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kingxsamz:
Answer my question.

I honestly don't know if I would still wanna be in the relationship, in the circumstance. I wouldn't leave her immediately, I couldn't do that, but I wouldn't plan a future with her. This is me being totally honest.

Diamond23:
Nice one OP nd tanks for sharing. At least we still v some of us dat r genuinely nd truly in luv...Hope it will also change some mindset who tink all women r hoe, olosho, dz nd dat CONGRATS!!!

You're welcome.

This has honestly changed my perception about women a whole lot. There are still virtuous women out there. Let's just pray to meet the right one.

Great read, BianoJay. There is a problem. In fact, screenshot this message I'm about to type.

There are virtuous women and they are great women. Unfortunately, women are still women. Their bad behaviors will either hide today and show tomorrow or show today and hide tomorrow.

The same way you studied in school and got a 2.1 is the same way you should:

1. Try and set up a business.
2. Try and read a relationship book.

You believe in God, right? With this, you usually study the Bible. This is the exact way you should study the female brain. Better now than letter.

In relationships, what goes up always come down except the man knows how the female brain works. If you don't learn how the female brain works today, you'll come back to Nairaland 15 years later (after marriage and some kids) to share your heartbroken story about a certain girl who showed you unconditional love, sang while you played the piano, did this and that together, but after 15 years, she betrayed you and...

Don't be too excited. The journey has just started. About starting a business, search yourself and start up one even if it's to set up a place to teach people the staff: reble clef, bass clef. How to play appergios, major, minor, or diminished chords, and so on.

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ChatDicted:
Great read, BianoJay. There is a problem. In fact, screenshot this message I'm about to type.

There are virtuous women and they are great women. Unfortunately, women are still women. Their bad behaviors will either hide today and show tomorrow or show today and hide tomorrow.

The same way you studied in school and got a 2.1 is the same way you should:

1. Try and set up a business.
2. Try and read a relationship book.

You believe in God, right? With this, you usually study the Bible. This is the exact way you should study the female brain. Better now than letter.

In relationships, what goes up always come down except the man knows how the female brain works. If you don't learn how the female brain works today, you'll come back to Nairaland 15 years later (after marriage and some kids) to share your heartbroken story about a certain girl who showed you unconditional love, sang while you played the piano, did this and that together, but after 15 years, she betrayed you and...

Don't be too excited. The journey has just started. About starting a business, search yourself and start up one even if it's to set up a place to teach people the staff: reble clef, bass clef. How to play appergios, major, minor, or diminished chords, and so on.

About learning how to handle women and keeping the relationship fun, we have the answer. We have all you need. You may think you don't need this, but if you don't take action now, you'll look back with regrets.

To get started, download our ChatDicted 1.0 intro book for free and spice up your chat with her. Here is the FREE DOWNLOAD link: www.wetclef.com/topic330.html

Have a nice day, Sir.

Thanks for the advice. Your points are well noted.

BianoJay:
Good morning guys.
I've been in many relationships before now, and I wouldn't say I have had the best of experiences, but I have come to believe that there isn't anything like unconditional love, well, that changed, yesterday.

I will try to keep this short. I'm a graduate and since over 3years after graduating from one of the best Universities in Nigeria, and with a second class upper (largely overrated), I haven't been able to get a job. Being the kind of person I am, who believes that being in a relationship is all about responsibility, and also with the fact that I'm someone who loves giving a lot, I decided I wouldn't get into any relationship until I get a job and be able to meet some financial obligations as a real man.

Well, I have been that way until I met this very young girl. We started out as friends. She sings and I play the piano, so, it was a musical thing. One thing led to another and we became closer. She is very young but, emotionally and psychologically mature. I enjoyed talking to her a lot and with time, I forgot all about my vow not to be in a relationship, and I fell for her completely. I later got to know from her that she has always crushed on me for a long time, because she saw a big difference in me, that I was like no guy she has ever known (I took that statement as one of those things, but it really wasn't).

We have been cool, talking about future, marriage and all. I don't have a job, and broke, but this girl believes in me so much that it scares me. She is so proud of me and has never made me feel less a man that I am. Now, this girl isn't just any kind of girl: she is extremely beautiful, tall and exceptionally intelligent, and most times I feel like I don't even deserve her, rather, for reasons best known to her, she believes she isn't even good enough for me.

Two days ago, I decided to do a general lab test and know my health status, she encouraged me to. When I went yesterday to collect the test results, an idea came to my mind. When I came back home, I texted her and told her that the relationship can't work, that the lab results showed I was HIV positive. She called me immediately, was calm and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted her to stay away from me and focus on her life and career, that we don't have a future together. She wouldn't hear that, she kept calming me and asking me not ever say we can't be together, that she could never live without me. I told her I didn't want to tell my parents about it, and wanted leaving town, but she said I should give her just two days to get her stuff and go with me, that she couldn't let me be myself. She was almost crying and I couldn't bear it anymore. Had to open up to her that nothing was wrong with me and that it was just a game.

The relief in her voice was even more touching than the concern she showed. I'm just so happy to have her in my life. I feel blessed every day.

This isn't a fictitious story, it's absolutely true.

op the lady in question is HIV positive and that is why she wants to settle down with you

BianoJay:
That's exactly the point. Walking away should have been the logical thing to do, but she didn't.

The story is very true. I just have one thing in mind...marry this girl.

remember to pray about it too. I've seen the best of angels in women and still the devil come out of them...

OneSentence:
remember to pray about it too. I've seen the best of angels in women and still the devil come out of them...

Thanks.

Katier00:
op the lady in question is HIV positive and that is why she wants to settle down with you

Hahahahah... She isn't, trust me.

BianoJay:
Good morning guys.

If she does HIV test and it comes out positive (God forbid), will you stay?

Be honest.

9jaBloke:
If she does HIV test and it comes out positive (God forbid), will you stay?

Be honest.

I wouldn't leave her, but I wouldn't plan a future with her.

BianoJay:
I wouldn't leave her, but I wouldn't plan a future with her.

But she stuck with you when you pretended to be positive

And u believed her, am sure she's rejoicing secretly that she has finally infected infected you.....

BianoJay:
Good morning guys.
I've been in many relationships before now, and I wouldn't say I have had the best of experiences, but I have come to believe that there isn't anything like unconditional love, well, that changed, yesterday.

I will try to keep this short. I'm a graduate and since over 3years after graduating from one of the best Universities in Nigeria, and with a second class upper (largely overrated), I haven't been able to get a job. Being the kind of person I am, who believes that being in a relationship is all about responsibility, and also with the fact that I'm someone who loves giving a lot, I decided I wouldn't get into any relationship until I get a job and be able to meet some financial obligations as a real man.

Well, I have been that way until I met this very young girl. We started out as friends. She sings and I play the piano, so, it was a musical thing. One thing led to another and we became closer. She is very young but, emotionally and psychologically mature. I enjoyed talking to her a lot and with time, I forgot all about my vow not to be in a relationship, and I fell for her completely. I later got to know from her that she has always crushed on me for a long time, because she saw a big difference in me, that I was like no guy she has ever known (I took that statement as one of those things, but it really wasn't).

We have been cool, talking about future, marriage and all. I don't have a job, and broke, but this girl believes in me so much that it scares me. She is so proud of me and has never made me feel less a man that I am. Now, this girl isn't just any kind of girl: she is extremely beautiful, tall and exceptionally intelligent, and most times I feel like I don't even deserve her, rather, for reasons best known to her, she believes she isn't even good enough for me.

Two days ago, I decided to do a general lab test and know my health status, she encouraged me to. When I went yesterday to collect the test results, an idea came to my mind. When I came back home, I texted her and told her that the relationship can't work, that the lab results showed I was HIV positive. She called me immediately, was calm and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted her to stay away from me and focus on her life and career, that we don't have a future together. She wouldn't hear that, she kept calming me and asking me not ever say we can't be together, that she could never live without me. I told her I didn't want to tell my parents about it, and wanted leaving town, but she said I should give her just two days to get her stuff and go with me, that she couldn't let me be myself. She was almost crying and I couldn't bear it anymore. Had to open up to her that nothing was wrong with me and that it was just a game.

The relief in her voice was even more touching than the concern she showed. I'm just so happy to have her in my life. I feel blessed every day.

This isn't a fictitious story, it's absolutely true.

Believe it or not.. She's just gonna live you someday.. When she exposed to the world out there.. Enjoy it while it lasts... #harshtruth

adaksbullet:
op am jus shaked mine too u ni...u her telled her u are haved hiv too a gilr and she his no shout...if she his hiv + nko? beta ask his hiv status kiakia

Fūck is this

BianoJay:
Hahahahah... She doesn't, trust me.

how ?

ednut1:
Wey some of us dey find this kind love. Pls hold this gal well. Most gals only love pple wey dey ok. If u lose ur job or get business prob dey flee. Hold this gal

I don't believe this general assumption u are stating,you could say some girls,but pls and pls don't generalize it,its annoying

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). When you test someone you are in a relationship with, that's when a faint crack opens up, lurking in plain site . true story, esp when they are gold prior to the loyalty or affection test... Make ur memories worth it while you can.

prettysassygirl:
I don't believe this general assumption u are stating,you could say some girls,but pls and pls don't generalize it,its annoying

most gals i said not all gals

ednut1:
most gals i said not all gals

Say some,not most

prettysassygirl:
Say some,not most

most gals come and beat me.

ednut1:
most gals come and beat me.

Hmmmm,instead of u to take corrections,u are there feeling fly,take your time

Katier00:
how ?

She has a clean bill of health.

prettysassygirl:
Hmmmm,instead of u to take corrections,u are there feeling fly,take your time

yes ma i have heard o.if sometin wud happen 7 out of 10 times . Is dat not most Examples dey every where. Women who became bread winners and began to disrespect der husbands till dey quit. Gals who left their guys cos of abroad toaster or husband. . Guys too have der own sha

ednut1:
yes ma i have heard o.if sometin wud happen 7 out of 10 times . Is dat not most Examples dey every where. Women who became bread winners and began to disrespect der husbands till dey quit. Gals who left their guys cos of abroad toaster or husband. . Guys too have der own sha

What gauge did u use to ascertain it to be 7 out of 10. U can presume it to be 3 out of ten too,depends on your point of view,probably u have been meeting girls like that,and that is the threshold of your analysis. I know something to be true too,girls can do anything when they love a guy,girls are emotional unlike u guys that everything is physical. So pls don't conclude it to be most just because u see it from your little point of view.This menance of guys branding ladies as evil on every social media platform has got to stop,especially Nigerian guys.

prettysassygirl:
What gauge did u use to ascertain it to be 7 out of 10. U can presume it to be 3 out of ten too,depends on your point of view,probably u have been meeting girls like that,and that is the threshold of your analysis. I know something to be true too,girls can do anything when they love a guy,girls are emotional unlike u guys that everything is physical. So pls don't conclude it to be most just because u see it from your little point of view.This menance of guys branding ladies as evil on every social media platform has got to stop,especially Nigerian guys.

ok ma. Ur right i give up

ednut1:
ok ma. Ur right i give up

Yea,thanks,that's berra

That's a rare gem bro.......

Tallest45:
That's a rare gem bro.......

I tell you..

wish I can get a gal like dat..hobestly!

BianoJay:
That's exactly the point. Walking away should have been the logical thing to do, but she didn't.

The story is very true. I just have one thing in mind...marry this girl.

Young love. Enjoy it, while it lasts.

It was a relief to her, being that she's also HIV positive and couldn't confess

Op, currently I have a girl who is just like yours. She's just all over me. Cute petite damsel. She calls like 10 times in a day just to say sweet nonsense. I had to ask her to reduce the number of calls.

Being a realist, I know that change is constant, and that she might get affected by it tomorrow. So whatever sweet moments we share, I still make my own independent progress. People would always come and go.Don't ever get overwhelmed by the feeling of love or whatever you call it. Women can enjoy that feeling, but you don't need to, as a man who have a lot to accomplish in life. It makes your brain soft. You're a young man, just like me. The utmost thing on your mind should be building a solid foundation for a bright future. Whatever it is that you're feeling, don't loose focus on what you want to get out from life.

You're a moving train. Don't stop for anybody.