Waoh!!! You hit the bulls eye at the bolded. I wish I could give you a thousand likes for this. Sadly many will not get the message!! Nice one.

WORDWORLD:


The word 'MAY' as you have used accurately defines a function called PROBABILITY and not CERTAINTY. Hence, it 'MAY' as well be assumed that her choice among the variables, the options to the question that comes to a thinking mind, WHAT IF?!


And by choosing not to go to the house of a man she barely knows, 'MAY' as well have saved her from THE EVIL THAT SOME MEN DO.

*It's a wiser choice of option. What has she lost? NOTHING FOR SURE!!! ITS ALL PROBABILITY.

It's about playing safe until a level of TRUST. It's about listening to our inner voice, always communicating our TRUTH to us, which most ladies SADLY listen to that voice of reason and that gift called INTUITION, the feeling that "THIS IS LEADING TO SH!T OR BLISS" and to make a choice either to GET THE FVCK OUT or GET THE FVCK IN.

Only those few ladies who are HONEST to themselves, are not afraid to make the right decision as to the voice of reason that screams at them.

So many of you (ladies) are always in a hurry to bundle yourselves unto a man's arms without being patient enough to truely know these men, the moment these ladies getting googley-eyed by the superficiality called 'MONEY', they by-pass their humanity by rejecting their inner voice and ending up get their panties in a wad for not looking beyond the surface. Then, the song of bitterness and regret and then the painting of all men with the same brush after the have been stupified.

LADIES, DONT BE TOO DESPERATE.

If this said man is truely interested in her, he will continue with his Persuasion and Patronage despite her declination to going to his house to cook for him. LEARN TO LIVE WITH PROBABILITIES, WHILE MAKING CHOICES THAT ARE FUNCTIONALLY WISE.

The probability of getting harmed in such a public place like a restaurant as compared to a stranger's den is far lower. LADIES SHOULD ALWAYS THINK MANY TIMES BEFORE THE ACT. PATHETIC HOW MOST ARE CARELESS ALL IN A BID FOR MATERIAL GAINS.





nanauju don't rule out romenna's probability. He 'MAY' really be a good homely guy. It's left to you to look outside the box of fantasy to REALITIES, else the hoax is on you.

*AM FOR UNITING MEN AND WOMEN IN TRUTH. NANAUJU STAY WISE. I WISH YOU THAT VERY SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHO WILL FULFIL YOUR DREAMS.

chinchonglee:
as a patient guy wey I be, I nor dey rush pple to come complete their story... "na dem dey rush us"...

Na soooooo "na dem dey rush us"

romenna:
did u suggest those places to him n he refused to go with you? U concluded too fast.
N again, it seems u became interested in him because of wat he does n his achievements he told u abt.
He saw a slay queen n he became a slay king immediately. Just may be

I don't know why people like painting other people bad just to make silly jokes about them through their point of view.

Why couldn't tell him you can't come to his house?

Some Nairalanders are right and perfectionist in their rooms.

WORDWORLD:


The word 'MAY' as you have used accurately defines a function called PROBABILITY and not CERTAINTY. Hence, it 'MAY' as well be assumed that her choice among the variables, the options to the question that comes to a thinking mind, WHAT IF?!


And by choosing not to go to the house of a man she barely knows, 'MAY' as well have saved her from THE EVIL THAT SOME MEN DO.

*It's a wiser choice of option. What has she lost? NOTHING FOR SURE!!! ITS ALL PROBABILITY.

It's about playing safe until a level of TRUST. It's about listening to our inner voice, always communicating our TRUTH to us, which most ladies SADLY DON'T listen to that voice of reason and follow that gift called INTUITION, the feeling that "THIS IS LEADING TO SH!T OR BLISS" and to make a choice either to GET THE FVCK OUT or GET THE FVCK IN.

Only those few ladies who are HONEST to themselves, are not afraid to make the right decision as to the voice of reason that screams at them.

So many of you (ladies) are always in a hurry to bundle yourselves unto a man's arms without being patient enough to truely know these men, the moment these ladies get googley-eyed by the superficiality called 'MONEY', they by-pass their humanity by rejecting their inner voice and ending up getting their panties in a wad for not looking beyond the surface. Then, the song of bitterness and regret and then the painting of all men with the same brush after the have been stupified.

LADIES, DONT BE TOO DESPERATE.

If this said man is truely interested in her, he will continue with his Persuasion and Patronage despite her declination to going to his house to cook for him. LEARN TO LIVE WITH PROBABILITIES, WHILE MAKING CHOICES THAT ARE FUNCTIONALLY WISE.

The probability of getting harmed in such a public place like a restaurant as compared to a stranger's den is far lower. LADIES SHOULD ALWAYS THINK MANY TIMES BEFORE THE ACT. PATHETIC HOW MOST ARE CARELESS ALL IN A BID FOR MATERIAL GAINS.





nanauju don't rule out romenna's probability. He 'MAY' really be a good homely guy. It's left to you to look outside the box of fantasy to REALITIES, else the hoax is on you.

*AM FOR UNITING MEN AND WOMEN IN TRUTH. NANAUJU STAY WISE. I WISH YOU THAT VERY SIGNIFICANT OTHER WHO WILL FULFIL YOUR DREAMS.

Let me give you an insight. The best way to know a man is not by his TALKS but the way he TREATS people.

Thank you very much for this assertion. You were really unbiased in your examination having looked at the situation from all angle, and still letting us know that any action wasn't entirely wrong.
And also thank you for communicating your idea without resorting to abuse and immature speech just because of conflict in ideas and reasoning... You're what a true communicator is.
As for the man, I lost nothing. I didn't go and I'm still happy I didn't. He reached out to me again and still insisted on making a big deal of me not coming to house for the date, and how meeting people in house makes him connect more(whatever that means) with them.
If going to a man's house suits anyone or if a man is used to ladies coming to his for hangout especially on a first date, well that is not my principle, and I'm unapologetic about it

nanauju:


Thank you very much for this assertion. You were really unbiased in your examination having looked at the situation from all angle, and still letting us know that any action wasn't entirely wrong.
And also thank you for communicating your idea without resorting to abuse and immature speech just because of conflict in ideas and reasoning... You're what a true communicator is.
As for the man, I lost nothing. I didn't go and I'm still happy I didn't. He reached out to me again and still insisted on making a big deal of me not coming to house for the date, and how meeting people in house makes him connect more(whatever that means) with them.
If going to a man's house suits anyone or if a man is used to ladies coming to his for hangout especially on a first date, well that is not my principle, and I'm unapologetic about it

indecent dresser with principles good morning.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQsU70xSlAM

Nanauju the guy couldn't book a space for dinner for two in the sky, that was why

Click on the link not the play mode.

romenna:
indecent dresser with principles good morning.

Stop. You're bigger than this

hanty what is wrong in hanging out in his house? is not just to talk and get connected!

hanty what is wrong in hanging out in his house? is not just to talk and get connected?? and in the case you'd prove worthy to be his wife! now call him and apologize!

romenna:
go fcck ursef

You're such a big fool. Bastard! Your parents will be turning turning in their graves regretting why they brought an oponu(waste) into this world. The world doesn't need any more nuisance, aswear you're better off mentally deranged and locked up for good, better still go live in a prison, maybe you'll be of much help there, coz you don't even have any positive impact even on your fuckedup life. Re.tArd silly animal, oh! Maybe the zoo animals may pity ur life and offer some shelter and probably some sense to at least think like an animal, since you are very far from the way higher animals think.
Lowlife idiot who is nothing in his real life, but running to nairaland to see if he can get some attention. Haha, bros not here. You'll be placed in that ghetto where you truly belong.
I know your type very well, just that they don't always think, talk and act like a brainless piece of sh!t like you. You want to force yourself into where you are don't belong, eyeservice m0ron. Let me tell you a history of your family that you don't know about, your mother was(might still be) a classless wh0re, she got pregnant with you by mistake, and she's yet to determine who your real father is and that's why you're a bastard. Your sisters are just like your mother, wh0res, u don't even know whose bed they're on tonight you better keep jumping from one danfo to another, that's the only thing you will ever achieve in life. Silly animal

romenna:
go fcck ursef

Next time, keep your foolish advice to your mum and sisters. No one needs it here fool

romenna:
u hav a funny personality aftèrall.
As a psychologist, I tink ur a lil too quick in decision making.
Temperamental.
Judgemental.
A little bit of bitterness n negative minded.
Poor in human relations n not so intelligent.
Work on these my dear. Cheers

Hear yourself cry like a little idiot. Everything you wrote there is the exact definition of who you are. That's why I said you can give the zoo a try, the human world is not a place for a lunatic like you. You're gone already, go work on your mental state bro. Cursed be that hand you used in typing rubbish to someone who did nothing to you

romenna:
[s]Feminism will not kill u my sister.
I was even very mild wit d op.
She is actually an irresponsible girl for the following reasons;
1. Indecent dressing in public
2. Exchanging numbers with a randy man knowing fully well he was lusting after her
3. She is a materialiatic gold digger who was obviously moved by wat she was told.
4. In preparing for her date, she placed so much emphasis on d money she spent. It's a date not an investment forum.
5. She wasn't really interested in the man but wats in it for her.
6. I see a hoe
NO HARD FEELINGS MY DEAR[/s]

Everyone comes online to type one sh!t and claim to know on relationship matters between two people when they can hardly keep their poverty stricken life going together. If she's all for the money, and the man is for the body, story cut short, it didn't work out, why u cari the matter for head like gala?! Are you the said man? You have suffered rejections most part of your life, why acting like it's now a big deal. You better face your life bro and see if you can get out of the spell of your poverty and live your miserable life in peace

romenna:
u untillegently got hooked on the word feminism while ignoring the crux of the matter as analysed. Ur friend is a hoe my dear.
Just so u know, persons b4 u have tried to engage me but failed woefully. Cos I decide who to engage. I make d decisions here so run along kid.

Hahaha @ bolded.. Attention seeking lonely old fool. You're not even man enough make decisions for your life, you now want to form don.. For nairaland?? Lol.. You've lost it bro.. U need help.. Emphasis on help

MissJoy29:

A clear case of a kettle calling even a cup black.

As an uncertified(yet) psychologist myself, I think you have succeeded in embarrassing the likes of us. As a psychologist, you have to be discerning, wise and most of all, calm. Otherwise, it....., it just won't.......never mind.

You have already concluded your argument with the op amicably. I was even impressed by your maturity at letting things go. Only for you to give this totally uncalled-for & highly irrelevant outburst. She wasn't even talking to you. Even if you think she's all these things, is that how to say them?


#nohardfeelings

That idiot has no maturity whatsoever, as a matter of fact, he's a pained man who doesn't even know what his problem is. But if i meet him in reality I will beat poverty out of his body, and put sense into his empty skull. Dude talks thrash and think he can get away with it. Not in reality, and definitely not on nairaland

romenna:
indecent dresser with principles good morning.

Shut up fool

blujoi:
@Op,that was a good judgement call. Why would he expect you to come cook for him on a first date? Obviously he had plans. I don’t know what’s wrong with most of our men, the sweetest part of a relationship is the wooing stage, take her out, give her a good time, what’s wrong with that. Smh! Some guys got no game walahi

they broke af, that is what's wrong

Sexonmomma:


That idiot has no maturity whatsoever, as a matter of fact, he's a pained man who doesn't even know what his problem is. But if i meet him in reality I will beat poverty out of his body, and put sense into his empty skull. Dude talks thrash and think he can get away with it. Not in reality, and definitely not on nairaland

Don't mind him.

nanauju:



Slay queen on fleek, oshaprapra ,

Hmmm....after reading this...it is clear what mode she was in!...cook?....that kind word be taboo!...and some here still wondering why she been looking for ehmmm.....thunder!

Nice write up!....cracked me up! But you adventurous. ...who knows....maybe guy been baiting you...you visit...next thing we be reading Nairalander Missing.

Any more adventures??...do share. Waiting. ...impatiently.

Originalsly:


Hmmm....after reading this...it is clear what mode she was in!...cook?....that kind word be taboo!...and some here still wondering why she been looking for ehmmm.....thunder!

Nice write up!....cracked me up! But you adventurous. ...who knows....maybe guy been baiting you...you visit...next thing we be reading Nairalander Missing.

Any more adventures??...do share. Waiting. ...impatiently.

Haha.. I sure will jare. At least I know people like you are willing to hear

Wilfredpat22:


You weren’t matured at all Girl. Anyway your body go tell you from now till next year

Stop hiding under a female moniker. You're a man, be a man and act like a man

MissJoy29:

Exactly! He was.

Although, according to the story, I blame the op and the man too. Who fixes a date without first agreeing mutually on where to go? Both of them clearly had different places in mind for the outing that the other didn't plan for (The man, his house. The op, an eatery perhaps). Which makes me wonder, what were they then "communicating" about all those while?

My dear since the dude saw waist beads and her portable waist, all he wanted was edible catering and browsing her web.

Inviting her to a bar was just the first phase to get her to agree. Later he noticed that the girl was very enthusiastic to see him in their conversations (calling him baby for example). He felt he had already got the girl and she'd probably come to his house. He had probably succeeded in getting other girls he'd rated classier/seemingly harder to get that way in the past. Remember OP described him in a positive way.

But he got too cocky and showed his hand too soon. Had he taken OP to a bar near his house, behaved impeccably and hyped himself some more and later that day invited her to his house, she probably would have gone with him and "we for nor hear fiam from OP".

AreaFada2:

My dear since the dude saw waist beads and her portable waist, all he wanted was edible catering and browsing her web.

Inviting her to a bar was just the first phase to get her to agree. Later he noticed that the girl was very enthusiastic to see him in their conversations (calling him baby for example). He felt he had already got the girl and she'd probably come to his house. He had probably succeeded in getting other girls he'd rated classier/seemingly harder to get that way in the past. Remember OP described him in a positive way.

But he got too cocky and showed his hand too soon. Had he taken OP to a bar near his house, behaved impeccably and hyped himself some more and later that day invited her to his house, she probably would have gone with him and "we for nor hear fiam from OP".

You are so damn right!

The guy definitely needs to know that not every lady behaves the same way. What worked for A may not work for B.

I especially like the part you said @he got too cocky and showed his hand too soon. That was his undoing.

In all, considering what attracted him in the first place to the lady, I still believe the guy behaved like a sex-starved pervert.

nanauju:
So I got to my destination o, came down from bus, starting wondering how to get to the main bustop because the place the driver stopped was quite far.. U know how all these danfo drivers behave. They're all crazy in this Lagos . As I was asking driver for directions, 'man behind me' quickly rushed up to me and offered to show me as he was headed for the bustop as well. I said OK fine....
We've not even started walking oga has started talking. He say he likes what he sees and that he's interested in me. He told me what he's into, and he's single, infact, this man gave me a full gist of his life(I no know if na lie sha) in our less than 5mins walk. He even offered to give me a treat that evening, but I had to decline only because say time don go ni on.
Long story short we exchanged numbers, he looked really matured, fresh, speaks well... Hmm.. and I was like 'what the heck', let's just check this one out.
This man called and always check up on me, and we finally agreed to meet on Saturday wen we're both less busy. He kept making mouth about the different hangout spots he knew in the area.. Oshey Mr barman . He called me again on Friday to reconfirm our 'date', I say no shaking.
Come and see how I planned my day na. I washed my clothes and cleaned the house. Then afterwards, Slay queen on fleek, oshaprapra , I quickly checked that my wig was still on fleek, I rushed downstairs to the salon girl 'Aunty Ruka' in front of my house. Told her to quickly give me pedicure and manicure treatment. I was still contemplating whether I should fix lashes self. Money no dey money no dey, we sha must look good
As aunty Ruka was doing her thing, I got a message from 'man behind me' that he's all set to see me and I was like 'me too baby'.. Lol. He said let him quickly rush off to the market to get some things, I said take your time, while gently reminding him of our hangout
Some minutes later this man texted me on, say him Don buy foodstuffs, that when am I coming, that I will come to his house and cook . What?! Eskimi sir, did I hear double ni?! I fess tell Aunty Ruka to stop first.. Yeee aye mi on.. See me see gbese.
Till now I did not even bother to reply him. Thank God I did not save his number. Chai my God, all I kept thinking about is aunty Ruka' s money. The yeye man later texted me again o, that he has finished cooking and he even made smoothie, that I missed alot o. Edakun where is thunder when you need it ehn?

Hahahaha Laugh wan kill me oooh !!! Hey, I take God beg you, Please don't go to somebody's house that you don't really know for the first time oh.

As God is protecting us, lets try our best to be safe as well. What happen to buying the smoothie when you go to ICM?

nanauju:


For what it's worth, I can't go to a guy's house on a first date. And stop trying to play the maturity card here, it makes you look like you don't have a superior argument. Hope you will go to church though

see this one!so them they clapp for you and you dey happy, ode niyen sha,but ko kon mi.

funmisticqueen:
they broke af, that is what's wrong

how much for one night stand with you?

MYND44ISANIDIOT:
how much for one night stand with you?

£128,000, non negotiable. pm me and let's discuss if you are interested

MissJoy29:


In all, considering what attracted him in the first place to the lady, I still believe the guy behaved like a sex-starved pervert.

before nko, what is suppose to attract him to the lady in the first place? Her personality? Her brain? Are u women even serious at all? One way or the other, every guy who toasted any girl was first attracted by her assz, or breastz, or waist as in this case, or long sexy legs etc not some superficial thing like personality and what not. Whatever the guy was attracted to on the lady, u will still call him a pervert as if it was a bad thing to be attracted to something on a woman. What do u even think guys mean when they say they are attracted to so and so girl? Do u think they mean her humour or intelligence? Stop thinking that men think the way women do cuz we are completly different in thought process

columbus007:
see this one!so them they clapp for you and you dey happy, ode niyen sha,but ko kon mi.

Lol. Look at this attention seeking old mu.mu. How do you live your life being Stuupid and fooliish at the same time, it must be really hard. if you don't have any thing meaningful to contribute Run along before you will be given same treatment sexonmomma gave to romenna.

The part I fess tell Anty Ruka to wait first really got me laughing.

But you should have just declined meeting in his house that day and tell him ma be later.
He might be the man for you.