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So since my last relationship, it's been very very hard coming out of my shell to love again. Every time I get worried if I'd ever love someone like my last. *This should have been in my diary but just wanna share here*

Let me give a little history about the last. It's been over a year since we separated and saw last. It ended in a very bitter quarrel in December when he asked we see but I didn't even know he wanted us to reconcile and move on with what we had. Tot he wanted to just sleep with me, and I didn't want that. I love him too much so I was scared of giving in.
He tried again sometime in April, I don't know what happened in that one, all I can remember was him calling me 'ceeC' lol.

But I loved him, I never gave my heart to anyone like I did to him. Even when I went to his place while dating it was fun, and he had my interest at heart, enrolled me into a French school during service, carried me along in what was happening.
I then I lost it, partly due to my stubbornness, I now see things from his angle and I have really worked on myself, made myself better. I wish things could go back to normal, or I love again, coz it's so hard for me to love again. All I think of is getting a job, which God has helped me with and grow, but I get scared of love.

A fukcing MEN!!!!!

Word!

people don't change

A man doesn't change...


Situations change.

lilmax:
people don't change

They do.. When it's convenient for them

You need to know that everyone is not the same and you need to free your mind to relate with people BTW you sound like you're still interested in your ex why not reconcile and build your relationship

Hmmmmm

chiommy123:
You need to know that everyone is not the same and you need to free your mind to relate with people BTW you sound like you're still interested in your ex why not reconcile and build your relationship

Honestly relating is what I've been doing. About reconciliation I don't know how to go about it, to avoid rejection.. So I stay my lane and think about what's not

nanauju:
Honestly relating is what I've been doing. About reconciliation I don't know how to go about it, to avoid rejection.. So I stay my lane and think about what's not

I have been there.
It is better you give the reconciliation your best shot and get rejected than have to live the rest of your life thinking "Had I known".



Pick up the phone, call him just to check up on him for at least three days (preferably early in the morning) this week.
Next Sunday, send him this exact message.

"Sweetheart, I know that I may not always be the easy girlfriend to manage but for you I have decided to make amends because I love you and I will do anything for you. If there is any chance of us making whatever we used to have work again. I miss you"


If he is still interested, he will surely fall for that.
Don't think that you are selling yourself short or worry about looking desperate.
When you guys reconcile, do your normal woman hard to get shakara for two weeks.
Everything will be back to normal .

alexistaiwo:
I have been there.
It is better you give the reconciliation your best shot and get rejected than have to live the rest of your life thinking "Had I known".



Pick up the phone, call him just to check up on him for at least three days (preferably early in the morning) this week.
Next Sunday, send him this exact message.

"Sweetheart, I know that I may not always be the easy girlfriend to manage but for you I have decided to make amends because I love you and I will do anything for you. If there is any chance of us making whatever we used to have work again. I miss you"


If he is still interested, he will surely fall for that.
Don't think that you are selling yourself short or worry about looking desperate.
When you guys reconcile, do your normal woman hard to get shakara for two weeks.
Everything will be back to normal .

Woow.. Thanks much. It has always been him trying to come back and reconcile, and honestly I got used to that, with my plenty shakara. But he isn't anymore, he just says hi once once and says he's checking up. I will definitely give this a trial. Thanks alot

nanauju:
Woow.. Thanks much. It has always been him trying to come back and reconcile, and honestly I got used to that, with my plenty shakara. But he isn't anymore, he just says hi once once and says he's checking up. I will definitely give this a trial. Thanks alot

if he has a new babe, scatter their relationship

funmisticqueen:
if he has a new babe, scatter their relationship

Hahaha if he has someone already I'd be a little heartbroken

Close your brain and open your heart, that is how you love again.

funmisticqueen:
if he has a new babe, scatter their relationship

Best revenge ever, there is this feeling of fulfilment that comes with it.

Colourich:
Close your brain and open your heart, that is how you love again.

I'm scared to do that.. Again

nanauju:
I'm scared to do that.. Again

Well you asked.

Colourich:
Best revenge ever, there is this feeling of fulfilment that comes with it.

What kind of evil is this

nanauju:
Honestly relating is what I've been doing. About reconciliation I don't know how to go about it, to avoid rejection.. So I stay my lane and think about what's not

haunty u know how to get him bbk just that u think rejection is the wholesome entitlement of men
U are afraid u will be declined
Abeg! Swallow everything left of ur pride and do d needful
Don't be a "Cee c"

He enrolled you in a French school

You are after his money and what you can get finally from him because he is comfortable. Look for your own man.


Don’t be a Gold - Digger

sheDD:
haunty u know how to get him bbk just that u think rejection is the wholesome entitlement of men
U are afraid u will be declined
Abeg! Swallow everything left of ur pride and do d needful
Don't be a "Cee c"

She might not be seeing it from the rejection part though. maybe she's just too used to the guy coming. BTW what's the needful

Let me just say the stubbornness is still in you

Wilfredpat22:
He enrolled you in a French school

You are after his money and what you can get finally from him because he is comfortable. Look for your own man.


Don’t be a Gold - Digger

Lol such myopic thinking.
If he spends on me from his own will, How does that equates to gold digging.
Mtchew don't just let me enter u dis night

alexistaiwo:
I have been there.
It is better you give the reconciliation your best shot and get rejected than have to live the rest of your life thinking "Had I known".



Pick up the phone, call him just to check up on him for at least three days (preferably early in the morning) this week.
Next Sunday, send him this exact message.

"Sweetheart, I know that I may not always be the easy girlfriend to manage but for you I have decided to make amends because I love you and I will do anything for you. If there is any chance of us making whatever we used to have work again. I miss you"


If he is still interested, he will surely fall for that.
Don't think that you are selling yourself short or worry about looking desperate.
When you guys reconcile, do your normal woman hard to get shakara for two weeks.
Everything will be back to normal .

Baddo! I salute.

OP its about three months now. Were you able to as alexistaiwo said? Whats the situation, hope you two are back together?

nanauju:
Lol such myopic thinking.
If he spends on me from his own will, How does that equates to gold digging.
Mtchew don't just let me enter u dis night

Yaunty no vex for the guy abeg.

I could simply deduce that your problem is pride.

Keep pride aside if you want to have a successful relationship.

Now, the truth is that you've lost him completely and can never have him again the way you did before.

You have to note that things have changed. Face your future with the the commitment the it requires and resolve to be the woman I need.

nanauju:
Lol such myopic thinking.
If he spends on me from his own will, How does that equates to gold digging.
Mtchew don't just let me enter u dis night

Just reading through threads...
how far, are you guys back together?

From a care mind.

He wanted you then, hence enrolled you into a French school in a bid to add more value for you & himself.

But you thought you were on fire � that all men must sort after. Women have time range.

Sorry, he won't accept you back. You are now wiser, older than he wants.
You will get another but he won't treat you as wished

Move on.

nanauju:
So since my last relationship, it's been very very hard coming out of my shell to love again. Every time I get worried if I'd ever love someone like my last. *This should have been in my diary but just wanna share here*

Let me give a little history about the last. It's been over a year since we separated and saw last. It ended in a very bitter quarrel in December when he asked we see but I didn't even know he wanted us to reconcile and move on with what we had. Tot he wanted to just sleep with me, and I didn't want that. I love him too much so I was scared of giving in.
He tried again sometime in April, I don't know what happened in that one, all I can remember was him calling me 'ceeC' lol.

But I loved him, I never gave my heart to anyone like I did to him. Even when I went to his place while dating it was fun, and he had my interest at heart, enrolled me into a French school during service, carried me along in what was happening.
I then I lost it, partly due to my stubbornness, I now see things from his angle and I have really worked on myself, made myself better. I wish things could go back to normal, or I love again, coz it's so hard for me to love again. All I think of is getting a job, which God has helped me with and grow, but I get scared of love.

What a story.....