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Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by PastorandMentor(m): 3:28pm On Sep 13, 2018
I only pity her parents.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Newboss(m): 3:45pm On Sep 13, 2018
[quote author=TonyeBarcanista post=71164703]
Will the name be changed to a masculine or feminine name? Say Grace Jenifer grin or Grace Adaeze? If the answer is negative, then, it is still a MAN'S name or Masculine name tongue
Yes, she can! She's as much human as you. You have no more right to live than she angry If you can have a masculine surname, she CAN ALSO have a feminine surnameangry


Not every man is a pu5sy aka woman wrapper my brother and even the pussy-husbands have limits to which they can take. Las las the Home will be a very unhappy one for the family and may end in divorce-- what this means is that a home without the Husband IN CHARGE will NEVER WORK, just as an organisation without the MD in charge will never work. NEVER!
Not every woman is a pussy, aka man wrapper my brother and even the pussy-wives have limits to which they can take. Las las the Home will be a very unhappy one for the family and may end in divorce-- what this means is that a home without the wife IN CHARGE will NEVER WORK, just as an organisation without the MD in charge will never work. NEVER!

Since a woman can be the MD of an organization, I just translated what you said above into the feminine version. angry It sure sounds irritating and disgusting to you. angry

Ignorant submission. The Husband is the boss of the wife doesn't mean men are superior to women.

Not everyman is a husband and not every woman is a wife! The husband's authority is restricted to his wife ALONE,not to his mother or elder sister or any random female.

Same way your boss authority is restricted to you and other subordinate and doesn't concern me. Dangote has NO authority over me because he is not my boss but he has over Dangote staffs. Buhari has no authority over a Ghanaian as Nigeria's President but he has over Nigerians.

Your class captain in school had authority over you, he was your boss! But he had no authority over the guy in the other class...

Las Las, the HUSBAND is like a office in a unit (home) occupied by the man in the marriage. In the marriage Unit he is the OGA, THE BOSS, THE NUMBER 1, THE GOC etc.
You know the context of this thread, "marriage". So I don't have to tell you that woman here means wife angry You obviously still don't know that marriage is not in anyway like the analogies you just used. angry
In marriage, the woman can sack the man as much as the man can sack the woman. angry The woman can say NO as much as the man can. angry The woman can talk to the man in the manner in which the man talks to her. angry You woman can tell the man shut up as much as the man can. angry

Guy, you better look for village girl to marry o because this system na disaster waiting to happen. angry Last last, you go kill her and take off or kill yourself, or she do kill you and take off or kill herself. angry
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobodys(f): 3:47pm On Sep 13, 2018
chisco82:
Educate us on the gender discriminations pls.
....Will drop a link....https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_inequality..

This link explains gender discrimination against the male folks and against the female folk in the society, with near accurate stats.......
If you want me to come home to Nigeria and explain the daily happenings and discrimination towards the boy child and the girl child, that ain't a problem.. When I chop finish....
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobodys(f): 4:14pm On Sep 13, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:
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I just gave you undisputable FACTS but you call it whine. SMH!

Whining is constantly taking to social media and the street to keep complaining about something- which YOU and your deranged feminist folks are doing.

The facts I presented is to show you that women are favoured in the society and NEVER discriminated. I call the favor privileges WE (MEN) allow to woman and not discrimination against men. There is a difference between both!

And if enslaving ourselves is what you seek, IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN!

These are facts NOT opinion
..... Oga, when you bring that proof to counter my initial statement, then we can have a meaningful conversation....Until then, it still remains that gender discrimination exist in the society......I can't even believe I'm arguing this with an adult. lolz. even children know better. ( no offense). Buh it's actually in their curriculum.....

Oga, the undisputed facts you listed, saying they are privileges, please they are not privileges, they are gender discriminations towards male folks in the society... If you are owkay with them, not everyone is.
Please get enlightened, come back for a meaningful conversation... until then, goodbye.....
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:14pm On Sep 13, 2018
some people are mad. this is d height of it
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by AmazonTopaz(f): 4:18pm On Sep 13, 2018
@newboss,you are a darling.
May you go places and may allyour heart desires be fulfilled(depending on the God you believe in even if you nor believe in any at all this my declaration must come to pass).
The good oil in your head shall never turn bad.Even an MD or captain can always be remove if they misbehave it is not a monarchichal position a leader serves his people not dominate or control them.Tonyebarcanista does not know this.Except if he wants to turn his home to a military barracks and not a civilian/democratic home.
Don't mind the tonyebarcanista guy calling you a woman wrapper you are a correct human being who values the opinion of others.
The guy is a chauvinist and primitive being with an unwarranted entitlement mentality who feels that because he has a joystick it is okay to boss another human being like as if she does not have opinions and is a robot.she go ready to play second fiddle well well.@tonye,Don't quote me I don't believe in your biblical whatever.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:24pm On Sep 13, 2018
I see no reason 4 all these arguments. like some1 here rightly said, not all men are husbands and not all women are wives. we just need to b observant and choose a partner, nobody is perfect, even women makes mistakes. there are homes where d husband is d head (as it should rightly b), and they are very happy. y fight over it? we all have our responsibilities in d home and not until we begin to understand that its not about being d head, we'll forever argue over this. funny, a husband is d head of d home yet we see homes where d husband do almost nothing without d consent of d wife, they work together in all things. that should b d goal
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:28pm On Sep 13, 2018
Alzirida:
Lol
Thery are things u can't change.
We have more things to worry about than all those frivolities.

U wont change ur surname to ur husband's?
U still retained ur fathers name,
Why not ans ur mothers name?

Its just like saying all women should bear female names both as first name and surname.

Mind u as a feminist, u are not fighting ur husband,
U should be fighting the entire male folks...... So dont even ans ur fathers name, go on and answer
Mary Roseline
they have turned feminism into marriage war
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Amberon: 4:28pm On Sep 13, 2018
And who certified her mentally unstable?
You? Lmao!

Well if she said that she was wrong, but that doesn't make her mentally unstable.
TroubleMaker47:
Yes my point is Chimamanda Adiche is mentally unstable! Just because she is successful in her field doesn't mean she isn't!
A woman who takes offense at a man treating her like a lady eg (opening the door for her, complementing her physical looks)THAT WOMAN IS MAD
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:31pm On Sep 13, 2018
zinnyzee:
Feminism is confusion in another name.
reading d origin of feminism, it was 4 a good cause and it's what all women are enjoying today. example, women being able to vote in most countries today was achieved by them, right to own an account without ur husbands permission, ability to purchase contraceptives etc. but some girls who don't even understand what it is or how it started have turned it into something else
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:37pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
How can someone keep calling this lady a feminist. This lady is clearly not okay.

How can she say her children will bear her husband's name and her father's name [who is in fact another man] put together. And some females are applauding her. My head aches already, trying to understand the rationale behind this.

Are these ones okay? Zicoraads you said it o. Come and see your babe.
I missed u, always looking forward to ur replies
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:42pm On Sep 13, 2018
Are you procreating for a man or procreating because you believe in procreation and want to raise children who stand out? It’s obvious why relationships have troubles. People enter with the wrong mindset. The whites who came with surrogate options know why they did....
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by pocohantas(f): 4:49pm On Sep 13, 2018
openmine:
Am not worried about the "poor" tag.....
its common and normal to receive unsolicited jabs on a faceless forum....grin
its just that your first quote sounded like that of a paranoid feminist who wanted to take out her frustrations on me! grin
Then I wonder what you will say about your reply. That is by the way, what of the glasses? I wouldn't want to read you wrongly next time grin
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by pocohantas(f): 4:50pm On Sep 13, 2018
gloria34:
I missed u, always looking forward to ur replies
Awww, I am here babesmiley. No energy for unnecessary back and forth.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 4:55pm On Sep 13, 2018
Nobodys:
....Will drop a link....https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_inequality..

This link explains gender discrimination against the male folks and against the female folk in the society, with near accurate stats.......
If you want me to come home to Nigeria and explain the daily happenings and discrimination towards the boy child and the girl child, that ain't a problem.. When I chop finish....
Lol! Thanks for this, @the bolded, chop what finish?
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobodys(f): 5:00pm On Sep 13, 2018
chisco82:
Lol! Thanks for this, @the bolded, chop what finish?
Pounded yam and Edikaikong. wink.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 5:09pm On Sep 13, 2018
Nobodys:
Pounded yam and Edikaikong. wink.
Aunty ooo, i search through ur link and could not read any fact save the same statement you just made and country where there is gender innequality. Now i have to zero mind to my year in the university were in some department(food science & tech, Homec.) female dominate while in some(Architecture, Physics) male dominate now would you call that gender innequality? Because the course is open for anyone but girl and guys are running away from there out of fear or shame. No one stops them from. So please real fact and educate me on how u get the fact and how the society contributed to that if not by wrong choices of those gender that are not well represented. Thank you and that you food still remain? I want chop. grin
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by TroubleMaker47(m): 5:36pm On Sep 13, 2018
Amberon:
And who certified her mentally unstable?
You? Lmao!

Well if she said that she was wrong, but that doesn't make her mentally unstable.

Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by TonyeBarcanista(m): 5:45pm On Sep 13, 2018
gloria34:
I see no reason 4 all these arguments. like some1 here rightly said, not all men are husbands and not all women are wives. we just need to b observant and choose a partner, nobody is perfect, even women makes mistakes. there are homes where d husband is d head (as it should rightly b), and they are very happy. y fight over it? we all have our responsibilities in d home and not until we begin to understand that its not about being d head, we'll forever argue over this. funny, a husband is d head of d home yet we see homes where d husband do almost nothing without d consent of d wife, they work together in all things. that should b d goal


That a man is the head doesn't mean he won't consult with his wife or even kids if they are sensible. This is one reason a wife must know her place and be very sensible to the point that the husband will rely on her wisdom before taking decision.

It is like a President getting advice from his Vice or Adviser before making decision.

Dragging authority with a husband only cause more problem for the wife as he will want to show her who the boss is.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by CAPSLOCKED: 6:01pm On Sep 13, 2018
zinnyzee:
Feminism is confusion in another name.
SELF ACCLAIMED INTERNET FEMINISTS ALL HAVE MENTAL ISSUES.

THE TRUE FEMINIST DON'T TALK LIKE THESE F00LS.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 6:07pm On Sep 13, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:
SELF ACCLAIMED INTERNET FEMINISTS ALL HAVE MENTAL ISSUES.

THE TRUE FEMINIST DON'T TALK LIKE THESE F00LS.
Exactly, it seems to me like they're striving to be recognised by spewing trash.

Feminism is on another whole concept, and it isn't what this dim-wits are protraying.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by moorevic(m): 6:20pm On Sep 13, 2018
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin by the time she reache 38, she will kneel and beg. Fvcking maniac
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by openmine(m): 6:42pm On Sep 13, 2018
pocohantas:
Then I wonder what you will say about your reply. That is by the way, what of the glasses? I wouldn't want to read you wrongly next time grin
grin grin
madam pocohantas..thank God you have explicitly acknowledged the fact that you have "eye problem"...Oryah go to the nearest medic centre and correct that defect....possibly get a new set of medicated glasses!

Or am I the one that made you not to see clearly?
grin grin
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by BoyHuncho(m): 8:23pm On Sep 13, 2018
Uniquetani1:
Nice idea
Good it was brought up
Y should I forgo my Dad's name bcoz of marriage?
My title changing from Miss to Mrs is enough.
God doesn't support oversabi
Wait, do u actually think a man will marry u without u changing ur name? Not just in Nigeria bit anywhere in the world? I'd u think a man will then believe me u are the dumbest fellow on earth! Even Hillary Clinton wey useful and rich pass ur whole generation change name..who u be?? Ozour
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Daeylar(f):
Women have been taking men's name for ages in marriages. Women have been giving their kids the surnames of their men
There has been no problems,

Women just said that they don't want to take their husbands names, and just said they want to add their surname to the name their child will take.(in addition to the man's surname) the insults and the attacks started

Now imagine if women paid men back in their own coins, insisted that men should take their names and give all kids their (the women) surnames alone, if they want to marry the women, Attack the men brutally like this, call them all sorts of disgusting names if the men refuse and say they would rather just keep their name.
Then laugh in their face and say that they will see who will marry such men.

You all can dish your bullshit but can't take half of it.

Is there any good reason why the idiots on this thread are against a woman retaining her name? Or a child bearing surnames of both?
Why the thoughts of a woman retaining her name even in marriage brings about so much nastiness?


And someone will stupidly say that what these women are saying have nothing to do with feminism.

All of you (men or women) insulting these women, are nothing but bloody bastards.

Nonsense.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Daeylar(f): 8:43pm On Sep 13, 2018
Xisnin:
Wait, so you believe all women are interested in frustrating their life of their daughters-in-law?
Some have better things to do than meddle in the private life of a married adult man.
Just leave the mother in-law issue first. She really thinks that in the future. we will still have women who have time for mummies boys? We will still have women who will choose to marry Men who allow their mothers to run their homes and tell them what to do? She foolishly thinks that?

Women are getting wiser and stronger. The time of dealing with mummies boys is passing and hopefully will end soon enough.
If any man will sit down and allow his mum to give his prospective wife trouble. Then these women will walk away without looking back.
Last last the mother and son will marry each other.

On the issue of divorce, no civilized man will seek divorce because his wife refuses to change her maiden name.
But we have barbarians (both men and women) running around on nairaland. Thinking that they are civilized not knowing they belong to the stone age.

In fact, most divorces are instigated by women, not men.
They can't know that, they pull stats out of their ass to fit what they want. After all, We still have fools on NL claiming that women are more in number compared to men.
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 9:47pm On Sep 13, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:
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That a man is the head doesn't mean he won't consult with his wife or even kids if they are sensible. This is one reason a wife must know her place and be very sensible to the point that the husband will rely on her wisdom before taking decision.

It is like a President getting advice from his Vice or Adviser before making decision.

Dragging authority with a husband only cause more problem for the wife as he will want to show her who the boss is.
that's true, but not every 1 will agree with u. and its useless trying to prove ur point, we are all entitled to our own opinions
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by okrikaboi: 1:07am On Sep 14, 2018
Xisnin:
You don't get it. Let us say a family have 2 children a boy and a girl.
When they both marry, the woman loses her family name while the man retain his(inequality).
When a married woman decide to retain her maiden name she becomes equal to the man in that
aspect. That is, everybody regardless of gender can retain their father's name.
u won't gain anything from keeping ur dad's name in ur husband's house Dad isn't taking care of u anymore get sense
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by sewenswepzy(m): 6:08am On Sep 14, 2018
quite interesting...lets even assume the child were to bear both the father nd mother's name ( David then johnson-williams as surname) if the same David Johnson-williams were to marry a Mary then akinosun-obasanjo as surname... if both were to give birth to a son named Paul.. will the son also bear johnson-williams-akinosun-obasanjo as surname?..its clear...all this is nonsense..there's actually no problem if she finds a man who agree she bears her father's name or her own chosen name..but the kid bearing a combination of both names makes it dumb.. I won't be surprised when we start having names like John adediran-johnson-mustapha-anifowoshe-okafor-roseline-danjuma..
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Xisnin(m): 8:14am On Sep 14, 2018
okrikaboi:
u won't gain anything from keeping ur dad's name in ur husband's house Dad isn't taking care of u anymore get sense
This is not my fight, I am a man.
If your wife asks you to change your name to her father's, will you agree?
If no, what would you gain by not agreeing?
Re: Feminists Agree They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husband's Name by Nobody: 9:36am On Sep 14, 2018
Nobodys:
Pounded yam and Edikaikong. wink.
Hi
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