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You see women who cook, wash, clean, have sex in all imaginable style to keep the man they are dating?
Most times those men don't end up marrying them, and I'll tell you why..
Do you get irritated when you want to buy something from someone and they are desperate to sell to you?
They keep saying anything just to get you buy?

In most cases, how do you feel?
For me, I often feel that it's either something is wrong with the stuff or the price is inflated. I've discovered that desperation is a sign of the dearth of value, and a show of sheer insecurity. Why? So that by all means they can sell it out. It'll be gain for them to sell that stuff out no matter the price than to keep it back.

Relating this to relationships. When a woman or a man is trying so hard to keep a dating partner, that relationship doesn't lead nowhere in the end.
Why?

People don't want to feel like you're trying so hard to impress them. It devalues you and puts them above you. Most times the admiration they have for you wanes down.
Also, people who try so hard to keep a partner convey insecurity to their partners. In words, it sounds this way: “I am trying so hard to please you and impress you and make you stay because this is the only opportunity I have to marry....”

You sound so insecure that if this doesn't work, you won't embrace your personal beauty and move on.
If you have to do anything outside being yourself to impress a man, you're struggling with complex issues. You are desperate, and nothing devalues one like desperation.
A lady told me she'd just pack her things and cohabit with her man whenever she wants him to marry her. I had to school her. It's ridiculous. Withholding some most times draws out the best of your partner. Giving all just to be married is madness. You marry to give all, you don't give all to marry. Why? Because averagely humans are moved by what's not accessible.

I'm not saying folks who cohabit don't end up marrying but only 20% do. Why? Because less is more!
I'm personally more inclined to women who don't throw everything out. Women who don't try so hard to prove a point. Women who don't try so hard to push it.
It's basic psychology. Everyday a guy meets desperate women because the average woman is desperate for love and marriage. You become a different and exceptional woman when you ain't desperate.

Trying so hard to impress is a turn off. Be yourself. Don't play hard to get, be actually hard to get.
I'm not in any way saying that cooking or cleaning for your man is wrong, but if the motivating factor is to get him marry you. You are under selling yourself.


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By Solomon Buchi Bartholomew

So you want to buy charger you will not taste if it is working

Tasting is allowed

I love this


When you try too hard, you fail so hard. Be you!

What if she puts juju in that food she's cooking for you?
Since I was born I have never eaten any food cooked by my girlfriend.. I don't trust beings who can't close their legs while urinating..

Less is risky

Lazyreporta:
You marry to give all, you don't give all to marry

Seriously

Mtcheew

TRUE! This applies to males too. Don't go beyond your means to impress a lady.... IT'S CRAZY!

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Different strokes for different folks.....there is no basic formula for a successful relationship

If destined to work out....it will

What do you think Dominique?

Generally, people don't value things that come easy but beware. As you are working less someone is out there working more.
Don't end up loosing your partner.

Less is really more. You cannot just show yourself finish and lick all the honey in the moon before the real honeymoon.

Withhold some...be mysterious.

ImaIma1:
Less is really more. You cannot just show yourself finish and lick all the honey in the moon before the real honeymoon.

Withhold some...be mysterious.

the point is in knowing the type of person your partner is. Some people like mysterious some don't. Not every body has time for mysteries or you think everybody is Sherlock Holmes.
just be wise

Bintabisiriyu:
So you want to buy charger you will not taste if it is working

...test...

Massmike:
Generally, people don't value things that come easy but beware. As you are working less someone is out there working more.
Don't end up loosing your partner.

...losing...

GrammarNazi1 :
...losing...

Mr pedantry syndrome thank you

Massmike:
the point is in knowing the type of person your partner is. Some people like mysterious some don't. Not every body has time for mysteries or you think everybody is Sherlock Holmes.
just be wise

My point is you cannot bare it all. Save some for later

ImaIma1:
My point is you cannot bear it all. Save some for later

I hope when you mean later you don't mean after marriage because some "mysterious" people don't make it to the marriage phase.

My own just be the best u can be in a relationship and leave nature and destiny to take its course. Simple.

When one dnt gives all one is easily taged nt bn serious, when one gives all one is taged too desperate/cheap... Humans! Are insatiable ... Jst be d best nd let destiny take its course.. Wat will be, will surely be.

Massmike:
I hope when you mean later you don't mean after marriage because some "mysterious" people don't make it to the marriage phase.

You see why you should not bare it all...if they do not make it to marriage, they will keep baring it all to every guy they date till their body count becomes and issue that even you would raise an eyebrow

OP it's a world of different strokes for different folks.



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Op is not serious,what the hell do you even understand about what you posted?

Good opinion.

You must be very silly to equate humans with commodities. You can never be wrong for giving your all to someone you love. I have personally seen people who took that for granted and later ended up with selfish partners.

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