... I'm with someone' or 'I'm really sorry I don't have those feelings for you'. And my self pride is too high to be damaged by the truth! I love and respect the truth. Girls... Pick the man you want instead of settling for a man that wants you... that's my 2 cents

LivingFree:


OKAY, but you'd sell your first born for a white man! I understand your type. Self hate is killing you but in your attempts at hiding it you have fooled yourself.

I didn't comment on this thread to exchange words with you in particular so this will be my last reply because I'm very protective of my brain cells.

Babaolorioko:


Just because you can't propose to a man, that doesn't other can't. It is a matter of choice. For any Lady to propose to a Man she would have known he is a mature type who will appreciate her.

adesina746:


The thing is that it is a priviledge and luck on your side if your man is submissive. However dont expect it so as to have peace in your relationship. The fact remains that men are built with Ego and thus might not be easy to b submissive.

But one thing i can assure you is this with time most especially after some certain years in marraige like say 10- 15 years the man naturally becomes submissive to his wife. Anything the wife tells him he does in most cases. Go and ask couples that have been married for that long. The ladie now becomes boss and is in charge. That does not mean she is disrespecting him.
That is when u hear things like let me talk to.my wife about it and d likes

adesina746:


Madam u are just pouring your own frustration all over the place without reasonable argument or contribution u better take it easy and if u come here u quote me wit insult i shall give it to u double till u tire

Preshy561:

my dear,NL is full of pretentious beings.

both men and women!!
don't feel flabbergasted about it.


I am not disappointed at some pretentious comments here,worst is that the guys that claimed they were toasted never agreed to marry these ladies.
and the ladies here that form civilization didn't end up with those ones they approached.
lool,I can't stop laughing.

Will chat you when I'm back dear.

mhisbliss:
Self hate? Nah, your comment is a reflection of who you're and thats why I'm not coming off my high horse, enough said.

Last last you don't have brain cells, you're only blowing your horn like every other fool does, that puddle in your school can only churn out cockeyed nonsense and replying you is only increasing your I.Q be thankful b!tch