delkuf:
the thing is that have gotten any confirmation from God. see, I believe God is taking me higher. as in I may likely end up a pastor, though God hasn't spoken anything yet, but I know that is where am heading. so can she be a wife of a pastor, I don't think so. why this go to her if I don't think she can do well as a pastor's wife. and can God really tell one to marry a Muslim

Triumphant25:
[color=#000099][/color] This tread make me to register on nairaland. Look here everyone, religion is the greatest scam of all time, be it Christian or Muslim we all follow blind teaching as if the teacher is God himself, I do tell people around me is not only Christian that's gonna make heaven your religion won't matter that day I bet it. Religion was use to enslave Africa by ourselves, look at the foreigners they are billions Miles ahead of us, we worship humans in Africa not God cause we put our religious leader and their teaching above God.

Outofsync:
This thread is a gem for those who always scream Christians are always tolerant

a rare gem.

delkuf:
the thing is that have gotten any confirmation from God. see, I believe God is taking me higher. as in I may likely end up a pastor, though God hasn't spoken anything yet, but I know that is where am heading. so can she be a wife of a pastor, I don't think so. why this go to her if I don't think she can do well as a pastor's wife. and can God really tell one to marry a Muslim

delkuf:
brother that's my problem. I don't if it is possible that God can be saying I should marry her. there is feelings between us. Even where we work, people have told several times to marry her. But I love Christ. God has been so good to me. I want to the will of God. Am really confuse. How I wish she is not a Muslim.

enilove:


Op, I will advice you to do the following :

1... Approach her and inform her of your feelings for her. If she agrees , tell her that she needs to be converted to a Christian and Why.

2... If she cannot convert , then remove the idea of marriage to her from your heart.


Those 2 steps are very Important because , if you don't ask her to convert b4 marriage , she might refused to after marriage. And as long as she does not commit adultery , you cannot divorce her based on her religion if she is willing to remain in the marriage.

God has told us not to marry an unbeliever which may be why God has refused to speak to you.
God does not go against His words.

A wrong marriage can destroy God's plan for you. It can take you to hell.
You may think women are weak, but in marriages they are VERY VERY POWERFUL.

MY ADVICE IS THIS, DONT MARRY HER FOR ANY REASON UNLESS SHE ACCEPT JESUS CHRIST AS HER SAVIOUR.



God has told us not to marry an unbeliever which may be why God has refused to speak to you.
you just vomited trash rubbish who told you that is the Christian go to heaven your brain need to be check

delkuf:
Please I need your advice. Is so happened that I know this lady for years now. we are good friends. But the problem is, I know that as a Christian we can't really get married because she is a Muslim. So I have been trying to keep the relationship on just us being friends, even though I love her and I know She has this little feelings for me. If I had been serious, I know we would have gotten married or close to that, but I keep avoiding her and sometimes I do it on purpose.

Now, where I get really confused is that, any time i pray for God's will in marriage, she keeps coming to my mind. This is not infatuation or something. It has been happening over and over again. I know God also talk to us through giving us this deep impression in our heart.

It was so deep on day that I told the Holy Spirit that I can't marry her. I spoke with my pastor this week concerning this issue, and he said it is not possible for God to tell us to marry a Muslim and this thing keeps coming. am really confuse. because of this, have not been praying concerning marriage.

PLEASEEEEEE, I need Christians to comment on this.

Shafiiimran99:
"I told the Holy Spirit that I can't marry her". Really, ok I have question...How does holy spirit look like?

philiancoop:

You don't have a stake in this matter. you don't belong to this realm

delkuf:
Please I need your advice. Is so happened that I know this lady for years now. we are good friends. But the problem is, I know that as a Christian we can't really get married because she is a Muslim. So I have been trying to keep the relationship on just us being friends, even though I love her and I know She has this little feelings for me. If I had been serious, I know we would have gotten married or close to that, but I keep avoiding her and sometimes I do it on purpose.

Now, where I get really confused is that, any time i pray for God's will in marriage, she keeps coming to my mind. This is not infatuation or something. It has been happening over and over again. I know God also talk to us through giving us this deep impression in our heart.

It was so deep on day that I told the Holy Spirit that I can't marry her. I spoke with my pastor this week concerning this issue, and he said it is not possible for God to tell us to marry a Muslim and this thing keeps coming. am really confuse. because of this, have not been praying concerning marriage.

PLEASEEEEEE, I need Christians to comment on this.

Meekha:
Well, lemme not say that we are both sailing on the same ship but my own situation seems very similar to yours. I really helped her in the time when she needed help most and the help happened to be very timely and this made her fall in love with me. But there are many problems here
1. I am 7 years older than her (Which I do not find really ideal but nevertheless can cope or change my views shaa)
2. She is a Muslim and I am a BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN who wouldn't' give up my Christian faith for any reason, though I was born a Muslim, I converted to Christianity along the way.
3. She is from a super rich family and I am only a worker hired by her dad to help coach her where she had deficiencies. I am a graduate who is just trying to make ends meet and this job is very dear to me.
4. I have made a personal commitment to myself against falling in love with people I coach but then, this seemed to be very very different!
5. The parents of the girl have a high level of trust for me or an unusual likeness so they treat me better than other co-workers maybe it's because I deliver an exceptionally excellent service plus I am very hospitable and I consider it one of the greatest wrong I will do to betray their trust.
6. I know that it is a great woe on her part if her parents never find out about her emotional connection to me because it is a big TABOO for Muslim girls to marry Christian man though the reverse is permissible!
7. She is a Hausa-Fulani girl while I am from the middle belt: A clash of culture and social values.
8. I will end up putting the saviour who connected me with the family in a big trouble and this may result in the robbing of other young people like me of their prospects. The list seems endless.

Of a truth, I love the girl and she is of the view that she can marry a Christian cos her religion permits it (i knew it's not true, she was just speaking out of love). I currently have been putting up a stern face whenever we meet but this seems to be fanning the flames of desires even the more. The more I get to see her, the more my resolve weakens as per not dating her. Whenever I pray, her pictures keep flashing before my face as if to say that she is the One and I dream a lot about her these days. She is more than beautiful (know these typical beautiful Hausa-Fulani girls)

THE TRUTH!!!
Christianity does not encourage marrying people of the opposite religion and so if one does it, it may not be the best choice!!
God save us!!!

IslamicRebel:


You worship a hateful God.

odisman:
Please let's say the truth. Anybody who doesn't believe that Jesus is God is an unbeliever. Unfortunately Muslims don't believe in this and so that makes them unbelievers. This also applies to Christians who have not received Jesus into their life.

THAT IS WHY CHRISTIANITY IS NOT A RELIGION BUT A LIFESTYLE WITH THE TRINITY.

madridsta007:


Ah, I see.
I would have assumed that a born again Christian should marry another born again Christian. And there is a laid-down process in becoming a born again Christian. It's in the Bible.
Marriage is beyond the emotions of the present. That is why most celebrity marriages fail. It is 100% emotions-driven. They had great outlook towards life, hence they were "celebrated". Hence "celebrities".
It should be, I believe, about a strict commonality in values- thus, "a born again Christian to another born again Christian". Same with a Muslim to a Muslim, a Sikh to a Sikh or a Jew to a Jew- I used these examples as these ones are pretty strict about these sort of serious, lifelong issues.
In any case, I respect your view, even though I do not agree to it.
All the best to the decision-maker. I hope it works out for him.

Emmadgrt20:
Have you talked to you girlfriend about being born again? Have you talked to her about accepting Jesus? If yes and she is willing then help her and lead her to Jesus Christ. God can use anyone for miracles, after all St. Paul was a persecutor to Christians but God later used him and served God truthfully. So God can choose anyone he want. But first take her to Jesus Christ before talking about marriage. You suppose to have introduced her to Christianity even before now.

hopefulLandlord:
I like how this conversation is made on the base that Christianity is true and Islam is false so everyone is telling him to convert the Muslim to Christianity because, you know, OP would gladly leave Christianity too for islam if the girl asks

This is another reason to be an Antitheist, remove religious discrimination, racial discrimination, tribal discrimination and OP would've been asking "Can a Man marry a woman?"

All religion does is divide us and give us one extra reason to antagonise each other as though the reasons we already have aren't enough

odisman:


Oga Christianity is not a religion but a relationship thing with our Lord Jesus. Accept Jesus into your life today and see how your life will turn around. I'm a living witness. Read your bible well you will see that it is not just a western thing. Our fore fathers made covenant with the devil cos of Idol worship. Repent cos hell is real and I don't want you to miss it.

Kingspin:
By now you should know the important role religion has played in our lives and society as well. There is one thing I believe we are human therefore not perfect. Antitheist is a religion too because you have come to believe in something. I join Christ and can join others but Islam NO way.

Moukandjo:


Bro, you've clearly misunderstood me! When I talked about having a great outlook to life, I went further down in the next few lines to explain what I meant & none is based on emotions like you thought i meant (you could check it out again).
Humility & love (& by love, I mean loving neighbour & not just your partner), for example, which I talked about under having a great outlook towards life are the most important virtues a born again Christian should have according to Jesus & not going to Church or praying the nowadays Christian style. If he has these virtues & finds these virtues in his partner amongst other characters he would love her to have, then I think they're good to go & won't be "unequally yoked."
He should just sort out the thing with both families & let them know they're both ready for the very difficult challenge ahead!
Pastors, just like celebrities, divorce because they were unequally yoked with someone who didn't have the virtues of Christ even if they married people with the same method of worship! But another question would be, can one have the virtues of Christ without being a Christian? I think the answer is a yes which is the basis of my comment! The good Samaritan is an example!
In all my long talk, I also respect your view which is like the view of most Christians!
It's actually safer & less stressful to not marry her!