romenna:
who's dis cognitively delayed animal on my mention again?

Odeee you're always barking aja you're really jobless. hope you've gone to the zoo to get a life there and sense too
Hopeless Lowlife clown

cronsberg:
before nko, what is suppose to attract him to the lady in the first place? Her personality? Her brain? Are u women even serious at all? One way or the other, every guy who toasted any girl was first attracted by her assz, or breastz, or waist as in this case, or long sexy legs etc not some superficial thing like personality and what not. Whatever the guy was attracted to on the lady, u will still call him a pervert as if it was a bad thing to be attracted to something on a woman. What do u even think guys mean when they say they are attracted to so and so girl? Do u think they mean her humour or intelligence? Stop thinking that men think the way women do cuz we are completly different in thought process

I get all what you are saying. We ALL, not just the guys are attracted by what we see physically about a person first before the other inner characters we talk about. There's no denying that. After all, there's no way I will know a good cook or a kind man or an intelligent on first sight. Well, the exception to this is if we are working together and the attraction grows not necessarily cos of what I see of the person physically but cos of those inner qualities the person possesses that I have noticed probably before realising he's also handsome.
Aside that, it's the physical first, I agree.

But I'd like to think that some things are done in excess. If he had noticed the things he noticed on her & kept it to himself, it's even better. But saying them out the way he said them, immediately and without being ashamed, proves to me that the first thing & probably ONLY thing he wants is to get down with her. Remember she was sitting in front of him, her waist beads were showing which means a part of her midback was showing. Also, not only her top was riding up but I'd also like to think that he also had a view of her buttcrack probably cos her trousers or skirt was riding down too. After seeing all these for the duration of the trip (&; probably imagining how how flesh will feel in bed when touched & everything), he came down and first thing he said to her was " I like what I saw". It's an easy & obvious give-away!

If I go to swim in a pool and I notice a particular guy with an usual big bulge in front of his trunks & I walk up to him and I jokingly say, " you are loaded. Are they real? Can I verify?" , it definitely means I want to be laid. And mind you, I must have been fantasising about how that thing will fit perfectly in me before I make that statement. And trust me, some will even be offended to tell you they know what you are after. Which was what I expected the OP to decode about the guy in the bus.

Take this, all those who I have added on my WhatsApp list & the first thing they ever said after seeing pics of me was "I love your boobs" end up being fixated ONLY (just a few, mainly) on sex! Nothing more!! Nothing less!!!

@bolded, is personality superficial? Really? How's that even possible? Which is more superficial: physical attributes or personality and inner character & beauty?

You this missjoy29 you are really tough to crack arent u? Ok let me try. First of all, you said you agree that the first thing we all notice on someone is the physical things, then if thats the case, what exactly is wrong in saying it to the other person? Isnt it suppose to be a compliment? Secondly u said the only thing on the guy mind was to have sex with her, then how exactly is that a bad thing? Must every toasting be for relationship purposes? Thirdly, i will really like to know why every girl seems to take offence when they notice a guy is attracted to them sexually or wants to have sex with them. Do u girls not feel sexy? So why will sexual attraction offend you females? Even if a guy approaches u the normal way, and u two get in a relationship, will u two not eventually have sex? And will u have sex without sexual attraction? If the guy is only interested in a fling which is totally normal, how do u think he should approach the girl if not the way he did? It must not always be relationship u know

cronsberg:
You this missjoy29 you are really tough to crack arent u? Ok let me try. First of all, you said you agree that the first thing we all notice on someone is the physical things, then if thats the case, what exactly is wrong in saying it to the other person? Isnt it suppose to be a compliment? Secondly u said the only thing on the guy mind was to have sex with her, then how exactly is that a bad thing? Must every toasting be for relationship purposes? Thirdly, i will really like to know why every girl seems to take offence when they notice a guy is attracted to them sexually or wants to have sex with them. Do u girls not feel sexy? So why will sexual attraction offend you females? Even if a guy approaches u the normal way, and u two get in a relationship, will u two not eventually have sex? And will u have sex without sexual attraction? If the guy is only interested in a fling which is totally normal, how do u think he should approach the girl if not the way he did? It must not always be relationship u know

I'm definitely hard to crack all right. Lol

Let's get to it... now I'm going use my self and standards to answer your questions cos I understand where you are headed to from your questions.

@your 1st question, I don't like to be sexualised by strangers. That's what I will feel if you compliment me "like that" at first sight. Again, I'm not used to that kind of remarks from the people I "attract". So it will definitely sound offensive to me.

@your 2nd question, to me, since I know I'm not a harlot or prostitute, I can't have sex with a random guy. I'm too much a demisexual for that.

@your 3rd question, oh I feel sexy alright. But that doesn't mean I will have sex with a random guy just to quench my urge. Again, will you honestly compare the sex with someone you love & connect emotionally with to the sex you have with random person? No way!
Also, must there be sex in relationships? Sex is overrated you know cos we have so cheapened it.

Finally, if he wanted a fling or just a one-time-sex, he should select someone from his existing friend list for a FWB arrangement or visit a prostitute.

Missjoy29 i feel like i have finally found a female that can explain things logically to make me understand. I make bold to say u are the type i will like to date, but then again u will immidiately transform to a typical nigerian girl by foaming hard to get and whatnot(no offence meant). Anyway, i totally understand and agree with ur first and second remark that no one wants to feel sexualized by total strangers (except guys maybe), but i disagree with ur third and fourth remark because the idea of a fling or quickie or spontanous romp sounds awesome and great especially in a good setting. And yes, sex has to be involved in a relationship. Which kind of relationship will it even be without sex, that will be called a friendship but not relationship. Thats my opinion though

cronsberg:
Missjoy29 i feel like i have finally found a female that can explain things logically to make me understand. I make bold to say u are the type i will like to date, but then again u will immidiately transform to a typical nigerian girl by foaming hard to get and whatnot(no offence meant). Anyway, i totally understand and agree with ur first and second remark that no one wants to feel sexualized by total strangers (except guys maybe), but i disagree with ur third and fourth remark because the idea of a fling or quickie or spontanous romp sounds awesome and great especially in a good setting. And yes, sex has to be involved in a relationship. Which kind of relationship will it even be without sex, that will be called a friendship but not relationship. Thats my opinion though

It's about forming hard to get. It's about not being available.

I have never had a fling, a quickie, a ONS, random/spontaneous sex etc. I don't think I ever will too. It's just not me. Doesn't mean though that I judge those who do. To each, his own.

Sex doesn't have to be involved in a relationship. There are still people who are/ did the no-sex relationship & they are doing/did fine.

Oh & btw, thanks for the compliments.

Nonsense.